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natan |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Jun, 2007 Topic: 2 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:19th Jun 2007, 4:54am |
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 To Whom I Should Marry?
Dear Dr & ALL
Salam mera ye masla mujhe din ba din bahout pareshan kar raha hai or shayad ye pareshaniya mai ney apne liye khud khari ki hain, mai un sub se madad mangna chahti hou jo jo yeha atey hain,2years back meri ek ladke se mulakat hoi us ka naam mai A likh rahi hou , jub mujhe A se pyar hua tub us k dil mai kisi or k liye pyar tha magar ahista ahista ussey bhi mujh se pyar hogaya or humara relation ache se chalme laga although hum mai misunderstandings bahout hoti thi ziyada tar us ki xgf ko lai kar wo humesha kehta tha wo apni x se ziyada kisis ko pyar nahi kar sakta , mere saath tha per tareefe sirf us ki karta tha khair ye larie tou chalti hi rehti thi, mai kuch hi waqt mai ussey bahout chahney lagi thi hadh se ziyada bus Allah se dua karti thio k wo mujhe miljaiye although us ki ignorance kabhi kabhi mujhe bahout dukh daithi per us ka pyar kabhi khatam nahi hota tha .isis douran us ney mujhe resort chalney ko kaha pehle mai ney na ki per phir han kar di waha ja k hum mai sub kuch hua per ek distance mai mai ney ussey us cheez ki ijazat nahi di per us din k baat se hum mai jub bhi larie hoti tou wo ye zarour kehta k tum achi ladki nahi ho tum ek bar kehne per hi mere satth resort chali gai tum shaadi karne k laiek nahi ho meri is baat per us se bahout larie hoi magar phir relation pehle ki taraha chalne laga ek saal baah phir humari ek dafa yuhi baat cheet chal rahi thi k phir se wo resort wali baat beech mai agie or meri phir us se larie ho gai dusrey din mujhe pata chala wo pak chala gaya hai mai ney kaha kaha se kar k us ka contact no nikala phir ek din us ne mujghe msg kiya k sorry meri shaadi ho rahi hai is liye plz m sorry mai us din bahou roi kaun si aisi dua nahi thi jo mai ney kar dali her time bus roti rehti thi q k mai ney us se shaadi tak k barey mai souch liya tha mai bahout pareshan rehne lagi thi although mai ney ussey wo cheez nahi karne di thi per waisey hum bahout close thie us cheez k ilawa hum mai sub kuch ho chukka tha isi douran meri job lag gai or waha meri ek ladke se mulakat hoi jo k bahout hi acha ladka tha ussey lakta tha k mai kisi waja se udass hou mai ney ussey sub bataya yeha mai ye batati chalou mai shia hou or A sunni tha per abhi jis ladke se meri dosti hoi thi wo tha tou Indian per shia hi tha khair us se dosti pyar mai badal gai wo meri choti si choti cheez ka khayal rakhta tha bulke rakhta hai per 2months baad A wapis aya opr us ney mujhe contact kiya or kaha k mai ney wo msg mazak mai kiya bhala mai tumharae baghir reh sakta hou ab mujhe realize hua k mai tum se bahout pyar karta hopu ye sub sun kar mai ussey kuch bata nahi pai q k ye kehte hoie us ki ankh se ansou nikal ayie thie or waha B bhi mujhe bahout chahta hai meri problem apni problem samajta hai akhir mai karou tou kya karou mujhe kuch samaj nahi ati youn dono larko se milna bhi sahi nahi hai plz ap logo se meri guzarish hai mujhe kuch hal batiye shayad app ki madad dusrey k liye bahout kuch saabit ho
Allah Hafiz
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My Reply |
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| Posted on:19th Jun 2007, 6:29am |
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re: natan
1. ap shia hai aur A sunni hai. lehaza ap A ko bhool jai kio keh shia se shadi karte waqt waldain ki narazgi leni pare gi. waldain ko naraz kar ke shadi nahi karni chahia.
2. A se shadi ke bad bhi problem hogi. ap ki koshis hogi ke bache shia ho aur A ki khahish hogi keh wo sunni ho. lehaza A ke sath shadi ke bad bhi bahut larai jhagra hoga.
3. A ko ho sakta hai keh ap se muhabbat ho lekin woh ap ko badkirdar samajhta hai. wo sari zindagi ap ko bad kirdar hi samajhta rahe ga. lehaza aise shakhs se shadi nahi karni chahia jo apni bivi ko bad kirdar samjhe.
4. A ap ko be-asra chor kar batai beghair chala gia. phir os ne shadi bhi kar li. mujhe yaqeen hai keh os ne zaroor shadi ki hogi. lekin os ka kirdar bhi mashkook hai lehaza ho sakta hai keh os ke shadi khatam ho gai hai is lia wo ap ke pas dobara wapas aya hai. A aik intehai naqabil etbar shaks hai lehaza ap ose dil se nikal de.
