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reallove |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 3 Post: 18 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Apr 2009, 2:02am |
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 Kiya Mujhe Bhi Mafi Nama Likh Kar Dena Zaori He.
main pahle bhi apko bata chuka hon ke mare wife lar kar apne ghar chale gaye he 3 months ho chuke hain. wo mujhe se buhut badtamezi or bura bol kar gaye to ahsae pahle bhi 2 dafa ho chuka he or wo mafi talfi kar ke aa gaye the.
Mera ak beta he wo uske pass he, ab wo mujh se mafi mang rahe he mujhe buhut saza mil gaye mujhe nasyat ho gaye husband ka ghar he wife ka ghar hota he mujhe legaye apne sath rakhain ab yahan se bhi koi nahen bole ga bech main.
Yah bat maine apne parents ko batayen ke wo ahsa bol rahe ho main usee apne bete ke future ke laye 1 chance or dena chahte hon, lekin mare ghar wale pahle hi bol chuke the ke ab wo is ghar main nahen aa sakte, lekin ab mare parents ne mare pareshani dekh kar bola le hum in long se bat kar ke batyenge, mare sath mare 2 bahi or 2 bahbhi bhi rahte hain main manta hon tale donon hath se bajte he in logon ka bhi kusor hoga lekin mare wife ka ziyada hota the wo buhutt jald jazbahi ho jate he. khar to par mare bhabhi se uske nahen bante he wo bhi kuch na kuch bolte rahte then usko tang karte rahte then. Lekin ab yah bahi or bahbi nahen chate ke wo wapis aye ab is ghar main to mare parents majbor hain wo kah rahe hain ke yah log nahen chah rahe ke wo wapis aye, unke pressure main hain. to maine ala ghar rent par lane ka faisla kiya or usko wahan laa kar rakhne ke faisla kiya. lekin yah bat main apni wife ko abhi tak nahen batayen he.
ab uske taraf se uske baron ne mujhe se rabta kiya he ke ab yah ahsa nahen karege ab isko nasyat ho chuke he ab ahse nahen hoga or na he yahan se ab koi bole ga bech me, to main unko nahen bola ke main alag rakhonga mare ghar wale nahen chah rahe wapis ka. main unse bola ke thek he mujhe is dafa app written main likh kar mafi name de or ayenda na karna ka wada or apke guarnatee bhi or ayen iske ghar wale mare mamlt main mudakhlat na karen yah sab written main dain mujhe, to wo log ab bol rahe hain tale donon hath se bajte he tum bhi likh kar do take hamare pass bhi kuch written kuch ho, maine bola ke main kuch likh kar nahen donga jisne kya he jo gaye he wo de mujhe ab koi zarorat nehn or dusra mare ghar wale bhi nahen denge unko bhi koi zarorate nahen, tum ne ana he to yah karna hoga wo kyen likh kar denge ane he to ayo worna bethe raho, tumhain ana he to yah karne hoga kase or ko koi gharz nahen ke tumhain likh kar dain, to wo log bol rahe hain yah zulm he Allah poche ga, ahse kiya bat he khud likh kar nahen de rahe mujh se likhwa rahe hain wo log yah kah raha hain, kiya yah waqai zulm he.
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reallove |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 3 Post: 18 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Apr 2009, 2:09am |
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Kiya Mujhe Bhi Mafi Nama Likh Kare Dena zaroori he or kiya mujhe bhi zarori unke yah bat manne chaye ke or likh kar dena hoga, yah sahe he yah nahen, kiya main ahse nahen karonga ke to kiya yah ziyatti he?
Maine unko nahen bataye ke main alag rakhonga usse, kiya mujhe bata dena chaye ke main alag rakhonga asse ab, main yah chah raha the ke main apne ghar walon ka nahen batyon ke yah log nahen ane de rahe bulke yah bolonga ke halat ke waje se tumhain main ab alag rakhonga waran phir yahi ho ga.
Ab sab ghar wale mujh se narz hain, ab main kiya karon batayen plz kiya mujhe us pare written man dene par pressure dalna chaye or khud bhi likh kar dena chaye ya nahen. plz jad reply karen.
Apke duaon ka talib
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Apr 2009, 3:33am |
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dear i think ab ap us ko maff ker dena chahiye
ab wo itna mafi mang rahi hai to thik hai
give her one chance
aur usey ab apne alag hi rakheyn to behter hai |
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maahhii |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Apr, 2009 Topic: 6 Post: 1441 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Apr 2009, 4:14am |
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reallove actually joint family m aisi problems hoti he h its not something unusual
jb ap ne mamlay ko sudharne ka faisla kr lia h to unnecessary conditions rakhne ka kya faida...............wase b ab ap us ko alag rakhain gay ap us ko bta dain is baray m to ho skta h wo log khush or satisfy ho jayain kyun larai m ap se ziada to is joint family ka he hath nazar ata h...............
so is bat pe shayad wo likh k denay ko b tayar ho jayain
wase to is likhne likhanay ki zarurat nai h agr ap likhwaye bgair us ko ghr lay ayain to wo log apki ziada izzat krain gay or ziada zimadari mehsoos krain gay.
ghr walon ko smjhayain k ghr ujarne nai basanay ki koshish krni chahye so gussa khatam kr k apka sath dain............baki ap b is larai jhagray k dor ko khatam kr k wife ko b khud ko change krne ka moka dain or apnay darmyan aitmad ko bahal karain bcz akhir kar to yahi apki family h................
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reallove |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 3 Post: 18 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Apr 2009, 4:32am |
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Maahii Thank for your reply, app sahi kah rahe hain main apne bete ke laye ghar basana chah raha hon, or wase bahi yah aledhge ache bat nahen he or hamre mashre main bhi isse acha nahen samjha jata.
