Save My Engagement And Marriage

Attn. Like-minded people.

I really need some advice to save my engagement/marriage. This thing is really killing me inside and make me upset usually. Since this is a matter of life, an advice or suggestion would be really appreciated.

I got to know about this forum through google.

I work in abroad and I never saw or met the girl I was engaged just a year back on my parents choice. I saw her through internet from abroad only before ring ceremony and gave my consent from here because my parents are happy with family, girl and their status and they liked her. I couldn't see her in person because I was not able to visit home .

 I thought we will get to know each other after that and make good bonding. We were and are constantly in touch through internet and phone.

Then I also went home for vacation recently to meet the girl and family. We were both hesitatant whether we like each other or not as this was our first meeting.  Eventually we both met and went for first date and saw each other first time. I found her very shy, simple, normal and not so beautiful girl not even ugly.

Somehow, I didn't like her first because she is not so beautiful, fair and talkative person, for a while I was really upset and mum which she also realized something went wrong.

Then I realized that this is the destiny I have to accept, this is my parents choice and I will have to love her only. Then I initiated talk, made her realize that everything is normal (which was not actually) and we met many times. My vacation was over and I came back to work place.

We are still constantly talking to each other through phone, internet. Now my point is that I am getting irriated not becuase she is not that beautiful, because she is unromantic not talkative.Since I came back we fight every week then I don't talk, and she is the one who is being apologetic always. Even if the reason of fight is me.

Also I always look for reason to fight with her now a days even if she doesn't commit any mistake. Now my concern is whether this will be the successful marriage, what should I do to make myself understand.

Because this is the matter of life not just for a year or two.

Should I continue talking to her?

Should I back off and withdraw this engagement?

As most likely I might get married this year? Would this marriage be successful?

Your advice would be really appreciated.

Thanks

Comments

yes

danish,you are right!

Danish/Ali

Thank you danish & ali for your comments.

I agree with both of you. She is very polite and cool person. jo bhi kehta hoon manti hai, no demands jo bhi deta hoon accept kar leti hai ...

thats true its my responsiblity to make her talk...

Anything more needs to be done please reply...

no thanks dear

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Thankful

feelings1

Husan but no ikhlaq

feelings1, majority of the time, through business and family friends i find many girls, that i feel will be good wives... if given good husbands...... Now what is a good husband?

1) some one that doesnt irritate his wife (like u will do)

2) some one that doesnt find reasons to fight with her (u)

3) some one that doesnt hate the fact that her shyness is actually her modesty (u)

4) some one that wont judge her for the color on her skin, r the way she was born (u)

Now lets face it:

Look at yourself, and look closely. Meri bhi behen he. Agar mujhe malum par jata ke uss ka shoher uss ke saath kuch aisa abhi se kar raha he toh mumkin he ke ye shaadi na hon.

Ye ek bhaiN ka bhi version dekh lia ap ne ooper.

Ab aap ko assess karte he ap ke taur se:

You deserve beauty. You deserve modesty, You deserve love...

Frankness comes at a price, here hamaraye muasharay maiN ye price : "waqt" he..

Aap ne ap ne hone wali wife ke sath kitna waqt guzara he. Shadi ke baad unki frankness khatam hon jaaye gi, inshallah, aur wo ap ke saath khush rehna aur tum he khush rakhna pasand karengi. LekiN mere bhaiN ooper bataye wi harkataiN agar tum hari rahi toh ye "ek successful marriage nahiN hongi"

Please kisi ki zindagi mat barbaad karo. Please mere bhaiN, please!

new user rajput

Feelings

good ans