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Kiran Butt |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Apr, 2008 Topic: 12 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:18th Feb 2009, 5:24pm |
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 Please Give Me Solution My Personal Problem
kafi arse se main yeh website par rahi hun or apni problem b share kar chuki hun mager ab jo bat hay us ki waja se muje depression or sar dard bhar gya hay jiss se muje bohot taklef ho rahi hay...
Main skol k dor main R ko pasand karti thi mager meri shadi Z se ho gye mager hamari shadi ziayda arsa nahi chal saki or meri un se divorce ho gye phie mera diyan R ki taraf chal gya or hum phir se sath ho gye. mager meri family ko R pasand nahi tha kyun k age main farak tha. phir mere parents ne meri shadi S se kar di main ne sab bhul kar shadi kar li or i was happy with my married life S aik achay husband hain mager apni khala ki bato main ane wale or aik cold man hay ab i don tknow kia likhna chahye mager aik dry person hay. biwi to hun mager usay aik jaga par rakhana sab chupana us se week main aik bar sex kia k yeh hi kafi hay. sara din koi bat cheet na ki rat ko sone se pehle jab ghar aye tab hi bat ki us k ilawa koi gap shap nahi... but i wasnt sad i was ok k shyed meri kismat main aysa hi likha hay. shadi k kuch dino bad hi un ki Khala ne khena shuru kar dia k meri gold ki chezain gum ho rahi hay or ilzam mere pe aa gya. or meri b kuch gold ki chezain gum huye.
Phir aik din R mere ghar a gye S ghar pe nahi thay... or jese hi R aya kuch dair bad hi S ghar main aa gye R almari main chup gye mager S ko pata lag gya.
unhon ne mere parents ko sab bata dia my father was on his side jo b S faisla kare he will agree. mager S ne muje chora nahi moka dia k ager tum dubara kuch karo to mian tum ko chor dun ga.
us k bad khala ki chezon ka or meri gold ki chezo ka ilzam mere k a gya k maine R ko di hay. or mera un ki khala kghar ana jana band ho gya unhon ne taluk khatam kar lia. S roz jate hay un k ghar.
S ne muje chora nahi shyed is liye k wo bohot achay hay ya un ko usa man rehne k liye paper chahye.
us din k bad se hamre main koi husb wife reletion nahi hay.is bad ko 6 month ho gye. 3 din bad un ko paper mil jaye gay.
muje yeh tention chain se jene nahi deti k wo muje chor dain gay hum sath rehte huye b sath nahi. kehte hay maf kar dai mager phirb we are sepreted weel k 5 din ami k ghar hoti hun koi suggestion bataiye k kiya karun. tention se kahen dimag phat na jaye kisi se bat b nahi kar sacti plz guyz help me. |
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sunehri76 |
Group: Members Joined: 04th Aug, 2007 Topic: 99 Post: 4638 Age:
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| Posted on:18th Feb 2009, 7:09pm |
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kiran plzzz i request youu ap aj ke bat apne husband ke ilawah kisi ke bare me sochain bhi mat,unhon ne apki ek badi ghalti maf kardi.aisi ghalti dobara kabhi na karain.
pehle hi apko kuch problems thin unke sath,ab unka ap par aitmaad bhi uth sakta hai..islye ab ap ek honest biwi ban kar dikhayen,unki har zaroorat aur khushi ka khayal rakhain.
