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rehan852 |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Jun, 2009 Topic: 1 Post: 17 Age:
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| Posted on:18th Jun 2009, 11:43pm |
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 My Wife Blammed Me I Am Impotent?
I got married aorund 2 and a half months back and my wife left my homearound 1 and a half month back blaming that i am impotent. i would like to clear certain things first of all she always tried to have sexual relations according to her will and never allowed me to tak ethe control of the things and due to that reason i was unable to have sexual realtions with her and secondly she never allowed me to see her naked and always keeps the room dark and for that reason i was not getting excited and unable to maintain erection. so whether the problem is with me or it was created by my wife. |
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H/dr_Qasim |
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| Posted on:19th Jun 2009, 12:15am |
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salam aslamoalikum ap ka suwaal kafi pycheeda sa hy k du months k doraan he wife ao ko chor k chuli ghi or blam lugaya k ap intercourse k kabil he ni ho.first of all ap thory anari b ho agur ap erection ni pa ry ty tu aj kul sexual pawer ke medicins ja buja am milti hen medical stors sy ap arzi tor py wo use kur lyty
wo ap ki relaetive hen?
age meh ap sy buri tu ni ?
education meh ya job meh ap sy senior tu ni ?
ap ki shadi ap ki pusand sy thi dono ke?
shoro shoro meh tu esa hota hy k insaan intercourse meh thora nakam ho sukta hy pur du months kafi ursa hy keya ap es doraan dukooool ni kur suky ,
keya wo abi tuk virgin hen?
agur esi koi bat ni tu ho sukta hy wo ap k sath rehna na chati ho or esy ilzam luga rhi ho pur shureef lurkiyaan jo hoti hy wo es tura tu ni blam kurti .baki ap ko apni health ka khod puta ho gaa kesi hy ?
ap apni health ka btaayn zura ap fit feel kurty ho apny ap ko
ya pher ap meh confidence ni ta or ni hy.
ku k sex meh confidence bo ehm rool ada kurta hy.
any how ap onyn munany ke koshish kuro agur ap ka problem confidence k kum hony ki waja sy hy ya on ka ap py rohb byth gya hy tu razi kur k layn or sexual pawer ki medicin khuch din use kurin or pher jub ap ka confidence bahaal ho jay tu a p ayesta ayesta medicin use kurna budn kur dyn,
baki kisi achy maher nufsiyaat sy milyn r kisi achy sex specialist sy b counsult kruin . or wife ko muna k leyen .
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myrizvi |
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| Posted on:19th Jun 2009, 12:24am |
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sorry 2 say... lekin agar koi shauher biwi say mobaasherat karnay maiN naakaam rahay to 99.99% par "qasoor" shauher ka hota hai. biwi ketni hi taiz tarrar, non-cooperative hi kiyouN nah ho .... agar shauher 'normal' hai to ossay mobaasherat karnay say nahi roksakti (agar woh same bister par raat guzaaray to)... aik aadh raat ki baat aur hai... issi tarah new biwi k sharm, jhijak yaa khauf k baaes shauher khud "zabar.dasti' karnay say avoid karay to alag baat hai.
so plz aap kissi doc say consult karain aur khodaa nah khaastah maazi main agar bad practices like musht zani / ghair aurtoun say rawabit rahay houN to doc ko etmaad main lay kar elaaj karwayaiN... phir hi biwi ko manaa kar ghar laayaiN aur iss tarah kamray main band houN k chaabi kho jaye aur aap apni oss par apni marzi chalaa sakaiN :) |
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rehan852 |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Jun, 2009 Topic: 1 Post: 17 Age:
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| Posted on:19th Jun 2009, 12:36am |
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Answers to the questions First of all thanks for giving me the advice. I will try to answer your questions
1. No she is not my relative it was arranged marriage
2. She is 27 and i m 33
3. She is a Dr. n i m an MBA doing my own business (financially sound)
4. Both of us liked (love a lot) very much after the marriage was arranged in Aug 2007 and we got married in March 2009
5. Actually she is still virgin as we just tried around 6-7 times and she always used to say that we u wont be able to make after 2 3 tries.
