 Khud Lazati (Masturbation)In Roman Urdu/Hindi
by Prof Arshad Javed
Musht-Zani: 26 year old asif elaj kai liya mera clinic aya. Masla ki tafseel batatai howai usnai bataya kai woh bohot kamzoor hochuka hai. Din ba din eski mardana quwat kam hoti jarahi hai aur woh ab biwi kai qabil nahi raha. Essai shaded ahsas-e-gunnah bhi tha. Aik bar khudkhushi ki koshish bhi kar chukka hai. Esna bataya kai woh masturbation ka shekar hai aur koshish ka bawajood esai chor nahi saka.
Semen ka ekhraj ka 3rd aur aham zariya masturbation hai. essai hath rasi, jalq, dast kashi aur hand practice bhi kaha jata hai.
Khud lazati aur musht zani mai mamoli sa farkh hai. khud lazati sai murad yah hai ka insan intercourse ka elawa kisi aur tareqa sai semen ko kharij karai. Khud lazati ka sab sai aham zariya musht zani hai. Musht zani sai murab apna hand sai yah phir kis dusra ka hand sai semen ka ekhraj karna hai. Kuch experts oral sex ko bhi khud lazati mai shamil kartai hain. Yah bat yad rahai ka penis ko hand lagana sai wazoo toot jata hai. Essi tarhan semen ka ekhraj sai roza toot jata hai aur insan per ghussal bhi farz hojata hai. (Mashkawah)
Khuh lazati ka bohot sai tareqai hain. Sab sai common tareqa penis ko hand sai stimulate karna hai magar kuch log anas aur peshab ki nalion mai koi chez insert kar ka bhi jinsi luft uthatai hain. Anas aur peshab ki nali mai koi chez insert karna moholik hosakta hai. Essai har sorat mai bachana chahiya. Mera aik clinet apni aik pehsab ki nali mai kabhi pencile yah kabhi tinka dakhil kiya karta tha.
Hamara yaha sab sai zada ghalat batain (Miths) masturbation ka hawalai sai mashoor hain. Jinhonai nojawan nasil ko pareshan kar rakha hai. Masturbation mai insan hand sai apni jinsi khuahish ko pura karta hai. Nojawan es amal ko week mai 1 yah 2 bar karlaitain hain. Mera kuch clinets rozana aur kuch aik din mai 6 to 7 time taq karlaitian hai. Mera aik married clinet 24 hours mai 15 times taq karlaita tha. Esna aisa kai bar kara. Yani woh jagtai howa mai taqreeban har hour mai 1 bar karleta tha. Woh abhi zinda hai, healthy hai, kai bachon ka father hai. Books mai aisa afrat ka zikar bhi milta hai jo har hour mai 3 yah 4 bar masturbation karlaitai thai.
Hind-o-Pakistan mai nojawano ka sab sai aham jinsi masla masturbation hai. Yah masla mardon mai ziyada aur aurton mai kam hai. Mukhtalif researchers ka mutabiq 95 to 99 % mard es adat ka shekar hai. Mashoor researcher Sherry Hyth ka survey
ka mutabiq 99 % mardon nai kabhi na kabhi masturbation kari hai. Mashoor mahir-e-nafsiyat Fried ka khayal hai ka sarai mard kabhi na kabhi masturbation kartai hain. Albata 95% ekrar kartain hain baqi 5 % jhoot boltai hain. Magar research aur mera clinic ka tajurba fried ka es khayal ko ghalat sabit karta hai yani 1 to 5% mard masturbation nahi kartai hain. Mai aisa logo sai waqif hon jinhona kabhi masturbation nahi ki albata enko ehtilam khub hota tha. Bohot sai bachai 10 years ki age sai pahla masturbation shuru kardaitain hain. Baz bachai 6 month ki age mai masturbation karna lagtai hain. Albata enka andaz baron sai mukhtalif hota hai. Maslan Mother bachon ko nehlati waqt jab eska sex organ ko saf karti hai to esko shawat ajati hai aur eska penis akar jata hai yani esko erection ajati hai. Essi tarhan apna dekha hoga ka 6 to 7 month ka bacha bister pa leta apna erect penis sai khail raha hai (choti age ka bacha agar apna penis ko touch karain to enko dantna ka bajai enki tawaja kisi aur taraf divert kardain) es age mai bachon ko jinsi saror aur lutf orgasm hasil hota hai magar ejaculation nahi hoti hai. Semen ka ekhraj baloghat ka baad hota hai. Mera pas aik bacha laya gaya aur bacha ki age 4 years thee woh apna penis ko mother yah father ka jisim sai rub karka jinsi saror hasil karta tha. Yad rahai ka bachai ko mother ka pait mai hi erection hojati hai. (Hyde).
