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annuu |
Group: Members Joined: 30th Oct, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 8 Age:
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| Posted on:31st Oct 2012, 10:09am |
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 My Boyfriend Left Me: What Should I Do?
aslamo alikum...me apny bf say hud say ziada pyar karti hon....hamaray relation ko 1 saal say ziada time ho gya hai...wo bhi mjh say bara pyar karta tha...hm ny mubashrat (sex) bhi kar liya hua hai...per ab wo mjhe chor raha hai due to this reason k hamari shadi ni ho sakti...usk ghar walay mery liye ni agree hon gy...me kia aisa karun k ya to mjhe mil jai wo ya me usy bhool jao...me us say kasam say bara ziada pyar karti hon r me usy bhool bhi ni pati...bara yad ata hai r rona b....
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huda shah |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Aug, 2012 Topic: 9 Post: 289 Age:
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| Posted on:31st Oct 2012, 3:58pm |
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 boyfriend at 18 years
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Astagfirrullah... soooooooo sad...annu.. ur just 18..and what have u done.... its really awful .....
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MairaKanwa |
Group: Members Joined: 26th Oct, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 19 Age:
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| Posted on:31st Oct 2012, 4:30pm |
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re: boyfriend left me
annuu
Well... you are not alone. Everyone goes through these things. This is just the beginning of the next mature phase of your life. Truth is just like you eat drink breath and do almost everything normal in life sex is also just like that. So you did it. It was past. You don't love him, honestly... trust me. You love being loved and you love the attention he used to give you. The moment you find a better man you will move on.
You can pray to Allah if you want him back. But don't beg him coz that will worsen the situation. Try letting him go and dont talk for a few weeks. Just keep texting, like keep him posted on what is going on with your life but do not compel him. He will call you back after a while , on his own, trust me.
If he doesn't call then be sure that he was not worth you.You are only 18 you have plenty of time to find a suitable person. Do not feel bad about this .
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myrizvi |
Group: Members Joined: 20th Apr, 2008 Topic: 111 Post: 6482 Age:
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| Posted on:31st Oct 2012, 11:23pm |
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boyfriend - kanwari maa
mairaKanwa: ap M.A. pass ho aur annu is just matric pass... lehaza mujhay yaqeen hai k apki bataiN oskay ooper say guzar gayee hongi :)
annu: agar apko ab bhi aqal nahi aayee hai k chiRa khait chug kar oR gaya hai ab ossay ap kay pas wapis nahi aana hai... ab ap apnay kiyeh k anjaam ki fikar karo... yani kanwari maaN bannay ki tayyari karo aur naumaulood k nanaa naani yani apnay ammi abbu ko peshgi batlaado woh naanaa naani bannay ki tayyari shooroo kardaiN.
astaghferullah... log aik to zinaa kartay haiN phir koi nidamat aur pachtawa bhi nahi...
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alirajput |
Group: Members Joined: 16th Mar, 2012 Topic: 5 Post: 538 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Nov 2012, 1:42am |
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boyfriend: Gunah karna aur uska koi ehsaas na hona
Dear Scholar myrizvi......
Sab se barri taqleef ajkal ki youth ko dekh kar ye he ke whether they are Muslim or not, its not religion that carries their weight..... Naam se wo jitne bhi Musalman hon jaaye, harkatay aur unke kartoot aise he jese ke wo peda huwe hi iss gunah ke liye thaye.
Kia ye sab filmoo ka asar he? Kia in ke parents are to blame? LekiN ye loog adult, BALIKQ ek khaas umar maiN hon jaatay he, aur in sab ko ye bhi nahiN pata ke Khuda kauN he, kia haiN, inn ki zindagiyo maiN in ke liye wo kia haiN? Inn ke parents ko banane wala kauN he? Jho zindagi, saans ye loog lete haiN for GRANTED wo kia haiN...
Dear myrizvi, ye yaqeenan, haram ke taraf kadam he, lekiN inka koi ehsaas ya emotional attachment nahiN he, lekiN jab in ka rape hooN toh wo in sab ko bura lagta he, taqleef hoti he, pir ye Allah ke raastay laut bi atay he aur soch te bhi he ke kia gunah honga inka? LekiN, iss gunah ka kaash inko gunah ke waqt ya gunah se pehle EHSAAS hon jaaye.
