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alirajput |
Group: Members Joined: 14th Aug, 2011 Topic: 26 Post: 2849 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Sep 2011, 2:27am |
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 re:- What it?
Dear Sister:-Actually....... app jis bhi post mai apna msg post karengi wo post ajai gi " Recent Replies" mai...... Wahaan se, jisko apke sawaal ki samaj hai woh jawaab denga. Aur mujhe apka joke bohot pasand ayaa susrali walaa.. Meri bhi Hassi chuthi. Kyun ke apka jho sawaal hai apke Pregnancy thread mai, woh Medical related hai.. isslye ye zaroori hai ke jho knowledgeable person hon ya doctor wohi answer karen aur koi aur nahin..... Issliye ab tak menai bhi koi jawaab nahin diya. Aisaye mamlaat mai jawaab 100% hona chahye takeh agleh ko koi misunderstanding/confusion na hoon, aur app ka jawaab unko mutmayn karne ke liye kaafi hoon. Mai samaj sakta hoon ke app 1haft se dekh rahi hai forum ko. App thora aur intezar karen, aur har dusraye din apne ussi hi thread mai post kar ke active karde.. takeh koi na koi KNowledgeable of your Topic.. apko jawaab de sakeh. Thanks |
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Gr8pal |
Group: Members Joined: 31st Jul, 2010 Topic: 5 Post: 85 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Sep 2011, 3:11am |
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AliRAJPUT bhai
Asalam o alaikum.Pehli bt to mera problem is nt related wd pregnancy any more.Mera masla ap social smjh lo married women ka smjh lo to is k lye wo pregnancy wali post is nt a right place.Ainda me isi thread me likhu gi.
Nw my recent problem
Mera current issue mere husbnd k sath he.Wo mujhe khud parast ya khbti
insan lgte hein jsko ye bt smjh nahi ati k respect begets respect.Shadi
ko 5wa month he 1st day shadi k jaise enter hue na salam kia na koi bt
suni sunai batein mujhe btane lga k fla ne meri ma ko kaha ye ldki tez
he.Fla ne mujhe kaha ye ldki tez he.
Phr kaha tm job yahan nahi fla jga kro.1st day tha me abhi rukhst ho kr
10min ai thi uski batein mujhe bumb lg rahi thein leqn me ne himmat kr k
kaha k mujhe ye sb sun kr lg raha he ap kano k boht kche hein apki apni
koi rai nahi.Itna sun ne k bd bhi mujh se shadi kr li mtlb meri
Qualities in bato se bdh k thei k logo ki shetanio ne kam nahi kya
Behr hal wo bhyanak rat guzr gai jse log suhag rat kehte hein.Subha me
ne sb kuch apni eldr sis ko btaya k me kaise rahu gi ese shks k sath jse
mujh me koi interest nahi ma bap ki izzat ka khyal he wrna me ap logo k
sath hi wapis chlti.Khair me nashta krne k lye neeche le jai gai rat me
jb wapis ai to phr wohi batein.Phr mujhe kaha k tm muh dkhai(jo logo ne
di thi.Mere husbnd ne mujhe koi muh dkhai etc nahi di.)wo tm purse me Q
rkh kr gai thei me ne utha lye hein mujhe paiso ki zrurt thi.Me khamosh
ho gai
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alirajput |
Group: Members Joined: 14th Aug, 2011 Topic: 26 Post: 2849 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Sep 2011, 1:41pm |
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Bad Experience Gr8pal:Sister ye tooh kaafi bad experience huwa apke saath...... Mai iss barai mai apko mazeed raye deta hoon lekin ek apse guzarish hai, ke app apne computer mai ACCESSORIES mai jaye.. aur wahaan par NOTEPAD milenga apko, RIght click karke usko Desktop par layaah.. during options jho ati hai usme desktop bhi likha honga.
Wahaan note pad apni poori batai likhe, jitni bhi lambhi huwi mai paroohnga unko, as long as mujhe jawaab ka pata hoon, mai jawaab bhi doonga apko.
istraah apki koi bhi Post apke hi thread mai delete nahin hongi.
