 Working Women In Islam In Pakistan: Should She Quit The Job Before Marriage?
Salam to all friends and sisters, mey jo masla yahan discuss kereney ja raha hoon woh basically meri sister ka hey jo key married hain. Main masley ko bian kerney sey pehley thora sa background batana chahon ga phir ap forum mebers sey is ka mashwara loon gaa ta k koi solution nikal sakey meri her uss bandy sey jo key forum pir mojod hey yeh guzarish hey key please is mamley main mujhey kuch guide line dey. " mera taluq punjab ki aik conservative family sey hey humarey khandan mey kisi bhi larki ka rishta almost 90 % tak khandan hi main hota hey aur her bandy ki yahi koshish hoti hey key us ki beti ka rishta khandan sey bahir na ho. Waja ap log bhi behter jantey hain. Meri sister mujh sey 3 years bari hain. Jab un ki marriage wali age aie to humarey khandan mey sirf meri khala key gher hi rishta tha merey consin ka. Us larkey ney BA kia hoa hey lekin woh us waqt job naheen kerta tha jab unhon ney ham sey rishta manga. Us ki choti behen ki umar merey braber hey . un logo ney shart laga dee key tum hum sey rishta lo mairey liey aur hum tum sey rishta ley gey yani wata sata. merey gher walley bohot pareshan they lihaza unho ney hami bhar li aur may ney bhi sir tasleem e kham ker dia. Meri sister ki shahdi 2003 mey hoi. Us waqt woh larka job naheen kerta tha bulkey tutions wagera parhata tha. meri sister apney sheher mey aik school mey teacher theen aur un ko pay bi achi thi. mairey parents ney un key samney yeh request ki key hamari beti job ker rahi hey lihaza app iss ko is cheez ki ijazat dey key yeh job kerti rahey. Woh pehley to naheen maney lekin khandan key bazorgon key pressure per us waqt mann gey. Mey yeh bhi batata chalon key meri khala aik pscho patient hain woh inahai sakht aur gandi zuban rakhti hain jiss tarha aik hasid insan hota hey bilkul iss tarha. Is sary mamley main sas baho ki larai wala factor bi tha. In the meanwhile 2006 main meri sister ko govt job mil gaee grade 16 main. Aur woh banka bhi jo meri behen ka shohar yani mera behnoi hey us ki job aik private school main teacher ki lag gaee apney sheher main. Abb masla yeh hey key meri chand dino tak us larkey ki behen sey shadi ho rahi hey. aur woh log meri behen ko stress ker rahey hain key woh job chor ker idher apney susral aa jaey. aur abb meri sister key 2 bachey bi hain aik 3 sal ki beti aur aik 1 year ka beta. Ab app logo sey yeh mashwra hey key meri sister aur mujhey kia kerna chahiey. 1. Kia ager kisi larki ka shohar kam tankhwa leta ho aur woh khud bi job ker rahi ho aur uss ka shohar strees karey key job chor do to kia ussey chor deni chahey 2 . ya ussey continue rakhan chahey chahey uss key susral waley naraz hi kion na hoon 3. un ko isss cheez ka bi dar hey key hamari beti uss gher main jaey gee jahan hamari bahoo pehley hi reh rahi hey aur jab koi baat hoi to un ki beti par affect na parey.
4. uss shaks ka yeh hall hey key woh poori tarha apni maan key shakanjey main hey ager us ki man usey ijazat dey to woh apni bivi aur bacho ko milney ata hey na dey to woh mil bi naheen sakta. knw he is at age 38. abb app log batain key kia kia jaey mera her uss bandy sey guzarish ho jo yeh thread parhey woh mashwara dey ho sakta hey app ka mahsrwa kisi ki umar bhar ki tension khtam ker dey
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