Misunderstanding In Husband Wife Relationship: What Should I Do?
mane ap se ya pochna chata ho ka mere shadi ko 8 month hoa ha or mane sirf 1 month apne biwi ka sath raha ho muja kuch majbori ki wajah se out of country jana para kion ka mere job ka problam tha bad mane 1 month bad mere biwi ju ka urpean country mane apna maa bap ka sath rate the chale gahe us ko nationality lane mane abe 4 sal ha or mane us se ya kahta ho ka tum wapis ajahu or mane be apne job chor ka wapis gar ata ho woh kahte ha ka bachu ka feture banana ka lia ya qubani do or muja 2 month rahna ka bad wapis jane do.or hamari arange marrage the pata nahe hum mane undastanding nahe hoe ya kia ha jab be phone pa bathe karta ha larta ha kabi kis bat pa kabi kis bat.woh kahte ha ka ap phone na kia kare jab be karta ha larta ha ya bat muja bhot bori lagte ha or bhot duk hota ha.mane ju bat kara ho ulta jawab date ha koi masla batata hu ya problam us ko mazaq mane tal date ha ju muja bora lagta ha or mane gusa mane galia data hoo or danta ho.woh hamesha kahte ha ka galia mat dia karu tu mane kahta hu tum apne ap ko badlo or asa muja gusa mat dilya karo tu mane pagal hu ka gusa karu or galia do.mane us se kaha ka muja din mane mis cal kia karu jab mane kam pa jaya karu or wapis aya karu thora acha lagta tum koi job be nahe karte farig hote ho tumara lia ya mushkil nahe lakin woh is bat ka be khal nahe rakte.mane us se kaha ka muja tum ko call karna ka lia bhot dor jana parta ha mobile hamesha apna sath rakha karu lakin woh is bat ka kyal be nahe rakte bas har bat ka bad sirf sory kah kar bat khatam kar date ha ju muja bhot taklef hote ha.ab 5 month ki woh pregnat be ha is lia mane bhot chata hu ka kuch na kahu lakin kia karu gusa pa kabu nahe rahta.mera star libra ha or us ka star virgo ha.plz ap muja koi maswara de.muja asa lagta ha ka woh muja nahe chate mere care nahe karte.plz reply soon
Talah bhai ... yaar ap ki wife bol to sahi rahi hai kae future kaa sawal hai ... ap khod dekho agar nationality mil gai to ap 2no ka faida hoga .. aur rahi baat pyar ki to bhai woh to karti hai .. but ap 1 month kae bad out of country chale gae aur ap nae ziada waqt sat nahi guzara to shayad isi liyae ... any how first of all to ap gali mat doo that's really bad .. ap thora ignore karo ause . taake ause ahsas hoo apka . aur Namaz parho 5 times regularly .. Mae Inshallah Next month Umrah par jaonga aur ap kae liye zaror dua karonga ...
ab lagta ha theak ho gia ha yar woh is tareqa se har bat karte ha muja lagta ha ka us ka mere gar he wapis ana bahtar ha woh kisi bat ki care nahe karte jis wajah se mane ya chata hu ha woh wapis ajahe
baki ap umreh ka lia jarhae ha hamre lia dua karna ka Allah hame neak salik narena olad da ju ka inshallah februry mane umed ha. baki nimaz mane ALLAH ka fazal se 5 parta hu quran ki tlawat daily karta hu lakin pata nahe gusa ajhe tu kuch hosh nahe rahta kahs kar agar samjana ka bawajud koi admi galti kare.mane kahe dafa us ko kaha ka ap ki in batu ki wajah se tanshen ho jate ha sigrit zayada peta hu or apna ap ko nuksan dana ko dil karta ha.baki ignore ki bat aj 3 din hoe ha sim change kia ha pehla din us ne call ki try ki 2 din hgahe koi cal nahe ki ha koi ka mere sim mis cal alert laga ha jab sim dalu tu sms ate ha ka kis na kitni dafa try ki ha cal karna ki.ab muja bathe mane kia karu
bai ka ka problem bot ghumgeer hy , meri life ka apna khuch exp hy jo bot kuthun hy meh ap sy ye he kaho ga k ap ziyada time out of country na rahyin apni wife k pas rhyin,apka apni wife k pas rehna sub say ziyada important hy ku k ap ek month he on k pas ry ho or mery khiyal say on k mizaaj meh cher chera pun sa aghiyaa hy , or b bot c batin hen jo ap ko daykhna chaiye , wife apko mis cal ni kurni cal ni kurti sms ni kurti its mean there is some thing wrong,ap ki expectation esi rukhna apka huk hy or apka be kam bunta hy gosaa ni ho apni wife ki respect kurin or wife ka b kam bunta hy husband purdayss meh hy meh oska jahaa tuk ho khiyaal rukho,alkhumdolilla she is pragnent lakin ap onki health ka khiyal rukho proper monthly doctor ko checkup kurwao wife ko proper pocket money ap du ta k apni wo zurooriyaat pori kur suky, or ho suky tu juld uz juld wife ko bolao ya khod jao, ya jo ap dono mil k taay kuro, apni wife sy friendly raho or hur bat apus meh discuss keya kuro or palan keya kuro mil k.
