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sweetquest |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Jun 2009, 5:50pm |
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 How Can I Break My Engagement?
hey main aik achi aur social family say hoo.meri engagement ko 5 years ho gayey hai .engement arrange thi. par last 5 years main humari kabhii nhii bani.I tried different way means jo sub na kahan ka yeh karoo yeh work karta hai kiya ,but no effect,woh trust nhii kata mujh pay.aur baatin buhaat banata hai.3 years phaley aik scene b create kiya ka phone aaya hai aur woh kehta hai ka engement break karoo warna maar doo na .woh us ka hi plan tha jo mujhay bhaad na pta chala,when i did investigation.phir mera pass b phone aa ya .she knew each and every single detail related to me and my fience and she also said main maar do gi tum ko.aur buhaat kuch...buhat I forget b/c I need his relation ab phir yahi kahani start kardii us na.ab main kiya karoo .he says he love me par love app ki right deta hai ka kissi ko blackmail karoo.I want to finish this thing.par kiya hoga if i do this.do you guys have any idea about which apporoach would be best? I belong
to a good and social family. I got engagement 5 years back that was arranged. We
have not been harmonic during previous 5 years. I have tried different ways to
settle the issues and to cope with him but any thing didn’t work. He does not
trust me. 3 years back he has made a plot to break the engagement. Now again
plans of breaking engagement are going on. What should I do? He says he loves
me but does it means to blackmail some body. I want to finish this relation now
please tell me any idea about with which I can approach this.
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waseem08 |
Group: Members Joined: 27th Apr, 2009 Topic: 13 Post: 1304 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Jun 2009, 6:19pm |
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sweetquest dekhen jahan tak muhjhe lagta hy wo ye hy k abi tak ap dono ki wazaa baat ny hoi hy to mushwara ye hy k ap waze tor pe baat kr k phele dekh lo phr kisi nateeje pe pocho.
take care.
bay. |
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sweetquest |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Jun 2009, 7:15pm |
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reply no.main karti thi par haar cheez discuss ki hai .phir b |
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sweetquest |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Jun 2009, 7:22pm |
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reply phaley start may nhii thi par phir ho gayey buhat.jo insaan samjhna na chahta ho aur samjh kay b na samjhay phir kiya karrain.us ko haar aik na samjhaya including me.I think u r not getting my piont.thanks 4 ur advice |
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maahhii |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Apr, 2009 Topic: 6 Post: 1441 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 12:00am |
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sweetquest Well ye to bari ajeeb baat ha k wo aap se mohabbat ka dawa b krta ha or aisi harkatain b...............akhir uss ka maqsad kaya ha iss k peechay.................kahin wo khud to ye nahi chahta k ye mangni toot jaye lakin uss ki taraf se aisa na ho bal k aap aisa krain...................
aap nay kaha ap ki baat hoti ha to phir aap ko kaya lagta ha............why is he doing so..................baat kuch clear kerain..................
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sweetquest |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 1:02am |
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 sweetquest
yahii tu mujhay aaj tak samjh hi nhii aaya.us ki baatain buhaat sarii kuch us tarah ki hai jo buhaat aajeeb hain.e.g woh phone b recieve nhii karta aur phir haar baat ko ignore kar dita hai ka jis tarah ki na hoo aur kuch kaha na hoo.muhay b yahii lagga b/c woh apna parent say darta hai .par us ka trust na karna aur merii haar baat say hate karna .kio clue nhii millta.kiya yah aik normal insaan karta hai.this is beyond my thinking.kehna tu door ki baat woh manta hii nhii apnii ghalti.woh kehna its ur fault not mine.apna kiya dekhta hai mera kuch b nhii.phir yeh phone thing aik nhii .buhaat dafa ka hai bus yeh samjh lain ajeeb sa hai .aik tarah buhaat religion aur on the other yeh sub.ab masla b yahii hai agar woh keh day tu maaf b kardey par woh meray upper ilzam lagayey woh b meray parents aur relative ka pass aur kehay main pyaar b buhaat karta hoo .its too much 4 me.please help me.what would the reason behind this theory.sorry i didn't mention that I amn'y living in karachi any more.I am shifted to other country. aik aur problem yeh b hai ka mera parents aur us ka parents friends hai.break karna b hai aur kiya reason hona chayey .help me please main buhaat pareshan hoo.thanks 4 ur advice .I can't tell u ,how much I appreciate u guys. |
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maahhii |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Apr, 2009 Topic: 6 Post: 1441 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 1:13am |
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i can understand aik larki k liye ye sab cheezain kitni aham hoti hain...............i know that.......or aap ka preshan hona b natural ha ..............lakin ab iss ka hall kaya hona chahye.............abi to aap log alag hain shadi k baad to sari zindgi sath rehna ha aik doosray ko bardsht kerna ha...........tab ye sab kese chalay ga.............
aap k ghar walon ko pata ha k aap ki us se baat hoti ha........?
or what about your mother......cant u share ur problem with her............ager main khud ko aap ki jaga rakh ker sochoon to muje to aik he rasta nazar ata ha...........to share with my mother.............
apnay confusions or thinking un ko bata dain...........ho sakta ha tab wo uss larkay ko alag trha parakhna shuru ker dain...............or aap ka or un ka point of view aik ho jaye...................or zahir ha us larkay se ya uss k kisi family member se to baat nai ho skti na.................
