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mairak |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 7:14am |
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 incest: psychological torture felt
me na bohat soch ka ye post kiya ha.me jhut bilkul nai bolungi kiunkay me theek hona chati hun me sari details na bata
sakti but ma na incest k baray ma parha tha yahan.tou mujhy goodman na kaha k nayee post karo.mujhy ye puchna ha k kya koi meri madad kar sakta ha. me bohat upset hun.Muja b yahi meray sath hua tha kai baar mgar ghar
walay keht hain zaban band rakho.
Baki jo me na purana post ma likha tha k me na sex ni kia dar k jhut likh diya tha.wo ghalti mujsy hui thee.magar wo b issi waja se k ghar walay muja ignore he rakhta Me akelay rehta rehta tang aa gayee thi.friend b koi na thee.aur wo kehta tha tum used o.aur agar nai kerti the tou kehta tum pagal o aur shdi k bad b esa he rahogi.Kiunk me pehla man ati phir dar lagta tha aur rona
ata tha .phir us na kaha agar tm theek hoti to me kal tum sa shadi ker leta lekin tum normal nai ho tum.tab bi muja esaa problem tha k me 2 hours se ziada so na skti hun aaj b essa he ha.
First ye k mujhy self harming ki adat par gayee ha aur me nai khatam ker pa ri.me koi doctor k pas nai ja sakte.kiunkay ghar walay support ni karta.dusra mera heart beat foran slow ho jata ha kissi ki unchi awaz sun ka aur hath paun kampta ha.ghar wala agar hans ra houn zor sa tab b dar jati hu aur agar baat ker ra houn to b baichain o jati hun k meri he burayee ker ra hon ga.Ya ye k ab mujha dant parna wali ha.halankay kuch b main na nai kiya hota.Kiunkay pehla esa he hota tha aur mujhy bohat marte the aksar bgher kisi reason agar koi kam na kar pati jessay bulb na laga k diya ya behan k bchay ka jhoola polish ker k nai diya wghera.
Second: mujhy 2,3 he dreams hain jo baar baar aata ha bachpan sa continue aata ha.Jessa k mera rlatives k ghar gaye.Unki chat par chamgader aa gayee. me unki chat pa hun aur mujhy nicha jana ka rasta bhl gya ya siri ghayeb ho gayee aur wo muja utha k le jayeng aur meri cousine ko tou uncle aur bari bajian nicha lgay me akeli reh gayee .TV dekhta hua b agar sirf 5 minute ko ankh b lag jaye tou yei hota ha.Ya ye k ami abu ko kehti han phenk k aao issa kahan se le k a gay aur so ni pati.bachpan sa ye dream aatay han.
Third: Me agar deep so jaun tou me apna he khab me phans jati hun aur mujsa bahar ni nikla jata.maslan me jaag tou jati hun par apna aap ko move ni ker sakti yahan tak ke ankh b nai khol sakti.kitna tim ye ni pata kiunk mujhy tou pata ni kab asal me jagti hun bus ye pata ha k mujha ghar waloun ka pata chalta ha kab jagay kaun kya ker ra ha per ma hil nai sakti.Koi kandhy pakar k hilaye tab b nai jaag sakti.ankh tak nai khol sakti baaz auqat issi tara dubara so jati hun aur phir uthtee hun tou normal hoti hun.warna ghanta 2 ghanta ussi tara pari reti hun.Iss doran ghar waloun ki batain sunayee deti hain
magar me kuch ni keh pati.Mujha galiyan detay hain ya has ra hota hain muj pa.me kuch ni ker skti.aur raat ko light off nai ker sakti .ajeeb bat ha k mera relative apni betioun ko meri example deta han k kitni confident
ha.magar muja wo sab feel ni hota.samaj ni aata kya karun k meri is khawb s jaan chuta.me shadi nai kerna chatee Nafrat hoti ha.Abi bhee mera boyfriend ha magar me chor nai sakti.mera ghar wala baat b nai kerta mera sath
tou phir me usi se baat kerti hun.aur agr ghar me masla ho to bahar chalee jati hun uska sath. kiunk me warna phir khud se batain kerna lagtee hun akela me.Me usko chor ni sakti kiunka me akeli ho jaungi aur ghar wlay mujhy pagal samjh k pagal khana na chor aayen mera ghar walay. Koi mujha zalil krna k bjaye koi hall btain k me ghalat b na karun aur aur usk bghair dhang ki zindagi bhee guzar sakun.KYA MUJA WAQI PYSCHOLOGY PROBLEM HA ya wo yunhi kehta tha?