Ab apke post ke taraf: Ye shaadi kis ne karwaiye? Aur kin basis par? Yakeenan unn logoon ke samne bhi ye shaks shareef ban kar betha honga? Kiya iski batoon par kisi nai ghaur nahin kiya, ya IGNORE kia? Please kindly ye bhi bataye, inn saari batoon ke baad, apne kiya faisla kiya, apne liye aur apni zindagi ke liye? Koi good news, koi bacha? Aur... Zahir hai jesa iska attitude hai.. mai na reh pata.. tooh app kese.. any how, kiya apne socha, aur mazeed details bataye ke ab kiya ho raha hai? Ye sab tooh shaadi, aur suhag raat ki batain, thi.. whats happening now? |
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Gr8pal |
Group: Members Joined: 31st Jul, 2010 Topic: 5 Post: 85 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Sep 2011, 2:42am |
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Reply Asalam o alaikum.Mere uncle k comments p hua tha ye rishta.Aurat ne krwaya tha.Basis to yahi thei k ldke k aba o ajdad sharif log hein ldka kmane wala he etc.Hm logo me sharaft ko preference di jati he materials ko nahi.Ji han mujhe 5 months pregnancy he.Or me bedrest p hu cmputer use nahi kr rahi mental stress me hu mujhe mere msle ka solution chahye esi jaga jahan me sb keh k ro k dl halka kru to mbl p net activate kia he islye long text lkhu to dscnect ho jati hu |
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Gr8pal |
Group: Members Joined: 31st Jul, 2010 Topic: 5 Post: 85 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Sep 2011, 12:51pm |
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Ab me bolu k na bolu? Is trha mujh se sari muh dkhai k paise le lye isi doran meri tbiat khrb rehne lgi dr ne dwaiya di ye dwai bhi tng kr kr k lete dr ne kaha fruit khao jo fruit khane ka dl krta la k nai deta js se ulti ae wo le ata mana krne p bhi me ne ami se ek hzar le kr dya to fruit or dwai le kr aya.Phr june july aya to kaha tm apna persnal khrcha apni ami se lao jaise dwai fruit.Wo bhi me ne la dye.Ek dn meri tbiat khrb ho gai to me khana pkane neeche nai gai next day mujhe drip lgi to sas ne kehlwaya k khana pkao husbnd ne jawab bhjwaya k usey drip lgi hui he next day husbnd ko kaha neeche mt aya kro apna alg khao mere husbnd mizaj k tez hein han keh k uper a gai me pkane kia bed se uthne k laìk nahi thi Q k na mujhe dwai wqt p mlti na khana na fruit b.P alg low hota ultia kr kr k jan adhi ho gai thi me phr bhi na na krte man gai 3 dn wo dal roti lai hotel se jo me kha hi nai pati wo sari khud kha jata me or nidhal ho gai 3rd day meri sis ne sms p yuhi pucha k nashta kia he to me ro pdi or reply dya me 3 dn se bhuki hu mere ghr me kohram mch gya jb sb btaya sb mujhe lene ane lge or kaha k aj ghr ao to in sb k hosh thikane lge ge jb bt khandan me jai gi etc me akhr razi ho gai or suit case bnaya.Husbnd ne dkha to kaha agr aj tm gai to phr ainda mt ana na me tmhein lene au ga.Me dr k chup kr k let gai or ghr walo ko mana kr dya. |
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alirajput |
Group: Members Joined: 14th Aug, 2011 Topic: 26 Post: 2849 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Sep 2011, 1:08pm |
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Sad... bohot sad.
Gr8pal: Dear sister.. apki saari batoon ko made nazar rakhte we, zehen mai kaafi hulchul mach gaye hai. Yakeenan mai apko wo naseehat dena chahta hoon jho mai apni behen ko Allah na kare.. aisi situation mai de sakooh..issliye bhi ye zaroori hai, ke yahaan ke kaafi senior members aye aur apko akar mashwara de. Mai koshish karta hoon ke kuch ko jakar fauran ye request doon, apka thread name udhar post kar ke.
