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| female w |
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| Posted on:28th Sep 2009, 6:29am |
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 My Husband Loves To Look At Other Girls?
does this mean he has lost interest in me? does this mean he wants someone new? is it that he wants someone sexy. though he still says that m very beautiful and he's lucky to have me.
It's okay if he looks her hair or eyes". But he stares their body and figure, even if she's girl or woman. It hurts me a lot. i believe there's nothing wrong with a slight glance at a beautiful women but he watches the same woman many times even when i noticed it. I think he has no control over it. as i've told him many times and he swear upon me, quran and even our love that he wont do it again but does the same every time.
why he does so?
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| female w |
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| Posted on:28th Sep 2009, 8:22am |
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one more thing
Another thing whenever we go out together he keeps doing the same behind my back, where as other men and even young boys stare at me as i dont look like a married woman. Everyone says m beautiful then why my husband look at other woman. Is that i I dont pay much attention on my dressing and makeup?
Sometime i become so hurt that i think i'll do the same, i mean watch other guys too. as i know if i do so they'll come to me and my husband get jealous.
what should i do? so that he'll go crazy for me. and be honest and obedient to me?
please reply and give suggestions. tell me what should woman do so that her husband being attracted to her and wont cheat her?
thank u
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| H/dr_Qasim |
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| Posted on:28th Sep 2009, 8:50am |
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famale w Wear good attractive dress change your hair style and you know which type of girls he want or like and try to be like them and at night you must be well dress in your bedroom for your husband and use good perfumes and love to your husband
Don’t worry just pray to Allah just and you don’t try to involve yourself with other guys like this you will destroy your relationship. |
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| Posted on:28th Sep 2009, 9:08am |
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re : Kuch mard hazraat ki bachpan se adat hoti hai khawateen ko ghoorne ki , wo na chahtey huve b females ki taraf dekhtey hein, Aur ye aik bad habit ban jati hai, Iss mein pareshan hone wali baat nahi.Follow instructions given by dr qasim. |
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| Posted on:28th Sep 2009, 9:21am |
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re: Kuch mard hazraat ki
Yeh problem 99% ki hai.Sirf teenagers hi nahi balke kabhi kabhi to burhay log bhi yehi kar rahe hote hain. |
| ~~HITMAN~~ |
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| Posted on:28th Sep 2009, 10:09am |
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rE: My husband loves to look at other girls Chonkay Paksitan main mardon ki shadi dair main honay ki riwayat hai, is liyain zyada tar mard chahay jahil hon ya parhay likhay illegal kamon main involve hojatay hain, jin main low level k mard apke husband jese hosaktay hain jo sirf females ki body ko dekh dekh kar enjoy kartay hain ya phir movies dekh kar kaam chalatay hain. is hi wajah se masturbation jesi bemari bhi parjati hai.
likin ye baat ehem hai k married honay k baad bhi mard dosri aurton ko dekhtay hain,.... iska reason 1 tou ye hosakti hai k gandi nazar se dekhne ki adat parjati hai is liyain har aurat ki body ko dekhay baghair chain nahi ata...ye bhi ek tarha ki lat hai mardon main......., dosri wajah ye hosakti hai k aese loag aurat ko aurat nahi samajhtay balkay object k toar per dekhtay hain, unki nazar main aurat ki koi izzat nahi hoti bas pyaas bhujanay ka samaan hota hai, 1 se dil bhara tou dosri ko pakar lia......
..... teesra reason ye hosakta hai k aurtain bhi aese libaas zaib tan kar k jati hain bahar k mard chahtay aur na chahtay hoe bhi dekhne per majboor hojatay hain, aur akhiri wajah ye hosakti hai k apke husband husn parast hongay.
app unse ye masla discuss karain beth kar, aur unhian batayen k app kitna hurt hoti hain is baat se, aur unhain samjhayen different tarekon se jese k hamari maan behne bhi hain agar unhain koi aese dekhay tou apko kesa lagay ga, ya aurat ki izzat kis tarha ki jati hai....ya unhain islamic reference dekar samjhayen aur ahadees dekhayen is baray main.
ek kaam ye bhi karain k unki pasand jannay ki koshish karain k wo kya chahtay hain kya nahi, hosakta hai app ki sirf khobsurti hi kaafi na ho apka behavior aesa ho jo k non attractive ho unke liyain, likin beth kar discuss karna hi best policy hai......app try karain.
