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cherry |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Apr, 2007 Topic: 9 Post: 124 Age:
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| Posted on:16th May 2007, 4:29am |
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 My Friend Became Anger On My Engagement
dear forum members, im facing a problem since my engagement. but before telling the main problem, mai aap ko thora background bata don....mai ek noble family se belong karti hon. my father, mother, sister and brother are doctors...shayad aap mai se bohot se logon ne mere father ka naam sun rakha hoga b/c he is a famous doc. mai childhood se co-edu mai parhti rahi hon....mere childhood se sirf 2 friends the...1 girl named 'N' and 1 boy named 'B'. ham sath bare howe...hamari families apas mai friends hain....after our A levels....B ki ammi ne meri mama se hamari shadi ki baat kari and she told that B childhood se mujhse mohabbat karta hai....i was surprised bcoz ham 3 sirf friends ki tarha rehte the aur es type ka koi discussion kabhi nahi kara tha...but my mother said ke B bohot acha larka hai aur hamari puri family ko bohot pasand hai.....jab she asked me....mujhe bhi refuse karne ki koi waja nazar nahi aai....he is my best friend....he knows me more than my ownself....i likes him so i replied in yes......but the real problem started then....my friend N opposed it badly...even she was very good friend of B but she said that im destroying my life. she has no sound reasons in doing so....B is perfect in life, nature, character and education but she insisted me not to get engaged with him. she got angry over me and left the city for higher studies....then....now B is an Engineer....we got officially engaged an year ago....N left the country after listening this news and broke all contacts with us....i asked her family but they dont know anything......now im so sad without her....im getting married soon but im very depressed for her....i dont know what to do??? she always said that she feels B as a brother and me as a sister (she is only child of her parents). now....i dont know what happened to her.....plzzzzzzz help me......plz give ur precious suggestions and opinions. im waiting...................................
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coool |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Apr, 2007 Topic: 10 Post: 17 Age:
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| Posted on:16th May 2007, 5:48am |
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what i say to u dear sis main yahan aapko 1 baat bata doon k yeh web site logon k sex problem ko solve karnay k liye ahi na k family matter k solve karnay k liye
or agar aapki frd insist kar rahee hai k us se engagment na karo to us se solid reason poocho ya ho sakta hai k wo khood uski mohabat main giraftar ho |
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khan_80 |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Mar, 2007 Topic: 8 Post: 2604 Age:
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| Posted on:16th May 2007, 6:11am |
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Noor Clinic is a medical web site but we welcome the social problems and their solutions also bcoz we all are part of this society and can talk on social issues also keeping only one thing in mind that this is not a chatroom or gup shup corner. u can come up with ur sexual, physical, social or religious problem to this forum.
thanx. |
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SMARTEE |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Apr, 2007 Topic: 3 Post: 121 Age:
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| Posted on:16th May 2007, 6:22am |
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You are a good writer I like this story, but may be your story is true in this case I am agree with coool. |
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Dr Rizwan |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 1 Post: 519 Age:
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| Posted on:16th May 2007, 6:45am |
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non-sex problems allowed here You can see on the left side of the page that question on following categories (other than sex) are also welcome:
Discussion
In this category, People can discuss all their health matters in the light of given knowledge by Islam which has been designed for Humanity.
Religion and Sex
Like masturbation, sex movie, oral sex, anal sex, wife milk feeding etc.. .
Religion and Culture
TV, Cable, Internet, Fashion, Co-education ........ .
Social Problem
Marriage, Divorce, Job, Education ...... .. .
General Health
All health problems other than sex problem.. .
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cherry |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Apr, 2007 Topic: 9 Post: 124 Age:
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| Posted on:17th May 2007, 10:22am |
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friendz.....plz give ur opinions......im very much worried and tens.....aap log apne suggestions den plzzzzz..........this is not a story, smartee...... its a very big problem of my life......it is even affecting my relation with my fiancee'.........plz help me......i have just connected internet for this purpose. |
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fazia |
Group: Members Joined: 21st Apr, 2007 Topic: 14 Post: 47 Age:
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| Posted on:17th May 2007, 11:48pm |
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reply to "complicated problem" Dear CHERRY as cool said apko apni frnd sy reason b pooochni chahye.daikhain ap k parents ap say n ap ki frnd say bahtar janty hain.but phir b ap apni frnd sy openly poochain k y she is so much angry upon u.kia aisi bat hai k jis ki wajah say woh aisy kar rahi hai.n plz apapny fiance say apna realtion mat kharab karain.ap tensed na hon.coz woh ap sy true love karta hai to woh hurt ho ga.or kisi true sinceer bandy ko hurt nahin karna chahye.