Meri jho naseehate hai, wooh kaafi reality type hai. Mai aksar nahin sochta kai ek aurat ye kar bhi paye gi ya nahin.. ek sister itna baraah faisla le bhi payngi ya nahin. Ye albatta bohot zaroori samaj tha hoon mai ke apko kuch din apni walda ke ghar chale jana chahye, chahe beshak wooh ye kyun na soche ke "apko aynda lekar nahin ayega" Taez tabiyat waloon ki ek ye baat menaye bohot note ki hai ke wooh guzaye mai jitna taez hote hai, utni jaldi wooh narmi mai bhi taez hote hai. Ye insaan sirf apke liye filhaal acha nahin ye kisi bhi khatoon ke liye acha na hoota. Behter toh ye hoota ke iska kisi ache Psychiatrist se elaaj ho jaata takaye, apke liye koi masla na banta. Ye sab apki Sad Feelings.. iss bache par Ruhaani Beemari ban sakti hai.. agar app abhi apni shaadi ko bachane ki wajaah se nahin jaati apni walda ke ghar tooh kamus kam iss bache ke khatir jaye.. jisne abhi iss duniya mai apne pursh kadam rakhne hai. Allah nai chahaan tooh sab theek hojayenga..
Mai apko app hi ke posts se batain yahaan par apni posts mai nahin kar pa raha kyun ke mai ye nahin chahta ke app dobara se hurt hoon. App Please.. fauri taur par apna banda wa samaan khata kare. Rikhse ko bulaye, aur 60 rupaye de ke wooh apko apke ghar pe chore. Kuch aur batai ayengi zehen mai tooh apse rabta karoonga idher. tab tak apke aglaye jawaab ka intezar rahenga. Inshallah Allah nai chahaan tooh iske misaaj ka tabadla hoon paiga lekin uske liye apke taraf se ghar jane wali Qurbani must hai!
*Note: Dear Guide, agar app inn sister ko please kindly kuch din de dai, adjust hone ke liye, as u can see ke even after your and mine explanation unko ham Note pad aur uske istemalaat sikha nahin paye, ab tak. Ye bhi mumkin hai ke wooh abhi zehni taur par mareez hai apne ird gird halaat ki waja se.
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Gr8pal |
Group: Members Joined: 31st Jul, 2010 Topic: 5 Post: 85 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Sep 2011, 10:06am |
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Actual nd current issue Ye eid meri pehli eid thi to me ne apne husbnd ko menhndi le kr ane ko kaha wo chand rat tk nahi lai phr chand rat ko palour chlne ko kaha to lame excuses dene lge k ama naraz hogi,hmare han riwaj nahi,bike ka tyre puncture he etc.Phr me ne kaha acha dudh la dein eidi me ami ne sweet dishes k packets bhi bheje hein bhayo ko serve kru gi to kaha ama naraz ho jai gi me chup kr k let gai.Eid k dn boht barish hui js wja se me ami se eid mlne na ja ski next day me ne apni sas ko kaha k me ami k ghr ja rahi hu to jhagdne lg gai k aj Q ja rahi ho aj behnein(nandein)ai hui hein.Me ne kaha me apni ma se eid na mlu kia meri to pehli eid he.Rat me ami k ghr meri tbiat khrb ho gai ami ko btaya to unho ne kaha k husbnd ko bulwao or kaho lady dr.Se appointment leta ae.Me ne unko fon kia to unho ne kaha me tyar nahi kal chlei ge.Luckily mera bhai a gya to me usi k sath chli gai jahan dr.Ne check up krte hi kaha k acha hua tm a gai wrna rat ki rat tmhara mscarriage ho jata tmhara baby bilkul neeche a gya he or uterus ka muh bhi thoda khul gya he 5dn cmplete bdrest kro 6th day ana.Wapis ane k 20,25 min bd d mere husbnd ae |
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alirajput |
Group: Members Joined: 14th Aug, 2011 Topic: 26 Post: 2849 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Sep 2011, 11:01pm |
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Actual Scenario:- Actual Scenario:- Eid par apki walda se apko milne nahin diya. Iss aadmi mai koi Ghairat naam ki cheez nahin he, ke ek tooh bivi dard ka Complain kar rahi hai aur dusra woo bahane bhi bana raha hai aur harkato se bhi baaz nahin aahraha. Apko Chordena chahye iss Mard ko. Apni walda kai paas chale jana chahye. Unko poori situation pehle telephone par samjhana chahye, aur agar wooh maanjaye, tooh iss ghar se, inn logoon se door chale jana chahye.. Aur jab baby hoon, tooh koshish kare ke ye loog zimaydaari uthaye, kyun ke app khud dekhe, baat baat pe iski maa (saas) apse larr ti hai baat baat pe ye Ujhal tha hai apse... Behter hai ke aisai logoon ko saya bhi apki zindagi mai na hoon. Abhi apke paas mauka hai.. YOu are pregnant lekin, app aisaye Zulm karne wale ko chor kar ja sakti hai, ab app soche ke.. agar app nahin chorti, jiske paas apke elaaj ke liye pesaye na hoon, tabiyat par bharoosa nahin apko iss halat mai. Wese hi kam Aqal aur, batameze hoon ye dono.. aur family inki.. Behter hai idher ke app apna Raasta alag karle.
