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malik_ali |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Nov, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2012, 12:00pm |
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 Am i doing right ..Is this right.
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malik_ali |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Nov, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2012, 12:09pm |
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 I was married 3months ago in pakistan while i live in us now a days i returned after 15 days of my marriage from pakistan the marriage was not actually a marriage that was just to make my parents happy i am 22 years old and a medical student i was marrie
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malik_ali |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Nov, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2012, 12:13pm |
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d by the will of my parents i donot wanted to marry therefore i am not having any type of sexual relation with my wife but we are just best friends i told her everything she is quiet normal because i think i can,t make studies and marriage succesfull at
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malik_ali |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Nov, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2012, 12:16pm |
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a time i am on my way of becoming a doctor .i can,t make my marriage and studies at a time .we are not in a relation our parents donot know anything about this .Am i doing quiet right
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malik_ali |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Nov, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2012, 12:21pm |
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I think so a relation with my wife will make me unable to study and i will lose all my hardwork i have done .I am seeing a big problem on my way a child my parents want me to have
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malik_ali |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Nov, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2012, 12:25pm |
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a child i can handle matter this time but it,s going out of my hands i make fake excuses in front of them.Is this allowed in islam not to have a sexual relation with wife.
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malik_ali |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Nov, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Apr 2012, 12:30pm |
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My parents are coming back to america and they will put pressure on me to back to pakistan and live with her during summer vacation i will be going but am i doing quiet right please answer and guide me Thankyou brothers and sisters.
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Mr bajwa4u |
Group: Members Joined: 24th Nov, 2010 Topic: 10 Post: 227 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Apr 2012, 6:33pm |
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reply it is totally wrong perception that if you get in relation with your wife, you will not able to work hard, there are many peoples who study after marriage and remain sucessful. Mostly PhD scholars studied after marriage. |
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malik_ali |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Nov, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Apr 2012, 7:03pm |
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but what according to point of view of islam
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Mr bajwa4u |
Group: Members Joined: 24th Nov, 2010 Topic: 10 Post: 227 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Apr 2012, 7:09pm |
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Necessarily i think it is necessary but confirm from any alim deen |
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shahzaib81 |
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| Posted on:14th Apr 2012, 2:52am |
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u r worng!! well the answer is pretty simple, i dint understand why an educated person like you is not able to figure out himself.
well bro, Islam mein Allah aur uskay bandon KAY haqooq ada karna bohet zaroori hai.
by not having sexual relation, u r not fullfilling the rights or ur wife. having a sexual relation is basically ur wife's right. SEx is natural to human being.
Islam says, if u do sex with your wife and u (man) gets an orgasm and wife does not, then wait till the time your wife also gets and orgasm so that she is satisfied. If ISlam take cares of such minute rights of wife, then who are us to completely cease the right of wife to have sex with husband.
and look man, u may become a successful doc in future, but ultimately u will lose ur soul mate.
and ur wife can even go to court to claim her right of sexual relation, u must keep this in mind as well.
moreover, there are other side effects of not having sexual relation with wife. every man/woman in world gets sexually frustrated. if u will not satisfy ur wife, this thing can lead ur wife to somewhere else.....which i believe u can easily understand.
and if u dont want any child right now...u can use contraceptive measures and explain it to ur parents that we are planning child after studies. ....if a strange girl who became ur wife could understand ur problem, y not ur parents who gave birth to u...
U R WELL EDUCATED....USE UR MIND AND DONT LOSE UR FAMILY AND WIFE.
WELL WISHER
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malik_ali |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Nov, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Apr 2012, 1:27pm |
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The girl whom i am married to is my first cousin(my father,s brother,s daughter) i know her since she was 7 years old and we were best friends and we used to play together whenever i go to pakistan during summer vactions she will not do anything wrong i t
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malik_ali |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Nov, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Apr 2012, 1:40pm |
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trust her she knows the situation and she is quite normal but if she want to have a relation at this time she shouldn,t been normal and had talked to me about that i talk to her everyday she had only studied till 10 th grade there
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malik_ali |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Nov, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Apr 2012, 1:51pm |
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and may bee because of lack of education and she might had skipped sex education clases in her high school she don,t know anything about that she is just 19 years old she should go to college but she clearly says to me no more study now is that good at t
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malik_ali |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Nov, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Apr 2012, 1:55pm |
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i you see my previous topic you will came to know all the matter
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