Bul kay bohut sey logon ko to ilm hi nahin hota kay woh sex mein kya chahtey hain iss hawaley sey mard khaas tor per hassas hai woh chahta hai kay uski biwi usey bataey kay woh kya chahti hai khawand biwi ko woh cheez muhayya kar kay bey inteha khushi mehsoos karta hai. Le'haza yeh cheez azdawaji khushyon ki jaan hai kay aap khul kar apney mian ko bataein kay aap kya chahti hain foreplay mein aap ko kis cheez ki zaroorat hai, mubashrat mein app ko kya pasand hai.

    Humarey haan ghaer zaroori sharm o haya ki wajah sey donon mian biwi apni pasand, tarjeehaat aur jinsi zarooriyat (sexual needs) sey ek doosrey ko aagaah nahin kartey agar aap ko bhi yehi masla hai to iss ka ek hul yeh hai kay pehley tasawwuraat mein mushq karein yani aap tasawwur karein kay aap apni zarooriyaat sey apney mian ko aagaah kar rahi hain, bari tafseel kay sath tasawwur karein, ka'ee din ki mushq kay ba'ad jab aap tasawwuraat mein batatey huey jhijhak mehsoos na karein to phir haqeeqat mein mian ko apni pasand aur na pasand sey aagah karein yeh guftugoo aap mubashrat kay foran ba'ad kar sakti hain behter hai kay uss waqt karein jab aap donon pursukoon hun, mian ko ilzaam na dein, tanqeed na karein agar aap apney jazbat aur ehsasaat ek doosrey sey chupaein gey to saari zindagi bharpoor jinsi lutf sey mehroom rahein gey.

    Agar aap apney mian sey sex kay mozou per khul kar baat nahin kar sakti hain to aap ek aur tariqey sey bhi apni zarooriyat sey khawand ko aagaah kar sakti hain maslan jo cheezein aap ko kam mil rahi hain ya nahin mil rahiin iss hawaley sey mian ko ek khwab sunaein usey bataein kay aap ko khwab aaya jis mein khawand aap kay sath woh sab kuch kar raha tha, jo aap chahti hain.