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Gr8pal |
Group: Members Joined: 31st Jul, 2010 Topic: 5 Post: 85 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Sep 2011, 9:45am |
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Us k bd Asalam o alaikum.Us k bd ami ne mere husbnd ko details bta kr kaha k isey 5 dn yahein rehne do.Mere husbnd ese behave kr rahe the jaise hm drama kr rahe hein to ami ne medicines nd prescriptions dkhai or kaha bhle tm apni behan jo dr.He use ye prescription dkhao wo prescription utha k chle gai na mujhe hosla dya na dkha..Ghr pohanch k mujhe sms kia k jb bhi tm ma k ghr jati ho tbiat khrb ho jati he achank tmhari meri ma k ghr me tm konse kam krti ho ab tm 5dn raho.Next day me ne sms pdha to smjhane ki koshsh ki leqn unho ne na sms ka reply dya na mlne ae na phon kia.5th day mujhe rat me phn kia k kia program he ane ka me ne kaha kal meri appointment he dr.K pas phr jo dr kahe.Unho ne kaha dr agr ek month bedrest ka kahe gi to kia tm ek mahina ma k ghr raho gi?Ab jb tmhein ghr ane ka irada ho to rkshe p a jana.Me ne kaha me ese nahi au gi.Next day dr.K pas gai to ultra sound wali dr.Ne kaha k ap k uterus me swellng ho gai he or stil muh open he tm 9 months rest kro.Ghr a kr me ne apne husbnd ko phon kia k mere kuch suits de jai(me eid p jo kpde pehn k ai thi wohi ek suit tha mere pas)me do weeks mazeed yahei hu.Mere husbnd ne kaha me nahi le kr au ga khud le jao.Me ne kaha Q nahi le kr ae ge?Mujhe seediya chadhna mana he to kaha tmhein ghr ka khyal he ma k ghr pdi ho.Me ne kaha khyal he to apne bche k lye reh rahi hu apko khud apni responsibility yad he biwi bche ki khbr nahi li ek suit me ma k ghr gai dwai jo leti thi wo ghr me pdi hei de kr au me ne bhi sb suna kr phn rkh dya phr mujhe dubara phn kr k kaha agr izzt wali ho to ab ghr mt ana.Me ne kaha han nahi au gi. |
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alirajput |
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| Posted on:13th Sep 2011, 10:41am |
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first good answer First Good Answer:-
Understand me very carefully. Mai talakh ko pasand nahin karta aur na kabhi aisa mashwara deta hoon, Unless mujhe Yakeen hon ke agla pareshaan hain aur mazeed pareshaan rahe ga. Apse guzarish hain ke app apni zindagi ka jho bhi faisla karen uss faisle main Allah ta'la ko zaroor shamil kare. Allah ab kese shamil honge, dua'n tooh app mangti hain...Allah ta'la aisaye shamil honge ke app "istakhara" karengi, jho amooman ham nikaah se pehle kar te hain, jho amooman ham kisi mushkil waqt main karte hain. Asaan nahin hoota khud barain fesle laina aur pir saari umer khud ko raazi karna ke ye faisla mera theek tha, issliye bhi Allah se GUIDANCE ki Sakht zaroorat hoti hain aur Rehti hain saari Umer. Agar "istakhara" apke maslak main hain, tooh app zaroor kijiye ga. Meri apse guzarish hain ke app apni Walda ko har baat batain. Sab batain bayaan kare. Unko faisla karlene de ke ye shaks iss qabil bhi hain ke iske saath mazeed zindagi guzari jaye.. aur jho unka faisla hoon, uss par amal se pehle unki kahi wi baat yahaan share karain, main ya mazeed members idher umeed hain ke apko behtereen tareeke se Guide kar sakteh hain. Ham-e-se koi bhi apki Walda jitna apse Sincere nahin, ye baat yaad rakhye ga hamesha. Apni walda se kehye, abhi mere paas ek hain, kal ko 2 honge, aur baad main 3.. agar iss shaks ka yahi bartao rahaa tooh main tooh pareshaan hongar reh jaongi. Mujhe par rehaim kare ami, menaye kabhi nahin socha tha ke shaadi aisi hooti hain aur shoher ka darja itna buland ke woo na meri fikhar karen aur na hone walaye aulad ki. Jesa wo hain, wesi uska ma hain. Mujhe apna mashwara de.