Lekin guarantee main islaye le raha hon ke main alag ghar arrange kar raha hon kalko yah phir koi harkat karen to main khan jayonga apne ghar se bhi gya or yahan se bhi. or dusra yah ke pahle bhi iske bayon ne bola ke jab wo ghar gaye the ke hamare behna per buhut zulm hota he wahan per hamin dar lagta he khan wo log isko jala na dain aj kal to news main yah buhut aata he, ahse he or bhi ilzamaat lagae ise waja se main darta hon written main lena chahta hon ahse jhote ilzamamat kalko mujh par na laygaye jayen.
I am educated person, agar mujhe yah sab karna hota ho pahle he buhut kuch ho chuka hota, maine to buhut kuch bardash kiya he agar mare jaga shyad koi or hota ko buhut kuch ho sakta tha.
Uske ghar wale mare ghar ke bahar itne badtamze shor shraba kar ke gaye yah isdafa kar ke gayen ager ahsa kuch karna hota to yah itne asane se nahen jate or itne baten suna kar. Aj kal koi nahen karta lekin maine ke, uske bawajod mare koi contribution nahen samjahte pahle bhi main he laya tha bat cheet kar wapis lekin usko kuch yaqeen he nahen mujh per.
Pls i m very worried about this situation.
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maahhii |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Apr, 2009 Topic: 6 Post: 1441 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Apr 2009, 11:07pm |
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its sad i think k apki wife pe ap se ziada us k ghr walon ka influence h or ye b apki laraion ka aik sabab h................abi to apko jese tese usay ghar lay ana chahye or phir gradually us ka rabta us k ghr walon se kam kr dena chahye
2ndly usay apnay ap m busy rkhain asay k wo ap k or apnay bachay ilava kisi k baray m na sochay apnay ghr walon k baray m b nai...................
jese jese wkt guzrta jaye ga ap k or us k ghr walay interest lena chor dain gay or ap k relation m interfare nai krain gay...................
abi wakti tor pe thora flexible ho k faisla krain.......................
or agay thori achi hikmat e amli apna kr apna ghr apnay hath m lain is trha k koi doosra interfare krne ki jurrat na kray..................
be confident and make ur wife have complete trust in u...................
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reallove |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 3 Post: 18 Age:
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| Posted on:23rd Apr 2009, 2:26am |
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Thanks for your Reply Maahhii jase ke app ne bola ke, uske rabta uske ghar walon se khatam karna hoga, lekin ak bat yah bhi he ke, jab main apne ghar walon se kat jayonga wo isko pasand nahen karenge ab or dusra main uske ghar walon ko bhi rabte se mana karte hon to main to akela rah jayonga.
Insan ke zindge main dukh sukh ate hain mare beta bhi dukhi bemare to sath sath chalte rahte hain or mare job ahse nahen ke main asani se office se chotte le sakon, islaye kase na kase ke sath taloq to rakhna hoga yah to mare majbore he.
or agar main apne ghar se rakhta hon to phir khan wohi baten na shoru ho jayen, jis shaks ke ik adat par jaye to wo mushkil se he jate he or khas tor pare kahwateen me dil main ya zehan main ik bat jo beth jaye osko nikalna mushikl hota he app bhi female hain yah ache tarhan samajhte honge.
Yah sab chezen bhi mujhe dekhte parenge warna buhut mushkil main aa jayoga main.
Or dusra appne bola future ke hikmate amli ka to plz app log kuch guide karen ke main kiya hikmate amli apnayon ke mare ghar khush or khurrma rahe or sab se mil kar bhi rahon. plz reply
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aliraza008 |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Jul, 2008 Topic: 25 Post: 444 Age:
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| Posted on:23rd Apr 2009, 7:40am |
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reall love ma to apko ap apki last posts may buhat khuch keh chuka hoon ma heeran hoon ap her 10 din bad same topic but with new subjects k sath apna masla lay ker a jatay hoo myri bat ka mind mat kerna ma ab bi yahi kaho ga neecahy lagany ki koi zarrot nahi tumhein un k or na he khuch likh k dyna unko samjhay tum?????or ha agar ghar walay naraz hein to alag ghar mat lo or na he apnay susral walo ko ya batana k tum alag ghar lay rahy hoo ya baywaqoofi mat kerna.chup ker k ghar bhetay raho or jo parents kehtay hein wo kerna agar ghar alag kerna bi ha to just apnay parenst ki wish say lyna or usay rakhna kisi bahi or bhabi k mashwary ki zaroorat nahi tumhein.or ya soch galat ha tumhari k alag gahr lay ker or writeen may wo tum likh day gay k lerki k family ka interfais nahi ho ga ya bat namomkin ha baqi ap ko itni bar ma nay samjhaya ha alag ghar lyna ha parenst ki permission say ta k mom,dad ki dua tumharya pecchay ho warna jo ourat pehay 3 bar tumhein bura bhala keh gayi ha wo 4th time bi aysa ker gayi to na ghar k raho gay na ghat k.apna finacily bi loss kero gay or sab say bara apnay parnest ki wish k against kam ker k gunnah moll lo gay.best wishes for you ALLAH HAFIZ
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maahhii |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Apr, 2009 Topic: 6 Post: 1441 Age:
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| Posted on:23rd Apr 2009, 7:52am |
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it means k ap ka ye masla kafi dair se chal rha h
come on be brave
aik mard ko ye cheez zaib nai deti k kisi maslay ko khud pe yun musallat kr lay
make a decision and be brave enough to do accordingly
aliraza ne apko hosla or himmat denay k liye ye sb likha h
baki family apki h life apki h............we pray k apko sahi faisla krne m ALLAH madad kre..............
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