|
shweet |
Group: Members Joined: 07th May, 2007 Topic: 4 Post: 7 Age:
35
|
|
| Posted on:12th May 2007, 6:40am |
|
| |
 A Few Rules for A Happy Marriage
1. Tell each other you love each other. 2 Never both be angry at the same time. 3 If you have to criticise, do it lovingly. 4 Never bring up old mistakes. 5 Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. 6 Neglect the whole dunya rather than each other. 7 Pray together at least once a day. 8 Remember that behind every successful spouse is an exhausted partner. 9 Remember it takes two to quarrel. 10 When you have done something wrong, admit it. 11 At least once a day, say something kind or complimentary to your partner. 12 Do not go to bed more than ten minutes after your partner. 13 Listen when your partner is speaking. 14 Remember that your spouse is more important than the television/match/video etc. 15 Notice when your partner is wearing something new, or has a new hairdo. 16 Remember anniversaries. 17 Thank your partner for their gift, or effort on your behalf. 18 Last one up, make the bed. 19 Notice when your spouse looks tired, and do something about it. 20 Never run your partner down, or criticise them in public.
|
|
Danish Pk |
Group: Members Joined: 02nd Apr, 2007 Topic: 7 Post: 91 Age:
34
|
|
| Posted on:12th May 2007, 7:25am |
|
| |
i agree Shweet A nice post from Shweet.
all the member are requsted to follow the instruction i have found it best. |
|
khan_80 |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Mar, 2007 Topic: 8 Post: 2604 Age:
33
|
|
| Posted on:18th Aug 2007, 1:23am |
|
| |
members! do comment on it. This is a very nice post, i personally request all the members to participate in this discussion and give ur suggestions too. |
|
faisee |
Group: Active Members Joined: 13th Feb, 2007 Topic: 79 Post: 776 Age:
30
|
|
| Posted on:18th Aug 2007, 1:27am |
|
| |
Re: shweet nice post. keep it up. can't say much coz i m unmarried yet, but logically it feels perfect advice for couples. give love and take heaven.
|
|
josh |
Group: Members Joined: 30th Jul, 2007 Topic: 47 Post: 2296 Age:
36
|
|
| Posted on:18th Aug 2007, 3:56am |
|
| |
 Nice Post Brother!
faisee say something, i am sure you can't be agree to all the above mentioned rules. if you want to share something with us.
i couldn't understand the 6th point "Neglect the whole dunya rather than each other", i dont know k shweet nay kis sense mai isko likha hai, lekin muje jo samajh i hai uskay mutabik sahi nahi hai, bcoz if you will neglect the whole dunya including your parents just bcoz of a wife, then you will have to burn in jahannum ki aag. |
|
anjani_222 |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Aug, 2007 Topic: 2 Post: 13 Age:
28
|
|
| Posted on:18th Aug 2007, 10:33am |
|
| |
yup!! nIce post thanks for the share
|
|
sunehri76 |
Group: Members Joined: 04th Aug, 2007 Topic: 99 Post: 4638 Age:
37
|
|
| Posted on:19th Aug 2007, 10:55am |
|
| |
josh&shweet; josh lagta hai ap shadi shuda jodon se bade chalu ho???
i think "Neglect the whole dunya rather than each other", ye isi sence me likha hoga(without family)
..Shweet
nice post,personaly nr 2 mere lye zara mushkil ho jata hai but baki sab thik chal raha hai..lol
|
|
josh |
Group: Members Joined: 30th Jul, 2007 Topic: 47 Post: 2296 Age:
36
|
|
| Posted on:19th Aug 2007, 11:13pm |
|
| |
Sunehri! mainay to bas wohi kaha jo samajh lagi, and i am unmarried , to meri soch bi bohat say mamlaat mai limited hi hai,, or jo shadi shuda log hain wo shayed ziada behtar samajh saktay hain pyar mohabbat wali baton ko, may be shweet, band-kamray ki baat kar raha hai, k band-kamray mai aik dosray mai itna kho jao k phir sab kuchh bhool jao. |
|
Azfar-K |
Group: Members Joined: 01st Mar, 2009 Topic: 3 Post: 772 Age:
|
|
| Posted on:30th Jun 2009, 6:42pm |
|
| |
 re:
nice post. |
|
sweetquest |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Mar, 2009 Topic: 4 Post: 34 Age:
28
|
|
| Posted on:30th Jun 2009, 10:11pm |
|
| |
reply nice post .good job
|
|
saahilbhai |
Group: Members Joined: 31st Oct, 2007 Topic: 17 Post: 971 Age:
28
|
|
| Posted on:1st Jul 2009, 1:13am |
|
| |
very Good shweet very nice post keep it up. |
|
made4u |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Aug, 2008 Topic: 11 Post: 439 Age:
|
|
| Posted on:1st Jul 2009, 4:57pm |
|
| |
shweet boht Umda.. thank you. |
|
atiqueje |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Jun, 2009 Topic: 16 Post: 289 Age:
37
|
|
| Posted on:2nd Jul 2009, 1:00am |
|
| |
shweet bot achay bhai bot achay.waqai ye asool life ko hushgwar bana datay hain. regards u |
|
cosmo |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Apr, 2007 Topic: 23 Post: 272 Age:
41
|
|
| Posted on:24th Sep 2009, 8:56am |
|
| |
apologize Golden rule: always try to be first to apologize for your mistake, and buy her/him a gift. |
|
naive |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Oct, 2009 Topic: 0 Post: 23 Age:
30
|
|
| Posted on:19th Oct 2009, 7:00pm |
|
| |
 hmm
Very nice post.
|
|
m.ahmed |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Nov, 2011 Topic: 2 Post: 28 Age:
30
|
|
| Posted on:19th Nov 2011, 3:39am |
|
| |
Kind and Appropriate Very nice and kind post. Applies both to men and women, and that makes it comprehensive. I would like to add one more thing.
