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cutiee |
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| Posted on:14th Sep 2012, 7:35pm |
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 in great dilemma..
i requeted to give me some helpful suggestions...i am in great dilemma...i ve boyfrnd.hm dono czns ha .hmy aik dosry sy buhat muhabt thi.hmry relation kou 2yr hou gye..buhat ups an downs aye..dono ki families b darmayn mae aye.but hm ny mana lye.hmri families ny hmry rishty kou accept kar liya..1yr tou hmra aram sy guzra ..khair hm dono k buht fights hti ti but not soo much..jb sy 2nd yr start hwa hmri fights bharti gye..hmra darmyan eductn ka b masla tha.mae msc kar rhe hou aur wou jst i.com hae.mae ny kfi convince kia but he didnt study anymore..nw mri success par usy lagta ky mae proud krti hou,mae ussy batie laga rhe hou..he did nt respect me.he abuses me..but at the same time he cares of me..elzam b lagta...hm 1 din bolty ha aur 6 din larai ...kbi t 1 month b hm naraz rhty ha...buht buht serious laraiya b hti rhe bt we atlast 2gether...bt abb condtn puri bdal gye ha....he abuses me alot..he calls me 'kutti" he said he hates me .he said i dnt care hm inspite of that i said i love u...bt he said he hates me now n dont want to seee my face...i dnt knw what to do?? how to react?was it true love or just a attraction..bt i dnt want to think abt another guy...we did everythng except sex...but kuch months sy mae ny physical relation hatm kar diaya..becz i realize that was wrong...may be that waz also a reasz of his that type of behavour......plz tell me the solution wheathr i forget him or try to get him back... |
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fahad hussain khan |
Group: Members Joined: 26th Apr, 2012 Topic: 4 Post: 862 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Sep 2012, 10:08pm |
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 cutee
pehly bat suno humare society main koi concept nh hota bf gf ka.2nd ap ne jo phsically realtion rukhe wo zina mai shumar hain .us k toba karo ap.then wo larka ap k liye bilkul hi tekh hi hai jo ubhi se itna haq jatata hai apne bap k milkiata samjhta hai jo abusive language ya kuti ka word use karta hai to yea ek khdgarz insan hai ise sirf apne fikar hai khd ka soche ga humesha ap k koi jazbat nh khch ehmait nh hoge affter shadi mere sulah yehi hai breakup kar do.apne ma bap ko kaho koi our acha rishta dhonde.yea cyco hai larka our yea aftr shdi kise bh giri had tak ja sakta hai marana is ka roz ka kam hoga phr ek bar hath uthya to roz uthae ga.then agr is se jan churana chaho gi to tuhmatein lagae ga black mail kare so plz brek this relations .aj nh breakup kiya to kal ko bht phastao ge.kaha k mubat kaha ka piyar.jb wo izat hi nh karta to bus phr.ok ALLAH HAFFIZ. |
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| Posted on:15th Sep 2012, 7:20am |
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cuttiie cuttiee ap uskoo bhool jaoo...aur choor doo |
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cutiee |
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| Posted on:15th Sep 2012, 9:45am |
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but its too hard... its too hard for me...becz we dream together our future...in every my future planing he waz included...break up tou hou gya but asa phely b hta rahta lakn phr sy hm noraml hou jty haebt that time he says me he hate me...mproblem yh b hae k hmri puri family k ptaa k es k relatn hae..agr hatm hta tou puri family ki batie sunani pary g aur apny parents sy b..kia asa nhe hou skta wou apni thinking change kar lae??? is that possible?? am so much tense.. |
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cutiee |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Sep, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 12 Age:
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| Posted on:15th Sep 2012, 9:45am |
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but its too hard... its too hard for me...becz we dream together our future...in every my future planing he waz included...break up tou hou gya but asa phely b hta rahta lakn phr sy hm noraml hou jty haebt that time he says me he hate me...mproblem yh b hae k hmri puri family k ptaa k es k relatn hae..agr hatm hta tou puri family ki batie sunani pary g aur apny parents sy b..kia asa nhe hou skta wou apni thinking change kar lae??? is that possible?? am so much tense.. |
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cutiee |
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| Posted on:15th Sep 2012, 9:52am |
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fahad hussain khan u r right...jb mjy ehsas hwa tb he ma wou relation chorr diya aur ALLAH sy mafi mang li aur toba kar li..lagta nhe ky wou abb wapis aye mry pas but agr a gya tou koi asa response hna chaye ky ussy ehsas hou ky uss ny galat kiaya mry sath....so what should be my response???
