How to Develop Self Esteem in Children part 6

Continued from part 5

8-Tanqeed kerain lakin andaaz piyaar bher apnaain:

      Ji haan, masbat tanqeed ka asool yaad rakhain, kay jab bhi bachhay ko dantain, ya uss kay kisi galat kaam per tanqeed kerain tu ussay zaroor batain kay …..aap ussay bohat piyaar kertay hain, aur issi liay aap uss ko galat baat per manna kertay hain takay aaap aik achhay insaan banian aur sab aap say bohat piyaar kerain…… Yaqeen kerain kay bachha kabhi aap say nafrat nahi keray ga aur baagi nahi ho ga, kayounkay ussay yaqeen ho ga kay aap ussi ka hi bhala ker rahay hain takay kisi aur ko uss per tanqeed kernay ki zaroorat na peray. Yah kaam  Mushkil zaroor hay kay parents gussa kay waqat apnay aap ko thanda rakhain, lakin namumkin nahi.  Aur ager aadat dalnay ki koshish ki jay tu aisa mumkin hay aur bachhay kay liay bohat hi achha hay.

 9-Bachhay ko samjanay ka assan tareeqa:

      Aur tareeqa yah hay kay aap ka bachha tu aik balig ki tara nahi soach sakta kayounkay wo iss doar say abhi nahi guzra, lakin aap tu apnay bachay ki jagga per ja ker soach saktay hain kayounkay aap iss doar say guzar chukay hain.  Misaal kay toar per aik 5 saal ka bachha ager tooti phooti si drawing banata hay tu bajay yah kay aap uss ki Gandhi aur aari tirchi lines per bura sa munh banain kay yah tum nay kia bana dia hay, apnay aap ko 5 saal ka samaj ker swaal kerain kay kia aap hood iss umer main Mona Lisa jaisi tasweerain banatay thay?

     Nahi na tu phir aap ka bachha bhi nahi bana sakta.  Waisay bhi bachay jab tak galti nahi kertay wo seekh nahi saktay, iss liay un ko galti kernay dain, takay wo mahfooz andaaz main aap ay samnay jitni galtiaan kerna chahtay hain kia kerain, werna yahi galti wo aap ki ankhouon say door ho ker kerain gay aur tab unhain kisi kisam kay heraab natija say bachanay wala koi nahi ho ga.

   Lahaza ager ham bachay ko aik bacha samaj ker hi qabool ker lain tu itni maar peet aur daant dapat ki nobat hi nahi aati, jitna kay hamaray maashray main aaam hay. 

10-Bahter yah hay kay maamla thanda honay dain:

        Ji haan, her dafa tu aisa mumkin nahi hota, lakin baaz auqqat bachay per foran tanqeed kerna bhi theek nahi hota, aur aisay waqat per ki gai tanqeed ka aser bahcay per achhay ki bajay bura hi hota hay.

   MIsaal kay toar per bachha ager kisi doosray bachhay ki pitaai ker day tu aap foran hi sab kay saamnay bachha per gussa jharna apna ferz na samaj lain, balkay sahee tareeqa yah hay kay uss waqat ager mumkin ho tu,.. (aur ager na mumkin ho tu bachhay ko dantain nahi aur piyaar say ussay sorry kernay ko kahin aur samjanay ka kaam baad main kerain) .. bachha ko iss situation say door lay jain, aur uss ka gussa thanda honay ka intizaar kerain. 

      Jab uss ka gussa uter jay tu ussay aaraam say bath-ain aur sari situation uss kay samnay rakhian aur uss ko galat sahee ka hodd faisla kernay dain.  Jab bachha samaj jay gat u wo sorry kernay per bhi hood-bahood hi aammada ho jay ga aur us ski ego bhi hurt nahi ho gi.  Baat yah hay kay Iss andaaz main insaan hood bhi bather toar per samja sakta hay jab kay wo tahnday damaag say soach raha ho aur iss kay natijay main bacha bhi aaram say samaj sakta hay jo kay ussay samjaya jar aha hay.

11-Baaz daffa tanqeed na kerna sab say bather hota hay:

To Dr. Pk

Sir,

plz connect this part to part 5.  I also dont see part 5 conected to the part 4.  Pls do that. 

thanks