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| khayali |
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| Posted on:28th Sep 2009, 12:18pm |
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 female w
well said by HITMAN bhai,,, |
| female w |
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| Posted on:28th Sep 2009, 3:47pm |
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importantly
My husband watches body of other woman secretly at internet as well and when he's out with me. We had big fights 7 or times and every time i cried and told him clearly it hurts me and makes me jealous and broken my already broken trust, he cried and swear on me and our love that he wont ever do it again but does so till ramadan. We had biggest fight ever again and this time we had terms and conditions signed on paper. On admitting his doings he also told me he used to fantasize those bodies not woman and masturbates and even fantasize when have sex with me (importantly mention we have sex 25 or 30 times since we r married, 1 year and 9 months) and since our daughter born and even not in pregnancy. but we were having oral sex often. It's a love marriage and i was and i'm still very beautiful to my husband as he says so. Is our relationship weekend?
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| female w |
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| Posted on:28th Sep 2009, 4:34pm |
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also: We both are if same age and it's love marriage, he was crazy for me before marriage. But after marriage i failed to keep my husband happy. m having troubled relationship from total loss of sexual desire. i have no sex drive at all now. I NEVER enjoyed sex. Its been one year and 9 months m married.
May be it's my mistake i can count we had sex only 25 or 30 times in
life. My vagina is too tight and i don't get wet either since m
married. I remember only two or three times i had light orgasm in my
life during sex. Now every time my husband tries to enter i
tightened myself that i couldn't control and feel unbearable pain. I don't know it's because i don't have sex frequently
or it's just fear or pain. I'm having troubled relationship cuz of
that. I blame my hubby too cuz he doesn't touch me the way i want and
he cant turn me on.
i want him to talk love, love slowly and gently, make
some romantic enviroment exactly as u told... but we never did anything
like that. I admire my poor hubby waited a lot just after marriage to have sex. We had sex after 4 months of marriage. then i remember we had sex once in a week for a
month... eventually i got pregnant and had an excuse.. He dint bother
me for nine months... All this while i we had sex for three or four
times, In between we went to honeymoon and sad thing is tht it wasnt a
honneymoon at all. And i know he truly loves me, since he's still with
me. Often we have fights and we talk about divorce but as soon as his
anger goes away he came up to me, touch my feet, hug me tight, kiss me
and cries like a baby and ask me not to leave him forever.
But he made me feel
inferior by watching other women, he swear he loves me and he says 'm beautiful and sexy... i know he loves me but he may
doesnt find me sexy enough.
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| ~~HITMAN~~ |
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| Posted on:29th Sep 2009, 1:05am |
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Continue.........
shukria khayali.
Female w: Apki baton se apke husband main 2 problems nazar ati hain aur 1 problem app main hai, apke husband ki pehli problem ka zikar upper kia hai k unhain sex movies ya sexual related material ki lat hai dekhne ki jiski wajah se wo fantasy main zyada involve rehna chahtay hain kyun k unki sex fantasy unhain appse romance karnay main maza nahi deti hai is liayin wo females body ko dekh k zyada khush hotay hain bajaye appse romance k. aur ab females body ko dekhay baghair unhain satisfaction bhi nahi milay gi.
dosri problem apke husband ki bhi hai aur apki bhi, app dono ko proper knowledge nahi hai romance karnay ki shayad jiski wajah se app apne husband ko satisfy nahi karpatin, ....iskey liyain app forum per mojood books ko achi tarha read karain aur har topic ko samjah k parhain aur learn karain different tactics aur saath main apne husband ko bhi read karwayen unmain bhi knowledge ki kami lagti hai , links ye hain.
Forplay
Azdawaji Khushiyaan
saath main app kisi tarha unki movies/sexual material dekhne ki lat ko khatam karnay ki koshish karain, yani internet aur tv pe wo jo kuch sexual material dekhtay hain us se roknay ki koshish karain, aur unpe nazar rakhain, jab ye cheez khatam hongi tou baaki sab kuch automatically khatam hojayega.
Husband ka in sab baton main mubtilah honay ki ek aur wajah islaam se doori hai, Namaz ,Quran shareef parhna shuru karain ge regular basis pe tou unper se shaitaan hat jayega inshallah.
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| TheRock |
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| Posted on:29th Sep 2009, 5:29am |
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@@@@female w if u bold enough sexy attractive and undress ur self for your husband any time frankly and boldly then he shuld not look at others girls bodies..........u r husband is look like a thurkey man.......anyways dont loose ur confidence u shuld not change or make ur self like others okay just show ur love and body to ur husband 24 hours wear good dressess whenever u in ur room wear sexy nighgties or sexy bra s panties in which u look more sexier then ever in the eye of ur husband and make him forget all others girls figures and bodies
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| female w |
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| Posted on:5th Oct 2009, 5:47pm |
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Response to hitman No, he doesn't watch sexual movies or porn. He just watched photos of woman in bra or panty specifically bras he like. he doesn't watch nude woman.
i agreed he is inexperience of sex like me.
