Does The Bed Sheet After Wedding Night Is Checked For Blood?

Aslam-o-alaikum.mje ap se ek bat pochnni ti,me ne suna ha k shadi ki phli rat k bad agle din gar ki bari aurtein a kr chek krti ha k sheet par blood lga ha ya ni or agr na ho lrki ko galt smjti ha kya ye sach ha

hmm

very cheap thought

stupidity

this is sheer stupisity.I agree with sharmilly,its husband who matters most in this situation.if he is ok,than its none of anyone's else F business.

Because if they dont have sex on first night?would these daadiyaan and company still judge her like that?Ridicuous...anyways..i think gals should try to save their hypen till marriage coz it really really matters for the man.But in case she lost it for any other reason she should swear on the Quran to satisfy her husband.

but she really did something bad gefore marriage than she desrves to face the music.i would have no sympathy with such shameless gal.

dom man

yeah very right

i have said 1000 times girls don,t do sex with ur bf but nobody here it really matters

and one point more people say that khel khod mein hosakta hai ki hymen rapture hojai but u have to know that the chances of rapture in that case is very low

i have been in sport i have been cyclying and cimbed on the wall when i was a child and had many activites but Thank God my hymen was not raptured and i had bleeding for few days God knows how proud i was and how much my hubby was happy that i had saved my everything for him...

although he told me that it doesn,t matters for him and he knows much about the hymen etc.... but i was not satisfied with the answer coz i had bleeding when he told me he wouldn,t care if i wouldn,t have bleeding. then what would be his reaction..... kehna asan hai but real mein face karna is difficult.

It is naturally that man would love to see her wife to have bleeding, BUTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT Guys 

If soemgirls won,t bleed doesn,t mean that they are bad girls or that they have had any affair PLzzzzzzzzzzz

Do Notice this they can miss their hymen in childhood too and some maybe won,t have it naturally

So don,t think like old Grandma and be Happy

dom man

yeah very right

i have said 1000 times girls don,t do sex with ur bf but nobody here it really matters

and one point more people say that khel khod mein hosakta hai ki hymen rapture hojai but u have to know that the chances of rapture in that case is very low

i have been in sport i have been cyclying and cimbed on the wall when i was a child and had many activites but Thank God my hymen was not raptured and i had bleeding for few days God knows how proud i was and how much my hubby was happy that i had saved my everything for him...

although he told me that it doesn,t matters for him and he knows much about the hymen etc.... but i was not satisfied with the answer coz i had bleeding when he told me he wouldn,t care if i wouldn,t have bleeding. then what would be his reaction..... kehna asan hai but real mein face karna is difficult.

It is naturally that man would love to see her wife to have bleeding, BUTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT Guys 

If soemgirls won,t bleed doesn,t mean that they are bad girls or that they have had any affair PLzzzzzzzzzzz

Do Notice this they can miss their hymen in childhood too and some maybe won,t have it naturally

So don,t think like old Grandma and be Happy

right sharmilly

and one point more people say that khel khod mein hosakta hai ki hymen rapture hojai but u have to know that the chances of rapture in that case is very low"

I agree with u its not that easy that hymen rupture during supports and stuff though exceptions are always there.Husband really feels satisfied when he sees his wife bleeding during first intercourse.Every man on this planet wanna have sex with a virgin at least once in his life time and i our culture it has to be wife.

On my wedding night it took a lot of fingering and to hymen my wife's rupture and when i penetrate my penis i still had to make hard stroke to completly rupture it.i wondered that how easily people say that it can rupture by cycling and stuff.why do cycle at all before marriage? are those gals moms dumb?

yes in some cases everything is possible but if it happens she should take oath on the QUran that she didnt do anything nasty before marriage,it would satisfy both of them.After all it is the dream of every man to see his wife bleeding during first time.

Gals should avoid all those activities which can harm their hymen.

dom_man

i wondered that how easily people say that it can rupture by cycling and stuff.

Dear the hardness of the hymen is variable from women to woman. and in some woman it dos not even break by intercourse and it is some time removed by surgery or it is removed during child birth.

on the other hand in some women it can easly break, by cycling etc.
Bilkul mardoon main penis ki tarha is main bhi hotaht variation hoty hai...

re: Does The Bed Sheet After Wedding Night IS Checked?

In women, there is a tissue called the hymen, which blocks the entrance of the vagina. This is something that is present in all women naturally. During the first sexual act for a woman, or when a woman loses her virginity, this tissue ruptures due to the insertion of a foreign object in an area where no such thing has occurred before. Sometimes, some women bleed at the rupturing or tearing of the hymen. While this may cause some discomfort and mild pain to a woman, it is rarely a cause for concern after the first time she has sex. It is also important for you to know that the bleeding would be slight, perhaps restricted to a few drops. It is not as if this will make a lady bleed copiously.
It is important for you to know that it is not always that the hymen ruptures and bleeds. There are certain activities that are known to damage or rupture the hymen other than having sex. These would commonly include horse riding or excessive cycling or swimming as well as wearing tampons during the menstrual period. As believed in certain ancient cultures, bleeding during intercourse is not considered a sign of virginity anymore, and it must also not be taken as such. It is also good to know that if appropriate care is taken to make the woman feel comfortable and there is appropriate sexual stimulation, then she will not be in any kind of pain, and in all possibility may not even bleed. A certain amount of gentleness is called for to make her feel comfortable, and preferably, it should be exercised.

Well this is a wrong practice in our society that the people think wrong if the bleeding doesn't happen on first night. Some of them directly ask from the groom on the next day while others check the bed sheets and towels. Well is it possible to have bleeding even the bride is virgin? As already discussed NO.

The people are going to become more mature and broad minded now a days. Majority of them have left this wrong practice of investigating about the virginity. I am hope full that the time is near when the people minds will be changed entirely.