Masturbation ka zada tar shekar nojawan larkai hotain hain jinki shadi na howi ho magar ab research sai pata chala hai ka married log bhi es adat mai mulawiz hain.
Famous American researcher Kinsey ki research ka mutabiq America mai 70% married graduates year mai taqreeban 24 bar masturbation karlaitain hain yani 1 month mai 2 bar taq. Masturbation ka zariya mard usually 2 to 5 min mai orgasm hasil karlaitian hain jabka auratain 5 to 10 mints mai orgasm hasil kartin hain.
Masturbation ka hawalai sai hamara yaha bohot sai ghumrah-kun aur ghalat tasawurat aur khahaniyan phali howi hain jinsai nojawan bohot zada khaufzada hain magar woh shadi taq essai control nahi kar saktai.
Masturbation ka hawalai sai hamara nojawan 2 kisim ka problems ka shekar hai.
1. Sexual physical aur mental kamzoori ka ahsas aur khauf
2. Shadeed ahsas-e-ghunna
Masturbation Nuksandai Nahi
Haqeqat yah hai ka masturbation ka kisi bhi tarhan koi bura asrat nahi hain. Yani yah amal fard ki zahni, jismani aur jinsi sahat ka liya har giz har giz nuqsan dai nahi hai. Agar masturbation waqai nuqsandai hoti to aksar logo ka haton mai bal hotai, sir ganja hotai, face danoo sai bhara howa hota. Aksar ko mirgi ka dorai partai aur pagal hojatai. Aosatan age kam hoti joka ab 32 sai barh kar 56 year hochuki hai. Penis ki laghri aur kiji ki wajha sai aksar mardon ki biwiyan bhag gai hotin. Charo taraf nazar dorai kiya waqai aisa hai. Zahir hai ka aisa nahi.
Baz log kahtain hai ka aik haad taq to masturbation ka koi nuqsan nahi magar yah had sai zada hojai to phir nuksan dai hai. Yah aik aur dhoka, faraib aur jhoot hai. Kiya zada bolna sai insan kamzor hojata hai yah jo shaks kam bolta hai yah khamush rahta hai woh zada taqatwar hota hai. Pahli bat to yah hai ka had ka kiya miyar hai. Har insan ki had dosray sai mukhtalif hai. Aik insan ki had week mai aik bar hai jabka dosra ki had din mai aik bar hai. Taham aik din mai 7/8 bar karna bhi had sai guzarna aur ziyati nahi hai. Haqeqat yah hai ka koi bhi insan fitri tor per had say ziyada masturbation nahi kar sakta. Kiyu ka agar woh had sai zada karayga to semen khatam hojaigi, penis per warm ajaiga. Veins mai pain honai lagaiga, penis sai semen ka bajai blood anai lagaiga aur infection ki wajha sai penis mai pain honai lagaiga. Aisa to sayad hi kisi ka sath howa ho.