ap APNI FRND SY CLEARIFICATION MANGAIN.SOLID REASON. |
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umairidris |
Group: Members Joined: 11th May, 2007 Topic: 14 Post: 33 Age:
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| Posted on:17th May 2007, 5:18pm |
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mere khayal se aap ki friend khud B se mohabbat karti hai aur us se shaadi karna chahati hai |
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beshram |
Group: Members Joined: 21st Apr, 2007 Topic: 0 Post: 12 Age:
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| Posted on:17th May 2007, 11:54pm |
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hi i think u can use some other forum
Moderator Note: This topic can be best discussed in this forum too
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Bewaqoof |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 253 Post: 4304 Age:
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| Posted on:18th May 2007, 12:08pm |
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re: cherry mera khial hai keh:
1. N ko B se muhabbat thi aur woh kisi munasib waqt ki talash mai thi jab woh khood muhabbat ka izhar karti ya phir B ki taraf se kisi qisim ki peshqadmi hoti. lekin jab achank ose maloom hua keh B ki engagement ap se horahi hai tu woh B ko tu apne ap se muhabbat karne par majboor nahi kar sakti is lia chaha keh ap khood hi rasta se hat jai.
2. Ho sakta hai keh N aur B ki dosti zaroorat se kuch ziadah hi age thi jis ka ap ko ilm nahi. N ne B ki muhabat mai apne ap ko B ke hawale kia hoga. lekin jab shadi ka waqt aya tu B ne ap ko pasand kia. Mardo ki nafsiat hai keh wo jis larki se sex karte hai ose bator bivi qabool nahi karte. isi lia jab B ne ap ko propose kia tu zahir hai keh B ne N ko dhoka dia. N yeh bat khul kar har aik ko nahi kah sakti keh B ne os ke sath kia kia. lekin agar waqi aisi bat hai tu N ka moqif bilkul durust hai keh B theek banda nahi hai.
3. jab tak sahi soorat hal ka ilm na ho kisi qisim ka mashwarah nahi dia jasakta. agar B ap ko propos karta hai aur N ko nahi tu is mai ap ka qasoor nahi. lekin agar doosri bat drust hai tu aisi soorat mai ap ka farz hai keh ap B ko majboor kare keh wo ap ki bajai N se shadi kare.
4. opar jo kuch bataya tasawarati batai hai. haqeeqat jane beghair kisi qisim ka mashwarah nahi dia jasakta.
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khan_80 |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Mar, 2007 Topic: 8 Post: 2604 Age:
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| Posted on:20th May 2007, 9:05am |
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u better ask ur friend the whole thing clearly and ask her to make ur mind free from the tension before marriage bcoz this can affect ur married life also.
ask ur fiancee also about this situation, if he know anything, he can help u out. |
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cherry |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Apr, 2007 Topic: 9 Post: 124 Age:
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| Posted on:21st May 2007, 2:23pm |
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mujhe apne fiancee par poora bharosa hai..............woh childhood se hi mujh se har har baat share karta hai.......i know each and every thing about him............bewaqoof ki baat se mujhe bohot takleef howi ke mere fiancee aur meri friend ke relations ho sakte hain..........he is a very religious and sophisticated person...........its not possible........aap log plz mujhe es mushkil se nikalne mai help karen.............i'll be thankful to u all. |
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cherry |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Apr, 2007 Topic: 9 Post: 124 Age:
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| Posted on:21st May 2007, 2:25pm |
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faisee bhai, i admire ur wisdom and approach.............plz help me............also the senior members plz reply karen............im very anxious. |
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FAHRENHEIT |
Group: Members Joined: 21st May, 2007 Topic: 1 Post: 19 Age:
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| Posted on:21st May 2007, 6:07pm |
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 COULD BE A LOVE TRIANGLE?
USUALLY IT HAPPENS IN DRAMS OR NOVELS...
WELL...MY SUGGESTION WOULD BE QUITE SIMPLE JUST TRUST ON THE GOD AND DO WHAT YOUR PARENTS WANT ... MAY BE YOU GET SOME SATISFACTION IN SUCH A WAY ... |
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faisee |
Group: Active Members Joined: 13th Feb, 2007 Topic: 79 Post: 776 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd May 2007, 12:54am |
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Re: Cherry I read your problem and it seems somehow complicated too but if you take it light then it wont make you much worried.
