Husband Bad Behavior: What Should I Do?

Hi everybdy

I Want to discuss my problem here

I got married 2 and half yr ago its love marriage n after a week my husband started misbehaving with me.

we got married in Pakistan he live in London n i did not have visa so he started scaring me i'll go back he statred beating n abusing me just after a week of our marriage n things started getiing worst to worst.

Then after 3 months he went back to london we still have fights on phone he came back after 10 months n them we both went to london n since a yr we r together but we fight alot he got angry with me he beat me abuse me.

And due to his this behavior som times i also react but Swear on god 99% of times he abuse n beat me without my mistake n he don't face reality even i clear alot that it wasn't my mistake still he abuse me more that ya u want to say all is my mistake.

I just don't understand how that person will face the reality that he's abusing n beating me without my mistakes bcoz if i do mistake i can correct it but i donot make mistake n still he behave badly n in this way what shuld i do.

Now from last 2 months im in london n he's in manchester he says he's there n he did not informed me properly that he's going for months n just a 1 day before he said he's going n still in a abusing way.

he went there still i did not say any thiong n still he blames me u r the reason im not with u n bla bla

i don't know how he'll understand that its all what he's doing with his own thinking n things but its not my mistake n i don't know how can i change my situation

he do all this to me n then blame me taht im the reason

i don't understand wht shul i do i don't interfere in his life i don't protest when he do all this to me i don't say that im in pathetic situation

i don't say any thing but every time his next step is more worse for me n he blame me for every thing i don't know wht to do

plz can any body suggest me wht shuld i do

rE: Husband Bad Behavior

meamanji

meaman aapki bat mere kuch dil ko nahi lagi agar apke husband apko pasand nahi kartey thay tu wo apko apne sath london leke hi nahi jatay aur agar unka rawayya apke sath aisa hay tu koi waja tu zaroor hogi bilawaja tu koi pagal hi aisa kar sakta hay aur wo bhi kisi foreign country main reh kar jahan aurat ki aik call pe manda jail main hosakta hay ye jantay hoye wo apko martey hain aur aap berdasht karti hain aur itne sabke baad bhi sath rehti hain ye kuch ajeeb hay, agar wo shadi ke shuru se hi aisa kar rahay thay tu apne unke aur apne baron ko inform kya tha? aur agar nahi kya tu kyun nahi kiya.

Aise halaat main mera mashwara tu yehi hay ke ap apne husband ko bitha ke unse poochain ke wo aisa kyun kartey hain, halaat na sudhren tu unke aur apne parents ko batayen, phir bhi na ho tu alaidha hojayen

same don with me

meri lov marriage to nahi thi arranged thi our nika se pehley unko dekha na tha after 1 week of marriage mujhe bhi bina baat ke mujrim thehraya gaya  baat kuch hooti thi pohanchadijati thi merey maa baap tak ke wo mujhe behkate hain unki galat fehmi dur kerte karte aaj 3 yrs hoone koo aai 2 times beth gai parents ke ghar ke akele rahein ge to biwi ka ehsaas hooga ehsaas bhi hua magar ma baap our behnoo ne is ehsaas ko jar se khatam karne ki koshish ki ke beta bhai haat se nikal jaai ga magar aap bhi ek martaba beth ke dekho ek doosre ko time doo main ne bhi 7 months  parents ke haa beth ke unko waqt dia tha mere father ke paaon pakar ke waade kar ke lee to gai ek hafte bhi mujhe galiia tane marne ka wada bhool gai our zindagi ajeeran kardi.magar zaroori nahi aapki qismat bhi mere jaisi hoo mere husband ke ghar wale unko mujh se dur karna chte hain unko mere khilaaf bharte hain halanke shaadi ke bad aaj tak ek soo rupee bhi mujhe nahi diye sab meri saaas susar ko die kabhi die bhi to cheen liye kooi kam ghar ka mere huzbnd karte laana lejena choorna sab wohi karte hain sooda laana our accesories ladena main ne kabhi unke faraaiz se nahi rooka phir bhi mere saath unlogo ne bura sulook kis aaj doobara parents ke haan bethi hoon doosri baar mujh pe haath uthaya bohat ziada hi kardia tha sirf is liye ke apne parents ki taraf se unke dil main jo galat fehmi hai use dur karsakoo magar susraal waloo ne meri qurbanioo pe pani pheer dia aisa amal kia hua hai 4roon  qul rooz parh ke phoonkti thi phir bhi unka jadoo nahi toota khair jo hua us ka badla lene wala Allah hai.

