I am a MS-IT, Internet Marketer, Teacher, and earning good money
We have a love marriage, before getting married our Engagement went for 5 years and now it is 2 years since we are married, So I know my wife for 7 years now.
She is my first Love, and I said to "GOD, that please make this my first and last love, Coz I don't want to speak lie to any other girls." God answered my prayers and we got engaged.
Now engagement is a tricky part, she forced me to get engaged, coz I was only 20 at that time, and I didn't knew what to do. She played a DRAMA with me by saying she has eaten PILLS, and she will die. I got worried and scared and I told my father that I want to marry this girl. Which they agreed coz I am there only son.
After the engagement she told me that she had an affair with a some MAN before me, and she assured me that they were not physical at all. Which I believed. During engagement it didn't seemed to matter to me, BUT BUT BUT BUT BUT
On my wedding night I found out that she is not a virgin, Which I again forgave her, and YES I fought with her about this, but she said " I DON'T KNOW WHY THE BLODD NEVER CAME OUT" and which I again believed her.
I have 3 DAUGTERS now with her. First baby were TWINS.
Now I noticed some changes in her, she has never looked at me in the eyes when she Kisses me. While we make love again she don't even want to look at my face. And this is all from the Day first. She abuses me, she gets angry all the time. And funny thing is this.. she was asking for divorce the very 3rd week of our marriage. She always blame me for having an affair, which I honestly haven't. SHE HAS ONLY 1 REASON , YOU ARE HAVING A AFFAIR… which I don't
So she left me 1 month ago with my daughters to her parents house, which I kind of let her go.. I thought she might need some personal time, I respected that, but during this 1 month she never called me or asked for my any family member. SHE fought with the whole family before she left.
And 5 hours ago I found from her relative's reliable source that she had an abortion before marriage. Which explained everything. And she is in contact with that MAN's family right now.
NOW it was " BUSS BOHUT HOO GAYA" ab hooor nein" I wish I could go to her parents house and smack her head to the walls and take a bath in her Blood.. But when I see my little daughters my hearts and my anger turns into tears.Why she done this to me.
AND THE FUNNY THING IS THIS… SHE IS NOT SORRY.
WHAT SHOULD I DO, I want her to pay for this, I want her to feel the pain that I have been going through these 7 years, and she is still not sorry. Tell me what to do, any suggestions. I can even kill her. And I can die myself even after that, I have enough Money for kids future.
khoi tu jawab dey...warna Allah Paak ki Kasm m ne uss aurut kaa Kattal kar deena hai. Mujay kuch sumjh nein haa rahi...aur esh waqat khoi baat karney wala b khoi nein...karoo b tu kis se karo...
bhai ap apni baitio ki khatir aisa kadam mut uthaye jo apki wife ny ap k sath kia us ka bdla usko uski zindagi may khud mil jaye ga aur ap b daikh ly gy us ko mar k ap apni aur apni baitio ki zindagi khrab mut kry. ye un bachio ki budkismety hy k unko aisy ma mili lakin ap aik achay insan hy to bap ka saya to unko acha mil jaye ga ap k sath jo hwa boht bura hwa is may koi shak nae lakin is wakt thora hoslay sy kam ly mi ye khny sy phly janty hn k kisi ko saber ka khna asan hy lakin saber krna mushkil hy pr is k e lawa koi hal b nae k ap apni 3 baitio ka khial kry ye budkismety apki nae apki bivi ki hy k wo apna gher bna nae ski aur aisy aurtay zindagi may aik pal b chain sakon nae pa skty jo apny khawand sy dhoka kry plz apnay mind ko relax dy aur is wakt apny bro k mashwray sy soch samjh k kadam uthaye
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Posted on:11th Sep 2009, 12:10am
cybermad
aapki feeling samjh sakte hain.lekin aap sabar se kam lein.aur Allah se dua karte rahein.aapko filhal apni betioun k barey me sochna chahiye.kiu k Ma'aan jesi bhi ho Ma'aan ,Ma'aan hi hoti hai is lie aap apni bachiyoun ki khater esa koi qadam na uthana.
aur jahan tak on k past ki bat hai to aap ose 1 bar phir sun k bhol jaein.shayad onhu ne aapko is lie na btaya ho k kahein ab ki bar future khrab na ho.pehle jo ghalti ker li hai ab os k bare me ziker na krna chahti hon.bas ab aap sirf dua hi karein k in me ab bhi ager koi buriyaan hain to Allah Tala'a inhe naik hidayat de. aur omeed to ki ja sakti hai Allah se k sab kuch theik ho jae ga.