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Komal01 |
Group: Members Joined: 29th Oct, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 15 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Nov 2012, 4:27pm |
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boyfriend
I totally agree with myrizvi
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oldboy34 |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Sep, 2011 Topic: 0 Post: 64 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Nov 2012, 1:35am |
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boyfriend
annuu g
h r u? ap q preshn hoti hai us ky leye jo ap main intrest nai rakhta, ap apni life jian wo ap ko koi khushi nai dy ga, jo wo ap sy chahta hai us ny ap sy lay lia, think about it? thanx
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WellKnOwN |
Group: Members Joined: 06th Sep, 2011 Topic: 48 Post: 3378 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Nov 2012, 6:45am |
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boyfriend
annu
app loog only sex ko piyar kehte hai. sache piyar mai kabi sex involve hota hi nahe. lekin app to bohot kar chuki hoo. Actually.baat ye hai ke wo app se piyar karta hi nahe kiyo ke esse situation mai sirf use kiya jata hai. kiya app ne apne ghar walo ko onke rishte liye beja tha? ye to oss ne app ko kaha orr app ne yaqeen karke sahe samja. agar sacha piyar karta to aaj shadi bi hoti. iss liye esse sare khayalat ko apne brain se saaf rakhiye or Alllah se apni gunah ki maghfirat ka dua kare. ab itna kuch to ho chuka hai ab age sochlo oss ko bhool jaw koi piyar nahe hai or apne appko Allah ke nazdeek karlo ta ke zindagi mai kabi peche na hoo or Allah bi razi hoo
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MairaKanwa |
Group: Members Joined: 26th Oct, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 19 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd Nov 2012, 12:15pm |
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AliRajpoot nd myrizvi
18 year olds also wont accept Islamic view point in the begining at once. unko slowly and gradualy hi laya ja skta ha iss traf.
Mai naam ki muslman hi sahi aap ki tarah bewqoof nahi k 18 sal ki bachi ko laan aan ker k ussko ab khudkushi ki traf mayal kerdoun. Jab tak she is alive we can turn her back. Mar gayee tou uss form k amalan muslmanoun ko kity nafloun ka sawab milega
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huda shah |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Aug, 2012 Topic: 9 Post: 289 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd Nov 2012, 3:19pm |
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refused
maria...everyone doesn't goes through these things.even in teen-ages......bcz every mother or every environment of family teaches u some sort of living standard with their perspective..or these types of things are not normal for the normal families..secondly..y girls are so bold to do these types of things..or how she or other ppl can go outside or even inside at their homes to do such types of illegal things... its non Islamic as well as irrational for any good citizen..
if u don't tell to your children about these things then u can expect any thing from then... or even 16 or 18 years of girl is not an child one..when she knows how to perfume intercourse..she must know how ...this is sin... or its prohibited in Islam..
or ppl say she or he is young... but these intercourse typed things are for youngsters as well.. knowledge is true but performance is for only married ppl...
if u take these situations as normal then ..youngsters get relax that okay its normal..etc etc .nothing is happening..
. regards...
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huda shah |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Aug, 2012 Topic: 9 Post: 289 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd Nov 2012, 3:22pm |
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reply good/normal families...** |
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huda shah |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Aug, 2012 Topic: 9 Post: 289 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd Nov 2012, 3:23pm |
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reply or ppl say she or he is young... but these intercourse typed things are not** for youngsters as well.. knowledge is true but performance is for only married ppl...