5. B Shia hai lehaza mazhabi nuqta nazar se os se shade kane mai koi haraj nahi. shadi ke bad bhi bache shia hi hoge lehaza bad mai bhi koi conflict nahi hoga.
6. agar ap samajhti hai keh kisi Indian se shadi karne mai koi problem nahi hai tu mera mashwarah hai keh ap B se shadi kar le. woh ap ke lia wafadar sabit hoga. lekin agar Indian se shadi mai koi problem hai ya ap ke waldain razamand nahi hai tu phir ap B se bhi shadi nahi kare.
7. ap B se shadi kare ya nahi kare lekin mera mashwarah hai keh A se hargiz nahi kare. aik dafa phir ghor se meri bat sune keh ap A se shadi aur friendship hargiz hargiz na kare.
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khan_80 |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Mar, 2007 Topic: 8 Post: 2604 Age:
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| Posted on:19th Jun 2007, 1:13pm |
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The simple solution to ur problem is to get married with B. because he belongs to same religious community as u. it is a big fact that A is not reliable at all and he does not belong to ur religious community. ur marriage with A can create many problems like children's religious up bringing, A's belief that u are not a good girl, ur parents, his family, his "question-mark" marriage etc.
and as u said B is a reliable, honest and caring person, i think that u will be more happy if u marry B. |
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natan |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Jun, 2007 Topic: 2 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Jun 2007, 9:45am |
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thnx Salam n thnx both of u for ur reply, ap k reply se mujhe bahout hosla mila hai magar mujhe ek baat batiye kya mai ney resort ja kar ghalat kiya mai ney tou us ki khushi k liye han ki thi na phir itni baatai us ney mujhe q suniye neways app k reply ka bahout bahout shukriya tc n Allah Hafiz |
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khan_80 |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Mar, 2007 Topic: 8 Post: 2604 Age:
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| Posted on:20th Jun 2007, 9:58am |
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yes, it was ur mistake. dear natan, men are always eager to find out the hidden, inside a girl. and when they find it, they loss their interest in the girl. ALLAH considers it as a sin, so, u better understand that it is bad. u have to go in ur own grave- why u considered a sin just for the sake of his happiness??
now, forget what has happened in the past and plan for ur future life. ask forgiveness from allah and keep faith on him. |
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honey khan |
Group: Members Joined: 14th Mar, 2007 Topic: 0 Post: 14 Age:
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| Posted on:25th Jun 2007, 3:51am |
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Dear Natan Han ghalti to ap ki the ....... lakin ap ki bat bi ma samjh sakti hon k ap waqai us sy piyar kerti the aur sincer the us ki khushi ki khatir hi aisa kia ap ny aur wo bhi itni lambi Dosti k bad.... ap gai the.... ( han ye ap nay bhot acah kia k usy Hd say guzrany nai dia.... ab ager wo ap ko Tanay deta ha to is ka matal ha k wo ap say piyar nai kerta kun k wo jis Maqasad k leye ap ko le ker gaya tha wo pora hi nai howa..... ap us ko yeh bhi keh sakti hain k wo kun aik larki k sat Tanha gaya tha kia wo Khud Sahrif ha ??? wo bi to Badkiradar howa na.... behrhal ap ki pori detial ma A ki sincerety Nazar nai ati wo aik jhota banada ha Roo Dho ker wo sirf Drama ker raha ha ap ko Phir say Bewaqoof bana raha ha us 2month ap k sath rabata nai rakha Ye nai socaha k ap ko kitni taqlef ho gi Noooo Ye sab usy Bura sabit kerta ha ..... Aur B ko ap nay sab kuch batya phir bi wo ap ko Buri larki nai samjhta its Mean hi is really LOVE's you. Muhabat asl may Itabar aur Cearing ka Nam ha jo koi bi ap ki cear kerta ha wo hi asal may ap say Muhabat kerta ha .... Ab Faisala Ap hi ko kerna ha Meri Dua ha k jo bi ho ap k haq may Behter ho Ameen |
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natan |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Jun, 2007 Topic: 2 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:25th Jun 2007, 5:27am |
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thnx alot thnx alot honey khan aap ney itna acha soucha merey liye or itni achi advice di infect un sub ka thnx jin jin logo ney merey barey mai souch kar advice di per honey khan u kno wat abi b merey dil mai us k liye kahin kahin bahout pyar pyar hai jo mai nikal nahi sakti neways thnx again tc |
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mbbs bhai |
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| Posted on:25th Jun 2007, 3:09pm |
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fake luv story hi dear wysy to main b unmarried hun but aap ki 2 sy luv stories kafi intersting rehi hain but they were of short span.it willl b better 4 you to reject both of them and wait for a new third boy friend to enter ur life. |
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FAHRENHEIT |
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| Posted on:25th Jun 2007, 7:16pm |
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 HEY SITE OPERATOR TAKE ACTION?