dossri bat ap jo paper ki bat kar rahi hain,ap apne husband se ek bar sache dil se mafi mangain,unse kahain ke apse ghalti ho gayi,aur unhe yaqeen dilaen ke ap unke sath hi rehna chahti hain,aur unke sath khush bhi hain,
apne kaha ap week me 5 days ami ke ghar hoti hain??why?? ap ko is waqt sirf apne husband ke pas rehna chahye,ap unhe samajhne ki koshish bhi karain,ke unke lye bhi asaan nahi hai,jo kuch unhon ne dekha,islye ap unhe akaile chod ke na jayen aur apne ghar me rahain aur unhe tawajah dain.inshallah wo apki tawaja aur apke mafi mangne se pighal jayenge aur apse close ho jayenge,ap unhe ye bhi keh sakti hain ke agar unhon ne maf kar diya hai to wo door kyoon hain apse?maf karna hai to dil se karna chahye.but give him some time. |
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Raja Taqi |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Sep, 2010 Topic: 29 Post: 1940 Age:
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| Posted on:18th Feb 2009, 11:54pm |
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kiran A.A..dekhein insaan khudh hi apny liye aisi aisi mushklein peda ker laita he k phir wo umar bhar iss jaal se niklny ki koshesh mein hi luga rehta he iss duniya mein koi demagh bi khali nahi jo k ult pult soch ker nitt naee moseebat apny liye ghair na laita ho...ub aap Z,R,S,k qissoon mein chuli gaee hein ,khuda ra aap apny liye koi aisa rusta niqalein jo sari umar k liye aap k liye behtar ho..agay chull ker aap ne maan bi bunana he aur wo buchy bi kahein aap ki bheint na churh jayein ....
jo ho chuka he wo to ho hi chuka he ub aap mazeed apny aap ko kharab na kerein aur apny last waly husband ko apny itmad mein le qer unnein sub kuch sachy dill se saf saf buta dein aur unn se paoon pukarh ker moafi mangein,aur ainda koi bi aisi herkat na kerny ki yaqeen dehani kerwaien ..
Bar haal aisay kaee logoon k sath aisay hi musail hein siraf aap k hi sath nahi he ye sub kuch, issi ko shyatan ka war kehty hein aap apny rub ki turaf raju kerein aur allah mian se girhgirha ker suchy dill se dua mangein aur surat ul nisa ka tarjuma ghour se purhein aur umal bi kerein,
aur ye khala aur zaiwraat k chukroon ko bhool jaein aap apny aap ko pehly mokamal darust kerein aur apni akhrat aur iss zindgi k bary mein sochein ba qaidgi se namaz roza shuroo kerein sub theek ho jay ga,,,pl...koi baat mined mutt kerna |
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Kali Zuban |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 29 Post: 1792 Age:
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| Posted on:19th Feb 2009, 4:03am |
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re: social problem agar aap S se honest hai tu inshaa-Allah aik waqt aaye ga jab S aap ko dil se maaf ker de ga, jab woh dil se maaf ker de ga tab aap ke darmian husband aur wife ki relationship qaim ho jaaye gi. wait and see.
agar aap ko depression ki shikayat hai tu kisi psychiatrist se apna treatment karai. read related articles on Depression. |
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Andleeb |
Group: Members Joined: 22nd Jan, 2009 Topic: 1 Post: 66 Age:
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| Posted on:19th Feb 2009, 4:51am |
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Kiran Butt... Salaam...
Aapki problem perhti kaafi dukh hua. magar yahan sabne jo comments di hain sahi di hain LAKIN meraaik andaza hai k shayad aap R ko nahi chor saktin chahte huey b... magar kiran ji aapko apni life sudharne k liye yeh bhari kadam uthana hoga...
Pehle aap khuh de sincere hon...jab ap khud se sincere hojayengeen to baqio ki nazar main b hojayengeen...
Ab kiya kerna hai wo batati hun ...
1. sabse pehle R ko chorden.
2. jab R ko chorden to apne husband ko thora time spare kerne ko kahen pyar se narmi se. wo kabhee mana nahi kerenge.
3. wo waqt apki life ka ehem waqt hoga husband se sache dil se maafi mangen .. formality nahi ,,,,waqai ki maafi and promise him t o b a good wife.
4. jab baat sab shi hojay e to aap khud baat cheet increase keren..bola keren ghar main apni ehmiyat show keren.aurat se ghar main esi ronak hoti hai k uske thori dair bahar jane se soona hojata hai ghar ..wo ronaq layen.