6. I can musturbate and can have erection.
7. She took me to a eurologist and he told us that initially u can face problem as in our culture sex is not very common he gave me medicine but we never used it as she just left 2 days after he gave the medicine.
8. She is also doing 2 jobs from 8 morning till night 8 she is at job and her hospital is around 20 Km from my house
9. The on;y issue that i had in mind is the the size of my penis is not very big that was bothering me that i have mentioned her after marriage to her before trying anything.
10. She never allowed me to do sex according to my wish she always used to cry if i do something unusual and thus we cant do anything and after that it takes around 2 3 days for us to be normal again. |
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mna1978 |
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| Posted on:19th Jun 2009, 1:04am |
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rehan852 rehan sab!!!
In My point of view... according to your story... 100% your wife is at fault... and in my point of view.. her knowledge she has a very poor understanding of what sex is.. she is a doc... so she might be thinking that she know every thing... but there is a difference knowing anatomy and sex... these are totally different... so i think that her knowledge about the human anatomy is making her over confident about the sexual relation as well....
Sorry to say but dear brother.... i am very sorry to hear your story... a marriage is a lot more then just sex... if she left you just because of sex then it clearly shows her thinking...
Sex is a mental thing(even a 15 year old member of noor clinic knows that) and she never allowed you to me mentally relaxed... and then blaming you for every thing... what are the other things a part from sex.. love... care... etc.. sorry to say dear i only see lust... and 1 very important... she never allowed you to see her body... that is*&^&^&^&^(edited my self :) ).... sex is very visual for men.. we men are not machines that you turn on the switch and starting &^&^%^%(edited my self again :))....
I have a question if she comes back to you... and you give her a hell of time with sex that she never thought off.. and she is satisfied... well you be able to forget what she has done to you... is sex every thing...
Rest is up to you but at least show her this thread... so she knows how illiterate she is about sex.... |
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rafaz |
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| Posted on:19th Jun 2009, 2:45am |
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LOVLY COUPLE You r very lovely couple dont worry go to good sex specalist and take advise from the Doctor ,and you take medicines also suggested by the Doctors.
Dont blaming your wife most ,she is loving you very much ,But also tell your wife a husband see her whole body in nude position islam allowed this,and she also see your body in fully nude position ,and you and your wife do intercourse at any time day or night except prayer time
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H/dr_Qasim |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Sep, 2010 Topic: 186 Post: 6478 Age:
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| Posted on:19th Jun 2009, 10:35am |
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salam ap ki wife dr hen bot afsos ke bat hy cooprate ni kur rhi es mohamily meh.
asal meh mujy jaha tuk feel howa hy on ka rohb ap py byth gyaya hy or ap ehsaas kumturi ka shikaar ho k apna ra sa confidence b khoo chuky hen.
wife agur ap sy peyar kurti hy tu forplay k doraan he ap ko erection ho jani chaieye agur ap stress feel kurty hen ya confidence ni develop ho ra tu ap ki wife ko he ap ki help kurni chaiey
ap ony ly k ayn or khuch din ap bilkol nude ho k rat gozarin or bus forplay kurin pher intercoures kurin .
ap ki wife dr hen so on behtur puta hona chaiye pur wo ku k young hen r age meh pokhtugai ni hy or wo jo study kur shoki hen osi k tunazur meh soch rhi hen hala k esay ni hy .
so on ko ap sy ta hawaan kurna chaieye r ap ko free hand dyna chaieye bed k oper , yaa mery khiyaal sy ony hymen break hony or pain ka dur hy jis ki waja sy esy behave kur ti hyn ap sy.
any how ap agur fit ho tu pher wife ko muna k lao or khuch din ap sexual pawer ke medicin he use kur lo ony puta na chuly pher ayesta ayesta chor du kum kurty kurty .