MNA 1987

doctor kk

I am hope full that the time is near when the people minds will be changed entirely.")))

I agree with most of what u have said except the line i have quoted from your post.In what way u want people to change? Shouldnt they be concious about gal's virginity anymore or should they reaize that the hymen can be ruptured by other means as well.what do u mean by that.

And do oversimplify the issue of taboos and totems in the society.some taboos play a very important role to channalise the general psyche of the masses.

Taboo has become a negative word but its not that negative.ISlamic moralities,if are left. just on the understanding of the individual would perish very soon.U cant igore the pragmatic view of moralities in the islamic context.

After all its the "fear of husband" that prevent some gals to do zina before marriage.if this hymen issue is discouraged so much than such gals would find an excuse to do nasty things before marriage.

If a gal's hymen was ruptured before marriage due to some non-sexual causes than she should swear on the Quran to satisfy her husband.That would be much better in that sitaution instead of giving gals this excuse to do all the unislamic things.

correction plz

And do oversimplify

read as

And do not oversimplify

re: Does The Bed Sheet Should Be Checked After Wedding Night

First of all I would like to thank that dom_man has accepted my all statements except the one that he has quoted. Well the meanings of that line were simple. The line was “I am hopeful that the time is near when the people’s minds will be changed entirely”. I meant to say here that a time will come when the people will be able to realize and understand that bleeding on wedding night is not the true sign of whether the woman is virgin or not. When these people agreed for a girl then what they want to look for after Nikkah? Are they searching whether they have chosen a right thing? Let suppose the girl is virgin but unfortunately she doesn’t bleed on wedding night then what they would do? Whether they give any punishment to her by any means only due to the fact that she did not bleed? What do you thing is that right? A lot of people are there to point on girls, fewer are in their favor.

After all it’s the "fear of husband" that prevents some gals to do zina before marriage. if this hymen issue is discouraged so much than such gals would find an excuse to do nasty things before marriage.

I have quoted your line as above and I want its justification. Is it fear of husband that prevents a girl from nasty things before marriage? Do they have fear of Husband? Where is God and its fear who remains all the time with us and who sees what we are doing and nothing is hidden before his eyes. How much boys do fear of their coming wives when they do NASTY things before marriage and no body knows about them and their activities since they don’t have any thing like hymen to bleed on the wedding night. Please don’t take it negative and I am not encouraging girls to go NASTY things, rather I am giving argument in the favor of their virginity.

If a gal's hymen was ruptured before marriage due to some non-sexual causes than she should swear on the Quran to satisfy her husband. That would be much better in that situation instead of giving gals this excuse to do all the unislamic things.

You have told that wife must swear on Quran if she doesn’t bleed in front of husband that she had not committed any NASTY thing in her past and the cause of rupture is non sexual. Who knows that if the hymen is ruptured on the wedding night then the wife is virgin? Have you heard about Hymenoplasty? If not then I would add in your knowledge that in this process the Hymen can be reconstructed and it will become like the hymen of a true virgin and even it will bleed on intercourse. Now suppose, a virgin does not bleed either her hymen is malformed since birth or it has ruptured due to sports etc or even ruptured on wedding night but didn’t bleed. What you will label on her ………. NOT VIRGIN! Well Quran can be taken any time for swear ness but remember one thing once the husband and wife agreed at Nikkah that they have accepted each other, it means they have got trust on each other. Now they are bound in love for each other. They can share each and every thing with each other. Is there further need of Quran for swear ness? Till the time when the woman is not regarded as human being and that she breaths like a man, she has her own feelings and she has the same rights like a man who governs on her the thinking and debates on hymen and bleeding will not be changed.

dom_man / Doctor KK

dom_man

(After all its the "fear of husband" that prevent some gals to do zina before marriage.if this hymen issue is discouraged so much than such gals would find an excuse to do nasty things before marriage)

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Good  point

Doctor K K

U r also right

i am confused lol

doctor sahib thanx

for the detailed reply and u certainly have argued ur point very well.well by fear of husband i meant that normally we humans(especially the modren day muslims) try to rationalise and justify our sins by saying "Allah muaaf ker dai ga".there are so many things that are islamically haraam and v try to justify those acts with such ridiculous arguements.

In such a gal who is having illegal relationship knows that islamically its haraam but she would say "mein namaaz parh ke gunah kee tauba ker loon gee" etc. its the "fear" of the husband that stops her,that if the family of the husband come to know about her previous affair she would be in trouble and all that what u r aware of .anyways...there is no end to this debate.its like a hen first or egg first arguement.

but i would like to add one thing here that no doubt that men would be sinfull if he does these immoral things but the social structure of the society depends on the role of women.if a woman is modest than the society would most likely be good in morals etc.Thats the reason why islam commands women to observe purdah and stuff.

we are already losing our moralities by saying that "if men can do women can do as well" this is sheer nonsense(generally speaking). Remember...if a man gets morally corrupted than he can be bring back and he can still be faithfull and responsiable to his family but if woman gets moraly corrupted she loses everthing. anyways.....thanx for reply.it was a very well argued post.

sharmilly

unless start writting "s" instead of "z" you will remain confused.LOL

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dom_man:-
This is the first time i agree with you dom_man :D
very well said,good to see you talking more religiously!

dom_man lol

hehehe per to confused he teek ho,

btw nice point

azfar mian

well..if u can agree with me than life is not that meanigless.waisay aap agar aap thora ghaur karain baatain mein ne pehlay bhee irreligious nahin keen bas zara aap ne mera POV ko samjha nahin.

sharmilly

tumhara "spelling" nahin sudhray gain.LOL

dom_man

ab meine kis cheez ki spelling wrong liky hai :-(

Note: Don't divert the topic plz.

DO man