App apna khayaal rakhye ga. Aur koshish karen ke uske calls ya sms ka jawaab na de. Khud by khud jab bahana dhoonde ga apse mulaqat ka, tooh kuch nahin yaad hoonga siwaye iske ke apke kapraye apko laade.. kyun ke yahin ek zariye rehjayga.
Allah Hafiz
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ESHA BUTT |
Group: Members Joined: 16th Apr, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 23 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Sep 2011, 1:38pm |
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ohh v sad Allah apki mushkil asaan kray.shadi k baad larki apny apko maar hi deti hai aur bs relation bchaany ki chker mai lgi rehti hai.aur ager husband b acha na ho to bohat hi mushkil ho jaati hai.kher life ap ny guzaarni hai.so ap kisi b pressure mai aye bagair decision lo |
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Gr8pal |
Group: Members Joined: 31st Jul, 2010 Topic: 5 Post: 85 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Sep 2011, 2:35am |
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Faisla kr lya he Asalam o alaikum.2dn bd mere husbnd ne khud phn kia k rat me me tmhei lene au ga me ne kaha mujhe 2weeks mazeed rest krna he ap mlne a jai mujhe bhi 2,3 batein(conditions) krni hei.Kehne lge yahei btao me ghr nahi au ga me ne kaha phn p nahi ho skti ap rat me ana.Rat me wo ae to me ne kaha mujhe stove alg le kr dein ab me mazeed apki ma behno ki nokri nahi kru gi jnho ne mujhe pucha tk nahi.Kehne lge tmhein sharam nahi alg hone ka socha bhi mt tmhein sharm nahi ghr ka khyal nahi sara mela pda he me ne kaha me to bdrest p hu apni behno se saf krvao unko khrcha dete ho ghr ka,kpde joote le kr dete ho itna bhi nahi kr k dei gei to kehne lge Q wo Q krein tmhei sharm he be haya ama ne mujhe kpde dhulwa dye hein me ne kaha han to acha he unki hr responsblty utha k rkhi he un sb k baba jan bn k betho ho.To kehne lge tmhein tmhari zmedari ka khyal nahi behaya.Me ne kaha baki apko he biwi bcha znda hein mr gai kpde hein nai hein dwai he ya nahi kuch khbr nahi li. |
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alirajput |
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| Posted on:14th Sep 2011, 10:23pm |
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ye faisla thori na tha Gr8pal:- Walikum salaam. App ko chahye ye ke uske saath baith kar kuch mamlaat discuss karle. Umeed karta hun ke wo mulaqaat ke liye aye ga. Nahin ataah toh ye uski bhool hongi. Uski behno ke liye ya apni saas ke liye koi kaam karna, GHALAT nahin hain, ye yaad rakhe ke uski behne bhi kisi din paraye hongi, aur jaisa salook unonaye kia honge, unko wo sab milenge dekh ne ke liye. Rahi baat uski ammi ki, ek dafa apki delivery hojaye tooh unse bhi saye tareeke se baat chit ho sakti hain, lekin kisi bhi JOINT family main, ye bohot zaroori rehte hain ke app mil jhul ke rahe.... Ab kyun ke mamla hi aur hain idher. Husband apke bad zauq hain, batameze hain. Ghalat kisam ki raye rakhte hain, aur app bar zulam karne waloon main se hain, toh ye zaroori hain ke app unsaye unki sab ghalat batoon aur adaton par discussion kare. Uske baad, agar apko Chance dena theek lage tooh theek, warna, thore waqt ke liye SEPARATION zaroori hain. Beshak wooh koi Dhamki nahin deta, kyun ke wooh denga tooh uska nuqsan aur thora waqt apse door rehne ke baad khudi theek hojaye ga. Ye meri soch hain, ab agar iss mamlain main meri soch nahin chali toh ye bohot zaroori hain ke app wo faisla kare jho apke aur apki zindagi ke liye behter hoon.