i think ap on sy durny lugy ho wo dr hy jo b hy hy tu lurki na durny ki zroorat ni na he confidence ko khtam kurny ke zrorat hy
osy lao or do what you want
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TheRock |
Group: Members Joined: 24th Aug, 2008 Topic: 32 Post: 756 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Jun 2009, 5:59am |
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 @@@@rehan852
oo b haiii aapki wife ka fault hai jab tak men me sex nahi aaygaaa or erection kaise hoogaaaaa.............sex xcitement se hota hia jab kch banda dekhay gaa hi nahin to kuch karygaa kaisee duniyaa ka koi mard aisa nahin hai jo jsiki xcitement milay bagher erection hoo or xcitement wife ki body dekhne se hia hta hai touch karne me ahta hai pyaar karne see ahta hia tmhari wife ko LUST hai shaadi sirf islye ki hai usne k bas shaadi karni hoti hai or intercourse islye karna chaati hai k bacchay hojaein she have no interest in ur wishes ............or wo gunnah gaar horahi hai tum tmhari marzi na karne dene par ..............tumne bataaya arrange marriage hai tooo yeh to hona hi hai aaj kal arrange marriages me asa hi horaha hai arrange marriage karoo to ksi shareef larki se karooo jsko sex ka A b maalom na hoooo zada parhi likhi se karoogay or wo b arrangee to nakhray karygii jse hi karrahi hai wse mje to yeh fake post lagrahi hai asa ho nahin sakhtaaaa k shaadi k baad biwi rookay husbnad kooo or tmhari wife ko medically pata hai sex ka ussay islami haq bataoo aapnaaa k tum apni wish k mutaabik jo chaaye kar sakhte hoo ok...........wrna yaar jo cheez tension kary badnaam kary ussay choor dena chaayee divorce her dosri shaadi karloo tum uski khod hi akal thikaane ahjaaygiiii she does not deserve to have a husband like uuu
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rehan852 |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Jun, 2009 Topic: 1 Post: 17 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Jun 2009, 9:17am |
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Fake Post Its not fake i m facing this problem thats why i have discussed this issue on the other hand he has told me that she wants me to sign the papers of divorse or khula as she says that i m a gentleman and i ll not create problems for her and leave her easily as she wants to get rid of me as she claims that i have not given her the satisfaction that a womwn wants after marriage so its better that to get a part. The day when i asked her to leave her second job as it was becoming very problematic for me as shae was working for around 12 hrs in a day and she was getting very tired she started saying to me that i am unable to do anythin g with her thats why she ll not leave the second job. she told me that if i ll be able to satisfy her then only she ll leave the second job. the next day her parents came and took her back to her home saying that she is a bit disturbed we ll let her back after 4 5 days and then i again went to another dr to check whether i m fit o rnot he asked mt have some tests and i went through them and show the results of the tests to the dr he was satisfied with the results.
The nmy parents took the results to her parents and again they were not accepting the results and saying that i m not fit and she was also saying the same thing and they asked my parents that separation is the best solution of this problem now what am i suppose to do. |
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H/dr_Qasim |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Sep, 2010 Topic: 186 Post: 6478 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Jun 2009, 9:50am |
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salam ap ke en bato sy lugta hy wo ap sy jan chorana cha hati hen or es leye koi bahana onyn cha iyee ta jo ony mil gyaa so es bat ko bana bna k wo kholla lyna cha hati hen.
divorse ek naayet na pusndeeda amal hy jo Allah ko b pusand ni pur humari bhullai k leye ye rasita Allah ny murd or orat ko deya hy , agur ap sumajty ho wo ap ki bat ni manti hen or ap on py control ni rukh sukty tu ap kholla k papers py sign kur do pur jo ilzam ono ny lugaaya hy ap esy ki waja sy kafi probolim face kur sukty ho next sahdi meh
ku k meri first shadi flop hoi tu rishty ni mil ry thi serf es waja sy k meah shadi shoda ho or log bal ke kahal otarty hen en bato meh. so ap ki wife ka luga ilzam ap ki zindgi meh kanty bighaa jay ga .
any how meh sepration k huk meh hon, ho sukta hy wo job kurti hen medical doctor hen tu onyn koi or pusand agya ho or ap sy chotkara pana cha hati ho,
or ye he waja hy wo pragnent he ni hona cha hati hen ku k es tura kholah lyna or dosri shadi kurna on k leye problem bun sukta hy es leye wo mother ni bnna cha hati thi or sara ilzam ap py luga deya,
baki Allah behtur janta hy
Allah ny Quran meah bot acha rasta btaya hy es muslily ka
k ek furd apny khandaan sy or ek furd lurki k khandaan sy ly ao or ap dono b bayht jao or bat kuro es problem ko solve kurny ke Ho sukta hy es tura Allah ap meh mobabat dal dy ya seprations ke rah asaan kur dy.