app ek baar  beth ke dekhein zaroori nahi meri tarah aap ke halat bhi kharab hoojain ge ek doosre ko thoora waqt doo kuch aap samjho kuch wo samjhein phir agar baat na bane to aap khula  le sakti hoo zindagi unhi khtam nahi hoojati kia faide pitte bhi our phal bhi na mile main ne bhi bohat qurbania di hain magar kuch hasil nahi huua to khula ka faisla kia hai magar ek baar meri tarah bhi aap akri kooshish karo Allah se dua karo Allah ne chaha aapke naseeb main is shaadi ka kamyab hoona likha too hoojai ge warna lakh kooshish karo baat ghoom ke separation pe hi aai ge .

aap ek akri kooshish karlo warna separete hoojaao kooi fikar nahi karo dunya kia kahe gi agar main mar jaati apne soher ke haathoo Allah ne mujhe bachaya to yeh dunya kia karti mere marne pe qul parhne aati 4 din drama karti phir sab side lag jate hain jab soher zulm karraha tha to susraal wale tamasha dekhte hain  biwi apne haq ke liye lare usko dabane aajate hain yeh dunya to media hai jahan  khabar garma garam hui wahan pohanch gaai kia karlia dunya ne kioo nahi bachaya dunya ne aake jab soher zulm karraha tha .self made bano self dependant bano kooi zaroorat nahi zulm sehne ki zulm karna sehna dono gunah hai

Koyal

i can't tell to my or his parents mein kabhi apney ya uske parents ko yeh feel nahin huney deti k humarey beech koi problem hai

or na hi unse koi aisi bat kerti hon phir bhi meri hubby mujhey dhamki detey rehtien hain k agar tum kisi ko kehna chahti hu tu keh lo phir tu mein is se bhi bura karon ga tu khud hi bolo mere pass kya option reh jata hai

or rahi bat k london mein reh ker woh aisa ker rahein hain n all that so let me tell u agar mein police ko un key is behavior ka bata bhi doon tu kya ho ga rehna tu mujhey uske saath hi hai na phir baad mein tu halat or bhi bad hu jain gey is tarha

actually i belong to a v nobel well to do fmly n he belong to a v ok kind of fmly his whole fmly lived in london n he was in pakistan alone for 5 yrs then he got visa n went to london

so we were in college together n we fall in love i used to say he's not like others this n that n his father behave badly with him n his family he says his father beat them badly abuse his mom n beat her n all that n he don't like all this n can't imagine of doing al this

but know he himself do al that to me i don't know y

i know he love me he's not in to any thing bad but still he do all this i don't understand y

ab ap hi bata wht shuld i do

ever body

my husband doesn't listen to any body he do wht he want to or humarey beech in problemz ke peechey mery susral walon ka ya mere ghar walon ka koi taluq nahin woh humari life me interfere nahin kerte

yeh sab ju bhi hai mere apney husband ki wajha se hai

meamanji

ap ye batayen k ap dono ka jhagra mostly kin baton er hota ahi?

unhen kon si bat buri lagti hai?

zaroor koi bat to hoti hi ho gi na....taali ek hath se to nahi bajti....

pehle ap mujhey reasons to bataiye then main koi solution batun ga na

aur ye bi batyi k love k bad kitne arsey bad ap ki shadi hui?

dono k ghar walon ki razamandi se hui?

shadi k bad sub se pehli larai kis bat per hui thi?