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annuu |
Group: Members Joined: 30th Oct, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 8 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Nov 2012, 2:37am |
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repl to all ap sab log thk keh rahy ho mjhe aisy ni karna chahye tha...mjhe apni galti per bhi boht pachtawa hai...me khud chahti hon k mera r uska relatiion pure ho...sex jaisi koi chz na ho...me to just us say shadi karna chahti hon q k meny usk sath sb kuch kar liya hai...r islam main yeh hai k agr kisi k sath intercourse karo to us say shadi b kar lo...r han meny yeh sb apny shok k liye kabhi ni kiya...hmsha us ny zabardasti kar k kiya...me khud chahti hon k me phly ki tarha normal life enjoy karo...bs me usy bhoolna chahti hon...mjhe hr time uski yad ati hai...hamara relation pichly june main start hua tha r is june main us ny mjhe chor diya...june say ly kar july tak us ny aek bar b mjh say bat ni ki meny usy pura mahina manaya...end py ja kar wo man gya...per usk bad b wo bt ni karta tha...kahan phly mjh say wo 24 ghnty bat karta tha r ab hafty hafty guzr jatay hai no reply...na hi call recv karta hai..me abhi tk usko like karti hon jitna phly karti thi...jun,july,aug,sept,oct,nov....itny monthz ho gy hai me phir b continously usy waisy msg karti hon waisy hi fn karti hon...per kabhi kabhi uska mood ho to 2 ya 3 msg ka reply kar deta hai warna no response...me usk sath boht pyar karti hon per pta ni allah ko kia manzur hai...even k usny mjhe bara kuch sunaya hai aisi aisi bat boli hai per phir b mery dil main usk liye zara c bhi nafrat paida ni hoti...pta ni q... |
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oldboy34 |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Sep, 2011 Topic: 0 Post: 64 Age:
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| Posted on:7th Nov 2012, 12:20am |
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annu g h r u? ap us sy nafrat nai hoti ye sb ap ki age ka taqaza hai, ye ap ko sb abhi shaid smj na aye lakin waqt bht bara ustad hai wo sb smjha daita hai, but ap apny ap ko kisi kam main bsy karny ki koshish karain, InshAllah its better foy you. thanx |
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Abdul Muiz |
Group: Members Joined: 01st Nov, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 6 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Nov 2012, 11:35pm |
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dear users mr rizvi n huda shah vry gud answers by u both....!i really appreciate u both bcz aap log tou bht e great hain k aap ny aik aisy shkhs ka mazak urra rahy ho jo apna dukh share kr k ap ki hmdrdi chahta hai lekin kya kehny aap logon k. n huda shah aap tou bht e great hain me aik question aap sb sy puchta hn k agr aap logon ko sahi or galat me frq na btaya jai tou ap log frq kr len gy? thk hai annu ny galti ki q k jahan tk mera khayyal hai usy ksi ny sahi tarah guide ni kia hoga qk aaj kal k parents apni olad ko time ni dety. sorry to say wo un ko best education dilwaty hain mgr trbiat koi b ni deta. isi tarah unhy in matters k bry me b ni btaya jata. agr us ny glti ki hai to hmy uski mada krni chahie na k us ka mazak urana chahie. me us ka kuch ni lgta or me shaid bolta b kuch ni agr mere parents ny mjy guide kia hota bt me ny bol dia jo kuch b mere zehn me aya. em sorry to all agr ksi ko meri baat buri lgi to. ALLAH PAK sy dua hai k WO annu ki prblm ka bhtr solution frmae or hm sb ko 2sron ki feelings smjhny ki toufeeq ata frmae or hmy b hr qism ki burai sy bchai. Ameen....! |
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annuu |
Group: Members Joined: 30th Oct, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 8 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Nov 2012, 8:39am |
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 thnkx to old boy nd abdul muiz
me ab waisyy kosshish karti hon k apnyy apkkooo studyy maiin bz rkhun...per jb tthora sa relax hoti hon to sath hi uski bri yad ati hai.... |
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Danish93 |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Nov, 2012 Topic: 5 Post: 56 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Nov 2012, 1:47pm |
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annu contact on [email protected]
ap bhool skte ho i have solution.. |
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oldboy34 |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Sep, 2011 Topic: 0 Post: 64 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Nov 2012, 11:00pm |
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annuu g h r u? koi bat nai try try again, sb thek ho jaye ga. ap try karti hain its good, dnt wory, as a friend ar brother u share me everything, thanx |
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faizann |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Nov, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Nov 2012, 1:50pm |
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foreplay ut foreplaydekhay mera name faizan ha and meri ek girl frend thii amna hmara 2 sal sa relation tha..and maine us k sath foreplay kia wa ha means hugging and serious type of kissing. i know maine galt kia haa and bht dukh b ha muje lkn maine us larki k sath breakup ni kia. us larki na kia ha muje chordia usnee.. kisi reasn ki wja a ma chahta tha shadi.. plez muje btae kia shadi sa pehlee ya galt h? and kia sirf huging kissing krne sa us lrki ki ane wali zindagi ma koi farq paaare ga?
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faizann |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Nov, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Nov 2012, 1:58pm |
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foreplay ut foreplaydekhay mera name faizan ha and meri ek girl frend thii amna hmara 2 sal sa relation tha..and maine us k sath foreplay kia wa ha means hugging and serious type of kissing. i know maine galt kia haa and bht dukh b ha muje lkn maine us larki k sath breakup ni kia. us larki na kia ha muje chordia usnee.. kisi reasn ki wja a ma chahta tha shadi.. plez muje btae kia shadi sa pehlee ya galt h? and kia sirf huging kissing krne sa us lrki ki ane wali zindagi ma koi farq paaare ga?
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