ager aapko shadi se pehle pta chalta tab bhi koi masla na tha aap on se shadi hi na karte lekin ab jab aap k 3 bachiyaan bhi hain to ab in k sath guzarne k elawa kuch nahi ho sakta:(
aap kindly sabar se kaam lein aap ki juga koi bi hota to wo issi turah preshan hota jessa k aap hein ...insan iss duniya mein imtehan ka name he her koi iss imtehan se guzar rah he rusty ulag ulatg hein ...Allah humesha sabar kerny waloon ka sath daita he ..aap uger koi bi qudam uthein gay to aik nuqsan pehly hi aap utha chukky hein aur dusra bi aap k guly purh jaye ga ...iss qisam k hazaroon nahi lakhoon musail hein duniyan mein aap akaily nahi hein..aur iss musaib ka bhoj uger aap per purh giya he to aap bi issy Allah ki turaf se qabool ker lein aur iss ko bardasht ker lein...Allah aap k hi sath ho ga aur aap hi aik din kamyab rayein gay jo jessa kerta he wessa hi bhurta he...aap ki wife ko saza Allah khud de le ga ...aap apni buchiyoon ka futre sochein ..hum log aap k dukk mein brabar k shareek hein Allah aap ko sabar de (Amin)
i can unerstand every little advise u all are giving me
leekan app sub koo yeh suun kar aur b ajeeb lagey ghaa. m ne raat kooo yeh post leekhi, aur subha 8 bajay m ne ussay phone kar k iss barey m poocha,, and u know what she said " Laga lu merey pe alzaaam ab khush rehna tum kisi aur arut k saath, ab tum aur tumari sisters khush rahey"
Imagine this, She is not even sorry, App sub teek bool rahey hoo, mujay apni beechiyaa aziz hai, leekan uss URUT kaa kia karo, jisss koo apnay kiyee pur khoi afsoos nein. Aur ulta muj pur kisi aur urut k saath thaluq bana rahi hai..
Aisi urut koo jeeney kaa khoi huq nein.. leekan woo tu apna phela pyar bool nein saki, tu m apna phela pyar kaisey bola du.
i can unerstand every little advise u all are giving me
leekan app sub koo yeh suun kar aur b ajeeb lagey ghaa. m ne raat kooo yeh post leekhi, aur subha 8 bajay m ne ussay phone kar k iss barey m poocha,, and u know what she said " Laga lu merey pe alzaaam ab khush rehna tum kisi aur arut k saath, ab tum aur tumari sisters khush rahey"
Imagine this, She is not even sorry, App sub teek bool rahey hoo, mujay apni beechiyaa aziz hai, leekan uss URUT kaa kia karo, jisss koo apnay kiyee pur khoi afsoos nein. Aur ulta muj pur kisi aur urut k saath thaluq bana rahi hai..
Aisi urut koo jeeney kaa khoi huq nein.. leekan woo tu apna phela pyar bool nein saki, tu m apna phela pyar kaisey bola du.
i can unerstand every little advise u all are giving me
leekan app sub koo yeh suun kar aur b ajeeb lagey ghaa. m ne raat kooo yeh post leekhi, aur subha 8 bajay m ne ussay phone kar k iss barey m poocha,, and u know what she said " Laga lu merey pe alzaaam ab khush rehna tum kisi aur arut k saath, ab tum aur tumari sisters khush rahey"
Imagine this, She is not even sorry, App sub teek bool rahey hoo, mujay apni beechiyaa aziz hai, leekan uss URUT kaa kia karo, jisss koo apnay kiyee pur khoi afsoos nein. Aur ulta muj pur kisi aur urut k saath thaluq bana rahi hai..
