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xtremelove |
Group: Members Joined: 24th Jul, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 6 Age:
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| Posted on:28th Jul 2012, 12:05pm |
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 talaq
asalmualikum, mera masla yeh hain k mere maa bap nay mera nikah karwa dia hai mai is nikah se razi nhi thi par unho nay wasty day day k mjse han karwa di par abhi tak rukhsati nhi hui hai aur mai us ladky se bhut nafrat karti hun meny apny maa bap ko kaha hai k mujhy talaq chahy par un logo ko bas apni izat k hai mai din rat roti tarapti hun par unko ahsas nhi hai jab k islam mai bhi yahi hai k jab ladki nhi rehna chahti hai to talaq lay sakti hai ap plz mujhy btain k mai apny ghar walo ko kis tarah razi karun plzzz. |
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sfa2000 |
Group: Members Joined: 22nd Jul, 2012 Topic: 3 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:28th Jul 2012, 8:21pm |
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honest advice
My dear sisterSee honestly speaking, aap ko nikah say pehlay sochna chahiye tha. To be very frank, ab baat door nikal chuki hai. Par ab aap ko mentally prepared hona hoga. May be k aap nay os apnay husband ko jana na ho, may be k woh acha insan ho, aap allah ka shukar ada karen q k es daur may shadi ho jaye bari baat hai, boahat si bechari ya to rishtay na honay ki waja say kunwari rwh jati hain ya zalil larkay onhen kahen ka nahe chortay.
Allah pak ka shukar ada kijiye. Aur aglay ko samajhiye shayad woh thik ho. Koi bhe perfect nahe es dunya may. Na he kabhe life ideal ho sakti hai. Par yeh aap par hai k aap apni zindagi ko kaisay pur sukon banain. Apnay dil may os k kiye etni nafrat na paida karen k bohat mushkil hojye dono k liye. Huzur pak (pbuh) nay farmaya: k qayamat k din merey nazdeek woh loog hongay jo achay ikhlaq walay hongay.
So my advice for you is; always see worst case scenario in your life. Life may insan ko hamesha apnay say nichay dekhna chahiye na kay upar dekhen. Meri behan allah pak tumhen sabar, khushiyan or aqal e saleem day. Ameen
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WellKnOwN |
Group: Members Joined: 06th Sep, 2011 Topic: 40 Post: 3107 Age:
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| Posted on:29th Jul 2012, 1:35am |
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extreme love pehli baat to ye ke jab app razi nahe thi tho haa kiyo kardi,, kher ab hogaya hai, lekin apne parents ko zara kaho ke Islam mai agar larka ya larki nikah pe razi na ho to wo nikah forcefully samja jaega or nikah valid nahe hoga.
lekin doosri baat ye hai ke Insan ke sath kuch na kuch waqt burra hojata hai jiss se osko bohot dukh ho lekin osmai bi Allah ki shan hoti hai or ossi mai oske bhalai hotti hai to hosakta hai iss mai apki bhalai hoo.
