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turbo |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd Nov, 2011 Topic: 2 Post: 6 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Oct 2012, 12:57pm |
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 Koch Loog Apne ho ke b Aisa Q Karte hain
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I am 25 years old guy from Islamabad. I done Engineering in telecommunication recently.
From the childhood i had very strong feeling for love and still have with much more intensity, my love and care for my partner and her love and care for me etc. And from the age of 12 i was introduce to sexual desire and after 13 years of this toughest exam i am still virgin and wanted to be loyal for my partner, so then i decided i will marry as soon as i complete my study because i cant control myself further. That was my plan. But what happened.
My Nikah was held some times ago almost 1 year is going to complete but not Rukhasati(The time limit was not defined for rukhasati). I heard that Nikah is main pillar of marriage in Islam that's 100% right.
According to our society husband and wife cannot make physical relationship before rukhasti, ok i am agree with this statement and practically too. But where Islam says that its mandatory for wife to veil from her husband?????
Even our society does not restrict.
This was my arrange marriage with the 100% will of my parents and i was also agree with their will. Before Nikah i did not see her, how she looks like. After the Nikah her parents said our daughter will do veil from me,thats very strange, and poor act they imposed.
Even i used to visit her home along with my parents by thinking that may be i got chance to meet her but she never ever came in front of me. Even one day i asked for her that i want to meet her just for 5 second, but she refused.Oh God, you cannot imagine how i did control myself.
After that i stopped going her house. I tried using many other ways to contact her like social media, email, phone, sms but all in vain. Even my parents also talked to her parents but nothing happened, after that my parents said to me in very harsh wording"Tere bhai aur cousins ki shadi 28 ki age mien huwi hain tuje kon c Agg lagi hai"
And their reply made me very embarrass. After that day i stopped taking their help in this regard. The peak of sexual desire of a man is age of 24,5,6. I have very intense sexual desires and i am burning in this fire every second and minute of the clock. But there is no one who can help me. Please tell me why they are behaving like this way????? What i should do??????Because i am losing grip over the control and i am not a machine.
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Mere Nikah ko 1 saal hone wala hai aur yeh mien ne apne parents ki marzi se kiya tha unki khushi ke lie.
Lakin Nikah ke bd se he meri biwi se muje parda karna shiro kar diya. Aur kharan-qun bat yeh hai mien ne uss ko
daika he nai ke woh daikti kaisi hai na nikah se pahle aur na bd. Mien ne b buhat try ki usse se contact karun phone pai,
facebook pai, email pai lakin koi reply nai aya. apne parents se b bat ki lakin koi bat nai bani. Muje kab se aik
sahare ki zarort thi ke koi tou jo apna ho jis se ap apne dil ki har bat share kar sako. lakin mien wait kr kr ke thak gya hon,
lakin na koi samjta hai muje aur na koi help karta hai. Please app batao aisi stituation mien kya karna chahiye???????Girlfriend
banaoun aur usse ke sath sare arman pore karun???????Yeh prostitute thek rahe gi?
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myrizvi |
Group: Members Joined: 20th Apr, 2008 Topic: 111 Post: 6482 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Oct 2012, 1:57pm |
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 wait till rukhsati
1. jahaaN apnay etna sabr kia hai, rukhsati tak mazeed sabr kijyeh
2. nikaah say pahlay yeh apka sharayee haq tha k ap honay wali biwi ko apnay parents k hamraah dekh kar pasand kartay...magar apnay yeh haq use nahi kia aur apnay parents par blind faith kia... ab bay sabri nah karaiN
3. ap log agar chahaiN to jald rukhsati karwa laiN... iskay elawah koi aur motaalebah nah hi karaiN to acha hai
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goodmorals |
Group: Members Joined: 06th Mar, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 93 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Oct 2012, 3:38pm |
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turbo your wife's family attitude toward veiling is so strange, its too strict. u even can't talk and meet on social media. reASON COULD be extremely conservative environment. there are families which are very strict about veil and religious values. so it could be the case.
anyways you have to hold till rukhsati, after all you have tried so many times. you didn't mention you are job holder or not or what u do for earning. if there is no earning or job issue then rukhsati should be done. might be other family taking time for preparation.
u r not alone who is going through such dilemma, so many young people are suffering fromn late marriage. i m constantly masturbating for last 15 years. it doesn't mean i am a bad guy, actually it is uncontrollable. it is human instinct, it is natural desire. it is physical need just like food and water. i can't even ask for marriage. shukar karo aap ka nikah to ho chuka hai.