Aisi urut koo jeeney kaa khoi huq nein.. leekan woo tu apna phela pyar bool nein saki, tu m apna phela pyar kaisey bola du.
aurtoon k mizaj aissy hi hoty hein wo issi turah se batein kerti hein laiken aap ne siraf apny bary mein sochna he uss ki uger itni uqal hoti to wo apny bary mein soch na laiti aur iss stage per uger aap ne uss ki aissi wessi batoon per dhiyan diya to 2no hi surtoon mein aap ka aur aap ki buchiyoon k future ka nuqsan bohat hi ziada ho jaye ga lehza wo jo kehti he kehny dein jo sochti he sochny dein aik din wo bohat ziada roye gi iss qisam ki aurtoon ka koi jahan nahi hota aap sabar se kaam lein aap hi kamyab rahein gay wo apni saza zaroor paye gi aap ko jitna dukk de rahi he wo bi itni hi dukki ho gi laiken kindly aap khamosh ho jayein ...apny buchoon per tawajo dein..ok
apke 3 bache hain.apko apne bachon ki khatir khamosh nahi baithna chahye. means khamoshi se comminication gap pad jata hai. apko pehle to kisi bhi realitiv ke kahi bat pe yaqeen nahi karna chahye.kyoonke ek to ye suni hui bat hai.apki apni aankhon dekhi bat nahi hai. family me bohat se log hote hain jinse nahi banti ya jo ek dusre se jelous hote hain.
apki wife ka rawaya agar apse change hai ,to apko unhe direct puchna chhaye aur reason malum karna chahye ,agar unhon ne iska jawab nahi diya ,to apko chhaye ke ye massla family me uthayen. wo ghar chod ke ja chuki hain apne parents ke ghar to apko unke parents ke sath aur apne prents ke sath koi soloution nikalna chhaye...yani sab batain unke samne honi chahyen.aur agar apne apni wife se abortion wali bat nahi ki to unse mat karain.kyoonke mera nahi khayal ke apko suni sunai bat pe apni life aur apni bachon ki zindagi kharab karni chahye
kaaas yeh suuni sunaayi baat hotti. leekan m phelay b bata chookha hooo, k First night koo she didn't even droped a single drop of blood. And according to Medical point of view, the vagina tends to go back into the shape, but her Vagina was not in it's shape, because she had an surgery. I studied this last night, on various doctors site. YAAR SHE IS NOT SORRY FOR WHAT SHE DID.. Ulta mujay deemkhi lagati hai. I want to take a bath in her Blood.
trust me i forgaved her for that, but she is still in contact with the same person and with his family.
apki wife ki agar first wedding night ko bleeding nahi hui to ap plz us bat ko ap is bat se relate kar ke na sochain..ap relate karainge to apka damaagh utna hi shak ki gehrayi me chala jayegaa..
bleeding na hone ki wajah aur bhi bohat si ho sakti hain ,ap us base pe shal na karain...
dusri bat ap ne first night kaise dekh liya ke vagina ki sergury hui hai?? ye ap sab kuch ab sirf shak ki base pe keh rahe hain,ap ne bat jo sun li hai aisi.
agar man bhi lia jaye ke ye sab sach hai,phir bhi apko apne bachon ki khatir ek bar koshish karnmi chahye sab bhoolne ki...nahi bhool payenge to iska anjaam apki aur apki biwi me alehdagi ya sari umar ka ikhtelaaf...ap ka ya unka kuch nahi jayega lekin bache sari umar mutasir honge.
yehi bat ap apni biwi ko bhi samjhaen.
you said..trust me i forgaved her for that, but she is still in contact with the same person and with his family.
apki nazar me phir iska kya hall hai? agar ap thik keh rahe hain to apko ye sab bat apni wife ke samne aur unke aur pane parents ke samne lani chahye,lekin pehle ek bar ap akaile me apni wife se bat karain,unhe samjhayen ke ap unhe maf karne ko tayar hain lekin is shart pe ke wo sudhar jayen aur mafi mang lain and tauba kar lain.
ap plz relax ho jao n apni betion k futur ka socho,Khuda na Khosta agar un ko kbi b life mn ye suna para k un ki mother thek aurat ni hyn n un k father ne isi wajah se un ko chor diya to un k dil py kiya guzry gi,un ki personality tabah ho k rah jaay gi.
mai to ye sugest karun gi k ap apni wife se khul k her bat karo.her bat k jawab mago un se n wo jo ap py shak kar ri hyn k ap ka affair hy kisi se to un ki missunderstanding door karo.n ap jo kaha ry ho k unho ne ye ye kiya hy n ap sure b hoo to un ko sedhi rah py lany ki koshish karo,un ko samjho,pyar se n thandy dimagh se,ap un k past ko bhol jao n un ko b ye sb tarq karny ka kaho.beshak Allah sabar karny n maff karny walo ko pasand karta hy.n ap sath sath Allah se dua karo k wo ap ko kushion se bharpur married life ata farmain amen.apne gunaho ki toba b karo coz baz oqat isi azmaish humray apny hi gunaho ki saza hoti hy.Allah bohat kareem hy bs usi se sb mango.bt apni wife se sb batain clear karo takay ap ko life mn kabi pashtana na pary.u must give ur life the second chance.Allah ap ko kamiyab kary,amen.