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Gr8pal |
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| Posted on:15th Sep 2011, 2:02am |
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Sequence Asalam o alaikum.Jb wo ghr chle gai to ami or behno ne mujhe arhe hatho lya k wo tmhein abuse kr raha tha itna behaya k tm bdrest p ho tmhein kam krwane le jane aya tha tmhari koi importance nai uski life me swai is k k tm kam kro or tm tameez dkha rahi thi tm ne jhagda Q nahi kia etc.Me itna pressure me a gai k me ne unko usi wqt phn kr k kaha k kal mere kpde de jai to pta chla wo apni ma ko reportng dene betha hua he mujhe unk jhut p or gusa Qk wo keh rahe the meri ma ko me ne kuch nahi btaya.Kpde lane se mana kia k me nahi lau ga to me uljh pdi k Q nahi lao ge usi wqt ami ne phn le kr usey dant lgai k tm hote kon ho meri beti ko galya de kr bt krne wale etc or phn bnd kr dya.Or mujhe kaha phn off kr do wo tmhein galya dene k lye fon kre ga wohi hua usi wqt unka fon ane lga to me ne switch off kr dya.Ami ne mujhe kaha ye lato k bhoot hein ab khandan k mrdo me agr mamla set hua to theek wrna tmhein esi zndagi guzarne ki zrurt nahi bethi raho yahein.Ye thi sari bt ab ap k swalat k jawbat du gi next msg me k me sas nando ka zkr Q kia. |
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alirajput |
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| Posted on:15th Sep 2011, 2:12am |
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re: sequence Sequence:- Abhi main sone laga tha.. Lekin apka msg parne ke baad, sooh nahin sakta jabtak jawaab na dooh. I think apne aur apki ami nai bohot acha faisla kia hain. Waqaye, ye banda apni hadood bohot martaba paar kar chuka hain, lekin koi bhi PERMANENT Faisla abhi karna munasib nahin lag raha. Agar ye Jald baazi main akar koi faisla karde tooh well n good, lekin app ne koi pehal nahin karni.. kyun ke ye zindagi ka mamla hain idher ehtiyaat ki zaroorat hain. Umeed karta hoon ke uski ami agar apki ami ke saath mil beth kar baat karengi, aur ghar ke mardoon ko dakhil nahin hona parenga. Usko kapre lakar dena chahye apko, ye tooh ghalat hain, app kiya pehne gi. Aur pir, insaan ke kapron se usko kiya hain. Kapre tooh zaroorat hain, esaye shaks ko na apke andhar baby ka khayal hain aur na kuch din raat sirf apni aur apne hukam ki fikhar karta hain. TOTALLY AJEEB CASE hain ye.
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Gr8pal |
Group: Members Joined: 31st Jul, 2010 Topic: 5 Post: 85 Age:
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| Posted on:15th Sep 2011, 11:07pm |
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Ajeeb case hi hein. Apki bt sun kr boht acha lga k jb tk mujhe reply na de dein sote nahi.Ek wo shaks he js k sath mera nikah hua us me itni insaniyat tk nahi.Dil ko tasali bhi hui k me ne jo faisla kia wo apko bhi munasib lga.Jahan tk kpdo ki bt he ami ne mujhe filhal 5 suits le dye hein baki next mnth.Mujhe gusa unki behno p islye aya k unki jo behn dr he us ne Q mere husbnd k kan bhre hein k me drama kr rahi hu Qk jb startng me mera b.P low hota tha to wo hr wqt mujhe or mere husbnd ko kehti mujhe to hert he tmhara b.P Q low he 1st pregnancy me to nai hota wo to jb do 3 bche ho jate hein to aurt kmzor hoti he tmhari sehat to thk he etc.Meri ye nand ami k pados me duty krti he or dusri nand ami k pados k skool me mere sath teachng krti hein(meri bdi nand hein)ajkal sb k pas mbl hein mlne nai a skti to phn kr letein.Meri do behnein bi usi skool me mere sath job krti hein leqn un se bhi nahi pucha k hmari bhabi kaisi he etc.Meri bdi nand jo meri colleague bhi hein meri padosi he(meke me)eid k bd usk ghr sb behnein ai mujhe a kr nahi ml skti thein?Meri 8 nandein hein. |
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Group: Members Joined: 14th Aug, 2011 Topic: 26 Post: 2849 Age:
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| Posted on:15th Sep 2011, 2:07pm |
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re:- Ajeeb case hi hein Gr8pal: Dear Sister... Uss waqt apka reply aya hi tha aur apko Offline huwe we chand minutes huwe the toh socha ke jawaab daikar sojaonga. Baat ye hain ke jho husband wala piyaar hota hain usko kisi se bhi Compare nahin kia ja sakta aur karna bhi nahin chahye. Par kyun ke ye shaks as SHAKSIYAt acha nahin hain, Apko taleef deta hain, aziyat deta hain, aur uss ke baad apse ache aur achaye ki umeed bhi rakhta hain.. Waqaye bohot ghalat baat hain... Aisa nahin karna chahye aur bivi se tooh taluqaat, understanding, ye sab kuch bohot zaroori hoota hain ke hon, kisi bhi relation ko ache taur par chalne ke liye.