in sub baton ka jawab dijiye

zeb n others

we were in love for 3 and half yr then we got married

we convinced our parents for our marriage

we first fought that after marrige on 6th we met his friends mom in market n she insulted me for no reason infront of him i did not replied to her n when we came home i said to him that u shuld hav said som thing to her she shuld not hav talked to me like this and then after few days they invited us to thier house n i refused to go that she insulted me n u don't care abt that n now u want me to go to their house n if they said anything to meagain u won't say any thing so i don't want to be insulted again

this was the 1st thing we argued on n later on he started getting angry time by time and after 2 weeks of marrige he said that im going back n u stay alone n manage as u can n my point was that how would i live u r leaving me all alone here n even ur behavior is not good if u wanna go atleast go in a proper way not like this that ur not showing any responsibilty no concern so that was v hurting for me

n i was all alone in the city no relative no nothing n on that we had a huge argument n fight that was the first main fight between us

ok

meamanji

ye bataiye k ap ki insult kion ki thi unhon ne? kia keh diya tha aisa?

ap ye batayen k ap dono ka jhagra mostly kin baton er hota ahi?

unhen kon si bat buri lagti hai? pehle ap mujhey reasons to bataiye k kon si baten hain jhagrey ki?

ap ki aur us ki family is shadi se khush hain?

meamanji

Re; Husband Bad Behavior: What Should I Do?

Re; Husband Bad Behavior: What Should I Do?

re: police complain

mashraqi pakistani aurat apne shohar ke khilaf police complain nahi kerti. mera khial hai keh panchayat commitee jaisa koi adara ho tu waha se help lena chahiye.

aakhir aap ka shohar chahta kia hai, os ki hidden khahish kia hai?

meamanji

 It is really another sad story of love marriage. I pray for you and suggest that you should contact Mushkil Aasaan (Community Care for Asian Families in Crisis). They are based in London and I copy their address and other contact details below. I am sure they will be able to help you.

Mushkil Aasaan (Community Care for Asian Families in Crisis)
First Floor (Side Entrance)
220-222 Upper Tooting Road
London, SW17 7EW

Phone: 020 8672 6581
Fax: 020 8682 3054
Email: --

Other wise discuss with your husband and go for marriage Conseling. "Relate"  Conseling service is very well known. you can find their contact details on web. They have their offices everywhere in UK.

Take care

Wassalaam

meamanji

Try Try and Try..Mera nai khial,agar aurat koshish kare tou mard esa behave rakhay. Firstly, khud ko pur sakoon rakh ke sochen,wajoohat dhoonden.tou muje umeed hai,tum ko apni koi na koi khami zaroor nazar aye gi.Mean, apne husband ke sath behas karna,khud ko un se behtar show karwana(kisi point se).Aurat ke pas boht hathyar hote hain,bas use karne ki zaroorat hai,your husband tumhara ho jaye ga.

     Never mind, Ghee ko sidi ungli se nikaliye,Insha Allah sab theek ho jaye ga. Negative sochen gi tou negative khial ayen gay.Hope u understand karo gi jo maine baaten bi kahin...

    (Namaz parha karain, everything will be fine Insha Allah)

Have a nice time.

  Regards

meamanji

re:

plz aap dekhain kaheen aap ghalti per tu nahi han kaheen aap se apnay husband ke haqooq ada kernay ma kotahi tu nahi ho rahi jis ki wajha se un ka reaction ye hota hai aur may be wo kisi doseri auratr ki teruf attract hotay hon es wajha se....pz ager aisa hai tu try to improve urself...............aap un ki itni izat kerain,ikhlaq se paish ayain aur un se pyar kerain aur un ka khayal kerain key wo bus aap hi ke ho jayain....husband ke Islam ma bohat haqooq han...aap sirf apnay rights mat dekhain,aap ye bhi dekhain ke un ke trights aap kitnay poray ker rahi han.

ALLAH  dono ko hidayat day aur islah ker day aur dono husband-wife ke dil ma aik doseray ke liay pyar daal day aur dono aik doseray ki ankhoon ki thandak bun jayain...Amin

hmmm

meamanji

kahan hain ap