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dom_man |
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2009, 11:41pm |
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 Make Yourself Desirable For Your Wife
Desire is not increased or decreased.it is discovered and explored by the partner.Especially in women frigidity or for that matter less interest in sex is merely psychological most of the times unlike men whose 90 %sexual desire depends on their biological condition and other physiological factors.
The fear of insecurity in women is the major cause of their lack of interest in sex.it is a great turn off for them.Every women on this planet is vulnerable to this fear in her relationship with man no matter how she apparently react to it.There are very complex physio-psycho-sociological factors behind it.
Help her come out of this fear by showing care and love and your true manly leadership in the relationship.Remember there is a world of a difference between being domineering and dominant in the relationship for a man.Being dominant is just a manly way of expressing love and care for your woman. woman being your opposite sex want you to be dominant and authoritative provided you are loving to her at the same time.some men get confused and think that either he can be dominant or caring to his wife.This is absolutely wrong.She wants you to have both these at the same time because feeling your manliness and dominance is her natural desire but she wants you to be caring as well so that she can get rid of the fear of insecurity.She would get frustrated if you keep showing your love in a too sensitive way, love her but like a man.How would she feel if you start crying when you see her ill? No doubt you have cried because of your love for her but you have expressed it in an UNmanly way. she would feel even more insecured.you should take care of her but at the same be a little bit authoritative to make her feel that she is secured and you are a are real man who would not let her get upset and worried
Never feel guilty of bossing her around.If she is sure that you love her and protect her, she would love to be bossed around by you. It would be a bit erotic for both you because the more you both behave in a opposite(sex) and natural way i.e a man like a man and a woman in a feminine way, the more pleasure u will get in the relationship.
once she is come out of the fear of insecurity she will crave to be vulnerable and submissive in a feminine way and would love your manly commanding presence.because both the partners are opposite sexes and like each other's opposite personality traits both physiological and psychological.
This is the paradox of emotions in the woman's sexuality and if man is able to understand this paradox and reconcile these two apparently different emotions he will get a true pleasure of the relationship and she would feel herself to be the luckiest woman in the world. your manly dominance will make her feel the true feminine side of her because this is the natural dynamics of the relationship of the opposite sexes.That is how they naturally respond to each other.once she is sure of being secured and cared she would crave to be submissive and vulnerable and would love to feel dominant and manly side of you.it naturally enhances the sexual desire between both the partners.
Remember some points;
1.Make her realize that she is secured and you care
2.behave like a man and be her boss.
3.don't hesitate to correct her when she is going astray.be more authoritative
4.set some rules for her because it would help her develop herself within a certain framework
4.Apperciate her feminine qualities and delicacy.
5.Tell her that she has to ask your permission before doing certain thing.otherwise she would consider you a week man and it would turn her off.
There is a scene movie or novel(i don't remember) "meeting the master" the wife is disobedient and goes out without his permission and blah blah. the husband after getting fed up of all this, take control of her and set some rules for her and he became authoritative and dominant with manly grace but with love for her.
she starts behaving and became more submissive and obedient.the husband asked her," why didn't u become so obedient before when i was lienient towards you"the wife replied."I was behaving like that because i wanted you to be a in charge and boss of me". The husband asked," then why didn't u tell me". the wife replied," it would have ruined the whole point. I wanted you to take charge and control of me".
one of the reasons why women get depressed in the relationship is because man don't have this blend of dominance and love together. she finds one but look for the other and get confused and upset.
Ever wondered why Islam commands wife to be submissive to her husband's authourity and man to assert his authority but with care and love.That is why they both are called garments of each other because their opposite psychological and physiological chemistry.If you have grasped what is said above in my post you would have no problem to understand the wisdom of the Quran in this regard. for more detail read my article " Natural dynamics of sexual relationship". that is part1, i will explain all these things in detailed article latter.
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amahmood32 |
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2009, 1:10pm |
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good very well written, something new and different.
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sizzling28 |
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2009, 2:05pm |
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sizzling edited... |
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dom_man |
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2009, 3:23pm |
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Thanks sweety hI sizzling, O.k, hmmmmm.OK.lol |
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gladiator7 |
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2009, 3:32pm |
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 dom and mrs dom
aap dono husband wife ko eik doosray kay liyay love show kernay kay liyay forum ki kiya zaroorat hai .... why dont u show love and respect for each other in ur room .....
why u have to show the whole world tht u love each other .... hahahah quite stupid thing .... |
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dom_man |
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2009, 3:39pm |
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gladiator chill man ya u r right to some extent.she has just joined and i was sleeping when she replied in this topic. anyways....we have decided not to reply in each other's topic untill its necessary.