ap jo b fasla karna thandy dimagh se karna,apni betion li life ka b sochna.humari duain ap k sath hyn.
ooper jo bhi replies aap ko mile they are absolutely postive. lekin yeh tab kaar-aamad ho sakte hain jab saamney se bhi positive jawab milne ki tawaqqu ho. lekin aap ka kehna hai k saamney wala to apni ghalti maanta hi nahi.
es k elawa jo aap ne bataya apni wife k baare main, esi tarha kuch related case ko main ne apne aankhon k saamney dekha hai. lekin es k elawa bhi bohot saare cases roze saamne aate hain.
jab aurat shohar ko dhamki deti hai ghar chorne ki, ya shohar par ilzaam lagati phirti hai jesa k aap ki bv karti hai, actually woh apni gunnah ko chupana chahti hai.... aise auratien mard ki narmi ko mard ki bewaqoofi samajhti hai, aur yahan to aap un se be lows muhabbat karte hain, means k chorne ka tasawwur bhi nahi kar sakte, aur esi ka faida utha kar woh aap par ilzaam laga rahi hai....
jahan tak betion ka taluq hai to aap ka haq hai k aap unhe apne paas bula le, beshak bv na aaie. haan yeh zaroor hai k es haalat main aap k betion ko maan ki kami zaroor mehsoos hogi. lekin aap ne betion ko itna pyaar dena hoga k unhe maan ki kami mehsoos na ho jaie...
doosri baat: aap apni wife k murder ya talaaq ka sochna bhi nahi.... yahi par aap k sabar ka bhi imtihaan hai.
aap jab apni betion ko apne paas bulawoge, to woh bhi apni betion k lie taras jaiegi, agar zara sa bhi mamta hai us main to..... agar woh aap se sirf esi waja se talaq maangti hai ya alag rehti hai k aap ka doosri auraton k saath affiars hain, to simply yahi kaho k saabit karo, phir jo bhi kehna hai manzoor hoga.....
aur filhaal us k khilaf jitne bhi baatein aap ne suni hai, agar woh sabh bhi hai, lekin agar saboot nahi hai aap k pass to khamosh rahe. aap ka dil saaf hai. Allah aap ki madad karega.
yahan par yeh mashwara dene main kuch ajeeb mehsoos karta hon, lekin mere khayal se aap ko mazeed narmi ikhtiaar nahi karni chahie, q k jahan tak main ne mehsoos kia hai, woh sirf aap ki narmi ka faida utha rahi hai. aur aap per ilzaam laga laga kar apni ghaltian chupana chahti hai...
baqi Allah se hi dua kare k aap ko es aazmaish main kamiab kare. Ameeen
app sub ka kia khayaal hai, kiya m negative soooctha rehatha tu m is tara forum m haa kar apnay anger koo channel deeney ki koosish karta,,,
I am trying to channel my emotions and anger by sharing it with you guys... and i completely understand Human phycology, Coz i have learnt to live with a lie..
Kuch girls boolti hai.."Mujay liars pasand nein" my answer to them is simple, eik din sub koo marna hai. Leekan hum apney app koo pir b khush rakhtay hai, kia yeh woo apney saath jhoot nein bool rahey... GIVE ME A BREAK yaar, Joo girl aisa booley tu ussi waqat samjh jayoo that she is the biggest ....edited... in town.
as i said i have learnt to live with lies... leekan meri jaan hur cheez ki eik huud hooti hai. m ne 8 saaal bardast kia hai... I AGREE with sunny, ke woo meri Personality kaa faida utta rahi hai. It's not my Narmi it is my personality to study people. " TUM ITNA JU MUSKRA RAHEY HOO KIA GHUM HAI JISS KOO CHUPA RAHEY HOO "
Aur app sub koo pata hai, m ne jitni baar b post ki hai m ne ROO ROO ki hai.. kyoon ke m ne aaj tuk kisi kaa boraa naa soocha aur naa kia, agar howa b na." tu KHUDA see roo roo ke maafi mangi, aur kossish ki k aisa dubara naa ho"
Yaar app kia samjhtoo m ne ussay mooka nein diya hoo gaa... hoo bahi mere 8 saal se yahi tu kar raha hooo.. leekan woo abhi b worried yaa ussay mera pyar nazar nein aata,
U know mere paas ONLINe business ki 3 BIG DEALS intezaar kar rahi hai for my response,, jiss se m minimum 500$ se 1000$ PER DAY earn karoo gha.. leekan m un koo jawaab nein de paa raha...