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Group: Members Joined: 21st Jul, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 79 Age:
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| Posted on:16th Sep 2012, 8:55am |
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salam
dekhien sub se pehli baat khair ap ko b pta hai abb but yeh k ap ne bohat burra kya .yeh koi tareeka nain k shadi se pehle he iss tarha k zana wale kamm shuru kr dena.dhoob marne ka mukam hai hmare muslims hona ka.ALLAH SE MAFI MANGHIEN HARR ROZ. aur abb agar yeh rishta ap k baqool nain toot sakta tu .chahe woh ap k pass aye ya na aye shadi takk sabr karein.try to b strong.aur bus khamosh rahein.ksi tarha ka b usse ihsas dilane ki zarorat nain.just b silent.khamoshi bohat bhari talwar hai aur usse khud he sub kuch ihsas ho jae gha. aur phir shadi k baad ap ALLLAH se dua kr k ek achi life start karein.baharhall ap ne jo btaya k education ka differance hai iss ki waja se thori problems atti hain.i know many people aur specially agar b.v parhi likhi hoo tu mard complex k shikar rehte hain.agar b.v koi bhari samajdari ki baat b kre tu unhein chubti hai. isliye ap ko thora husband k mutabik dhall kr rehna parregha.because phir ek bande ko tu compromise krna he parre gha na.aur iss k sath whole life dua kiya karein ALLAH khud he rahein asan krta challa jae gha. |
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fahad hussain khan |
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| Posted on:16th Sep 2012, 11:06pm |
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cutee bura h mana na main sedha insan hu sub ko us k mun p hi kehta hu sach chahe wo mujh se phr agle bar bat kare ya nh. ap larkio k yehi to prob hote hai jaldi emotional hojate hu phr akhir main umar bhar pustati hu k yea kiy hogay mujh se. agr ap ubhi bh aas lagae bethe hai dil k darzwaze p us k dastak ka intzar kar rahe hain to as you wish.come to the point agr us l trf se koi response ata hai to phr ap k trf se use yea response hona chiye k.pehle bat mere sth izat se pesh aaya kro then yea k mere kasor kiya hai sirf tum se mubbt k apne ghr walo se ludi un k nazro main aae isi ka sila tum mujhy aj jo dy rahe hu jo kuti k siwa muhy our name se bulate nh ub ye izat kar rahe hu to shdi k bad kiya behave hoga tumara.ok meri sulah phr bh hogi k ise chor do bht pahstao ge cutte ap yea zindgi ek bar milte hai izat se jeo ise wo kiya jean jo shdi k bad bat bat p gali nikale besta kare mare pete.ek hubby hi to hota hai urat ka wo hi tekh na chale izat na kare to our family mamber to joti samjhein ge pao k.ise liye chor do ise age ap k marzi humra kam nek dile se mashwara dena phr ap ka kam hai us p amal karna ya soch wechar karna.JAZAKALLAH. |
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cutiee |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Sep, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 12 Age:
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| Posted on:17th Sep 2012, 7:50am |
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munadi786 compromise ! ktna k compromise karoo ...agr mae yh kahoo k 2yr sy yh relation mri waja sy he nhe tota tou yh kahna bilkul galat nhe hou ga...becz mae us k mistke ignore karti a rhe hou just 4 love...but abb bardasht k khad hou gye...agr abb b mae ignore kar dti tou yh relatn na tot ta.abb mri bradst jaha totii hae wou eductn gap k maslee par..becz mjy job karny ka b shoq ha aur wou nhe chahta ky mae shadi k baad job karoo.agr mjy permissn b dae dy tou pher wohe sochh...kahy ga tm earn krny lag gye o tou etc jou abii kahta ky tm parh gye o tou etc...mae ny uss k abusive languge ou b bardst kar lya..kayee dafa mjy chorr ky jata rha mae ny wou be bardast kar liya ,jothy elzam b bardst akr lye...uss ny mj sy muhbt tou k mgr trust nhe kar paya...aur mae ny uss par blind trust kia...agr uss insan ky sath rahna ha tou matlb ha apnaa app mar lou mae..pher e guzara hou sakta
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cutiee |
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| Posted on:17th Sep 2012, 9:22am |
