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StarAnon |
Group: Members Joined: 07th Oct, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 7 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Oct 2012, 4:31am |
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 Ashamed and confused, help needd
hi
i am facing quite a similar problem, first of all let me tell you
everything am saying is 100% true and i am being very honest. Me and
her
are in relation with eachother for past 4 5 years.. we are quite good
in our professional and family life, our families know about our
relation and we intend to get married in 2013 (iA). Last month we met
in a lone place and unfortuately we lost control over self and made a
terrible mistake of getting involved in a foreplay :| We did not had sex
(no insertion) but instead it was just some humping and i ejaculated
over her vagina.. Now i think she is pregnant. I admit hamsay boht bari
ghalti hoi, us par men intehai sharminda hun kun k pehli bar mujse itna
barra gunah ho gya :( Men Allah pak se har namaz men ro ro k mafiyan bhi
mang chuka hun, jab muje yad ata hai k mene kya kia to dil itni malamat
karta hai k men ronay lag parrta hun and i start getting brain shivers,
i have totally lost my appetite and i only eat just so that my family
doesn't notice that there is something wrong (even though they already
have noticed) due to depression i am unable to concentrate on my work +
studies, nothing makes me feel better or satisfied. I spend most of the
time alone in my room praying and crying to Allah Almighty, but lag aisa
hi raha hai k Allah ko mene boht naraz kar dia or shaed bakhsish nahi
milegi :( not only this, muje ye bat bhi maaray jati hai k meri waja se
aik achi respectable family ki larki ki zindagi tabah ho rahi hai. Jab
sochta hun k anay wale waqt men kya hoga to dil chahta hai men khud ko
maar dun kun k is lye ilawa koi hall nazar nahi ata. or is sab ka
zimadaar men khud hun, aj tak kabhi khud ko mene itna gira hua feel nahi
kia. everything feels meaningless now or men Allah se bhi yahi dua
karta hun k ye sab meri waja se hua mene usko uksaya to tu muje jo chahe
saza de par us ki zindagi kharab mat ho, tu usko at least maaf kar de.
Ab situation ye hai k kuch samaj nahi aa raha kya kia jae... Ham apni
families ko nahi bata saktay k hamse ye sab hua hai. na hi ham fori tor
par shadi kar saktay han (due to many problems, consider it impossible) I
know mujse se zada wo pareshan hai and this is unbearable for me, men
us k samne yahi act karta hun k kher hai Allah pak hamen maaf karenge or
hamari madad farmaenge par andar hi andar men janta hun k hamarey pas
koi solution nahi. and i know jab usko bhi ye bat pata lag gai to wo
suicide kar legi :(
i read in some threads k abortion hota hai but
jesse k ap sab ko pata hai we are unmarried aur agar doctor k pas jaenge
to seedha police case ban jaega (i think) or families ko pata lag
jaega. Ham is darr ki waja se kisi doctor se consult tak nahi kar pa
rahe, sachai batana or abortion to boht door ki bat hai...
Kindly guide me what to do? koi aisa doctor hai jo atleast mashwara de sakay k aagy kya karna chahye?
Also
plz tell me if i go to some doctor and discuss my problem, will the doc
be able to help or doc (according to law if any) will simply refuse to
give any suggestion and instead take some serious action?
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goodman |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Oct, 2007 Topic: 59 Post: 7344 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Oct 2012, 5:33am |
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staranon phali bat to yeah ha kay Ap Allah say mafi mangoo...Inshallah Allah maf ker day ga..
aik bar sex kernay say woo pregnent nahi ho sakti ha aur woo be ap outside discharge howay hoo....yeah too tum jhoot bol rahay hoo...
tum koo kassay pata chala ha kay woo pregnent ho gain ha...
agar woo pregnent ho gain ha to pher apnay parents koo bata ker shadi ker loo...aur kooi solution nahi ha |
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StarAnon |
Group: Members Joined: 07th Oct, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 7 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Oct 2012, 6:17am |
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@goodman Dear brother
Am not lying, as i said I think she is pregnant (reason being not having periods since a month now)
and we cant tell parents or get married any time soon.
Kindly tell me if i can consult a doctor regarding the issue? is it possible to just get an advice or the doc will simply refuse to help and take strict action?
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goodman |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Oct, 2007 Topic: 59 Post: 7344 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Oct 2012, 9:26am |
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staranon you must consult the doctor and of course doctor will help u...but you get a reliable doctor for this matter |
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StarAnon |
Group: Members Joined: 07th Oct, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 7 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Oct 2012, 12:16pm |
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@goodman so i should contact some gyne doc?
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myrizvi |
Group: Members Joined: 20th Apr, 2008 Topic: 111 Post: 6481 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Oct 2012, 2:38am |
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she should contact a gynae doc as soon as possible. laRki ko apnay parents maiN say kissi aik ko etmaad maiN lekar sab kuch batlaa dena chaahiye. sirf ap donouN milkar mazeed kuch nahi karsaktay... agar kia to result mazeed kharab hosakta hai aur hadood ordinance k tehat donouN giraftaar bhi hosaktay haiN...
boray kaam ka bora nateejah hi bar.aamad hota hai
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huda shah |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Aug, 2012 Topic: 9 Post: 289 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Oct 2012, 2:58am |
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dont worry pray to Allah firstly..Allah pak se toba kren jese ap ne bataya ap bht shirminda hain.... ye gunnah sarzad hogya.beshak uski rehmat se umeed rkhni chaye wo mauf krne wala ... or apko mauf kar dya hai usne..or next time ye ghalati kaabi na ho itna khyal rkhega..bulke ap log milna he chor den ye b ghalat hai ..and the second thing...i dont think so she is expecting as u said that .i have to quote ur line... We did not had sex (no insertion)..then she cant be..and she has some another problem of not having special days...sometimes duration of cycles increases with time it can b 35 days approx.due to anxiety,depression and hormonal imbalances or disturbances ..so dont worry about it..she ought to consult with gynchologist to check weather she is expecting or not.. just pray to Allah..every thing would fine....inshaa Allah..he is the best forgiver. |
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StarAnon |
Group: Members Joined: 07th Oct, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 7 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Oct 2012, 11:21pm |
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@huda shah I know i did a huge mistake and unintentionally, this was the first and i will make sure the last time we got physical in our 5+ years relationship :(
" she ought to consult with gynchologist to check weather she is expecting or not "
so ur saying i should take her to some gynecologist? Thats is what i am actually asking and i need confirmation. Will the doctor be able to help us? since we are not married so how do we go to doctor and consult about it?
" i dont think so she is expecting as u said that .i have to quote ur line... We did not had sex (no insertion)..then she cant be "
I read on the internet that if man comes over her vagina then she can get pregnant since sperms can swim inside.
also let me tell you its 2 months now without a period
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Halabutt |
Group: Members Joined: 08th Oct, 2012 Topic: 4 Post: 44 Age:
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| Posted on:19th Oct 2012, 2:04pm |
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StarAnon Ap doc ko dikhabe se pehle cnfrm tu kr lein k wo pregnant hain b k nai? Ap use ghr mein hi test krne ko kahein!! I think ye unk liye kch mushkIl tu nai hoga!!!! |
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