Dilchasp bat yah hai ka aisi sorat mai chand din masturbation chorna say har chez narmal hojati hai aur koi mustaqil kharabi paida nahi hoti, yah fitrat ka self healing system hai. Means kisi elaj ki zarorat nahi. Albata ziyada masturbation aur compulsive masturbation mai difference hai. Compulsive masturbation mai insan baghair kisi khwaish aur zarorat ka masturbation karta hai jis tarhan baz log bar bar hath dhotay hain. Es sorat mai yah aik nafsiyati bemari hai jis ko OCD kaha jata hai. Es ka liya kisi nafsiyat sa elaj karaya jai.
Taham kuch log masturbation ka bad kamzori mahsos kartay hai. Es ki bari wajha expectation hai jis ka zikar ham kar chukai hain ka ham jaisa sochtai hain waisa hi hojata hai. Dosra insan masturbation ki wajha sai shaded ahsas gunnah mahsos karta hai jis ki wajha sai woh shaded depression aur worry ka shekar hojata hai. Depression mai insan shaded udasi aur afsurdigy mahsos karta hai. Es ka kisi kam mai dil nahi lagta. Tawaja muntashir hojati hai. Chirchira pan paida hojata hai. Jinsi khuwaish khatam hojati hai aur insan ki bhook aur neend bhi khatam hojati hai aur kamzor hona lagta hai. Es ka weight kam hojata hai. Ab insan ko yaqeen hojata hai ka woh waqai masturbation ki wajha sai na sirf bemar aur kamzor hogaya hai balka jinsi tor per bhi khatam hogaya hai. Halanka e ski bari wajha expectation aur dusri wajha depression hai na ka masturbation. Kamzori ki aik wajha yah bhi hoti hai ka masturbation ka baad insan bohot zada relax hojata hai jissay woh kamzoori samajh laita hai. Halanka yah sirf relaxation hoti hai na ka kamzori. Aisay nojoawan jab kisi 100 sala saniyasi babai ka hatay char jata hain to yah in ko yah bata kar ka woh jinsi tor per khatam ho chukay hain es qadar khauf zird kardaitain hain ka yah nojawan ghurbat ka bawajood elaj per hazaron Rs kharch kardaita hai. Yah bangali babai en nojawano ko kashtay waghaira daitain hain jo aksar muzir hotai hain. Meray aisay aik client ko kishta diya gaya jis sai uska gurdai nakara hogai. Sarkari hospitals mai gurday ka ward mai aksar patient esi tarhan ka hotain hain.
Haqeqat yah hai ka semen ka ikhraj peshab ka ikhrat ki tarhan aik normal, mufeed aur sahat-mand ezwiyati amal hai. Yah bat es chez say bhi sabit hoti hai ka jab kisi nojawan ki shadi hoti hai to woh shuru mai bakasrat intercourse sai lutf andoz hota hai jis sai bohot ziyada semen kharij hoti hai. Magar e ski sahat bahtar hojati hai chunancha aksar nojawan shadi ka bad ziyada sahat mand aur motai hojatain hain kiyuka intercourse sai in ko jismani aur zahni sokoon aur rahat (relief, satisfaction, relaxation) milti hai. Maloom howa ka semen ka ikhraj chahai intercourse sai ho yah ehtilam sai yah masturbation sai mufeed chez hai. Ap milk ko glass maid al kar payee yah bottle mai mu laga kar payee yah straw ka sath es ka israt acha hi hongai yani milk har sorat mai mufeed hai.
Es silsila mai aik aham bat yad rahai ka jo semen kharij hota hai eski jaga new semen paida hojata hai, bilkul sputum ki tarhan, ham thooktai hain to phir thook ajata hai. Chahai din mai 100 bar thokain. Zahir hai ka ziyada thookna sai sahat pa burai asrat nahi pertain hain. Essi tarhan jab ham kisi ko blood daitain hain to woh 48 hours mai pura hojata hai.