App yahi kijiye ke ap isko mazeed "ajeeb case hi hein" na banaye aur, hoota hain mamlaat theek thore separation ke waqt tak toh theek nahin hota toh pir jho hain usko uske haal par chorde. Agaye jho bhi honga uss mai Allah ki marzi dhoondh ni zaroori hain. Allah se dua kare ke jho bhi hon apke liye behter hon. Unse dua kare, namaz ke baad ke apke naseeb ache kare, apke mamlaat darust kare aur apke saath jho bhi hon ya jho bhi mile NAEK SALEY milain, Allah se piyar karne walaa milein, jho apko bhi khush rakhe aur anaye wale bache ko bhi apnaye. Behter tooh yahi hain ke jho hain, Allah usse hidayat de, par agar, wooh theek nahin, tooh usse asaani se chutkaara mil jaye apko. Yaheeh behter hain apke mamlaat ke liye. Ye mera nazriya hain, ab tak saari surat-e-haal samaj nai ke baad.
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Gr8pal |
Group: Members Joined: 31st Jul, 2010 Topic: 5 Post: 85 Age:
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| Posted on:16th Sep 2011, 1:29am |
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What to do? Asalam o alaikum.Meri behno ka kehna he tm ese shaks k lye zndagi Q roag bna rahi ho ye bcha ho us k muh p marna khud pale to hosh thkane a jai ge tm khud palne mt lg jana.Esa kaise ho skta he?Me kaise apni aulad un behis ghr me phenk du?Kia wo survive kr pai gi?Ultra sound report k mutabk mujhe beti he.Behnein kehti hein beti ki zmedari boht bdi hoti he agey chl kr us k documents bnvane ka msla,shadi ka msla sb kaise kro gi(jb k merì do bdi behnei unmarried reh gai hein)jb ye sb dkhti hu to wakai mujhe unki bt sahi lgti he mgr phr mera dl bnd hone lgta he apni beti ko khud se juda krne se.Me ks aazmaish me hu aurat ktni mjbur he aj bhi job paisa sb hote hue bhi me apni beti ki security k lye preshan hu.Mujhe dusri shadi nahi krni ek shaks hi kafi tha umr bhr ka roag dene ko. |
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alirajput |
Group: Members Joined: 14th Aug, 2011 Topic: 26 Post: 2849 Age:
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| Posted on:16th Sep 2011, 12:35pm |
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an Invisible Solution
Gr8pal: Dear sister.....! Main jho kehne laga hun.. usse ap na manaye, yahaan forum ki sisters na manai, meri apni walda na manaye.. Ye bohot sa mumkin hain. Lekin yahaan par jho mai kehne laga hun, uski abhi hain mazrat kar raha hun.. takaye jab app naraz hon tooh guza itna na hon ke mujhe maafiya maang ni pare..
Dear Sister... baat ye hain ke ek maa ko apni aulad issliye bhi sabse zaada azeed hooti hain ke, amooman usko apne KOOQ main woh rakhti ha takreban 9mahineye, changes main jeeti hain, usska anaye ka intezar karti hain, usski lataye bardaasht karti hain, usski harkate mehsoos karti hain, aur agar koi ghalti se bhi ye kehde jho ab apko apki walda aur behne keh rahi hain tooh yakeenan ye na-mumkin hota hain uss waqt ke liye. Ab, agar Soch ye hon, aur Haqeeqatan, soch hi hain kuch aur nahin...