so ab to nikaah hogaya hai to iss liye apne qareebi mufti/molvi se bi mashwara le lo kiyo ke app razi nahe thi tho nikaah nahe hota iss bare mai full detail se onse baat karlo or yaha par bi apko kuch seniors jawab denge... |
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myrizvi |
Group: Members Joined: 20th Apr, 2008 Topic: 108 Post: 5995 Age:
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| Posted on:29th Jul 2012, 2:36am |
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wellknown bhai yeh nikaah hogaya hai ... as she said k ....unho nay wasty day day k mjse han karwa di.... goya inhouN nay HaaN to kerdi, agar bah waqte nikaah bhi yaa Naa ho kahti aur tab bhi zabardasti nikaah kardia jata, tab nikaah nahi hota
xtremelove: safa ki advice par amal karo. ajkay ahad maiN rishtah mil jana bhi aikAllah ki neimat hai, kufraanay naimat mat karo.... agar tumnay kissi tarah iss sat talaq /khola lay bhi lia to ain mumkin hai k saza k taur par taqdeer tomhaiN koi doosra husband ataa hi nah karay... yaad rakho, aik survey report k motabiq karachi maiN females k moqaablay maiN one million laRkay kam haiN... lehaza kam az kam a million females ko kabhi bhi shauher nahi milega illa k woh kissi married person ko qabool kar laiN
agar tomhara kissi laRkay say chakkar waghairah hai to yaad rakho, talaaq k baad woh bhi tomhaiN ghaas nahi Daalega. parents ki roswayee aur aik bay qasoor insaan say nafrat ki saza to milegi hi naa
Allah say taubah karo aur hansi khushi rukhsati par razi hojaa'o. Allah tomhaiN mazeed aazmaishouN say mahfooz rakhay aur aqlay saleem ataa karay aameen
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xtremelove |
Group: Members Joined: 24th Jul, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 6 Age:
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| Posted on:29th Jul 2012, 11:09pm |
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xtremelove
par wo ladka mujhy mar deny k dhamkiyan deta hai aur mjhse badla lena chahta hai usnay saf lafzo mai mjhy kaha hai yh. aur jab mai kisi aur ko like karti hun to mai isi k sath zindagi guzarny ka tasawer b nhi kar sakti aur jab bhi is ladky ka rishta ata tha mai man akarti thi.
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WEHSHI |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Aug, 2010 Topic: 39 Post: 2197 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Aug 2012, 3:28am |
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xtremelove
ap bhi ghalat ho ap k maan baap bhi ghalat hain jab woh jantay thay k ap pehlay hi chakar chala rahi ho to unhon ne kiun nikah kiya aap ka aur ap ab jo yeh sab kernay k liyay ROTI ho aur TARAPTI ho to aap usi waqat na nikah kertin aisa kuch nhn hai k ap tasawur nhn ker sakin sari life k liyay apnay liyay , apnay maan baap aur apnay bachon k liyay apni zaat ko GALI na banaao jab nikah ho gaya hai to khamoshi se accept kero |
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myrizvi |
Group: Members Joined: 20th Apr, 2008 Topic: 108 Post: 5995 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Aug 2012, 3:48am |
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well said wehshi bro jazak Allah
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xtremelove |
Group: Members Joined: 24th Jul, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 6 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Aug 2012, 8:11am |
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advice yeh bat mery chacha walo ko pata chal gai h k mai ab nhi rehna chahti wo khty hai k talaq tm rukhsati k bad bhi lay sakti ho to rukhsati k bad mjhy koi aur accept nhi karyga aur jab mai rehna hi nhi chahti th bachpan se aj tak meny mana kia tha to q kia mery ma bao nay yeh rishta to ab jab b us ladky k bat hoti hai mujhy gusa ata hai aur husy mai mai khud ko nuksan puhchati hun aur us ladky ko ab gurur ho gaya h k jo usny chacha mila aur meny jisse nafrat k mjhy wo mila kher mai bas ab itna chahti hun k nikah ko rhny dain na toren par rukhsati kbhi nhi hogi. |
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myrizvi |
Group: Members Joined: 20th Apr, 2008 Topic: 108 Post: 5995 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Aug 2012, 11:07pm |
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yeh ghalat tareeqah hai 1. agar ap mosalmaan haiN aur jannat dozakh par yaqeen rakhti haiN k marne k baad in do maiN se aik jagah jana hai to har maslah ka islami tareeqah ikhteyaar kijyeh.