Hasi mazak keren husband ko note kerne unka dil jeet len. kabhee romantic b hon unse unko ese khushi den sab purani baten khudhi dafan hojayengeen...
sab kuch start kerne sey pehle aap relax hon pehle. sochna khatam
kerden bilkul... or bas aim kerlen k aapne apney husband ka dil jeetna
hia or khoya hua trust wapis lana hai or ab unko cheat nahi kerna or
khu d se sincere rehna hia
Depression se kuch nahi hona bas bimar hona hai aapne or bimar hona in halaat main sahi nahi ...
Allah se madad mangen or namaz perhen ...
I really care about ur situation waqai aap mushkil waqt mai han ,
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Kiran Butt |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Apr, 2008 Topic: 12 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:6th Mar 2009, 8:58pm |
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hi main to mushkil main hi hun bohot depression hay mere hus kehte hay muje chore gay nahi mager muje yaqen nahi hota kyun k unhon ne apne fot huye abu ki kasm khaye thi kisi ko kuch nahi batiye gay mager bata dia sab ko or ab apni ami ki kasam khate hay k nahi choro ga yaqen nahi hota kia karun paper lay kar muje chor na dain kia karun kuch b samaj nahi ata |
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:7th Mar 2009, 3:52am |
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kiran dont worry
ap bus dua keryen
namaz perha keryen
Allah ap k sath hai...bus yahi socha keryen
InshaALLAH ap ki pareshani dur ho jaye gi |
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Oyster |
Group: Members Joined: 16th Mar, 2009 Topic: 0 Post: 4 Age:
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| Posted on:16th Mar 2009, 5:56am |
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Kiran is Right Kiaran u gave right suggestion |
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Zahra_ |
Group: Members Joined: 05th Jan, 2009 Topic: 3 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:18th Mar 2009, 5:14pm |
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Oyster Suggestion Kiran ne nahi Arsalan ne diye hain aur Andaleeb ne b bohat achey mashware diye hain
Kiran baaz oqaat insaan se aisi ghaltian ho jati hain jinka ehsas tab hota hai jub bohat der ho jati hai...apko dar hai k apke husband ka apko mauf karna shayad sirf papers k liye ho kionke yeh baat husband k liye bhool jana bohat hi mushkil hai. Muje iss baat ka to nahi pata k apke husband k dil mei apke liye kia hai ya woh apke saath sirf apne matlab k liye hain lakin ap sirf koshish aur dua hi kar sakti hain baki to jo apki kismat mei ho. Ap ko opper jo advice di hai uspe amal karein aur apni koshish akhri hadd tak karein ta k apko koi pachtawa na rahe k apne woh nahi kia jo apko karna chahye tha...Allah se ro ro kar apni ghaltion ki maufi mangein aur ek moka mangein Allah se k woh apko de aur apke husband k dil mei apke liye mohabat aur izzat daal de .. Allah k liye kuch b karna mushkil nahi.. Allah dilon k raaz janta hai aur sachey dil se ki gayee touba ko zaroor suney ga beshak hamara Rab bohat reham farmaney wala aur bakhshaney wala hai. Allah apke husband ko itni himmat de k woh apke maazi ko bhool kar ek nayee zindagi ka khushgawar aghaaz karein aur ap ko b sakoon miley. Ap apne husband ko yaqeen dala dein k ap bohat sharminda hain apni ghalti par aur sachey dil se touba kar li hai Allah ko hazir nazir jaan kar aur ap unke saath ek achi life guzarna chahti hain aur unko bohat si khushian deina chahti hain unhon ne apko ek moka diya hai aur ap ko iss moek ka faida uthana hai aur unko dikhana hai k unke ek moke ne apko kitna badal diya hai aur apko apni ghaltion ka ehsas ho gaya hai.
Kiran sis I can understand the pain u going thru, It really is a hard time to cope with. My prayers r with u.. May Allah help you |
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