I couldn't understand that if she was your sincere friend then why did he react like that? If your family agrees and you agree then it seems that everything in future will be going fine InshaAllah. Sometimes it may happen that since you wre all friends to each other equally so she couldnt bear this thing that you will be attached with her more strongly. Or there is a chance that she might be liking him. In any case, this thing is over and you guys are attached and looking for a happy future. Also yeh baat apnay mind sai nikal do kai us nai tumhari wajah sai yeh city ya yeh country chor dia. She left for her career, I dont know the in depth sentimental attachment, laikin yeh sab batain jazbatee hotee hain. App bas Allah sai behtree ki ummed rakhain aur agar us friend sai contact ho tu us sai hamesha ki tarah baat karain aur baqi attachment ki baat per kahain kai yeh aap ki family ki marzi thi so you couldnt do much , aur baqi yeh faislay tu Allah ki marzi sai hotay hain, so you have left everything on Allah. Sometimes jealousy may happen. Since I dont know you and your situation in that detail so thats the best thing came in my mind.
In conclusion, if she want to talk to you, welcome her with open arms, and if she dont, just remain calm and enjoy every moment of the running time. Dont think too much on this matter, as after some years you will understand by yourself that this matter was not worth to give that much importance. please please forgive me if I have written something with conflict with your thinking, but see be realistic in your life and give priority and preferences to most attached relations in your life like your parents, siblings and then your life partner. So much to say, but I think you have gotten the idea. Thanks.(May Allah forgive me for any mistake.) |
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Bewaqoof |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 253 Post: 4304 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd May 2007, 5:16am |
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re: cherry mai ne tu koi final bat nahi ki hai. mai ne sirf apna opinion dia hai aur woh bhi lafz ho sakta hai istemal kia hai. mai jo bhi kahta hoon apne wasee tajarbe ki bunyad par kahta hoon.
har bat har aik ko nahi batai jati. jis tarah ap ke parents ko ap par bahut etmad aur bharosa hai lekin os ke bawajood ap is forum par abheshak aur aishwaria par abusive joke post karti hai. kia ap ke parents is bat ko mane ge ke on ki daughter forum par abusive joke post karti hai.
isi tarah meri batai bhi ap ko naqabil-e-yaqeen lag raha hai. allah kare ke meri bat ghalat hi ho. mai bhi nahi chahta keh meri postulation theek hi sabit ho.
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cherry |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Apr, 2007 Topic: 9 Post: 124 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd May 2007, 11:27pm |
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aap log jo etne abusive post karte hain woh kuch nahi.............aap ne jo faisee bhai ko kaha ke woh hymen par phd kar rahe hain aur unki future wife ko bhi bola woh kuch nahi...........mai ne tou sirf joke send kiya tha........etna abusive bhi nahi tha jo apko etna bura laga..........pahle aap yeh forum parhen,,,,ap ko idea hojaega ke log kitna abusive post karte hain........mujhe lagta hai kali zuban hi bewaqoof hai..........bcoz pahle kali ke aik aik din mai hazaron reply ate the aur ab kali ghayab hai aur yeh kala mouth wala bewaqoof agaya maidaan mai.........yeh dono aik hain.....aur dr.rizwan.........aap ne penis size survey jesi fuzool post tou delete ki nahi, meri post edit kardi...........khair.............i apologize on that post............ok..................im a good girl........plz bewaqoof tum mere parents ka naam bhi mat lo........warna tumhara kala mu band karna ata hai mujhe............thank you faisee bhai for ur reply.......kash forum par sirf aap jese educated log hon.
Moderator Note: We have deleted all abusive post. If still thee, please be mentioned, we will delete those too.
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cherry |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Apr, 2007 Topic: 9 Post: 124 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd May 2007, 11:31pm |
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aray mere problem ka tou reply do friendsssssssssss |
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Bewaqoof |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 253 Post: 4304 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd May 2007, 12:09pm |
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re: cherry problem ka kia reply dia jai. reply dene wale darte hai keh agar reply pasand nahi aya tu nikalne wala dhua kon bardasht kare ga.
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cherry |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Apr, 2007 Topic: 9 Post: 124 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd May 2007, 12:18pm |
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ok..........ok.........cease fire..........ab nahi bologi..........ab tou reply karo friends and my dear bewaqoof friend. |
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