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fahad hussain khan nhe, mujy app ki koi baat buri nhe lage.app ny jou b kaha mri balahi ky lye kaha..app ny jou response mjy suggest kia thek ha par assa mae kafi dafa kah chuki hou but uss ki agy sy yh complain ha k mae nhe uss ki respect karti aur uss k respect karna yh ha ky wou chay abusive language use karie mae koi aitraz na karo,gussa na karo wou jou marzi mistake karie mae ussy kuch na kahoo,kuch na pochoo.mra aitrz karna ,gussa karna uss k disrespect mae ata.for him is to kep silent,whatever he did or do is respect.from his point of view to abuse women is men right and to keep silent is women duty..app k advice aur situation k made nazr rakht mae ny yhe decision liya ky mae silent he rahoo,if he will back to me i will clear him that i cant continue any realtion wid u...abi 3,4 yr ha mry pas...tou agr usy mj sy true love hwa tou ussy ehsas hou jaye ga apni mistakes ka aur mery love ka tou thek warna mae usy hamesh k lye bhol jany ki koshish karoo g...nw what u say abt my that decision???
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munadi786 |
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| Posted on:17th Sep 2012, 10:54am |
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I THINK... muje lagta hai ap ko meri batoon ki samaj nahin ayi. |
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cutiee |
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| Posted on:17th Sep 2012, 11:17pm |
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munadi786 aa gye ha mjy smj...app ny kaha hamosh rahoo..tou hamosh he hou...aur jou ap ny compromise ka kaha tha thora buhat tou hou jata but har baat mae compromise...!!! aur app kia kahna chah rahy hou?? |
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munadi786 |
Group: Members Joined: 21st Jul, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 79 Age:
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| Posted on:17th Sep 2012, 1:37pm |
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I THINK...
mein sirf ap ko yeh abb kehna chahta hoon k thek hai ap logon k between jo b love waghera ka relation tha ya hai but yeh jo education gap hota hai na specially yeh bohat problems create krta hai.minds bohat mushkil se balka ek tarha se impossible he hota hai k apas mein millien.without education mind khullta he nain uss level takk isiliye tu islam ne rishta krte howe nasihat ki hai k thori dono taraf se similarities hoon tu behtar hai.aur phir yeh k jis rishte mein respect nahin,understanding nahin,dono taraf se compromise nahin,bardashat nahin,care nahin,wahan kaisa pyar aur kaisi mohabbat.aur in cheezon k bagher life kabhi b kamyab nahin hoti. aur sub se barh kr education gape ki waja se i know many people k woh life may b guzar lein but ache tareeke se nahin.man agar parha likha ho tu woh aurat agar na b parhi likhi ho tu usse apne mutabik rakh leta hai aur adjust kr lete hain but agar aurat parhi likhi hoo aur man na tu woh hamesha complex ka shikar rehta hai.aurat ki achi baat ,thora tareeke se rehna b usse chubta hai.its reality i know many people. isliye ap parhi likhi hain tu jo ho gya so ho gya but next mafi mang kr ksi parhe likhe bande ka rishta apne parents ko kahein k talash karein aur ek achi life guzarne ki try karein uss k sath jo ap ko samaj sake ,understand kr sake waghera.yeh wale pyar k bhoot ko apne sarr se uttar dein yeh koi pyar nain yeh tu sorry but usse b hawas thi .aur specially education gap ki waja se woh ap ko yeh cheezein nain de sakta. isliye yehi behtar hai aur khandan waloon ki 2 din ki baton ko sunn kr agar ap ki next life apne partner k sath achi guzare tu khair hai inn ki batoon ko ek kaan se sunn kr dosre se nikal dein aur future ka sochien. |
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fahad hussain khan |
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| Posted on:17th Sep 2012, 10:47pm |