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goodman |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 8:09am |
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mairak maira is may incest wali to koi problem nahi ha |
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psychdoc |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 8:31am |
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Mairak:
Aap ko koi bhee mashwara daina say pehla mein aap ko kuch kehna chata hoon agar aap mind nah karain. Yeh baat theek hai keh aap ke life bohot he zyada effected hai, aur aap piyar aur respect kee bohot zyada kami mehsoos karti hain, magar phir bhee yeh koi justfication nahin hai premarital sex ka liya. Yaad rakhain keh dunya ke zindagi ki barri say barri pareshani marnay kay saath hee khatam ho jaati hai, magar jo aap kar rahee hain woh aap ke dunya aur dunya ka baad jo hamesha hamesha ki zindagi aanay waali hai usko bhee tabah kar raha hai. Ho sakta hai aap ko waqti tor par apna boyfriend ka saath shaid thorra sexual pleasure milta ho, magar khod apna dil say poochain keh baad mein kiya aap yeh soch kar khosh hoti hain keh aap nay apni izzat, jo aik larki kay liya bohot important aur valuable cheez hai ( aur larka kay liya bhee), uski qeemat aap nay itni kam kar dee keh usko donon haathon say luttaa rahee hain. Yeh theek hai keh aap kay paas bohot kuch nah ho to begin with, aur aap bohot zyada mehroom hon, magar inn haalat mein apni sab say qeemti cheez, sab say valuable possession ko hee devalue kar keh lutaa daina kahan kee aqalmandi hai. Mein umeed karta hoon keh aap meri baat ko defensive nahin lain gee, aur jo kuch mein nay kaha atleast uska baaray mein realistically sochain gee zaroor.
Aaian ab aap ke main problem discuss kartay hain. Aap na incest ka reference diya, magar kuch details nahin batain keh aap ko kis kis nay violate kiya, aur kin circumstances mein, aur aap kee age kiya thee? Kis age say aap kay saath yeh sab zulm start hoa, aur kab tak yeh silsila raha, aur most importantly aap ka emotional response kiya hota thaa jab aap kay saath yeh sab kuch hota thaa?
Apna incest waalay topic mein mein nay incest kay victims kay jo long term personality effects bataya hain, inn mein say kaafi aap nay recognise kiya hain, for example self harm, PTSD ( nightmares, anxiety, sleep disturbance etc etc), aur sexual dysfunction etc. Aap nay jo yeh batay keh aap oonchi awaaz waghira say bohot zyada darr jaati hain, yeh exaggerated startle response ( kisi bhee cheez kaa bohot zyada emotional reaction daina) aur chonk jaana etc, yeh sab PTSD kay common symptoms hein. Aap kay aik aur barra problem lack of trust hai jiski wajah say aap har waqt kisi bhee cheez kay baaray mein sub say zyada negative possibility ke taraf jaati hain, for example har waqt yeh sochna keh har koi aap kay baaray mein hee negatively baat kar raha ho gaa etc. Iska saath saath aap ke personality mein bohot major kamia hain, unfortunately, aur inn kamion kee wajah say aap har waqqt iss darr mein rehte hain keh kahin aap ko koi reject nah kar day, issi liya shayed aap yeh sab jaantay hoa bhee keh aap ka boyfriend aap ko violate kar raha hai, aap usk aisa karna dai rahee hain keh kahin inkaar karna par woh bhee aap ko reject nah kar day. Magar problem yeh hai keh aisa karna say , in the long term, aap sab say zyada apni he nazron mein rejected feel kar rahee hain, aur aap ke self respect aur self esteem bohot zyada low ho gai hai. I am sorry agar meri koi baat aap ko burri lagee ho, magar kabhee kabhaar yeh zaroori ho jaata hai keh hamain haqeeqat batai jae, takeh ham apni zindagi mein koi positive aur meaningful change laaian. Mera maqsad aap ko criticize karna nahin, balkeh aap ko aap ke situtation ke reality bata kar aap ke help karna hai.