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sweetquest |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 1:25am |
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reply I did that.main na sub kuch mom ko bata diya hai.in fact main kuch hide nhii kartii .main always thruth ka saath detii hoo.main jhoot nhi kehtii par dil main aik ahsaas yeh hai .main ghalt tu nhii kar rahi break karkay.kahii main buhaat self-fish tu nhii hoo.being a human ,do I have a rite to break hearts.b/c is say meri parents b affect hogay. |
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sweetquest |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 1:37am |
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reply phaley merii mom mujhay kahtii thi that u have fix ur slf.its ur relation and u have to manage by urself.after she talk to him then she realize that I am rite.woh mera saath hai.main b kehtii hoo let's do it.par main phir b concern ho ka mera aik step ghalat na hoo. shyaad main emotional hoo aur thruth nhii dekh rahii hoo aur phir wrong path na la kar apnay parents ko pareshan karoo.already 5 say almost zayada tym engagement ka rehna aur phir mera other country parement shift hona with parents.sub ka yehii kehna hoga larki ab aboard hai tu yeh kar rehii hai.main agar karachii may b hota tu narrow na hotii b/c main ho hi nhii.aur reh gayy baat merii limits ki so I know my limits. |
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sweetquest |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 1:39am |
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reply thanks maahii .I really need this. |
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maahhii |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Apr, 2009 Topic: 6 Post: 1441 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 4:09am |
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hmmmm mamla ye ha dear k ager sab kuch sahi hota to tumhain ye confusions kyun hoti.............akhir kahin koi kuch galat ha jo tumain bother ker raha ha.......jis nay tumain ye sochnay pay majboor kia ha k main ye shadi krun k na krun.............without reason to aisa nai hota.............iss main ap k emoyional honay ki baat nai.............phir b if u feel so.........to just take some time.....think abt it rationally............make a list of what make u marry and what make u not to marry................yani negatines and positives with strong reasons............then c what u get out of that...............its good ur mother is with u...................or haan ap kisi ka dil dukha rahi ho ya koi aap ka..........ap buri ho ya agla galat ha........pehlay khud ko clear kro..................
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 4:42am |
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agreed to maahiiiiiii |
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maahhii |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Apr, 2009 Topic: 6 Post: 1441 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 4:47am |
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zeb bhai Shukran jazeelan..............
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sunny007 |
Group: Members Joined: 22nd Dec, 2007 Topic: 44 Post: 4216 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 5:17am |
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yes agreed to maahi.... well said... |
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sweetquest |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 8:38am |
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reply I am positive about my decision par jab parents ka khayaal aata hai tu buhaat dukh hota hai.I know I have to take any decision .I also tried that formula.I wrote all negative and positive thing about our relation and at the end -ve wins.par yeh sub tu mera khud ka sawal aur jawab.what u guys think that I should do this ?agar lyf ki love ,care and trust na b hoo tu kiya life change hoti hai.kiya larkay ka sirf achii ghar say aur acha money maker hona zaroori hai. |
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goodman |
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 8:46am |
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ok sweet sweet u r the first lady who think about care.....but girls also think they need money and do not need care...........it is traditional thing that all people need same thing.................money and money...........and parents relation.......ok |
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sweetquest |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 3:18pm |
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reply hey.godman
u r rite.I am not gonna to say that I am not that type of girls.but i am not dependent on some one.I need money par woh kabhii itna acha nhii jo money extra spend karray. |
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sunny007 |
Group: Members Joined: 22nd Dec, 2007 Topic: 44 Post: 4216 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 3:36pm |
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sweetquest agar itna ho chuka hai k aap apni decision tak pohonch chuki hai, lekin baat parents ki wajah se rukhi hoie hai, k woh kia sochienge. to aap sab kuch apne parents ko bataye, aur un pareshanion ka zikar kare jo aap ne feel ki hai.. pir muttafiqa tour par decision le le k kia karna hai..
muje nahi yaqeen k parents sab kuch jaan'ny k bawajood itna risk le le k apni beti ko pareshanion k daldal main dakheel de.
agar aap yahan par se decision lena chahti ho, to muje ye b yaqeen nahi k yahan par aap ko koi alahidagi ka mashwara denge...
yahan par saarey members koshish karenge k aap donon ek ho jao.
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sweetquest |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 9:49pm |
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AOA,
Thanks a lot for being so kind.I know that u guys are here for making relation and not for breaking them.I think I got my answer.tc .I want to thanks all moderators,who took part in my discussion. |
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sweetquest |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Jun 2009, 9:52pm |
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reply thanks alot to all members like maahi,godman and sunny.I have to make u my mind .I did. |
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