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| female w |
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| Posted on:6th Oct 2009, 7:40am |
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the rock - i lost my confidence When first time i found him watching pictures of woman in bras. He said he accidentally watched them not purposely. I do believe him when he says that. I cleared out his computer and he promised me he wouldn't do it again. After a few months, i've been able to forgive him for it and move on.
Then again i found some photos. For 2 hrs he denied that the stuff was his. well, after digging around on his computer, I basically proved it had to have been him by the history that were saved. I was devestated... only to discover he broke a promise I held very dear.He finally confessed that a majority of it was he watched and he's been looking at the stuff again. He said he'd go 2 months without looking at it, then he'd start looking at it again. Every time he promised even swear upon me quran and our love. and every time he breaks it. The thing is, aside from his "problem" he's basically the perfect guy and a wonderful human being. He's nice, compassionate for others, determined, and I find him attractive. Above all else, I love him to death.
It's not the photos that hurts me so much, it's how he lied to me in front of my face and how long it took him to admit to the truth. he looked me in the eyes and lied to my face. He becomes compulsive liar. He denied everything until I showed him the proof that I knew he had. You know every know and then I still wonder if hes lying to me but were engaged now and I figure that if I dont snoop then im better off not knowing. It hurts too much to know that someone you love is looking at other women. He even looked me in the eyes and swore
that he doesn't do it.
Men do not realize that it makes us,their partners feel unloved. I really don't think he understands the scar he left on me. I don't think I look all that bad. The saddest thing about all of this is, he knows I know! I begged for him to stop watching it. I told him he needs to respect me. I get asked out all the time and compliments anytime I go out. He's the only one who makes me feel unattractive and unsexy by watching other sexy woman. i lost my confidence in me, i think m not sexy at all for him. i hate being undress infront of him. He
knows this and said he'd try harder to overcome his problem and he assured me that he loves me.
He knew how much it devastated me the first time around. He broke a promise several times. He kept saying I deserve better and that he'd understand if i'd break up with him, but I can't leave him even if that's true.I don't want him to deny it if he watched them. Then again, i'm afraid he'll continue to lie anyway for fear of hurting my feelings.
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| female w |
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| Posted on:6th Oct 2009, 8:01am |
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problems are: 1. He does something that hurts me a lot
2. He's a compulsive liar
3. Denied everything even if i proved
4. After proving he gets mad and call me bad names, hit me, talk abt divorce
5. He cant control his anger and says and do ANYTHING. he even said to me "talaq he, talaq namey pe sign kardo"
6. Admits the truth when things get out of hand
7. Promises and eventually breaks it later on.
Now i badly need advice how can i change him? he takes out his weapon and talks about killing himself. Later he said he didnt say anything like that about divorce.
i wonder why not any woman respond to my question? i hope its not just my husband who's like this. any woman please help me out how can i change my hubby? how can i attract him in me and not others. what other woman do to have their husband just theirs. crazy for wives. what should wives do so their husband wont even look at other woman.
aakhir aesa kiya karey wife k uska husband usi ka dewana rahey?
he wont even think to cheat his wife and get crazy for her wife.
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| H/dr_Qasim |
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| Posted on:6th Oct 2009, 8:17am |
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femalew sary murd dakhty hen ap apni life ko khurab ni kuro or life sy sumhota kuro agura p ziyada toko gi bar bar es tura jugro ghi tu ap apny pao py khod kolhari mro ghii so ziyada husband ko ni chyro ye na ho k wo gosy meh aa k koi gulti kur bathy
wo dykta hy tu dyakny du bus ap sy peyar kury ap ka khiyaal rukhy
ap on ko apna dewana bnana cahhati ho tu pher ap nok jok ot ziyada toko ni wo baher jo kurta hy adut sy mujboor kurny do es bat ko thek kurny meh time lugy ga es bat ko khod b sumjo
husband gur ay tu osy peyar or araam chaiye hota hy or agur ap gur meh es tura luri jugraa bnay rukho ge |
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| Posted on:15th Oct 2009, 1:46am |
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Calm Down Sis.. I agree with Dr.Qasim's advices and would like to add some more to it.
1) Love him "Unconditionally"
2) Tankeed na karein kisi cheez per bi and stay quiet, just wait and watch.
3) Apna banao singhaar karein theek sey, make yourself look beautiful and pretty all the times, specially when he is around.
4) When he looks at other females, don't pay attention to it, "bey neyaaz" ho jaein, I know it will be hard for anyone but you have to do it in order to improve your relationship.
Pyaar karein apney hubby ko, aik wife ki sab responsibilities poori karein, apney aap ko pretty rakhein, and just stay quiet. Try this for atleast a month, and you will see that your husband will be reaching for you, he will be dying for you inshaAllah!