mane apne wife se friendly he hoo or pase ki koi kami nahe woh ase koi problam nahe.baki woh kahti ha mane ao ko mis cal karna bol jate hu ju muja bhot bora lagta ha or mane use kahta hu aik din tum muja be bol jahu ge,baki us ko mane 2 2 gante cal karta hu bawajud itne manga hona ka muja 70 rupe mint parta ha per be.woh kahte ha ap call kar ka hmesha larta ha is lia call na kare tu bahtar ha jab woh asa kahte ha tu mera dil bhot dukta ha,mane us ko kaha ka mane cal karta hu apna dil halka karna ka lia tumhare kuch methe bathe ju aik husband apne wife se tawaqu karta ha tum ko koi pyar wali bat karne he nahe ate hamsha ulti bathe karte ho.ab batahu mane is hal mane kia karo
apki wife apko agur sms , mis cal tuk b agur ni kurti tu pher onki tawajaa kahyn or hy. ap ziada time wife sy door ni raho ye he sub say acha option and mushwara hy ap k leye
yar mai ne ap ki sari posts parhi hein, aur really dukh tu hota hai jab ap kisi se itna pyar karo,,uska ehsas kro,,us se bohat sari expectations rakho aur wo un par pura na utrey,,tu dukh to hota hai,,,
par mai apko yehi advise krun ga k plz dil par qaboo rakh kar usey mukamal ignore kro,,let see kia hota hai,,Qasam se usey sochna chore do,,,phir dekho kia hota hai,,,agar wo phone krey aur kahey k ap ne phone ni kiya tu keh do k mai kaam mein busy hun,,time ni milta,,,,is tarha usey ehsas hoga k she was wrong,,,,
q k wo kehtey hein na k jb tk ap kisi chez k peechey raho gay tu wo agey agey bhagey gi,,lakin jb ap peechey hut jao gay na tu wo khud ba khud ap k peechey aye gi,,
aik aur baat k jb ap kisi se bohat pyar krtey ho na tu usey chore do,,matlab us k haal par chore do,,,agar wo ap ki hui tu zrur lot kar aye gi,,aur agar apki na hui tu kbi ni aye gi,,plz keep it in your mind,, and is par amal karo,,,mukamal ignorance aur usey sochna chore do,,,
Take care...MAY MY SWEET ALLAH G BLESS U AND GIVE U WHAT U DESIRE FOR,,MAY HE BE SO KIND TO U,,MAY ALLAH HELP U TO HAVE WHAT U R WISHING FOR...MAY ALLAH G LET UR WIFE BE ON RIGHT PATH ,, SO THAT SHE REALISE YOUR LOVE...
ab mane ase karna start kia ha ab thora acha mahsus karta hu......or udar be hosh ahista ahista tikana arahe ha ,,,,,,,,ALLAH khair kare ga ab woh mis kal karte ha tu kabi jawab data hu kabi nahe ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,lakin abi woh kuch bole nahe phone kia tha bas mane zarori bathe kase ho kia hal ha gar mane sab theak ha koi or bat acha Allah hafiz kah ka khatam kar di,,,,,,,,,ab dakhe kia hota ha ALLAH se achai ki umeed ha or ap sab itne pyare bahi ha woh be mere lia dua go ha tu inshallah sab theak ho jahe ga thank,s to all my dear brother MAY ALLAH BLESS ALL OF YOU.........ALLAH HAFIZ
aik or bat zer gor lane the ka us ki bahan ha ju bhot ulta dimag kia ha woh use ulte mahware or tareqa sikati rahte ha or badkismati ka woh be uder apna bap ka pas out of country jidar mere biwi hote ha chali gahe.ab us ki muja samaj nahe ate ka use kis tarah handle karu woh be shadi shoda ha or kafi experians in marrige life or mardu ki har tabeat se waqif ha ju bara masla ha woh us ko kahte ha asa karu wasa karu dakna kase tumahre pas ahe ga har bat mane ga.....this is the 2nd problam........i.........wating for your advice.....
