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simmonash |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Apr, 2007 Topic: 15 Post: 33 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Jul 2007, 11:36pm |
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 Why I Do Respond Improperly At Foreplay?
main pehel b iss form main yeh puch chuki hun par proper jawab nahi mila tha...... Mere husband dusri city main job karte hain... hamare ghar se 15 to 20 mint ki drive pe hay....... My husband jo muje bohot pyar karte hay jab b un ka milne ka man hot ahay during his ob to wo ghar aa jate hain..... He loves me a lot is liye wo ghar atay hain mere pas muje iss se koi masla nahi hay...... wo acha khasa forplay b karte hay mager baz okat..... main un ko sahi se reply nahi de pati...... shuru main sab thek tha hamari shadi ko 5 sal ho gye hian........... we are happy with each others.... wo bad main puchte b hay tum satisfied ho..... tum discharge ho gye ho..... maine kuch galat to nahi kia... is tahran k question....... par main some times un ki sab baton ka jawab han main de deti hun jab kay some time main sex main intrested nahi hoti hun kuch arse se aysa ho raha hay....... un ka dil karta hay to wo atay hain....... mera un ko mana karne ko b dil nahi karti hay...... k un ko bura lagay ga main biwi hun wo apni zarurat k liye mere psa hi atay hay ager main aysa wesa kuch karong hi to kahen or ja sacte hay....... par mere sath aysa kyun hota hay k main un k forplay or pyar ka jawab usi tarahn nahi de pati jese k wo hote hain...... plz tell me ager ko understand kar sacta hay to???
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khan_80 |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Mar, 2007 Topic: 8 Post: 2604 Age:
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| Posted on:6th Jul 2007, 8:26am |
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re: simmonash U are lucky that ur husband is such a loving, caring and polite person. Girls even dream of a husband with these qualities. Take care of him and be grateful to ALLAH who has gifted u a very nice hasband. pay thanks to the almighty for this blessing.
u also need to read: Changes in foreplay and intercourse and Frigidity . |
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simmonash |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Apr, 2007 Topic: 15 Post: 33 Age:
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| Posted on:6th Jul 2007, 8:52pm |
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Thank you thnk you. jo links ap ne send kiye hay we did these things... jab un ki 2 din ki chuti hoti hay to hamara room kia ghar hi honey moon hota hay... muje surprise dene ka moka hi nahi ata.... wo hi dete rehte hain...... muj se frigidity b nahi hay.... main sex k liye jald taiyar b ho jati hun or hum enjoy b karte hain mager kuch dino se aysa ho raha hay..... k start to hum hote hay main enjoy b kar rahi hoti hun par aik dam se kuch ho jata hay jiss se main un ka sath nahi de pati hun...... hamari positions b change hoti rehti hay.... or jiss position main muje sahi lagay wo usi main sex karte hay........ i dont know aysa kyun ho raha hay......... dar lagta hay khabi un ko pata lagay to wo hurt ho gye... wo sex main har bat ka diyan rakhte hain muje kia acha lag raha hay kia nahi sab meri marzi pe hota hay.... muje dar lagta hay kahen ayse iss halat main hamri life ko nuksan na ho.... he loves me a lot 1 hour main 1 bar to phone zaroos karte hay....or kuch hua to bardast nahi kar sakon ghi.... muje kia karna chahiye..... tell me if any 1 can help on this...? |
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khan_80 |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Mar, 2007 Topic: 8 Post: 2604 Age:
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| Posted on:7th Jul 2007, 1:50pm |
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re: simmonash It shows that u have some hidden tension which is irritating ur mind and may be it is related to ur relationship as a couple or about ur husband's relationship (social) with others. |
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tsalam |
Group: Experts Joined: 07th Jul, 2007 Topic: 0 Post: 106 Age:
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| Posted on:7th Jul 2007, 5:28pm |
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 It may not have anything to do with sex
Are you having lack of interest and pleasure in other daily life things as you are having with sex. If so, is it continuous for more than 2 weeks at a time, and do you have disturbance in sleep, appetite, energy, body weight. If these are going on, then you could have some kind of depression, and a psychiatrist/psychologist may help you.
It is not clear how long have you been married, and why do you live apart and for how long? Do you have children? Do you live with your parents or with your in-laws? Do you work? These could be some sources of your problem. May be you are trying to define your life, your relationship subconsciously and without any resolution of your inner questions, you are feeling the way you are feeling these days.
Or, it could be that your are associating your husband return with having sex, and nothing else. This conditioned reflex that you developed can make your encounter with him monotonous. Do you go with movies or visit some places with your husband?
I am sorry that I cannot give you a clear one line answer sister, but I think there could be many issues in your life, which you havenot written.
May Allah shows you the way to be happy in this life and in the Hereafter.
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simmonash |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Apr, 2007 Topic: 15 Post: 33 Age:
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| Posted on:7th Jul 2007, 7:27pm |
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meri shadi ko 5 yrs ho gye hian.... i dont have any kid..... i dont live with my laws.... i meet them once a week and i meet with my parents once a week we talk on the phone.... i dont work....... i told u i am happy with my life..... i dont blame on my husband coz he is very loving and caring...... yes we do go on movies.... we go put having dinner outside... i am satisfied with my husband.... hamari Love marriage huye hay..... 5 years ago...... hamare paresns b hum se happy hain....... but i dont know y i am having this problem yeh ba last 1 week se aysa ho raha hay kyun pata nahi........ ager kisi ko kuch samaj aye to tell me.... thank you |
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tsalam |
Group: Experts Joined: 07th Jul, 2007 Topic: 0 Post: 106 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Jul 2007, 5:35pm |
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Follow-up I see that you live in the US, and have nothing to do. Life can be dull in this country if you have no other way to spend time when your husband is out to work. Try to find something that you like to do...perhaps study or work which you like that could help you pass the time.
You have not mentioned whether you have no problem with sleep, appetite, energy, mood, etc in your response. I guess you have no problem in these issues and the only problem is with sex. I guess you have health insurance, and you may consider seeing a psychologist if these symptoms persist. |
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khan_80 |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Mar, 2007 Topic: 8 Post: 2604 Age:
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| Posted on:9th Jul 2007, 8:56am |
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re: simmonash ur basic problem is "plenty of time and nothing to do" overcome this problem by finding some healthy activity which can make ur mind and soul free from worries, tensions and these useless thoughts. |
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Arsherum |
Group: Members Joined: 24th Nov, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 2 Age:
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| Posted on:16th Dec 2012, 3:42pm |
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just make sure nothing did
Your husband loves you alot so i think thats why you are not coperative with him, you married five years ago so just plan for your children now i thinks this will cause a big happiness in your life. King Regards
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