Yaar i need someone to talk to... I AM ONLY SON OF MY PARENTS, m dosray biys ki tara awara gardi nein ki, m ne dosray boys ki tara girls oo dookha nein diya. m ne dosray boys ki tara kisi ki laaachari pur uss ka mazaaq nein utttayaaa, MERE ANSOO NEIN CONTROL hoo rahey....
app sub koo sunn kar dukh hoo gha...mera khoi dooost banna b pasand nein karta tha, puri school life m ne akeeley guzaari hai. mujay ghar se bahir b niklay diya jaata taa, AB m SOOCTHA hoo kaaas m dossray biys ki tara hoota, m saaahid 1 month roo leeta leekan khoi doosri life m aa jaati... MUJAY ROONA NEIN AATHA , leekan ajj pata nien kia hoo gaya hai. MERE ANSOO NEIN RUKH rahey,
MUJAY APP SUB JAWAB DU MUJAY KIS BAAT KI KHUDA SAAAZA DE RAHA HAI... YAaar m ne itney booray booray boys deekay hai..aur un koo wifes itni achi milti hai...yaar yeh mere saath eeh kyoon hooona taa. Moderator: Do not use slang words.
ager bure bure boys ko achi achi wives mil sakti hain to.... aik ache boy ko buri larki bhi mil sakti hai... warna bure boy ko achi wife milne ka kia tuk hai... I think its your exam from allah pak... wo azmata hai sub ko muktalif situations main dal ker... kabhi andhi ko ankh na de ker kabhi haath ya pair se mazoor ker ke.. is trah bhut sari situations ho sakti hain.. and its the same thing with you .. khair abhi abhi to app ko inkshafat howe hain ... app ko ghussa to aiga hi.... kuch arse ke lea wife ko bhool jao and try ko comm down.. 8 das din ya mahina guzarlo.. ahista ahista tumhare raste ka dhundla pan khatam ho jai ga... waqt bhut bara marham hai... phir yeah decide ker lena ke wife ke saath rehna hai ya nahee...... mera mashwra to yahi hai keh apna ghussa khatam hone ke baad apni wife ko wapis le ana if she agrees ya woh is qabil ho to... warna bhut sare options hain app ke paas ... is waqt app ko sirf apni wife ko dimagh se nikalna hai aur ghussa khatam hone ka intezar karna hai......
yeh Allah ki taraf se ek aazmaiesh hai.... Allah aksar un bandon ko aazmata hai jo unhe sab se ziada pyaare ho.... bas aap ne yahi karna hai k es aazmaiesh main kaamyab hona hai....
kabhi yeh mat sochna k "why me?" yahi socha kare k "try me". apne aap main hosla paida kare, aur saabit kare k aap apni wife k baghair bhi zinda aur khush reh sakte hain. aap apni business par concentrate kare, jab aap ki life bilkul settle ho jaiegi.... to aap ki wife bhi aap se door nahi reh paaiegi. phir woh minnat samajat kar k aap k pass aaiegi....
agar aap ne apne aanson ko roke rakha, aur apni wife ka khayal filwaqt apne zehen se nikaala to shaied aap k raah se saari rukawatein door ho jaie..
q k aksar aisa hota hai, k jab koi kisi cheez k peeche bhaagta hai to woh cheez us se door hoti jaati hai, lekin kabhi kabhi aisa hota hai k kisi cheez se tum bhaagoge aur who tumhaare peeche bhagta bhaagta aaiega....
Cybermad (I am deeply saddened to have read your story
It is indeed very bad that has happened to you, and I can feel for you cos u have been through a lot. Trust me you have tolerated too much in fact beyond the limits but now its time to take a further step on and make a sensible decision. I would suggest you to let her alone and wait for a little while as only time will tell how things gonna move on.
Pray to GOD and I am sure he will turn the table for you. Brother there is a long way to go as no one knows so why put a full stop on life’s paragraph, you can remarry. God has given you options to marry women of your own choice.
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My Wife Had An Abortion Before Marriage
cybermad
cyber bhai