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Ahmad Lati |
Group: Members Joined: 24th Mar, 2009 Topic: 13 Post: 73 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Aug 2009, 3:31pm |
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 What Is The Suitable Age For Marriage?
meray zehan main aik sawal hai shaadi k liye suitable age kia hai jub larka ya larki shaadi k qaabil ho jayen or buchhey paida karnay lagen or kia larkay ya larkian ic qabliyyat ce mukhtalif hotay hain or most importent ye k larkay or larki ki age main kitna difference hona chahye ya nahen hona chahye spouse agar larki ki age larkay ce barri ho to phir aapki kia advice hai plz reply
What is the suitable age of marriage?
What is the difference of abilities between male and female?
What would be the appropriate age difference between male
and female before marriage? If the wife is elder then husband then what would
be the advice of yours in this regard?
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waseem08 |
Group: Members Joined: 27th Apr, 2009 Topic: 13 Post: 1304 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Aug 2009, 4:58pm |
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ahmed lati bhai jwabat:
01.18se lekr 25 sal tak.
02.age me frq ka koi masla ny hy chay larka bara ho ya larki koi masla ny hy wo sab baten jo iss masle me kahi kii jati hy wo logon k apne apne khayalaat hy jiska haqeeqat se kuch lena dena ny dekhen iss ki bemesaal misaal hamare huzoor(sallalhoalyhiwasllam)ka apna phela nikah hazrat khadeeja(radiyallahoanhaa)se nikah frmana k apki umer shreef 25 sal or amma khadeeja ki umer shareef 40 sal ki thi.
salaam. |
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Sofia_84 |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Jul, 2009 Topic: 1 Post: 31 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Aug 2009, 5:05pm |
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re: Age for marriage I Agree with waseem, about thee age, yes it should be 18 to 25 its ideal, lekin u know now a days life is tuff, girls ki education and boys ki education plus career, even kuch girls bhi career oriented hoti hai to it has extended to 30 now. Like ideal state of age toh wohi hai jo waseem ne bola, but practically speaking one should get married by 30, cause job, study, career etc ki waja se bohat se log shadi main late ho jatay hain. In some cases, if u have an un-married elder sister etc toh tab bhi boys ki koshish hoti hai k pehlay behan ki shadi time se ho jaye, then they will think about their marriage. Aur bhi bohat se reasons hotay hain, financial, family related etc. |
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myrizvi |
Group: Members Joined: 20th Apr, 2008 Topic: 111 Post: 6481 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Aug 2009, 11:04pm |
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Technically 1. jab laRki k periods start hojayaiN aur laRkay ko 1st ehtelaam (night fall) aa jaa.ay to both are ready for married.... yeh qudrati alaamat / qudrat ka isharah hai k now they should live married life.... islamic fiqah main to (makhsoos halaat k tehat) laRki k period start honay say qabal bhi oska nikaah n rukhsati ki jasakti hai. (quran allows it)
2.samaji etbaar say mukhtalif society /beraadri maiN alag alag ages maiN shadi ka rewaaj hai... shadi chounka aik "samaji rasam" bhi hai lehazaa samaj /beraadri ki reayaat ko bhi follow kia jasakta hai... albatah yeh wazah rahay k islam balooghat k baad AS SOON AS POOSIBLE marriage ko strictly encourage karta hai
3. saamjiyaat k maahereen k motaabiq laRkay ki omar laRki say chand saal zeyadah ho to jori zeyadah kaamyaab rahti hai.... lekin yeh zaroori nahi. dounouN same age k yaa laRki baRi age ki bhi hosakti hai... islam main har tarah ki misalaiN maujood haiN
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Sammzali86 |
Group: Members Joined: 25th Jul, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 122 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Aug 2009, 10:10am |
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Re: I agree with Sofia 100%
Myrizvi ne bhi thek bola, lekin sirf physically mature hona kafi nahi, shadi sirf physical relation nahi hai, spiritual bhi hai, aur mentally mature honay main 18 saal tak ka time lagta he nahi, warna periods etc toh 12 years tak age main start ho jatay hain, and its really crazy to get kids married in that age, woh shadi ka meaning he nahi samjhtay uss time tak. Plus after marriage having kids, taking care of them, uss k liye mard ka itna stable hona zaroori hai k apni family ko support kar sakay. And practically its not possible in such young age. Waysay bhi kaha jata hai larki jab 25 ki hoti hai toh uss time woh apna bhala butra sahi samjhnay ki state main aati hai, uss se pehlay woh mentally itni wise nahi hoti. Yeahi waja hai k bohat ki narrow minded familes young girls pe insist karti hai, larka chahaye 30, 35 ka ho larki 18 ki chaheye cause she is young and her mind is raw and its easy to mold her according to their wishes. Lekin thora phari likhi aur mature girl se log dartay hain kyun k woh apnay haq ko samjhti hai aur apnay bhalay buray k liye fight kar sakti hai.