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turbo |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd Nov, 2011 Topic: 2 Post: 6 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Oct 2012, 3:48am |
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myrizvi Mien koi machine tou nai hon na ke button on kiya tou start kar lia aur off kiya tou control kar lia.
Aj kal itne modern dour mien jahan anjan larke larkyun aik dosre se openly mil sakte hain, chup ke mil sakte hain, phone pai batien kar sakte hain, har kism ke social networks use karsakte hain aur jo kuch marzi kar lien sab allow hai.
Aur mien apni biwi se text chat tak nai kar sakta. Kitna dil jalta hai mera yeh sab daik kar aur dil karta hai har woh kam karun jis se muje sakon mile.
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turbo |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd Nov, 2011 Topic: 2 Post: 6 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Oct 2012, 4:53am |
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goodmorals goodmorals tell me one thing you said that "some families are very strict towards religion values" if so then nikah is also Islamic practice and sun-nah as well. Then why people are giving more importance to the Rukhsati than nikah???????It means there is no value of nikah infront of them only rukhasti is everything.
And i am doing job but my pay is not good. My job and and my salary do not have any link to the rukhsati.
Yup you are right according to the hierarchy of needs sex is basic need of human beings just like food and water.
Before the nikah i had some ability to control myself to some extend but after the nikah i thought something naughty and i lost my control totally in such way that i could not able to control myself so far.
Aur jin ka nikah hoja ta hai lakin rukhsati nai woh meri tarah na 3 mien hote hain aur na woh 13 mien hote hain. Q.k unmarried girls jo friends ya relatives mien hoti hain woh na app ko koi smile pass kare gi, na lift aur na koi apse bat kare gi. woh samjti hai ke app married ho.jab ke app single hote ho. aur agar mere jaisa case ho ke biwi bat he na kare phir kya halat ho gi bande ki??????????
Aur phir mien aik he question pochun ga ap sab se
"Kuch Loog Apne ho ke b Aisa Q Karte hain"
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turbo |
Group: Members Joined: 23rd Nov, 2011 Topic: 2 Post: 6 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Oct 2012, 7:02am |
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Thanks for support both of you! Eventually i would like to say that it is my fault that i showed too much nobility.
while people cant understand language of nobility.
Ahar mien yahi kahna chahta hon ke mien he ghalat hon q.k mien ne buhat ziada sharaft daiki.
That`s ALL...
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goodmorals |
Group: Members Joined: 06th Mar, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 93 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Oct 2012, 11:30pm |
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turbo i do not agree with "myrizvi" situation is extremely difficult for you, i can understand.
look dear,
u
had to see all such things before nikah. if ur sexual emotions are so
overwhelming, u want emotional support and want to talk with ur wife as
usually people do then u had to analyze the home environment of ur wife,
whether such things are possible or not, some families do not allow
at-least during engagement, but after nikah it is strange.
anyways what has been happened , happened.
if
there is no salary and job issues from your side then might be possible
they are taking time for preparation for rukhsati or girl might have
some education pending. at-least there will definitely be a some reason
about delay, what you think ? now the solution is simply to find how
much time you have to wait. ask them clearly. don't hesitate to ask, its
ur right whatever ur family perceive, believe me. ye koi besharmi ki
bat nahi.
if you think there is genuine reason for delay and it
is possible for u to wait then good other wise you may ask for other
option, definitely people will be warned and quick. zindagi me koi bhi
kam karney say pehley planning zaroor kartey ahain tak k har cheez clear
ho jaye oar right decision liya ja sakey.h
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