PEOPLE LIKE 'natan' ONLY COME HERE TO WASTE OTHERS TIME THESE SORT OF STORIES OR FANTASIES SHOULD BE DELETED ALONG WITH THEIR PARTICULAR USERS... HOPE THAT OPERATOR OF THIS SPECIFIC SITE WILL TAKE SOME ACTION ALL THOSE POEPLE WHO ONLY COME HERE TO SHARE THEIR FANTASIES WHICH DON'T SEEM TO BE TRUE. Moderator Note: How can you say that it is fantasy? please explain. If you will prove that it is fantasy then it will be deleted; otherwise it will be considered as a social problem.
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natan |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Jun, 2007 Topic: 2 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:26th Jun 2007, 3:12am |
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i dont mind
Hi mbbs u kno I don't mind watever u said becoz mai bhi dusro k barey mai pehley aise hi kehti thi but now I realized k I was totally wrong becoz apne per jub beeti hai tou pata chalta hai,nd if u think it's a fake story so don't bother na becoz yeha likhne se merey dil ka bhouj bhi halka hua or mujhe sahi ghalat ka pata bhi chala, u kno wat agar hum kisi ko acha nahi kehsakte na tou kisi ko bura bhi na kahie sorry for misbehaving but u should understand others feelings tc bye
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khan_80 |
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| Posted on:26th Jun 2007, 2:07pm |
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This is a medical site but we also welcome social, religious and general problems and their solutions. This is a forum to discuss and solve every kind of problem, the only condition is that ur question should be genuine and written in sober mature way. |
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honey khan |
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| Posted on:27th Jun 2007, 3:22am |
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 Why??
ma kai bar apni post sent ker cuki hon mera leter nai arah wats da problem???? |
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honey khan |
Group: Members Joined: 14th Mar, 2007 Topic: 0 Post: 14 Age:
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| Posted on:27th Jun 2007, 3:46am |
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 Dear Natan
Thanks... its mean k ap sy mazed bat ho sakti ha..ap may or muj may farq ye ha k ap 22 ki han to may 32 ki hon...is leye kuch to tajruby nmay ap say zeyada honye jo ap nay kaha ha na k dil may abi bi piyar ha.... to ye to mujy phely say hi maloom tha k ho ga or abi ye feelings kuch arsa tak rahain gi ye time ap k leye bot sensiteve ha ager us na zara sa bi piyar jataya to tum phir say phisal jao gi wo rho dho ker Qasmay Kha ker asani say tumy razi ker sakta ha.... lkin asi Ghalti mat kerna ...ma nay aj ap ki post phir peri ha mujy to A ki ka piyar kaheen nazar nai aya wo to phely bi jab ap ki daosti thi to us waqat bi apni xGfrn ko hi yad kerta tha.... or ager wo sincer hota jab wo akely may ap say mila tha to us k bad wo ap ko apni amanat or Ezat samjhat naky tanay deta..ye to wo tab kehta jab wo kisi or k sath ap ko dekhta...
or itny arsy may koi to sahadi Risahty ki bat kerta ulta tumy baty bina sahdi ker le,,, ager abi kehtah k jhot ha to bi zaroor koi na koi bat the k wo cha rah tha k tum usy chor do saf zahir ha k tim guzar rah tha or ab phir wo tim pass kerna chata ha.... ager sahdi ker bi ley to bi Bad may tumy rona pery ga behter ha abi aik choti takleef utha lo or usy dill say niklal pehnko wo aik Caring or kably Etabr banda nai ha;;;
jab tumy aik sacha piyar mily ga tab ahsas ho ga Aurt ko sacaha piyar apny shor or gahr say hi milta ha (ager kisamsat say acha shore mily to)
sab say pehly bat to ye ha k Apny Allha k Agy jhuko us say Mafi mango or Apny leye sachi khushi mango wo Zat PAK bot bot Raheem_O_kareem ha
or B say Bat ker Khul k saf saf usy bato k A nay tum say dobar rabta kia ha or apny dil ki bat bi kero sach bolny say hamisah faida hota ha or rasty khulty hain,,,,, Bsay saf saf pocho k wo tum say sahdi kerna chata ha k nai or kab .. ager wo razi ho to Gher walon say bat kero or sahdi ker lo dair mat lagao...or phir shor ki Qader or usi say piyar kerna kabi zindagi may pechy mur ker mat dekhna....r ager wo na many to bi koi bat nai k abi tum bot choti ho zindagi may bot log aty hian or jaty hain.. koi acah banda zaroor tumhry muqader may ho ga bass apni neyat Saf rakho or Apny RUB say rabta rekho
Ok BEST OF LUCK
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