Baki kehnay ko toh bohat se logon ka diff he point of view hai, lekin i believe larka bara ho ya larki, what matters most is k donno ka thinking level same ho, understanding achi ho, aur understanding develop karna behtar hai. |
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sunny007 |
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| Posted on:5th Aug 2009, 11:35pm |
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re couple mature hona chahie..... simple ...
baqi khud bakhud understanding ho jaati hai..... lekin shart yeh hai k donon mature ho, kia bura hai kia bhala hai, husband k faraiez aur haqooq kia hain, wife k faraiez aur haqooq kia hain, es se donon waqif hon bas....... |
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sunny_1 |
Group: Members Joined: 13th Nov, 2008 Topic: 1 Post: 86 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Aug 2009, 1:57pm |
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RE agreed with waseem and sofia..!and v wise nice rep by sammzali..! simply i think larki k liye 18 to 25 is the best age to get married.. and larke k liye 25 to 30..behter he.. har lehaz se..!
larka bara ho ya larki, i think is se koi khas farq nahee parta.. zarori ye he k donno ki soch thinking level aik ho, understanding achi ho, but at the end ye dhekha gia he k hamare mashre men larka ziada ter bara hota he, is ki do teen wajohat hen, aik tu larki os ki respect karti shaohar aur bara hone ki waja s bhe.. dosra larki larkon ki banisbat ziada jaldi barhti jitni tezi se jawan hoti hen itni jaldi borhi b hone lagti hen(means omar dhalti he), isliye b shdi jaldi kardi jati he..! |
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Ahmad Lati |
Group: Members Joined: 24th Mar, 2009 Topic: 13 Post: 73 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Aug 2009, 2:29pm |
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but i think k thank you for all guyes.theek hai par main ney suna hai aur daikha bhi hai k jab larki first baby ko janam daity hai to uc ki body latuk jati hai aur age main bhi ziada lagnay lagti hai kia kehtay hain aap sub |
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Sofia_84 |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Jul, 2009 Topic: 1 Post: 31 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Aug 2009, 4:37pm |
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Zaroori nahi Depends on how a girl maintains herself, iss tarah toh bohat se boys bhi aysay hain jo apni age se baray lagtay hain. It has got nothing to do with the way ur built, but it depends alot on how u maintain urself. I have seen ladies with young kids, and they look so smart. Meri mother mashallah still very smart and beautiful. So depends on life style, and family set up. And most importantly depends on diet. India main YOGA is the natural way to look and keep urself young. And brother ur GK (general knowledge) is limitted, cause now so many meds are available that keep women even exually young for an extended period of time.
Khair, aap k questions kuch ajeeb nahi hotay ahmed bhai? |
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Ahmad Lati |
Group: Members Joined: 24th Mar, 2009 Topic: 13 Post: 73 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Aug 2009, 10:31pm |
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thank you sofia aapy aap ne acha reply kia lakin main ne sirf larkiyon me ye baat daikhy hai age ce bara nazar aaney wali lakin body ka dhull jana ya to waqyee only larkion main daikha hai na k murd |
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sona.munda |
Group: Members Joined: 25th Aug, 2010 Topic: 1 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Nov 2010, 9:17am |
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sm ere
meri fiancee khud mujh se 2 saal barhi hai.. and ab meri age 16 hai and uski age 18 hai .. yani kai jub mai 18 ka ho jaun ga tou hamari shadi ho jani hai.. engagement hui ko bhi 3 mnths ho gye hein..........
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