Walda se keh ye: Amee usko duniya me anaye de. App khud dekhe ke app uski naani hain, behnoo ko kahe ke app sab piyar karne wali khalaaye hain, sarpe charane wali. Zidaye poori karne wali, aur naani tooh mazeed bigaarne waali. Ab jab bacha choota hoota hain, tooh uski tarbiyat tab hi se karni chahye. Aur agar apka Nikaah jaldi hojaye idat ke fauran baad tooh ain mumkin baat hain ke usko walid ki kami nahin hoongi..
Child Psychology:- Dear sister.. Iss forum par ye baat mujse behter 4 loog bohot ache tareeke se jante hain: Dr.KamiAli, Guide, Wehshi, aur Bewaqoof and Psychdoc Samjhe insaye behaiz karna beqaar hain, mashallah se 2min main bataadenge ke bachoon ke saath psychology kese kaam karti hain unki, aur unke saath kese rehna chahye. Ab ye baat bohot ehaim hain.... Uska jho bartao hain apke saath, aur dekhen app ke uski maa kitni ussi ki harkatoon jesi hain. Ab ye beti...... 5 saal ki umer se pehle.. kaafi batain iske andhar apke mutabiq ki ja sakti hain. At this time Child Behavioral Psychology can be changed and Altered for Future. Ab agar.. apni hone wali Marriage se, baaqi inshallah, bohot piyare hone wale bacho se.. app time nikal ke, iss bachi ko de sakthi hain full-time tooh toh usko beti banaa yakeenan sukh main shamil hain, aur agar apko lagta hain ke ye zimaydaari mushkil ho sakti hain, aur uss wajaah se app na shaadi karengi aur na mazeed piyare bache peda karengi tooh yahaan app Ghalati main hain, aur apko aisa nahin karna chahye.
Mera mashwara: App intezar kare uska peda hone ga. Ab tak kitne mahine baaqi hain? Uss doraan app jho eladqi ke procedures hain unko dekhen, aur agar koi aur faisla karna hain mazeed permanent basis pe, tooh wooh bhi kare lekin, islaami taur par Istakhar-e- ke begayr na kuch kijiye ka aur na koi faisla lijiye ga. Kia apko istakhare ka tareeka ata hain? Jesa menaye pehle samjhaya ke agar app iss bachi ko mukamal time nahin de sakti khasoosi iske 5 ya 7 saal hone main toh behter hain ke isko peda karne ke baad iske walid ke hawale karde. Wooh loog jese bhi hain ye unki tarha barri hongi lekin.. ek Muslim rahe gi. Jho ke uski akhirat ke liye acha bhi hain aur zaroori bhi. Warna meri dusri raye pai gaur kijiye ga. Allah Hafiz
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Gr8pal |
Group: Members Joined: 31st Jul, 2010 Topic: 5 Post: 85 Age:
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| Posted on:17th Sep 2011, 1:57am |
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How to behave? Asalam o alaikum.Abhi 4months hein meri gudiya k is dunya k ane me.Dua krein meri bchi ka naseeb buland ho.Han ji istkhara ka tareeka mujhe malum he hm krte hein leqn meri shadi me nahi kr pai or mangni k bd himmt nahi hui k kuch ulta na nikl ae.Mashwara lena tha k mujhe monday se skool join krna he jahan meri bdi nand bhi hein rishta bhi unho ne krwaya tha.Agr mera un se samna ho gya to mera behavior kaisa ho un k sath mera ek dl to krta he sb unko unk bhai k kartoot btau.Phr sochti hu shetani hi ye bdi behnein kr rahi hei mujhe ghr se nkalwa kr ta k unki chhoti behn ki shadi ka khrcha asani se mera husbnd uthai eid k bd uski shadi he.Mere husbnd ma behno ka boht khyal rkhte hein mujhe bhooka rkh kr bhi unki farmaish puri krein ge is hd tk.Is bt ka bhi background he jo mujhe koi psychatrst hi thk bta skta he leqn yahan ap k elawa koi mere issue p bolta nahi jo boht shockng he at least mere lye. |
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