The simplest way i have told U, to ignore her and don't think about her, let her do whatever she does, ap bs dekhtey jao, this is simple,,even agar wo ap ko mis call deti hai,,don't reply her, mai ne kaha b tha apko k agar wo miscal de tu jawab ni dena,,ukta kar wo apko phone krey aur poochey k kia baat hai ap phone ni kar rahey,,tu simply keh do k i am busy. don't have enough time.
par ap se b raha ni gaya. plz marey is mashwarey par amal kar k dekho, faida hoga, us k peechey mat chalo,,,usey tmharye peechey chalney do,
plz do it..then see...
aur us ki behan jo b krti hai usey krney do,,jb ap usye response hi ni krogay tu us ki tamam tar chalein nakaam hungi. yad rakho aurat mard k bina na mukamal hai, she has to returned to U. if she is urs. if not ,she will never return, So do experiment. yar.
Aapki abhi nayi nayi shadi hoi hay aur ap abhi se ranjishen lay bethey hain, arrange marriage ho ya lova marriage shaadi aik aisa naya rishta hota hay jiske takazey samajhney main kuch waqt lagta hay, kuch dena parta hay tab hi kuch mila hay, aap sirf yehi nahi expect kar saktey ke biwi hay tu sab wohi manay gi aur ap uske hakim ho, aisey karengey aap tu ulta masail barhain gey, kis ke ban jao ya kisi ko apna bana lo, aur jab kisi ko apna banana ho tu apne aap ko khona parta hay, kuch aap koshish karo kuch apki wife karengi, larai jhagra gali galoch sirf doorian paida karti hain,
apne kaha apki wife door hain tu ye sochain ke ap bi tu job ke silsiley main gaye thay na, ya tu pehl nahi jana tha aur ab agar chalay gaye tu biwi ko bhi sukoon se rehne dain jahan wo hay, nahi tu ap dono ke masley masail aur barhain gey, ahista ahista pyar se unko manaen, ghussey ya zidd se koi kaam nahi hota,
rahi bat apki wife ke attitude ki tu wo pregnant hain aur pregnancy main aksar mood-swings hotay hain, apko khud khayal kernachahiye ke wo aik nayi zindigi ko paal rahi hain aik alag phase se guzar rahi hain aisey main unhain support chahiye. Mian biwi ke beech hazar maslay masail hotay hain lekin unhain pyar mohabbat se suljhaya jata hay
1st of all pehely aik gila karunga wo ye k ap ne mje marey betay ki mubarrak ni di,Anyway its ok
baat ye ni k she is pregnant,baat yeh hai k jb koi larki kisi doosrey ki batun par lag jaye tu phir wo apni aqal aur hosh donun ko istamal ni krti. yehi case talal bahi k sath hai. ap khud hi batayein k ye b koi tareeqa hai k talal phone krta rahey aur usey koi ehsas na ho,,even wo apna mobile apney pas na rakhey,,,waisey ye acha bahana hai larkiyun k pas that i am pregnant...
jaisey aj se pehley auratein kabi pregnant hui hi ni thein,,,isi liye mai yehi kehta hun k samjdar bivi wohi hoti hai jo apney mian ki qadar karey. na k doosrey ki batun par lag kar khud apney husband ki be zati karey..