Wish you luck..
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| TheRock |
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| Posted on:15th Oct 2009, 4:53am |
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@@@@female w mujhe laght ahai aap pyaar se samjhaoooo k aap asa na dekhaa karoooo womens koooo unko kahooo aap mjse demand karoooo me aapko body dikhaooongiiiii qk me aapki wife hoon women mard ko gunnah se tabi bachaa sakhti hai jo unko pasand hoo wasii rahein wsi hi bannaein or yeh cheez dekhnaa mardoon k liyeee NORMAL baat hai..............aap khod note karooo k wo kasi pictures dekhte hain agar wo cheez aap me unko mil jaayeee to shaid wo ksi or ko naa dekhein ismee koi buri baat nahin hai WOMENS can doo any thing for fulfilling her husband needs wht they want.............ALLAH ne shaadi ka kaha hi islyee hai k jo b khawish hai apni sirf bivi se poraa karoooooo isme koi buraai nahin he love to see bikini sexy girls aap khod wasi ban jaooooo unke saaamneee..............AGAR aap unki har khaawish pori karti hoooo or jab wo asa karte hian to pakka THURKEY INSAAN hai tmhare HUSBAND jiska kch nahin ho sakhta hai okay
try to make ur self the way he wanna seee you always
jissay unka mind kahin or divert na hoooo |
| female w |
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| Posted on:15th Oct 2009, 5:23pm |
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does that mean? Does that mean if i wont look like what he likes, if i wont makeover or wont look beautiful or wont wear sexy undergarments he will loss interest in me? i asked him and he said not at all as he says he loves me to death. I have make him understand with love and in a very gentle and honest way i've told him my feelings many times but he did the same.
Why will his mind diverts anywhere when he loves me unconditionally. He and everyone says i look more beautiful after marriage. Young guys look and come after me thinking 'm young college girl. I think if i look and notice other guys as he does to other girls, guys will definitely come to me as they even did when my husband isnt around but i dint even bother to look and notice anyone. But now i think if my husband does the same practice, i also will do the same and make him jealous, may be that would help him realize what it feels like.
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| stranger_1 |
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| Posted on:15th Oct 2009, 11:34pm |
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Wrong - this is not the "SOLUTION" Sis,
Staring at other guys to make him jealous is not a good idea, it will catalyze the destruction process of your relation. Your husband is already doing enough to destroy your marital relationship, if you will start looking at guys as a revenge and to make him jealous then it will not take much time to ruin your marital relationship. Aap kay husband pehley hi aag lagaa rahey hain, agar ap bi ghusey mey aa kar aag lagana start kardein gee tou sab jal jaaey ga... n remember kay jo jal raha hai woh aap ka aur aap kay husband ka mutual ghar hai, aap ka mutual relationship hai. Agar aap kay husband ko iss rishtey ka khayal nai tou atleast aap tou khayal karein... Taakey kal ko aap kay dil mey koi doubt na ho, koi malaal na ho kay aap ney iss rishtey ko bachaney kay liey kuch nai kia....
As i can understand kay aap ka basic maksad iss rishtey ko, apney ghar ko ujarney sey bachana hai, your husband is not showing any "SENSE" and "CARE" but sis aap tou akalmand hain, try to cool down your mind, kuch time kay liey jhuk jao, sacrifice for your relationship, for your parents, for your inlaws.
Another thing, what if you involve some your in-laws in this matter, is there anyone there that you can trust? who is close to you, mother in law, nand, or dewar? you can share this prob with them in a polite way and take advice.
Take care and wish you luck!
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| TheRock |
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| Posted on:16th Oct 2009, 9:34am |
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@@@female@@Exactly i mean that yeh waja hai aapke husband khul kar bataate nahin hai k aap sexy dresses or bold hoo jaoo unke saaath agar asi baat hai to woo ksi or bikini girls ko q dekhte hian ya nude girls q dekhte hain actually waja yehi hai or fitrat hai mard ki k agr unko aik jagaa see wo sab kch nahin milraha hai jo wo chaate hain to wo kahin na kahin seee apni zrorat or khaiwish pori karne baahar nikal jaate hain islyeee aap un ka khaas khayaal rakhhooo aap observe karoo k unko kia pasand hai aap mee aapki body meee or wo kaise aapko dekh kar zada khush hote hain samjhiii yeh aapka FARZ hai realize karnaaa.............kahin aapke husband gunnah ki tarf na chalay jaein ALLAH na kary islyeee aap hi unki har zrorat ko pora karoodooooo khul kar yaar ur husband is ur garments BE BOLD SEXY ATTRACTIVE SEDUCTIVE FORYOUR HUSBAND |
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