Kuch logo ka khayal hai ka masturbation sai penis ki nerves marjati hain yah ubhar ati hain. jis sai penis ko nuqsan pohochta hai. Jabka haqeqat mai aisa nahi hota. Aik sahib ki new shadi howi enki biwi ki vagina bohot tight thee. Woh jab bhi intercourse kartai enka penis ki skin phat jati yani vagina masturbation mai aik had sai ziyada khul nahi sakti. Dusra lafzon mai vagina ko penis ka size ka mutabiq adjust nahi kara ja sakta. Jab ka masturbation mai muthi apka control mai hoti hai ap essai jitna chahai khool lai yah tight karlain yani masturbation mai ap apna muthi ko penis ka size ka mutabiq asani sai adjust kar saktai hain. Dusra alfaz mai masturbation sai penis ko kisi bhi tarhan sai koi nuqsan nahi pohoch sakta.
Pechli sadi mai masturbation ka hawalai sai develop countries mai bohot research howi aur abhi taq eska kisi bhi tarhan ka nuqsan sabit nahi hosakai. (Dastoor; Zakir; Mobeen; Kawal dheer; Reubean; Khotari; Chartham; Barbach). Es silsilai mai basic kam aik American doctor Master nai apni biwi Johnson ka sath milkar kara. Master aur Johnson nai taqreeban 22 years sex ka 14000 mukhtalif topic per research ki. Enki research sai bhi yahi bat sabit howi ka masturbation ka kisi bhi tarhan ka koi nuqsan nahi.
Aik research mai kuch nojawano ko kai months taq rozana zada sai zada masturbation karna ko kaha gaya. Research ka shuru mai tamam nojawano ka bohot sai test kiya gai. Muqarrara waqt ka bad en afrad ko unhi test ki madad sai dubara check kara gaya aur masturbation ka kisi bhi tarhan ka burai asrat samna nahi ai.
Aik aur research mai more than 100 afrat pa tajurba kara gaya. Enko din mai kai bar masturbation karna ko kaha gaya. Kai month's taq musalsal yah amal jari raha. Research ka khatam hona per en afrat ka test kiya gai to kisi bhi shaks ko koi bhi kharabi yah kamzori na howi.
Kuch reports sai to yah bhi maloom howa hai ka jin atheletes nai competition ka kuch dair pahla masturbation ki woh relax aur fresh hogai aur unhona apna national records ko tora. Atheletes aur aam logo ka sath bohot si research howi hain jinsai masturbation ki tabah-kariyon mai sai kuch bhi sach sabit na hosaka. Mojoda knowledge aur research ki roshni mai yah bat purai atemad sai kahi jasakti hai ka masturbation ki kisi bhi tarhan ka koi nuqsanat nahi balka baz experts ka mutabiq to masturbation aik mufeed amal hai. (Dastoor; Mobeen;Master and Johnson; Caplan zilbergld; hyde). Jis sai insan ko jinsi tasqeen, sukoon, relief aur satisfaction hasil hoti hai. Jis sai insan ko jismani aur zahni well being bhi hasil hoti hai. Masturbation sai insan ko wohi relaxation hasil hoti hai jo insan ko intercourse yah mazaidar khanai ka bad hasil hoti hai. Yani auraton aur mardon ka liya masturbation jinsi aur zahni sukoon kai baiz hai. Mera bohot sai clients apni tension aur stress ko khatam karna ka liya masturbation ka zariya ekhtiyar kartain hain. Essai unko sukoon milta hai. Laikin agar insan ko ahsas-e-gunnah hoto ussai sexual satisfaction to zaror hasil hoti hai magar zahni sukoon nahi milta.