Moderators; this topic was supposed to be in "married man problems" move it there because the recent replies in this topic dont show it on "recent replies" side bar anywhere. move it there or fix this problem plz.
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dom_man |
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| Posted on:12th Apr 2009, 6:03pm |
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sorry correction In the last line of my topic's third paragraph i wrote;
"If you care her but at the same be a little bit authoritative to feel her that she is secured and you are are real man who would not let her get upset and worried."
plz read it as;
" you should take of care her but at the same be a little bit authoritative to make her feel that she is secured and you are a are real man who would not let her get upset and worried." |
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dom_man |
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| Posted on:13th Apr 2009, 4:51pm |
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A request to the members I would love to have members' comments about the quality of the article. I am going to post loads of articles on husband/wife relationship.I wanna know that what kind of changes and improvements they wanna see in the upcoming articles?
I mean, is the language of this article is too technical? should i make it a bit easier? is it ok if i write my articles in english? or any other suggestion regarding the quality of writting.
looking forward to u guys' valuable advices.
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dom_man |
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| Posted on:15th Apr 2009, 12:57pm |
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yaar batao bhi dear members mein janna chahta hoon, ke kiya mere next article urdu mein honay chahiyen ya english mein. aur mujhe kisi cheez ko behtar banay ke mashwara dain plz. |
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saim1 |
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| Posted on:2nd May 2009, 2:00am |
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gladiator agar in key yahan love show karney say kisi ko koi problem nahi tu app ko ku howi?
or in key yahan love show karney say shyad dosron ko bhi aqal a jai key miya biwi may kis trah ki understanding or love hona chyea |
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sunehri76 |
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| Posted on:2nd May 2009, 6:21am |
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agreed dom-and mrs dom..
ap dono me itna pyar dekh kar acha lag raha hai...mera khayal hai ap dono ko yahan ek dusre ke topics me replay zaroor karna chahye...
ab koi is se jelous ho kar kuch bhi kahe...dom apka Articel me bad me read karungii... |
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maahhii |
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| Posted on:2nd May 2009, 8:09am |
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i like it dom man u r a good writer...........keep it up
u have given ur points in such an easy way............
husband wife m usually kuch cheezain kafi confusing b hoti h like husband ka bht authority jatana or wife ko hr wkt guide krte rehnay ki koshish krna.....but ap ne is ki achi reason or justification di h..............
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Azfar-K |
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| Posted on:2nd May 2009, 8:55am |
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Informative good work tom :P |
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sunehri76 |
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| Posted on:2nd May 2009, 12:43pm |
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dom nice articel..
for me there are one or two point..with them i dont agree..maby i miss understand this points but over all its a good articel.!!! |
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sunny007 |
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| Posted on:11th May 2009, 4:48pm |
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dom i think u should write in urdu. lot of people rush here bcs this website is published for pakistanies who can easily understand the articles written in urdu.
and u know that number of people cant easily understand english.
ANd ur post is very informative................... |
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dom_man |
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| Posted on:13th May 2009, 1:45pm |
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sunny yaar, its difficult to handle such issue in urdu.personaly mein ziyda comfortable english mein hoon.khair, mein kuchh articles urdu mein bhee lanay kee kaushihs karoon ga. |
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koyal |
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| Posted on:13th May 2009, 1:54pm |
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dom i dont agree with u on this one dom filhal comments nahi doongi but i must say its a very nice effort |
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dom_man |
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| Posted on:13th May 2009, 2:01pm |
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thanx koyal, if u disagree with a certain point u r welcome anytime to share ur opinion and we will discuss it. |
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Nacheese |
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| Posted on:13th May 2009, 3:20pm |
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@ dom_man salam
congrats bro for writing such a great piece of information...
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misha_ch |
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| Posted on:23rd May 2009, 7:09am |
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 dom-man
very nice article..............
specially mujhay ye baat bohat achi nd funny lagi ....How would she feel if start crying when you see her ill?
apko bataun main aksar apni riends nd kafi larkiyon say poochti hun k unka ideal kiya ha..to wo aksar kahti hain k jis k andar thora rob b ho.....aurton k tarha behave karnay walay husband kisi ko b nahi pasand chahy jitnay b loving ,caring hun
Nabi S.W.S nay b wives k saath mohabbat say rahnay k saath un ki tarbiyat bhi ki ha........nd bro ap nay isi sunnat ko bohat acha explain kiya ha
wesay i think apko english main he likhna chahiay.............kiya main ap k article kisi ko mail main send kar sakti hun......but i m confused k writer ka naam kiya likhun gee k kis nay likhay hain |
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