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pinky7861 |
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| Posted on:20th Dec 2007, 4:36pm |
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I forgot to tell u that what I feel now??? Because I can differencite between Depression, FRustration and anxiety I know that it was gone as early as I figured out the way to get rid of it. However, I still suffer from little bit of frustration/depression when I have to stay at home everyday, as I just feel that I am useless and wasting my time. It may seem funny to u. but I am just made like that. |
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2007 Topic: 47 Post: 1808 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Dec 2007, 8:21am |
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 Pinky jee..
Jee pinky jee,sorry I am little late.Hope you are fine & would have enjoyed EID with your family ..Sometimes I think mine & urs situation is parallel.Yes it happens when you have to much potential & will not get any chance to utilize it,it automatically diverted in anxiety,am I right ? As you said yours mother did not let you get involved in house holds or any way around.Your mother is no doubt is angel so you are as well..I believe in one thing that,every person who come to this World has definitely some object to do ..If cant do that then one is under tension ,ultimately depression.It doest relate that what we are doing ,the main thing is that WHAT we need to do ,which can make our soul satisfied.You have stated a superb example between soul & materialistic stuff..Like a nice smelly room compared to some ocward smell.It will stink.Same I agree with the soul,if we dont refresh it ,it hurts & ultimately we become a victim of depression & anxiety..I really appreciate your skills.You are too good.I am acting accordingly as I am also trying to thing the same angel you are & I am sure I will get rid of this... |
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Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2007 Topic: 47 Post: 1808 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Dec 2007, 8:27am |
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More... Little more Pinky jee..I think ,I am always in hurry as well.Like restless nature.As I want to finish every thing more than quickly..Not leazily ,just quickly.May be it increase my anxity as well.Yours comments pls..Even in the office If I dont have nothing to do,I just feel very bore & anxious..Why it could be...???? Waiting for your kind remarks...Thanks a lotssssssss...regards
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pinky7861 |
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| Posted on:21st Dec 2007, 3:05pm |
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Tahir Bhai... Come-on brother, don't flatter me. I really wish I could be an angel so I did not have to suffer from all sorts of problems.
I think u have the same nature as I have. I always feel bored if I have nothing to do. May be people call it anxiety but in my personal opinion, it is nothing to do with anxiety. And there are other much better ways to get rid of this nonsense feeling, including one I told u. I started taking interest in psychology only because of my own problems, but now I feel that even these methods do not offer complelet soulutions to the mental problems. |
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pinky7861 |
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| Posted on:21st Dec 2007, 3:18pm |
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....... There are many many factors which work togather. The biggest thing is our AMMAALS. After this our atmosphere, parents' behaviour, our position in society, our mentality and too many other things.
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pinky7861 |
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| Posted on:21st Dec 2007, 3:24pm |
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...... now u know me so don't mind with my half reply, as I can't focus on this point at this time. I will write u later. OK |
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nikama |
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| Posted on:21st Dec 2007, 5:04pm |
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Jee pinkee jee. Jee pinky jee,Yes thats absolutely right about AMAALS..But u know sometimes still are things which disturb you even after fullfiling all duties.thats sometimes I feel.may be I am wrong... |
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nikama |
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| Posted on:21st Dec 2007, 5:08pm |
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more.... Pinky jee tell me one thing pls,what do you think about relation of brain with heart..need your comments pls...whenever you feel free...regards.. |
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pinky7861 |
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| Posted on:22nd Dec 2007, 11:41pm |
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re U are right, we still feel mental disturbance after fulfilling or I should say try to fulfill the duties. I guess it is purly our nature then nothing else. However, this nature may be is given by God for some reason!!who knows??
About relationship between brain and herart??? hmmmmmm
I guess when we talk about brain/mind it is something which only accepts the LOGIC in every matter, while if we think about the heart in symbolic meanings, our heart can accept any and everything with no logic at all. SO I think a normal person is one whi is able to work with both, heart and mind togather. Because sometimes we see something which doesnot make any sense to the AQAL but we have to accept it.
Like I teel u a simple story of mine. One of our realtives is famous for her KALI NAZAR. I never ever believed on this before. But one day she came to our house. While she was sitting in the living room, she saw our FANOOS hanging on the ceiling. For a while she kept staring at it and then suddenly said ''kitna khoobsoorat faanoos hay'' and yaqeen kerain un kay alfaaz abhi pooray bhi adda nahi houay thay kay wo fanoos dheraam say nichay ghir gaya. Amaizing na!!!!!!
After a while, My ammi brought the tea in our nicest Tea-set and when she entered into the living room while hoding those cups in a tray, that woman just saw them and said. AAAAAAA ha-ay. itnay khoobsoorat cup!!!
Aur cup sahib tha ker kay nichay ghir gay aik nahi, saray kay saray jab kay tray abhi ammi kay hat main thi aur tray tu bilkul bhi nahi hili thi. Main yah baat kabhi na manti ager main nay apni ankhoun say nahi daikhi hoti.
Zera lambi hi ho gai baat, umeed hay aap bore nahi hoay hoan gay. Bas maira yahi opinion hay is baray main. Albatta ager aap nay kisi aur maqsad say poocha tha tu plz batain.
main intizar keroun gi. derasal aaj kal sab ko lambi chutiyan hain christmas ki waja say tu mujay ime kam hi milta hay. Baherhal keep in touch.
May allah bless u
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| Posted on:24th Dec 2007, 6:13pm |
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Jee Pinky jee... Yes,pinky jee you are right about mind & heart.I had the same feeling as well.About Kali Nazar,the thing which u told me that could be of its own kind.But you said so,thats why I have to trust.Any thing could happen in life,thats my belief.Life is all made up of all these things.But to be honest,I dont belive in good or bad luck.(dont mind me)....But dont know why but I just dont believe it....I trying to say something about my sexual relation with my wife.but really sometimes I feel shy as well from you..u understanding me now.I mean sometimes I can ask any bold thing but at the same time I am too shy to write any thing.should I ...?
