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Pinky...

Jee Pinky..Oh sorry about your deleted mail.I know its very annoying but pls get some time & write again ..Make sure u dont delete it again..Regards

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  Nikamma ji,

how are u doing? Hope u will be feeling better inshallah. 

There was nothing special, I only wanted to share my further views on the nature of humans and the connection between soul and the erthly blessings.  After writing to u I thought again on this topic and tried to check if I was right in tellinng u about the connection between anxiety and erthly blessings!  Yes I think I was.  As after refreshing my memory about many many people and reading again certain things about soul I found that there is certainly a connection between these two things.

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Jee..

Yess Pinky jee,there is a relation betwwen soul & materialistic (earthy things ).

You are right.But I always keep on trying to avoid those things which make my soul anxiet. Pls expain little bit more so that I can understand & reply you as I dont have much knowldge about these things...And hello to your daughter..Thanks

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      Nikamma ji,

now let me tell u honestly that I have been trying to focus on writing but since yesterday I am really upset and for that I am unable to concentrate fully on this sensitive topic.  I am just writing  the posts where I do not have to think alot.  So plz excuse me for this, and I will write to you as soon as I get into my mind again.

   take care

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Yes,Pinky jee,I undersatnd.Please take your time.Whenever you feel easy & free then write.By all means I am here & will wait .I think by all these conversation,may be I am getting little better...

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Yes,Pinky jee,I undersatnd.Please take your time.Whenever you feel easy & free then write.By all means I am here & will wait .I think by all these conversation,may be I am getting little better...

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    Nikamma ji,

(it makes me feel bad to call u nikamma but I can do nothing)  I am happy that u are feeling better.  Inshallah, within a month u will see quite a difference.  When I was recommended to reciet these words, I was not quite sure, but It was very obvious in couple of months that if I keep reciting them, I get motivation from my inside to do something, something good.  Today, after almost ten years, I still trust that it has been always a positive thing in my life. 

    U know  I was talking about a relationship between soul and materialistic things.... 

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.....  Have u ever experienced that if u use a room which is full of stuff, u will start having mental irritation after quite a sometime.  Even if u don't know the reason u will start getting upset for no reason. 

   And if ur room is quite simple, with soothing paint color and minimum furniture, it will always help u feel relaxed when u are in the room.

    DO u know why it happens???

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   It happens because when we are feeling more things, and looking at more things, more and more of our mental energy is being consumed, resulting in tension and pressure etc. 

     Same can be applied on the soul.  When we are blessed with so much earthly stuff, and we are not sharing it, our soul gets in trouble and we do not know about it.  This happens specially to those who have a pious nature, are harmless to others and never intenionally try to hurt anyone.  

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    It is just like a nice smell.  If we try to keep the door closed of a freshly scented room gradually, it will start smelling bad.  However, if room was already smelling bad, there will be no difference if u keep the door closed or not.  Peopel who have souls with domination of NOOR, are like those scented rooms.  When they are blessed, and not share, or share only when someone asks for that, and do not like to go out of there way to help others, their souls get smelly, just like those closed door rooms.  This is what I think happens with us when we get problems

   With this explanation, i just mean to help u better understand the soul, dont think I am blaming u. ok

   Inshallah, I will keep in touch with u.

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First Let me thank HITMAN sb,jee HITMAN sb thanks for the consideration.I have done a lot  lotss of meditation & all that but trust me all in vein.nothing better...I am still trying to get out of it with the help of you & more specially due to Pnky jee,who is spendind much more time rather than I deserve.Really appreciated..Pls HITMAN, do suggest me again ,because every little helps.

Jee pinky jee,You are absoultely right..Whatever you  have written is perfectly right.Your observation is quite perfect .I had the clue about the relation of soul & materialistc world BUT not as much as you stated.You deliberatly discussed all these things which I never knew.It made me really very happy & more relax.I am doing whatever you are saying.I think its getting better but I am still using one tablet to sleep as well.I want to quit it but I think not at this stage.Pls advise.One thing more ,as I had been out of home more 13 years of my life & struggled as well.What do you think ,is it could be due to that as well.As sometimes I also feel that ,I could not spend much time with my family.I was about 15 when I left home & went here & there.Now I am 28 & come back to london again for atleast 2 years.Just comments pls...One thing more as I  never done any jim practice in my life...Would you think ,is it make any impact on my body,I am fit medically anyway.just asking..

Also can you tell me little bit more (about urself ) if you dont mind,like how it happened with you.How it was started & how long it persisted with you..And had you done any medical treatment as well.And are you 100 % cured..Your reply will greatly influence me..Thanks once again.

Regards,

Tahir ( Nikama)

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   Hello Tahir bhai,

I already have two Tahir bhais so it is easier to call u now. 

   I think should keep taking the medicine until u feel that u have a good noght sleep without waking up even once all night long.  The thing is when mind is not disturbed u will know it.

   I think exercise is always good for everyone, and it will definately make u feel good, even a simple walk has good effects on mood and body.

........be back

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   I think as far as yr staying out of home for long times are concerned, it can cause anxiety and depression only if u are not keeping in touch or not feeling close to yr parenst+family.  i give some examples, I always keep in tuch with everyone at home in pak, so physically I am here, while mentally I always feel myself close to my parents and family.  This gives me satisfaction all the time that whenever I feel some sort of porblem I know I am only one ph call away from them.  Also, one of friends, who is not very close to her family and for that reason has always the feeling of misery and lonliness, resulting in anxiety and depression.

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        With me???  I guess I was born with a restless nature.  My mom did never let me involve in household work just because she wanted me to keep my attention on my studies, and (not showing off) as I was a brilliant student, I never ever had to work hard to get the first position in my class.  So problem was that where was I suppose to spend that extra time, as I was,and still am, a person who can not sit down. 

  That was the start of my problem.  Gradually it developed because u know girls in Pakistan usually don't have oppurtunities for outdoor activites.  I was one of those who used to play all sorts of boyish games with all the girly games and still be getting the first positions in the class, plus the leftover time. 

    I started getting more anxious for nothing after I started staying home as I was growing up.  I, unfortunately never ever liked cooking.  I can do all sorts of household work, plus can work all type of things a man is supposed to do, but cooking......  So there my mom was unable to attract me to the kitchen,,  and that added to the free time I had after every thing I could do.  So when I was in college, there I started feeling that I need to check with a consultant and from there u already know what happened later.  I am one of those who always try ten other things before taking a medicine.  and thanks to Allah, I usually do not have to take any medicine, just will power and nothingelse.

       thanks for Eid Greetings and a very Happy Eid to u as well.  I know u will be missing yr family real bad, but don't worry, inshallah u will get back to them soon.

take care