 Play with feelings
Hello every one,
I need to share something
My dr. cousin get engaged 2 years back with her khala son 2.5
years back but after 2.5 years the fiance family was not giving wedding date
because they have other daughters responsibilities as well. That was the reason
of delay and father mother both are retired and only the son running home with
his job.
My mother is closed to her mother and she shared all things to
my mother. Suddenly her mother showed interest on my side and my mother always liked
her daughter. At that time my mother forced me to say yes but I can’t. It’s not
right decision because her mother does not have power to break that engagement because
of sisters (this is my perception) but my mother said that was her matter, you
say yes.
But I never say yes. Because I know that I am not eligible
to her, I am intermediate and my graduation papers are still pending since last
8 years. Due to job and family responsibilities, I do not have time to complete
studies but I am getting nearly 6 figures salary Alhamdulliah. As compare to
her fiance is doing MBA and he will earn much better in next couple of years. I
am dark person and have hair lose in front side, simple words I am not a
handsome person as compare to him he is smart and fair color.
My mother and my other family person try to forced me to say
yes and show me big picture, If I say yes it will be a help for her family because
they did a mistake and fiance family position is not much excellent and have
daughter liabilities as well as compare to our family I do not have any sister and
getting enough salary.
But my perception is that what her fiance feels that they
kicked him after 2.5 years just because of delay in wedding date and daughter
are waiting for marriage? What he tell to his friends about his engagement. I do
not want to get and BAD dua for her family side that’s why I was not saying
yes.
But after many conversation and forcing with my mother and
my brothers and other family person, I say yes (in pressure) and tell the time
after 1 years, because 6 months back my father was expired recently few month
back my brother get married which is planned. So these things take time in adjusting.
I am not ready for wedding now.
I spoke to my mother many times, this is not good, if 2 families
decide to get engaged his / her childrens to each other so wedding will be the
right path, some up and downs are the part of life, it’s not the meaning of
break the engagement. Both are sisters. But my mom does not listen to me and my
younger brother also forced me to say yes. She is ready to say yes with me but I
know that it’s all things are held in pressure.
When my brother and mother meet her mother and say yes from
my side with 1 year’s duration then she replied they are giving a date in next
3 months. Also some other time her mother said please stop for time being and
not telling much things to me but my mother forced me say yes say yes.
See what will be my reaction?
If they are getting a wedding date so why they play with my
feelings? What is my fault? Why they involved me in this matter? Why they discussed
problems to my mother and my mother think a solution for solving issue? I know
my mother likes her daughter but it’s not possible, I told them lot of time but
not understand.
I spoke to mother clearly call them and said no permanently
from our side. They want to hang us, if they gets delay so they think for our
side, if they are getting a date early they go with them. And I will be
standing looks like a second choice.
Kindly tell me who is right and who is wrong
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