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honest 83 |
Group: Members Joined: 25th May, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 8 Age:
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| Posted on:25th May 2012, 1:31pm |
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 I Get Mαrried Through Matrimonial Website: Whαt Should I Do?
salam to all. here i have a problem to discuss with u.. any kind of help or suggestion will be appreciated. my parents were divorced when i was very young and my mother brought up me and my elder brother alone.. when i reached the age of marriage my mother started to refuse all my proposals and she decided not to get me married at all because she had psychological fears. on the other hand she let my brother marry. i used to get very depressed because of my mother's thoughts of not letting me get married and one day i submitted my profile in matrimonial websites and decided to marry on my own. there i got a proposal from a man living in USA originally from bangladesh. after knowing a lit bit about each other i decided that i will marry him and to my surprise he came with a proposal to pakistan. my mother as usual was not happy for it but my brother asked me if i am really interested he will help me get married.. and after some time i got married to him . it was a simple nikkah with only two witness and my brother as my wali. none of my or his family members were invited.
now about 3 years have passed i have not got a visa yet to go to USA and during these 3 years he visited me only 2 times staying one month each.
now my questions are was my nikkah valid?
have i done a sin not obeying my mother and getting married as i am still living without my husband?
now what should i do as i still have no chances of getting a visa and that sometimes i feel guilty on my decision
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alirajput |
Group: Members Joined: 16th Mar, 2012 Topic: 5 Post: 538 Age:
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| Posted on:26th May 2012, 6:09am |
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honest83 Walikum salaam sister:
Bohot hi zada dukh huwa aap ki kahani parr kar. Aap ka nikah walid tha, kyun ke aap ka aap na bhai aap ke saath aap ke wali ke taur pe shamil tha. Albatta, wo bandu bhai serious nahiN lag rahe aap ko bulane maiN na ye nikaah rakh ne maiN, ye bhi mumkin haiN ke unka nikah kahin aur bhi hon. Meri aap se guzarish haiN ke aap unse khula le lay, jald az jald, aur jab farikh hon jaaye toh itla de daye idher, inshallah aap ki ache ghar maiN shaadi kar waate haiN.
Allah Hafiz
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WEHSHI |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Aug, 2010 Topic: 44 Post: 2431 Age:
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| Posted on:26th May 2012, 6:41am |
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honest83
no u didn't commit any sin mother is not wali as per shariya father and brother can be, obeying mother is in the way of non islamic way u can dis obey and u did wt islam says so dont depress ur self may u have nice n happy married life Aameen |
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honest 83 |
Group: Members Joined: 25th May, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 8 Age:
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| Posted on:26th May 2012, 11:48pm |
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thanks thanks for the reply
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honest83 |
Group: Members Joined: 21st Jan, 2013 Topic: 1 Post: 4 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Jan 2013, 5:20am |
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My story Continued i am still confused. I got my visa atlast just 2 months back. it is valid till next 4 months. i was very happy that i will now start living a normal family life but still my husband says that i should wait and that he needs some time to adjust things for me. Just 2 days back i got angry and told him to give me divorce as now it has been enough waiting from my side. I had to listen from my mother that i am getting punishement for not listening to her and getting married on my own will. she still says that i dont need to go and live with a man as she believes all man are bad. after i wrote an email to him asking for divorce he called me but i did not receive it in anger and the he stopped calling me after one day and there is no contact between us for 2 days. Now what should i do? i need help and sincere advice please |
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WellKnOwN |
Group: Members Joined: 06th Sep, 2011 Topic: 48 Post: 3378 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Jan 2013, 6:42am |
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thats why thats why you become fool... where u have saw him?? who is he?? where is his family?? what does he do?? is he good person?? does ur mother saw him?? even u dont know nothing of him nd got married.... online marriage iss full of risk... may Allah bless u. |
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honest83 |
Group: Members Joined: 21st Jan, 2013 Topic: 1 Post: 4 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Jan 2013, 8:28am |
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ok
well i have seen him and also his family. his family lives in bangladesh. he took me there to meet them. when ever he talks to me he is very nice but he is not taking me with him to usa. well i dont want u to criticise me as i am already in trouble.
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WellKnOwN |
Group: Members Joined: 06th Sep, 2011 Topic: 48 Post: 3378 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Jan 2013, 10:09am |
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honest i know u r in trouble but i think that what kind of advice should i give... because its very complicated problem... neither can i tell u to get divorce from him nor i can tell u to fight with him because divorce is very disliked by Allah.
the question stands here that a normal newly married man cant live without wife but ur can live for much time... there is some thing that nor he wants to live with u in usa nor here so what is this?? dear sister if you had seen him, his family so there is deep diference in a stranger and wellknown... |
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