Mera yeh do topics dobaarah parh lain, aur phir batain keh aap ka kiya khayal hai:
Aur pana childhood ka baaray mein aap nay jo dossri thread mein mention kiya thaa, brother, uncles waghira kay baary main, woh dobarah mention kar dain takeh aap ke problems kaa background patah chal jae.
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mairak |
Group: Members Joined: 05th Dec, 2011 Topic: 5 Post: 576 Age:
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 10:28am |
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psychdoc yahan me koi private text ni ker sakti yahin sara kuch likna parega?
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mairak |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 10:56am |
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Psychdoc Ma na hummo wala topic para tha but ye topic abi paray hain. muja khud ko harm krna pasand ha.isi liye nai rok sakti ab 2 monthe se biltul ni kia kiunk ma apna bf k sath busy ho jati hun jab ghar ma problem hota ha.me college ya university tak normal thee magar office ma jan bujh k tayar na ho ka jati thee.mara boss ghalat admi tha ya shayad muja he lagte hoga me is liye jan bujh k ganda dress pehnti the.magar ab muja smaj aa gee ha k mard ko kuttia b milay to uss sa b ker leta ha isma shakal ka ni hota kuch. me wesa b koi pretty ni hun. Baki muja is dream wala aur jo nind ka masla ha iska kuch bta dain me bf k bagher so he ni saktee 2 se 3 weeks k baad hm milta han tab me so pati hun wo b tab jab wo jaag ra hota ha tabi soti hun.Koi yoga wghera hota ha kya jis sa ye problem solve ho? aur mera ghar wala ab bhee esay he hain k jo marzi ho jaye but support ni kerta.muj job b kerni parti ha kiunk wo muja kuch lharcha sahi tara ni de sakta.shadi k liye b kuch unk pas nai hai tou mujy he kerna parega sab.warna wo mujy kissi b divorcee ya budhy k aagay phenk denga.is problem sa ma ob b ni ker pati.
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mairak |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 10:59am |
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jo aap na pucha past ka Muja 4 ya 5 years ki age thee tab ma 1st ma thee tab se shuru hua tha aur friend k abu ne shuru kiya tab4-5 times kiya tha usna.tb mjy pain bohat hua tha but bleed ni hua.tu me na kuch sex organ k nam liya meri behn na ami ko btaya tb me na btaya k wo ye kerta ha to ammi ne muja wahn ni bheja dubara magar abu phir b mujy jhuti kehta rahy.phir jab me bari ui to wo mera ghar ek nokar tha usna kiya.wo mujy god uthany k bhany mujsy apna penis rub kerwata or mujy vagina ko rub kerta ya fingers dalta.aur meri ek aur friend k ghar unka servant tha usna b kiya tab hum sab bachhay ank micholi khel ra tha to wo muja apna quarter me chupa gya aur sb na mujay samjha k ghar chali gayee hogi but ma wahin thee.muja puchna ha k jb aapko menses na aaye hon tb b hymen hota ha kya kiunkat tab muja bleed hua tha us larkay n mujsa intercourse kiya tha aur mjy tb bleed hua tha.me shayad 9 ki age thee phir usna kaha tum kehna tanki ma chupi thee . ye mujhy sahi yaad ha.Abu bohat nafrat kerta tha tou me ne kissi ko ni btaya.aur phir mera bhai tha wo touch krta to me pretend kert k ma so gee hun kiunk muja sharam aati the but ami manti ni thee tou me kya kerti.tabi mjy menses aany lgay tu i thought me pregnant hun kiunk mujy ni pata tha k mere sath kya hua.bus drama pakistani movies wghera dekhi thin to me darr gayee.phir classfello na btaya k ye normal hota ha perids wghera.Ami ko bohat ghusa aaya k mujy kiyun ho gay hain.
