very nice

The Reaility

Re: House Wife is Better

hmmmm

agreed with bili miau and guru77

lekin agar career oriented wife dono responsiblities manage kar sakti hai to theek hai, lekin primary responsiblity ghar ko sanbhalna hi hota hai.....

Mr Khan

 i would like to reply against your question that which wife is better after marriage, house wife or career oriented wife?

Some people say career oriented wife? But to me career oriented wife can not be a good always because women is a precious thing not a piece of paper which can be moved here and there. Hazrat FATIMA (R.A) said, "The woman who is in home, taking care of her husband children, teaching them(QURAN AND SUNNAH) and also world's education, feeding them, taking care of her husband house, praying namaz and fasting, and taking care of her husband properties including her pubirty (securing her private parts from NAMAHRAM), is much closer to ALLAH than a woman who go outside."

Women are to build and make nations not to go outside to work with namahram men, If they go out for work or for better career then who will be responsible to teach their children, they will grow like ashtrays.

THINK ABOUT IT. This is not a world to live forever but this is a world where you have to prepare yourself and your children for the world hereafter which is forever.

ALLAH HAFIZ

It depends on situation

Meri age 19 yrs hai & i'm married and do a job.

Social & economic point of views: mere husband subh 8 'O clock pe job k lea jate hein aur raat 8-9 tak wapis aatey hein. 1st thing is k un k parents es duniya me nahi. They died in 2005 earth quack, otherwise he iz a young man and un k parents bhi young hi they (Allah un ko jannat mein jaga de). Un ki sisters shadi shuda hein aur Kashmir mein hi rehti hein. tu es waja se mein sara din ghar me akeali hoti thi. aik tu kaam bhi koi khaas nahi tha & security point of view se bhi un ko meri fikar rehti thi. And despite hard working, un ki income bhi kuch zeiada nai hai. That's y unhon ne mujhy khushi se job ki permission de di.
Islamic point of view: According to Islam, thez thing dzn't allow me to do a job.

1) Husband ki permission k baghear koi kaam karna.

2) Parde ki pabandi

3) Traveling without mehram man.

So,

 (1) My husband has allowed me for a job.

 (2) I wear strict pardah (niqab) even inside where I work. I work in a factory as quality control supervisor. wese tu yaha sabhi female workers hi kaam karti hein lekan din mein 3-4 baar kuch male workers female area me kaam se aa jate hein jese material supply & gas cylinder change karma wagera. That’s y me kaam ke duraan burqa nahi utarti, balke burqa wapis ghar pohanch k hi utaarti hun. Es tarha koi na-mehram aadmi mujhey nahi deakh sakta.

 (3) Meri duty tu 9 hrs ki hai (8 to 5) but bkz mere husband job se late hi farigh hote hein, I work extra time. Es tarha aik tu I earn xtra money, 2^nd thing, I can come back to home with my husband. Wohi mujey pik & drop karte hein so I dnt travel without mehram.

But. . .

house wife/ working wife

aj kal ki muashi bhag doar main ager koi wife apnay gher k masail k hal k liyay job kerty hai to mear khayal hai k woh bohat bahimat aur qabil e sataish female hai

lakin ager sirif is liay job kerti hai k indipendent rahay , gher ya gher responsilbilities se door rahay gi

to ghalat hai aisi aurtain an sirif apan sukoon berbad kerti hain balkay gher ka bhi

islam duniya ka wahid mazhab hai jis ne aurat ko gehr ki responsibilities de ker yeh kaha k tumharai tamam zaruriyat ki zuma dari is merd ki hai tum is gher ki malik ban ker feraz nibhaao

lakin jab merd na ho gher main ya halat behter na hon to islam ne aurat ko kam kernay ki ijazat bhi di hai

lakin aurat khud ko numaish na banaai aur kisi bhi ghalat kam ko ker k yeh daleel na de k meri zaruret thi

ager hum apnay ird gird dekhain to humain andaza ho ga k house wife jis terah se bachon ki dekh bhal kerti hai us terah working wife nhn ker sakty

any how yeh aik bleegh topic hai still enough to say

Jazak Allah

Career Oriented Wife Is Better Or Housewife Is Better?