dont worry life meh esi batin ati hen or insaan ko hur haal meh tieyaar rehna chaieye .
wife ko husband ki khoshi or ruzamundi k tyhet apny faysily lyny chaiyen wo job chorny py b ap sy olaj rhi hen , so ap soch sumaj k fysila kur lo or es chooo choo k moraby sy jan chot sukti hy tu chora lo ku k jo ilzam lugaya hy agur wo joooti hy tu pher App kholla k papers py sign kur du pur Quran k rasty ko apnao first pher jo ALLAH KI MURZI |
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| Posted on:21st Jun 2009, 5:39am |
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@@@@rehan852 Sorry yaar agr yeh sach hai too...............anyways tmhari wife ko na love chayee na care chaayee or na hi romance ..............ussay LUST hai ossay sex chayeeee or bacchay.................aik to wo kch karne nahin deti tmhare hisaab see yaar iska yehi hul hai usko choor doo or ksi acchi shareef larki se shaadi karoooo 12 hours job karti hai addmi machine nahin hota hai k women ko dekhte hi erection hoo or sex karlay iske liyee cooperate karna parta hai donoooo ko jabi sex pleasurable hota hai...............tum usko choor dooo yaar tumhe faalto badnaam karrahi hai wooo jo apne husband ko hi badnaam karyy us per ALLAH ki phit hoti hai .........tum isko chooro or dosri shaadi karlooooo.................tumhe pata hai naa tum sexually fit hoo u dont need to give explanation to anyonee ok................or har relation ko time dena parta hai love koo romance koo.......bhai simple hai usko choor do daffa karooo or dosri shaadi karna thore arsay baad ok baaki ALLAH per chor doooo |
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TheRock |
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| Posted on:21st Jun 2009, 5:41am |
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@@@agree 1000 % yeh b baat hai k wo ksi or ko pasand karti hoogii ya karne lagii hai jabi aisa karrahi haiiiiiiiii yeh tab hi hota hai or bhaii job karne waali 70% womens k mind aahsmaan per hote hain islye better yehi hai k ksi asi larki se shaadi ki jaayee jo sirf house wife banay ok
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Komos |
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| Posted on:21st Jun 2009, 9:31am |
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the rock Dear
I am not agree with therock k job karana wali aurton k mind asman per hota hain rehan852 ka musla yeh hai k un ko apna ap per atmad nahin koun k wo hud hi apna peins kay size main uljey hoi hain sub say phalay un ko is bat ko zehan say nikalna ho ga k un k size teek nahin phir abhi to sirf 2 months hoia hain abhi say ye fesla kar lana k bivi ko chor dia jay buhat early hai app apn susral jain or kuch din whan guzaran or wahan per hi un ka sat intercourse karan or is bat ko bilkul bool jain k app ki bivi shoor kara gi or app yaqeen karo k wo apna gar walon ki waja say shoor bilkul nahin kara gi or jub aap intercorse kar raha ho to bilkul bool jana k tumhari bivi dr. hai us ko sirf aik aurat sumjna or ager ho saka to medcine us k saman na lana is tara us k shak yaqeen main badal jai ga k mera shour medicine k begair impotent hai. Umeed hai k agar tumhara problem geniun hai to tum zaroor umal karo gay. |
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Azfar-K |
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| Posted on:21st Jun 2009, 3:22pm |
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 komas
I disagree with u,
jaisa k dr.Qasim or rock ne kaha un k behaviour se saaf zahir hogya hai k wo kissi or ko pasand kartin hain warna koi women aisa nahi karti.wo intercourse isliye nahi karna chahti shayad q k wo virgin rehna chahti hain or blame ap per dena chahtin hain,us se unko koi kuch nahi bole ga un ko khula miljaegi easily ye keh k k ap na-mard hain.