baki total kab khatam hua wo sab muja sai yaad ni aata k kab khatam hua magar 8th k baad i guess khatam o gya tha bilkul.kiunkay uska baad koi bara mard ghar ma mera abbu k siwa nai tha.
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goodman |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 11:08pm |
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mairak?
maira jab tum 5th may thee too tum say sex howa tha too tum bayhoosh nahi howi thee...is per acha drama ban sakta ha?
Please dont make fun of member problems. Moderator
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mairak |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 12:01pm |
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bkwas band he rakho goodman
Goodman jab khub p beetati ha tou hee pata chalta ha.
Ma kuch khas keh ni saktee k kiun behosh ni hui ma iss silsla ma koi safai ni dey ri tma.aap ziada wakeel na bnain. kya ye b btaun k kis tara kiya tha usna? pura hua tha k ni. larka discharge hua tha k nai.usna insert kiya tha to kitna inch kiya tha uska kitna lamba tha patla tha ya mota
bana lou drama us ma tum shakti kapoor k role ma bohat fit rahoga.
Psychdoc
mjy koi neend ki dawa bata dain ya jo kuch b aap na btaya ha wo tou mjy pata ha me guzar ri hun iss ma sa.magar mera ilaj kesa hoga.
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mairak |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 12:05pm |
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Goodman Tum agar koi positive hal ni bata sakta tou bakwas band rakho.Aur tmari mehrbani hogi k mujhy pareshan mat karo.
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goodman |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 12:09pm |
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maira Allah say daroo maira jiss tara tum bata rahi hoo...is tara to pher assay hee hona tha..tumhay khud pata nahi chal raha ha kay tum kiya ka rahi hoo...agar tum may thori see be gharat aur sharam hoo to bas ALLAH say toba keroo...
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mairak |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 2:03pm |
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explain karoga thora Jis tra bta ri ho to essa ee hone tha ka kya matlab ha?matlb kisi aur tara se btana chahye?
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goodman |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 2:13pm |
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maira tumhay khud is bat ka pata nahi ha...kay tumhay kiss tara explain kerna chahay..aur joo tum lekh rahi hoo..us say tumharay demagh per kya asar ho raha ha...agar tum may AURAT name kee zara bee cheez hoti to ab tak ALLAH say mafi mangti |
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mairak |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 2:14pm |
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Psyche Doc Se Request psych doc aap se request ha k bicharay goodman sab ka ilaj kerwa den inko dmaghi pollution ke bimari ha.bichara k sath kissi aurat ne lagta ha bohat bara dhoka kiya hoga jo isko her larki jhuti he lagtee ha.me hun ya hummo.
Goodman ko thankyou kiunka wo jo behave ker ra hain mera ghar wala bilkul yunhi ketay hain so muja likhna ni parega k unka behaviour kessa ha mera sath.
Baki forum members jo doctors wghera han wo meri help ker skta hountou please support karain.mujha sleeplesness na pareshan ker rakha ha.aur me ya puchna chahti hun k me depression ki patient hun k kissi aur bimari ki aur mujha medicine equired han k nai. Self harming ko kessy avoid ker sakti hun ma?