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pinky7861 |
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| Posted on:26th Dec 2007, 12:31am |
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re Same as u I dont believe on luck for every thing. This was just an incident and u can call it supernatural not bad luck. However, I could have been a co-incident of some sort.
Anyways,
back to u. U know what we have just the same nature. I also can say many things boldly, and suddenly, sometimes I will not even be able to talk on a simple thing. So no problem, I am here and u can take as much time as u feel. I feel happy to share ur thoughts as I know how hard it is when u are away from everyone and want to share something.
Take me as one of yr friends and feel easy. I am not even there to make u feel emmbaressed. Ok
take a very good care of u as I also advice the same thing to my brothers, who are also living in london for now. Also do not stop reciting those words plz as I know the human nature. We start do something willingly and then get bored in couple of weeks because our mind resists to accept the new routine. So if keep yrself strong, it will stop bothering u in another week or so.
Will be waiting for u to write.
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pinky7861 |
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| Posted on:26th Dec 2007, 12:32am |
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re Same as u I dont believe on luck for every thing. This was just an incident and u can call it supernatural not bad luck. However, I could have been a co-incident of some sort.
Anyways,
back to u. U know what we have just the same nature. I also can say many things boldly, and suddenly, sometimes I will not even be able to talk on a simple thing. So no problem, I am here and u can take as much time as u feel. I feel happy to share ur thoughts as I know how hard it is when u are away from everyone and want to share something.
Take me as one of yr friends and feel easy. I am not even there to make u feel emmbaressed. Ok
take a very good care of u as I also advice the same thing to my brothers, who are also living in london for now. Also do not stop reciting those words plz as I know the human nature. We start do something willingly and then get bored in couple of weeks because our mind resists to accept the new routine. So if keep yrself strong, it will stop bothering u in another week or so.
Will be waiting for u to write.
take care |
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nikama |
Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2007 Topic: 47 Post: 1808 Age:
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| Posted on:26th Dec 2007, 11:36pm |
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Yes..right. Good pinky jee,thanks for appreciation.I am doing & reciting these words.Hopefully I will get rid of all worries.U can understand how diff it could be to stay entirely from home.Any way I am not that weak.
You know about anxity or ghabrahat,it suddendly goes when I am with my Mrs or doing some foreplay.This logic I can not understand.Like how it works????
Just your idea,obviously sex can not be done all the times in a day...just thinking on that basis......U understanding what I mean...?? |
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pinky7861 |
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| Posted on:26th Dec 2007, 11:46pm |
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re This is very simple. When we have someone, we can trust and know that this person is totally ours and will not leave us in any situation, then we feel very relaxed in that persons presence. SO that is happening to u. U unconsciously feel that ur wife is the source of cure for yr every bay-chain feelings. However, in reality, the feelings are still there, as the roots of the problem has not been removed, so it comes back when u are away from her. In simple words this is just the way of escaping from the mental problems.
if u solve them first then u will see that yr relastionship will become even more stong than before inshallah. |
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nikama |
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| Posted on:26th Dec 2007, 11:57pm |
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true... Yaps you are right pinky jee,It can be the cause to remove it temp not perm.Its gona take time,I know.One thing more to share..Lets suppose I am okay right now but if now I am going out & have to drive ,it just start ghbarahat & little hands sweting as well.any comments pls..
Also I am surprized that no one else is participating nothing ?????Requested to all members pls... |
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pinky7861 |
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| Posted on:26th Dec 2007, 12:02pm |
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re There is a very simple solution for this. Eat one tea spoon of HONEY in the morning and in the evening. Also include DATES(not lerki wali date) in yr diet. Eat dry fruit as well. Trust me u will feel the difference.
Whay I am sso sure? because I have done that. so dont worry.
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nikama |
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| Posted on:26th Dec 2007, 12:20pm |
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Good Thanks ,I will try this..I use to eat honey & dry fruits but very very little.Let me start again & would explain my siyutaion after that. |
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pinky7861 |
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| Posted on:29th Dec 2007, 2:06pm |
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 Tahir Bhai
How are u, and what is going on?? Bohat si Duaa-ain aap kay liay. Kepp in-touch. |
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| Posted on:29th Dec 2007, 2:48pm |
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Tahir Bhai ............ good name Tahir bhai main tou fail hogaya app ko kuch batanay main , aur wesay bhi meray paas knowledge kahan hai sirf batain hi batain hain
but pinky ko main appreciate karta hon ,buhut hi zabardast kurye ........ excellent job <-----------(clapping)--------->meri taraf say 5 stars app k liyain , buhut hi achay tareekay say app tahir ko samjha rahi ho ............ mere dua hai k tahir jald achay hojayeen gay..........
aur tahir sahab app apne app ko thora social karyai agar social hain tou full time social karyai ..........means k kabhi bhi apne app ko akeela mat kijiyai............. kyun k tanhaaye bhi ahista ahista ek bari bemari ban jati hai.....................anyway good luck and pinky keep going .................
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| Posted on:29th Dec 2007, 3:16pm |
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thanks...... ....HIT-MAN(hehehehe) Naam ka nay bera mazay ka rakha hay.
Wiasay Tahir bhai kay liay mashwera achha hay, bas zera daikh ker Tahir Bhai, Khain Kuch ZIADA hi social na ho jana aap kisi MAIM kay sath, Yah na ho kay bhabi ji ko aap ki patai kernay per jay. hahahaha. |
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