2. pahlay ap apni yeh ghalati tasleem kijyeh k jab apko oss say etni hi nafrat thi to nikah time razaamnad kiyouN howi...qazi k saamnay hi kah dia hota k qabool nahi hai, nikah paper par sign hi nah karteeN ... koi gun point par to apsay sign nahi lia gaya naa... woh apki ghalati thi
3. now legally aur sharayee taur par ap oss larkay ki biwi haiN...woh apko zabardasti, aghwa karkay bhi kaheeN lay ja sakta hai aur apkay saath shab basri karsakta hai... qanoon ossi ka saath dega apka nahi
4. nikaah k baad rukhsati say inkaar karkay aap apnay sharayee husband k haqooq bhi adaa nahi kar rahi haiN, jo aik bahoot baRa gonaah hai. roz bah roz apkay gonaahouN maiN izafah horaha hai...aur ap yeh gonaah hamesha kamana chaahti haiN, hairat hai
5. apkay paas iss gonaah say ayandah bachnay ka 2 hi raastay haiN a) rukhsat hokar oskay ghar chali jayaiN, oss say apnay kiyeh ki maafi maangaiN aur apni mohabbat aur khidmat say oska dil jeetnay ki koshihs karaiN b) ap jald az jald adalat maiN khola ka case file kardaiN aur adaalat say khola haasil kar laiN... yeh apka qanooni haq bhi hai aur sharayee haq bhi, agar ap pahla option like nahi karti to ... kissi bhi wakeel /saheli / azeez tareen fard ki maarfat as soon as khola ka case dair kar daiN... rukhsati say qabal talaq ki soorat maiN apko mahar ki raqam nahi milegi.
6. aik baat yaad rakhiyeh k sab kuch yeh dunyaa nahi hai...marne k baad Allah ko mouNh bhi dikhana hai...apnay bhi aur apkay husband nay bhi... ap donouN ka alag alag hisaab kitaab hoga...ap oskay ghalat aamaal ki fikar nah karaiN balkay apnay amal ki fikar karain...yaa to oss say sharayee tareeqay say jodaa hojayaiN yaa oskay saath chali jayaiN...koi teesra option durust nahi hai, jaisa ap soch rahi haiN
wallaho aalam bissawab
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xtremelove |
Group: Members Joined: 24th Jul, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 6 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Aug 2012, 5:01pm |
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wohi to bary smajhty nhi hain apk pehli advice mujhy pasand nhi yeh to saf zaher hai but dusri advice mai mera sath deny k ly koi tayar nhi hai aur mery maa bap meri kisi bat ko smjhny ko tayar nhi hai ulta wo har bat apni manwana chahty hain mujhse. |
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myrizvi |
Group: Members Joined: 20th Apr, 2008 Topic: 108 Post: 5995 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Aug 2012, 11:19pm |
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hmmm pahla raastah apko pasand nahi, doosra raastah k liyeh apko maan baap ki help chahiyeh jo ap ko mil nahi sakti aur akelay ap kar nahi sakteen... goya ap apni TAQDEER say laRtay rahnay ka raastah ikhteyaar karna chaahti haiN k talaaq /khola nahi hota to ap oskay ghar bhi nahi jayengi...
as u wish ... phir sari omar tension maiN guzaaraiN, oss banday k khauf maiN rahain k kabhi bhi aur kaheen bhi woh apkay saamnay aan kar ... aur Allah aur Allah k rasool saw k ahkaamaat ki khilaaf warzi kartay howay mosalsal gonah.gaar bhi hoti rahain ... wow kia option chona hai ... hats off to your AQAL :)
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xtremelove |
Group: Members Joined: 24th Jul, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 6 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Aug 2012, 8:07pm |
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wat i have to do to aur kia karun mai , mai yahi intizar kar sakti hun k jab tak mery maa bap ko mera ahsas ho qk jab tak unko ahsas nhi hoga tab tak to kuch nhi ho sakta hai na.... aur mery maa bap meri koi bat samjhny ko tayar hi nhi hain wo har bat apni manwana chahty hai kia maa bap esy hoty hain??? ap bhi to 53 years k ho ap bhi kisi k bap bhai hungy to ap batao kia is tarah se hota hai??? shadi kia ek din ka khel h jo zabardasti kar li aur nibh gai??? aur us ladky k waja se mery maa bap mujhy marty bhi hain kia yeh hota hai ma bapp ka rishta??? pyar kark meny gunah to nhi kia tha na hi meny bhag k shadi k th jo pasand th apny maa bap ko bataya par unho nay jhuti istakharao ka bhana bana kai mjhy phansa dia.ap mjhy koi wird hi btain jis k parhny se mery maa bap ka dil mery liy pughly ya unk ankho se tawezo k k hui pati utarr jay...............plz... |
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