talal bahi ko bilkul usey ignore krna hoga,,atleast usey ehsas tu ho ,,that she is doing wrong..mana k is condition mein she needs care but it doesn't mean k wo mobile attend na krein ya kahin rakh dein..ya even apney huby ko msg ya phone na krein.. I dont agree this...........Really
bat ya ha ka mane manta hoo woh pregnet ha lakin kia pregnet larki kabi hum na dake nahe kiu ka kandan mane kazan,s or kazan ki biwia sab woh be tu pregnet hote the na uno ne kam kaj karna ya husband ka kiyahl rakna kio nahe chora.woh larki jis ka pas karna ka lia atlest gar ka kam mens, bartan kapra kio kam na ho.or dewanu ki tarah chana wala har bat ko 2 4 dafa samjana wala shohar ho.per be woh us ko na samaj pahe.or jab mane koi bat karta hu kahti ha ap mere bat nahe manta.mane kaha kon se woh kahti ha cigret tu ap mere kahna par chorta nahe .mane kaha shadi se pehla itna nahe peta tha jitna tumri tenshin,s dana ka bad pena laga hoo.mane kaha muja tang karna chor do mane sigret chor do ga.mane us kahe dafa kaha ka tere batu se muja itni tenshion hote ha us ko pata ha ka mane kitna bar doctar ka pas gia us ko mane kaha ka mane sleep tab lata hu yar per be woh he hal koi badlahu nahe .ase tu koi gar be nahe karta us ko be ya pata chal jahe tu kitna kyal rakhe or biwi ju Allah na itna pyara rishta banaya ha.
bat ki bat ya ha muja asa lagta ha woh mere care nahe kare.us na kaha be ka tum bhot care mangta ho.ya pata hone ka bawajud be woh asa kare tu mane kia karo.
mane na ap ka bathe hoa tareqa pa aj mokamal falow kia ha us ki aj 3 mis cal ahe the mane jawab nahe dia ap ka masware pa amal kar raha hoo..baki dua kia kare
aik or bat yaha pochna chata hoo ka is sare masla mane kahe koi sex life ka amal dhakal tu nahe agar ha tu kasa.kio ka mane tu kuch nahe samajta lakin koi ap ka tajarbe mane kis or nuqta nazar se agar ha tu plz rosni dale kase
pehli baat tu ye k meri bohat sari duayein ap k sath ehin, KHUDA TALA AP KI LIFE MEIN BOHAT SARI KHUSHIYAN NASEEB KAREY. doosri baat ye k ap bilkul ni gabrayein apki sex life ko kuch b ni hoga,,aur na hi is muamley mein iska koi amal dakhal hai, mai apko aik aur baat batata chalun meri sari advises ka ye hargiz matlab ni k g apki wife ap k neechey lag jaye.balkey mai chahta hun usey ehsas ho, k she was wrong.. aur phir hamarey islam mein kia hai...ISLAM BILKUL WAAZEY TORE PAR KEHTA HAI K MARD MAJAZI KHUDA HAI,,AUR har larki ko is baat ka pata hona chahiye. mai apko apni misaal deta hun, shaadi k baad jo jaiz batein mje passand ni thein wo main ne apni wife se directly keh dein k dekho har qisam ka laad pyar miley ga..jis chez par hath rakho gi wohi miley gi par jo batien mje aziat dein,,mje pareshan krein wo kabi mat krna,,aur sb se important baat k i hate to tell alie..isi liye mai jhoot sun b ni skta...
anyway meri wife ALHAMDOLILAH bht achi hai, bht pyr krney wali hai, mai aik din phone na krun tu pareshan hojati hai,khud phone krney lg jati hai,,bht pyr krti hai..aur jo batein mje ni passand wo ni krti,,KHUDA USEY LAMBI ZINDAGI DEY AUR USEY KHUSH RAKHEY...AMIN
plz ap sabar se kaam lein,,hosla rakhein,,kuch ni hoga,,,marey abu hamesha kehtey hein mje k beta kisi b chez k peechey mat bago,,usey apnye peechey aney do,,ap usye miscal deney dein,,even wo phone b krey tu phone attend kar k dobara usey phone na krein,,,,,himat aur hosla,,plz plz its my request,
jb ap usye ignore krein gay na tu wo khud ba khud smjh jaye gi.aur mai aik baat bataon wo ye k agar ap usey phone pe phone krein gay,,,royein gay tu wo is chez ko apki kamzori smjhey gi,,aur jaan bhooj kar aisa krey gi,,islye b patience.MAY ALLAH G BLESS U,,MAY ALLAH G HELP UR WIFE TO COME ON RIGHT PATH,,MAY U BOTH B HAPPY IN UR WHOLE LIFE..MAY ALLAH G GIVE U WHAT EVER U WISH....my name is Syed Zagham Jaffar....ok.....b happy.
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Misunderstanding In Husband Wife Relationship: What Should I Do?
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