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psychdoc |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 2:17pm |
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MairaK:
Mein iss waqt thorra busy hoon, magar inshallah mein aap ko reply karoon gaa 1-2 ghanta baad. I also have some more questions for you. |
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mairak |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 2:20pm |
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Goodman what is your problem Me jo likh ri hun us sa mera dmagh per effect ho ra ha? acha gee kitna pata ha apko meray baray ma. kitna aap hero ho aql-e-kul.
tumy problem ha to phir kiun kaha k me thread shuru kerdun tmy? Me btatai hun jab me na kaha k sex ni kiya tab tak tm help kerna ko foran tayar tha ab jab sach bol ri hun tou tmy khujli ho ri ha.Me tmy kuch b explain ni karungi . tum apna chaska kissi aur ki post ma pura karo jo muja doctor koi help kena chahega wo koi swal karega tou bta dungi. Apna munh ab band kerlo kiunkay mujhy tum se mdad nai chahye
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goodman |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 2:21pm |
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self masturbation? acha maira aur rabi aik id nahi ha...ap bataoo na....yeah sach nahi ha??..maray demagh may bohat pollution ha joo ap theek keroo gee...
dhokay to maira ap kay sath ho rahay ha ...per pher be tumhay samj nahi a rahi ha ...issi liyay to ka raha hoo mazeed dhookoo say bachoo....
ap ka be thanku kay ap joo behave ker rahi hoo is say neend waqai nahi aiin gee...
self harming nahi hota ha self masturbation hot ha...ya self enjoyment hota ha...yeah term hoti ha...is ka bachnay ka wahid hal namaz ha... |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 2:24pm |
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sex keroo ya na keroo mujay tumhary sex kernay ya na kernay say kooi faraq nahi parta ha??agar tum nay sex kiya ha too iska ghunna tum per ha...mujay is say kiya layna dayna?? |
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mairak |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 2:27pm |
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Au Me aurat hona se pehla insan b thee kabhi Char sal ki bachi aurat ni hotee. mujy Allah na iss liye ni peda kiya k ma dusron k aagay bichi rehtee . wessay b to kissi n meray sath zbrdasti he kia tha na me na.Apni marzi se ker liya to guna ho gaya. kissi aur ne apni marzi se aur meray sath zabardasti ker liya tou gnah ho gya?bara zabardast qanoon ha.
Wessay tum bolt raho mjhy jawab dena ma maza aa ra ha coz tum muj pa shout tou ker ni sakta.hath b ni utha sakta.chalo aaj sahi pata tou chalay tum jessay dmagh sochta kya hain
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goodman |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 2:32pm |
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Allah ka qanoon ha bikul tum insan thee aur ab bee insan hooo....agar kissi nay zabardasti kiya tha aur bachapan may kiya tha...to is ka pata nahi kitna ghunna us zabadarsti kernay walay per hoo ga....uskee pakr zaroor hoo gee uskoo....
aur joo ap nay apni marzi say ghunna kiya ha iska jwab too tum khud doo gee...Qanoon sab kay liyay equal ha...Aur Allah kee pakar aur qanoon bohat HARD ha...
bilkul na ma tum per shout ker sakta hoo aur na mar sakta hoo...aur na he ma assa soch sakta hoo...ma serif samja sakta hoo |
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mairak |
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| Posted on:27th Dec 2011, 2:36pm |
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Bus ye kehna tha? Chalo aur koi ilzam laga dou beta. aap ilzamat ki machine ho. wo khala ki haan rent pa ha larki. mera pc use kerti ha. Self Masturbation ka muja kafi knowledge ha lehaza aap se guidence ni chahye.Uss se wesy nind aati hai khatam ni hoti. mera problem last 20 years sa on and off ha jbka mera physical relation koi 5 saal pehla start hua dono connected ni hain. Aur agar farak ni parta tou phit kya masla ha?jaag kiun ra ho aadhi raat ko.mera problem mat barhao me marna ni chahtee.
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