In Pakistan, people have very little chance to get education about social, family, domestic and cultural dimension of life. So the very first thing one must understand before marriage and afterwards is "Her Rishtay ka aik daira (Circle) hai" if you maintain the sanctity of that circle, and manage all your relations keeping them in their context without interlocking them, you live a happy married life, and a happy life overall.
Moreover, the relation with lifepartner or spouse is the deepest of all. Zindagi ka dhara aise hi behta hai, one gets born due to parents, who bring him/her up, but eventually they die, and that human lives his/her life with her spouse, and brings up another family unit. If people understand the nature of relations, and follow religious teachings, life becomes a blessing.
|
|
SAD LADY |
Group: Members Joined: 16th Oct, 2012 Topic: 2 Post: 13 Age:
34
|
|
| Posted on:16th Oct 2012, 4:57pm |
|
| |
 please anwer me.
Praise be to Allaah.
If a man gives his
wife gold that is not part of the mahr, if his intention was to give it as a
gift, then the gold has become her property, and it is not permissible for
him to take back this gift.
Al-Bukhaari (2589)
and Muslim (1622) narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allah be pleased with him)
said: The Prophet (sa) said: “The one who takes back his gift is like the
dog which vomits then goes back to its vomit.”
Al-Bukhaari (2622)
also narrated: “We are not like the bad example of the one who takes back
his gift; he is like a dog that goes back to its vomit.”
This hadeeth
indicates that it is haraam to take back a gift.
The scholars of
the Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas were asked: A man gave his entire
house and all the furniture in it as a gift to his wife; can he take back
his gift, and how?
They replied:
If the wife has
not taken possession of what her husband gave her in a way that is
customarily regarded as taking possession of something, then he may take
back his gift. Hoever, this is not regarded as dignified conduct, because
the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The one who
takes back his gift is like the dog that goes back to its vomit.” If she has
taken possession of it in a manner that may be regarded as attaining
ownership according to custom, then it has become her property and he cannot
take it back, according to Islam, except with her consent. Nevertheless, if
he takes it back after she willingly returned it to him, that is contrary to
decency and dignified conduct. If they disagree concerning the gift and what
is regarded as taking possession of it, then the matter should be settled in
the sharee‘ah courts.
End quote from
Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah, 16/247
Shaykh ‘Abd
al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz, Shaykh ‘Abd ar-Razzaaq ‘Afeefi, Shaykh ‘Abdullah ibn
Munay ‘ ya jo uper main nay send kiya hy.main ya janna chahty hoon kay ya theek hy sab. kion kay marha sawal ya hay kay maree jab shadee hoi tu mary shuher .nay marha 12 tolha gold ju tha .wo shadi kay 2months baad wapis ly liya tha .ur muj ko patta bhi nahin chalha. bad main patta chalha tha jab main ny box degha tha. ab main wapas maang rahi hoon wo muj ko wapas deety nahin hain. uur kabhi bolty hain choore hoo geeya hay .kabhi bolty hain main ny bank main raghaya hy. her month pasy milty hain fix hay woo. mary saas susser ko bhi patta hy. laken koi khuch nahin bolta. uur jab say shadee hoi hay muj ko koi kharcha nahin deeya geeya. main job karty thee uur apny shuher ko bhi passy deety thee. uur apna bhi kharcha poorha karty thee. ik saal howa hy maree shadee ko. hach ghsy bandy hain but patta nahin kiya kar rahy hain . samaj nahin aa rahi muj ko . kay kiya chahty hain .uur mary sath her time jaghrah laghaty hain. phly mary is sawal ka jawa din please pher main aap ko apni pooree storee sonaion gee. nikha nama par bhi wrtie howa hy ka roghsty kay time 12 tolha gold dolhen ko batoory gift deeya jay gha. but mary shuher bolty hain kay woo hamarha tha serf tum ko pahna kar lay hain. i dont understand any thin. please help me. i need realy help from u all. becouse i am very sad. dowa goo sab kay leeya/ app ki bahen
|
|
BismaFA |
Group: Members Joined: 13th Oct, 2012 Topic: 6 Post: 198 Age:
27
|
|
| Posted on:17th Oct 2012, 10:06am |
|
| |
Sad Lady i am very sorry jo ap ka sath hova ya ho rha hay, khair main khud iss ka haq main nai jo paisa or gold ka uper baat aa jayay us main rishta daari nahi rahti na payar rahta hay.. ya batayay ap ki arrange marrige the ya love or ap ki age kiya hay or ap ka hubby ki...? Or kahani batain kiya hoova thaa..
|
|
khan687 |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Oct, 2012 Topic: 1 Post: 4 Age:
27
|
|
| Posted on:18th Oct 2012, 9:47am |
|
| |
to s a koi paison ke poojari hain jitna bhi paisa ho o reheta nahi apne upar ka sadqa gaya samajh kar chodden sone ki waje se jhagda nakaren . |
|
jani786 |
Group: Members Joined: 21st Oct, 2012 Topic: 2 Post: 6 Age:
27
|
|
| Posted on:24th Oct 2012, 4:18am |
|
| |
 sad lady
I agree with khan k paisaon ka lalach hota ye sab jahan tak gold ki bat he to us ki waja se jhagra nhi hona chahiye lakin jo apki basic needs hain paisay hain jo apko nhi milte apne hubbi ki taraf se its a bad thing ye apka haq he or ye apko milna chahiye is k lie apko waqt e zarrorat koi hatmi faisla karna ho ga. |
|