 Dono Turaah ki Wives achi ho sukti hen, House wife much better then career oriented wife, Ek wife ko os time tuk House wife rehna chayeh jub tuk buchy school nahi gy , jub onki family bun jay or buchy school chuly jain tu woh JOb be kur sukti hay, Dono type ki wives achi ho sukti hen agur woh apny apny Dayra meah reh kur kaam kurin, or apny Husband or Bucho ka khiyal bhe rukhti hon, yeh nahi kay job kay bhad ghur ky Mohaamilaat or kaam meah Dilchusbi he na lain or husband or bucho ko woh time na day sukin jasy dana chayeh

Olad he woh Qeemti asaasa hoti jis kay leyeh parents etni tukleefain othaaty agur ek wife just job kur Dehaan dati hay or bucho or husband ko time nahi day pati , Husband ko na breakfast  bunaa kur day sukti na onky kam kur sukti , tu yeh be theek nai , esi tura bucho ki turbiyaat kay leyeh bhe mother ka saayaa zurori hay , ap Nokuroo kay zimaa sub koch nahi luga sukty

House wife ho ya career oriented dono achi ho sukti hen agur woh apny Furayzz ko sahi tureeqy say nibhaati hen, koch women ki job mujboori ya zuroorat hoti hay, ess leyeh meah kaho gah woh balance rukhain or apny Furaayz meah khullal na aany dain tu dono achi hen,

zarorat k paish-e-nazar kaam b aur amoor-e-khaana daari b

A small correction!

Asalaamu alaikum all,

Well there is a small correction that need to be made in the VERY begining i.e Homemaker and NOT house wife........Islam gives us the concept of Homemakers who make the house INTO homes, 'house wife' is the conceot in west and in the very begining it minuses some very important aspect of who we are (wives).

Now coming to the debate............ there is NOTHING in the world that is as multi dimensional and as broad spectrum as being a home maker is. From home and budget management to politics and psychological reading and analysis of your family members especially children, from protecting your home to being a queen within your OWN empire! and what not alhumdulilah :)

In offices they get to work on a very limited horizon but at homes we PAINT our own child's brain with unlimited concepts and bring up the best in them, comparison hee koi nahi hay iss khoobsoorat cheez ka duniya may koi :)

One has to have SKILLS in her hand in case she might need it (ALLAH forbid) but other than that its a fully luxurious life, all you need to have is a connection with ALLAH and to be able to see a glass half full and there is no way you cant ENJOY your own home and experiment with the interiors and what not!

Meri sister in law nay meray husband say kaha tum issay job kion nahi kernay detay iss ki degree zaya ho jayeh gee, and I absolutely LOVED his reply keh mujhey koi aitraaz nahi hay sirf itna ho keh meri aur bachon ki care may koi ferq naa aayeh aur ghur per bhi asar na peray! lol! koi pagal hogga jo aik ALLAH swt ki dee hui nemat ko aik chat ko laat maar ker ghur say bahir niklay SHAUQIYA!

Meri dua hay wo tamam khawateen jo zaroorat kay tehet (provided necessity ho lavish life nahi) apnay ghar say bahir nikaltee hain society kay taffun zadda mahol may ALLAH swt unki hifazat kerain unki mushkilat ko itna acha hal day dain kehunhain chat naseeb ho jayeh, aur jinhain SHAUQ hay bahir khuwaar honay ka (like I know this girl jiska rishta lenay k liyeh log aayeh bethay hain aur unki amaan jaan fermati hain "meri beti to jee ghur beth hee nahi sakti!.... main iss ko kehtti hoon  "ALLAH ......... tum nay degree lay lee hay aab KAISAY ghur betho gee!!!!") unko hidayat milay aur wo wohi time jo SOCIETY ko detti hain apnay maan baap miyan aur bachon ko dain, ameen sum ameen.

Re

agar ziada confusion hay tu bunday ko chaiyay k do shadia kar lay ek job wali doosri ghar wali.

Yaar agar husband khud acha kama raha hay tu kabhi yeh nahi chahay ga k uski wife baher dhakay khai. wo usay aram or sakoon ki halat main hi dekhna chahay ga humesha.

buss yeh aaj kal ki mhengai itni hay, k husband bhi chup sa ho jata hay. apni wife ko rok nahi pata.

I think working woman is more broad minded or realistic. as she is facing challenges of society on front line, so she understand. phir wo apnay bacho ko usi hisab say prepare karti hay.

ghar bethi aurtain khandani jhagro main rehti hain, uss nay yeh kaha, uss nay woh kaha, un k bachay bhi wesay hi hotay hain.