Jab mard aurat ko kisi dukh dard mein dekhta hai amooman apney aap ko iss ka zimm e daar samajhta hai phir usko ghussa aata hai iss masley ka hull yeh hai jab aap pareshan hun to khawand ko theek theek bataein kay aap kya chahti hain jab aap kay khawand ko ilm ho gaya key woh aap kay liye kya kar sakta hai to woh amooman khushi sey karey ga, maslan aap keh sakti hain kay mein kisi wajah sey pareshaan hun, soney sey pehley aap sey baat karna chahti hun mujhey ilm hai kay aap thakey huey hain, mein sirf 5 minute lungi aap sunn leingey, hosla deingey to mein pursukoon ho jaungi ta'hum apni pareshani mein mubaaligha na karein kyun kay khawand waisa hi samajh ley ga aur zyada pareshan ho ga. Khawand kay ghar aatey hi masa'el ko na cherein bulkay uss waqt cherein jab woh kuch aaraam kar kay pursukoon ho chuka ho.

Jab mard koi baat kar raha ho, apney aap ko beyan kar raha ho to aap madaakhlat na karein, baghaer madakhlat kay uski baat sunney ki koshish karein kay jo kuch woh kehna chahta hai keh ley. Khawand ko suntey waqt usko chuna, uss kay qareeb bethna, uska hath pakarna usey acha lagta hai, iss sey usey qurbat ka ehsaas hota hai.

Khawand ko waisa hi samajh kar sulook karein jaisa kay aap usey chahti hain kay woh ho. Burey ko bar bar acha keh kar usey acha banney ka moqa dein. Burey ko bura kaheingi to woh kabhi bhi acha banney ki koshish na karey ga. Aap samjhein key woh acha hai maslan usko ghussa bohut aata hai to usey bataein kay aap ko yeh dekh kar bohut khushi hai kay ab usey ghussa kam aata hai aur woh control kar leta hai bar bar kahein yaqeen karein kay phir woh aisa hi karey ga.