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cutte meri bat sune chalein tekh hai ap ne jo conclusion nikla hai wo kae had tak tekh bh hai waqai 4 sal hain ubhi ap k pas to dekhen ubhi baqi rhi khmosh rehne wali bat k wo kitna bh lude dante ilzam lagae abusive lanagage use kare larki ko chup suna na hai ya shidi k bad orat ko chup chap sun na hai zahir hai jo ub lrki p rule apply kar raha hai same shdi k bad ek orat pa bh hoge mean ap pur. jahan orat k huqoq hain waha hi khc mard k hi huqoq hai ao kehna use k main apne huqoq achi trha janti hu our un par amal bh kar rahe hu baqi raha ap ka sawal ap ne ub tak kon sa haq nibhya hai mardo wala ya age jake kiya nibhae ge jo ubhi se milkiat smjh rahe hu mujhy jase khon k ewzi main main mile hu tumein jo zara si bh izat krna meri khd k bezati smjhte hu. tekh hao cutee ap dekhele mujhy to nh lagta yea bunda sudhre ga.ap k pas 4 sal ka arsa hai to 2 month main solve kare otherwise apne ma bap k marzi se jhan wo chye engeg karle. zindagi bht budi nemat hai use khush hu k jeo kiya faida us muhabt ka jo uthe bethe gailain ilzam lagae poa k joti smjhe.jawab do to bh mar khao .jwab na do to bh mar.zara se bat p ase mard chir jate bus bahane tlash karte hain marne k necha dikhane k. ok ALLAH HAFFIZ. |
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fahad hussain khan |
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| Posted on:17th Sep 2012, 10:50pm |
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munadi 786 mere bhai ap pori bat smjhe k asal masla kiya hai then rep dein. |
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munadi786 |
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| Posted on:17th Sep 2012, 11:16pm |
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fahad bhai
samajna kya hai fahad bhai education gap aur inn k cousin ki jaisi mentality hai uss k according inhein masle he rahein ghe.i know many people who have such cases. isliye behtar yehi hai k ksi parhe likhe bande se shadi kr lein .jis k sath in ka mind mile .because cousin k sath in ka mind he nain milta tu conflicts he atte rahein ghe. |
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cutiee |
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| Posted on:18th Sep 2012, 1:24pm |
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i think no one is wrong...
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cutiee |
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| Posted on:18th Sep 2012, 1:36pm |
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fahad hussain khan n munadi786 thanx.. both of u r right...so many reasons to breakup but only one reason that is love ,for not to breakup.but sirf akeli muhbt kafi nhe hti zindge guzarny k lye.trust,understanding compromise form both sides and care b chahye hoti...mjy yh karwaa gont pena hee pary ga..js js ny yh mjy suggestions di am heartly thankul to all of u...ap sb ny mjy decision lny mae help kia...idr problem discuss karny ky alwa me kahe aur kar bi nhe sakti thi...i request u to stay there for help whenever i need u all...GOD BLESS U ALL...thank to bro fahad , munadi n also goodman for helping me to sort out my problem. |
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| Posted on:23rd Sep 2012, 2:57am |
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cutiee better 2 leave him. not just leave him but u also make urself more mature, responsible and dignified girl.
life is fast, challenging and very tough. love, sex and things like that doesn't hold any importance. these things suite when u accomplish something in life.
he is young, immature and less educated, moreover it is not necessary that he loves u always as his attitude shows. so i don't think he could be a good partner and support u in upcoming life. so concentrate on ur study and leave the marriage derision on parents, they r ur best well wishers.
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goodmorals |
Group: Members Joined: 06th Mar, 2012 Topic: 0 Post: 93 Age:
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| Posted on:23rd Sep 2012, 2:57am |
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cutiee better 2 leave him. not just leave him but u also make urself more mature, responsible and dignified girl.
life is fast, challenging and very tough. love, sex and things like that doesn't hold any importance. these things suite when u accomplish something in life.
he is young, immature and less educated, moreover it is not necessary that he loves u always as his attitude shows. so i don't think he could be a good partner and support u in upcoming life. so concentrate on ur study and leave the marriage derision on parents, they r ur best well wishers.
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