she is a doctor or wo 12 hours job kartin hain 2 jobs,hosakta hai unhe koi or pasand ho.warna shaadi k baad bhi 12 hours job mujhe hairani hai.Khair ap ki bhi galkti hai,ap ko 2 months tak rukne ko kis ne kaha tha ziyada se ziyada 1 week kaafi tha 2 months tak ap ne patience kaise rakhlia. |
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| Posted on:21st Jun 2009, 8:00pm |
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 rehan852
mujhe to kuch aur hi lagta hai ... first yeah larki bhut chalak hai..... i think this girls was married before and got divorce and marry to you second time now she might wana go back with xhusband... and using u just to follow the islamic law about Marrying to x again.. this is just my assumption...
the other thing when she dont wana expose her in light because her vagina might be loose... if expose in light to bhanda phot jata.. another thing when she dont wana leave her job.. doing that she will not be available to you and not to have any physical relation with you....
Usually girl parent would try to patchup .but here the girl parent want divorce.... this picture does not look right... My suggesion is not to divorce her wait a little while investigate your wife history... kuch waqt guzre ga to kahani khulti jai ge... Divorce bhi de dena but pehle sach to pata chal jai... aur logo ki nazar main tum thek hojao.. and prove her wrong...
mere bhai koi badam khao aik larki tumhe bewaqoof bnati rahi... |
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TheRock |
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| Posted on:22nd Jun 2009, 8:42am |
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@@@Bhaiyaoon larki ka hi fault hai yaar..........aik larki kch karne nahin de rahi hai or dosra na mard kehrahi hai drame baaz hai funter larki hai...................ab bivi kch karne na day to husband kch b nahin kar sakhtaaa cooperation chaaye hota hai bivi ka sex k liyeeee foreplay k liyee.............or agr zaberdast karta hai ro wife kahagi mjpar zulm kiya jaaraha hai ya rape attempt karne ki koshish kii yeh larkiyaan mard ki kamzoori ban jaati hain kabi kabi lkn mard thora selfish hojayee na mard to asi womens ki akal thikaane lagaa sakhta hai seedha seedha ussay divorce daydoo jitni jaldi ho sakkay........... yaar aaj kal ki girls ko yaar mjse better koi nahin jaanta hai yaar i hav experience lot in my life mene dekhein hain aapni eyes seee mard see ulte kaamon mee 100000% times ahgay hain or sharp b aaj kal womens ko love kum lust zada hota hai or aaj kal to LOVE + LUST b horaha hai no one know perfectly wht gonna happen next |
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| Posted on:22nd Jun 2009, 10:26am |
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TheRock Lagta hai tum ziad hi hurt howe ho kissi larki se.. laikin Rock ko hurt karna to bara mushkil kam hai..lagta hai phir larki bhi rock hi ho gi.... hehehe |
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rehan852 |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Jun, 2009 Topic: 1 Post: 17 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Jun 2009, 11:45pm |
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Still Love My Wife After all these things i still love my wife last time i tried to contact her was on 8th of June I called her but she was not picking my phone and i texted her to pick the phone its very important then she pick the phone but she told me that we dont have anything in between to talk as u hav not given me the basic thing which is the basic requirement of marriage. i asked her to come back and cooperate a bit more with me and everything will be resolved but she refused me and said i cannot cooperate according to your wish i can only cooperate within my limits that i hav already done and i m not a football to come back to u and if things dont work out i will leave u again i have decided to leave u and should also leave me and dont create problems for me. |
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rehan852 |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Jun, 2009 Topic: 1 Post: 17 Age:
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| Posted on:23rd Jun 2009, 2:15am |
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What Went Wrong Before the marriage we used to talk for aound 3 to 5 hrs daily and even more and after the marriage we were also very happy for the first 2 weeks but some how things srtarted going wrong and now both of us r on the loosing end. I guess she also loved me a lot and still loved me but she is unable to do sex related things as i wantto and she is also not willing to leave her job as for her the carrer is first and she always says that i want to keep every thing parallel but i guess she is not doing things that would help out both of us. |
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myrizvi |
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| Posted on:23rd Jun 2009, 4:13am |
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system bhai aap ki tashkhees durust maloom hoti hai :)
lekin rehan sb ki reply say to pata chaltaa hai k love waqe'ee blind hoti hai lol
chalo dekhtay hain k waqt guzarnay k saath saath kia zahoor pazeer hota hai,,, if we were informed 2. |
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