Kuch experts ka khayal hai ka masturbation sexual feelings aur capability mai ezafa karti hai kiyu ka khuda na insani jism ko kuch es tarhan banaya hai ka eska jo hissai zada estimal hotai hain woh zada mazboot aur sahat mand hotai hain. Maslan lambi running karna walai afrat ki legs aam logo sai zada strong, healthy aur mascular hoti hain, essi tarhan mushaqat ki wajha sai aik mazdoor ka bazoo aur chest zada strong aur mascular hotai hongai. Essi tarhan masturbation sai sexual capability mai ezafa hota hai. Woh log jo jail mai hotai hai yah kisi wajha sai jinsi amal sai mahroom hotai hain enki jinsi salahiyat kam hona lagti hai yani sexual activites sai sexual capabilities mai ezafa hota hai.
Mardon ka 2 aham jinsi masail pre-mature ejaculation aur namardigi hai. Endono diseases ka elaj ka sab sai effective tareqa masturbation hi hai jo puri duniya mai kamiyabi sai estimal horaha hai. Essi tarhan auraton ka aik aham jinsi masla Vaginismus hai jismai intercourse ka doran penetration namumkin hoti hai. Es masla ka solution bhi masturbation hai.
Islam Aur Musht-Zani:
masturbation ka hawalai sai dusra aham masla ahsas-e-gunnah ka hai. Mera aik client na masturbation sai bachana ki puri koshish ki magar kamiyab na hosaka. Phir ahsas-e-gunnah ki shedat sai khudkhushi ki koshish kari magar kamiyab na ho saka. Masturbation gunnah hai yah nahi. Chota gunnah hai yah bara. Es per ekhtilaf-e-rai hosakta hai magar khudkhushi per to dhozak lazim hojati hai.
Masturbation ka hawalai sai aik bat zahan mai rahai ka shuru mai usually nojawan essai shok sai nahi kartai balka majboran kartain hain. Darasal mard ka bladder ka kareeb semens ki 2 dhaliyan semimal visicles hoti hain jo semen ka aik hissa banati hain. Yah tubes taqreeban 3.5 days ka baad bhar jati hain. Semen ka ekhraj na hona per enmai irritation hoti hai jis ki wajha sai insan masturbation per majboor hojata hai.
Masturbation ka hawalai sai imamo ki rai mai ekhtilaf hai.
- Imam Maalik aur Imam Shafai essai gunnah aur haram samajhtai hain.
- Imam Abu Hanifa ka nazdeek gunnah sai bachna ka liya bawaqt-e-zarorat ki jasakti hai aur khuda maf farmadaiga.
- Imam Hambal esai jaiz samajhtai hain. Enka nazdeek eska koi gunnah nahi.
Meri naqiz rai mai ALLAH aur uska NABI HAZRAT MOHOMMAD (P.B.U.H) nai es maslai sai sirf nazar kiya hai. Chunachai Emam zahbi nai apni mashor kitab "GUNAH-E-KABEERA" mai 79 gunnah kabeera ka zikar kiya hai. Jo darj zail hai.
Puri fahrist ka jaiza lain. Es fahrist mai masturbation ka kahi zikar nahi.
Aik zamana mai mujhai bohot hairat thee ka aik kam jisai 95% log karna per majboor hain, woh gunnah hai. Ab pata chala ka ALLAH aur uska RASOOL HAZRAT MOHOMMAD (P.B.U.H) na es maslai mai sukoot farmaiya hai. Magar hamarai baaz ulma nai ussai haram qarrar daidiya hain. Eska maqsad yah nahi ka ham masturbation ki waqalat kar rahai hain aur na hi ham eska mashwara daitain hai ka sab larkon aur nojawano ko aisa karna chahiya. Mai na khud nahi ki. Mujhai ahtilam bohot ziyada hota tha aik rat mai 2 bar taq. Es wajha sai mujhai eski zarorat hi nahi pari. Hamara maqsad sirf yah hai ka es mozo per masherai mai pai janai wali ghalat fahmiyon ki haqeqat biyan karain. Taham eska koi nuqsanat nahi aur na hi yah gunnah-e-qabeera hai.
Ref: The above article is taken from the book of Prof Arshad Javed |
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Evidence from the Hadith: