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sehr |
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| Posted on:8th Mar 2008, 1:34am |
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 Secret Marriage: How Can I Make Second Marriage After First Divorced?
mene luv marriage ki 4 saal pehle secret meri family ko pata na
tha.2 years baad he divorced me n chor dia.abb meri family meri shadi kerna chahti hey what can i do.kisi ko bata bhi nahi sakti.kia shadi hone per mere husband ko pata to nahi chal jaeye ga k im already married.plz help me.ye meri n meri family ki izat ka sawal he/aapp mujhe jaldi jawab dein mein kia karon
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goodman |
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| Posted on:8th Mar 2008, 2:22am |
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 sachai may khudai ha
dekhay jee sehr sahiba phli batt too yeah ka app nay itni jurat ker shadi kee too pher app nay talaq (divorce )kyoo lay lee us admi jab app 2 sall us kay sath bee rahi aur app kay ghar waloo koo bee pata nahi chala.
ab zahri batt ha jab app ke doosri jaga shadi hoo gee too app kay husband koo too pata chalay ga hee app married thee.isskoo kissi tara bee chupay nahi ja sakta except allah kee help kay aur app kay husband kay cooperate kay.agar app ka husband khulay dill ka mazahra karay too batt banay gee waran app kay liyay problem he problem.
aur maray khayal kay mutabiq app koo apnay ghar waloo koo bata dayna chayay kay ma nay phlay bee shadi kee thee takay us hasab say app kay ghar walay app rishta talash keray.yeah kooi namumkan batt nahi per sachi may khudi ha .
wait for ur comments.
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sehr |
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| Posted on:8th Mar 2008, 10:18am |
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i need some doctors help i didnt ask non medical people to reply.for ur kind info he divorced me bcoz he didnt luv me n cheated.how could i stop him.abb ksi ko ye baat btana possibl nahi.mujhe medical k hisaab se help chahye.so plz u people dont reply such kind of things.kia kisi married larki kay baare mein pta chal sakta he about her previous relation.sory if u mind it |
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Red Chilli |
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| Posted on:8th Mar 2008, 11:12pm |
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sehr sister sorry is ka mujhe nahi pata. main kuch nahi bata sakti...
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goodman |
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| Posted on:8th Mar 2008, 12:50pm |
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doctor say contact kerroooo app lady doctor say ja ker apna operation kerwaoo aur surgery kerwaoo yaha kiya talash ker rahi hoo.
doctor say contact kerooooo. |
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My Reply |
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| Posted on:8th Mar 2008, 1:29pm |
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re: second marriage and hymen 1. second nikah ke waqt yeh batana zaroori hai keh larki divorced hai. agar kunwari keh ker nikah kia gia tu yeh nikah nahi ho ga aur iss tararh nikah ke baad mubasrat zina kehlaye ga.
2. agar pehle shohar se mubasrat ki hai tu hymen rupture ho chuka ho ga, lehaza doosri shaadi ki soorat mai suhag raat ko bleeding nahi ho gi. pehli mubasrat mai bleeding ka yahi matlab hota hai keh hymen pehle se phata hua hai.
waise hymen cycling aur jumping se bhi rupture ho sakta hai. lekin 90% hymen rupture ki wajah pehli mubasrat hi hoti hai. lehaza doosre shohar se pehli mubasrat mai bleeding nahi hone ka 90% yahi matlab hai keh larki ne pehle kisi se mubasrat ki hai.
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pinky7861 |
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| Posted on:8th Mar 2008, 3:03pm |
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sehr jahan tak shoher ko patta chalnay ki baat hay, uss kay liay yah namumkin hay kay wo kisi tara bhi pata chala sakay kay aap pahlay sex ker chuki ho, kayunkay blood ka anna koi zaroori cheese nahi hay aur iss kay ilwa koi aisa tareeqa nahi kay kay koi bhi bata sakay kay lerki virgin hay ya nahi... Ho sakta hay kay aap ko thora sa pain mahsoos kernay ka drama kerna peray lakin iss kay ilawa kuch bhi nahi koi pata nahi chala sakta.
Mr. My Reply:
Kisi ki zindgi say iss tara khailnay say pahlay pahlay saboot paish kerain kay jaisa aap nay likha hay iss tara say nikah valid nahi hota????
Yah paper work tu abhi 50 60 saal yaa iss kay aagay pichay shuru houa hay, iss say paahlay tu sab kuch zubani hota tha phir aap nay kisi tara say yah decide ker lia kay sirf LIKHNAY say nikah ka valid hona ya na hona sabit ho ga
baat sirf itni si hay kay ager lerki kanwari ho tu uss ka nikaah kay waqat munh say HAAN kahna ya MAIN NAY QABOOL KIA kahna zaroori nahi hay aur uss ki khamoashi bhi razamandi samji jay gi, l
Lakin ager Sehr ki situation hay tu phir sirf ya change ho ga kay issay HAAN kahna ho ga munh say iraday kay sath aur iss tara iss ka nikaah bhi valid ho ga.
Sehr: App nikaah kay waqat apnay munh say kahin kay ''Qabool hay" aur 3 dafa poochnay per yahi kahin tu aap kay nikah main koi masla nahi ho ga. aur baqi hymen ka masla tu aap ko bata hi dia hay, aur ya koi itni beri baat nahi hay |
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waseem85 |
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| Posted on:8th Mar 2008, 5:02pm |
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hello sehr r u still there |
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NKJ |
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| Posted on:8th Mar 2008, 5:13pm |
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 Sehr
sehr...i think you sholud consult with the lady doctor. But it is not a such big matter.As you did nothing since two years..this is a quite enough time.It is not compulsory that you have to bleed on first night. If your husband is educated..then surely he will understand that bleeding is not Compulsory ..because from every 100 ...there are 20 to 30 % girls who dont bleed on their first night. So dont worry. I have listened a remedy from somewhere.I am not sure but you can try these things (exceptional).You should use suparies.use dry things in your food. dates, and dry fruits and suparries like rasili etc. these things makes the skin of the vagina tigter. And dont worry ALLAH will help you. |
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josh |
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| Posted on:9th Mar 2008, 4:45am |
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Secret Marriage... in my opinion, agar ye dosri shadi karti hai to nikah to valid hi hoga.... lekin is mai jhoot aur dhoka shamil ho jaeyga....
waisay to ye batana chahiye k larki ki shadi pehlay bi ho chuki hai,, lekin ab halaat aisay hain k agar larki ye bataey gi aur phir logon ko pata chalay ga to kafi badnaami ho sakti hai, halakay larki nay pehlay SHADI ki thi,, lekin cultural point of view say dekha jaey to badnaami hogi kyonkay ye secret marriage thi.
agar to banda chalaak hoshyar hua to pehli shadi ki baat chhup nai sakay gi... lekin agar koi saada masoom banda hua to us becharay ko kia pata chalay ga, wo bechara to isi mai khush hoga k shadi hogaee, usay kia pata k uski shadi aik married women say ho chuki hai.......
NKJ suparian khanay ki naee baat hi suni hai aaj, female ka to vagina tigt ho gaya lekin jo mard khatay hain unka kia hota hai ?? mera khayal hai larkiyon say ziada larky supairan khatay hain....
ye to muje pata hai k mr. My Reply islam say related koi baat aisay hi nahi kehtay, yakeenan koi valid point zehan mai hoga,, My Reply ki taraf say mazeed details ka intezar hai..
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goodman |
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| Posted on:9th Mar 2008, 7:40am |
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miss pinky & josh sahib miss pinky jee ma app say itfaq nahi kerta kay yeah drama karay aur chekhay.aur josh bahi yeah kitni nainsafai hoo gee us admi kay sath jiss koo yeah bee pata nahi hoo ga kay uski biwi married thee aur woo bechara kawara tha.agar badd may ussay pata chal jain too pher iss aurat kiya future hoo ga.
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paul conor |
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| Posted on:9th Mar 2008, 8:54am |
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medically i cannot give u islamic version about it bcoz i am not a religious scholar and its useless to tell u what i don't know.
Medically, i can tell u some thing. what i understood that u married with him 4 yrs ago and lived with him for 2 yrs and now u have been separated for 2 yrs. is that right? if yes, then let me tell u first of all bleeding during intercourse is not an issue at all. hymen can be ruptured in earlier age while playing,cycling and doing excercise.so forget about it.
2ndly as u r not doing any sex for last 2yrs so ur private parts are must be back in the shape like they were when u were virgin.i mean ur vagina must be tight and ur breast must be back in shape what they were. just one more thing to ask if u can reply.have u ever been pregnant during that relationship and u had any abortion bcoz that changes the picture.
awaiting ur response.
thanks.
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| Posted on:9th Mar 2008, 9:51am |
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nikah nama form per ghalat biani se nikah nahi ho ga Nikah nama form per yeh mention kerna hota hai keh larki kunwari hai keh nahi. agar larki kunwari nahi hai tu phir nikah nama form per kunwari kaise likh sakte hai. nikah nama per jo bhi likha jaata hai ose wakeel aur gawah ki tasdeeq ke baad nikah register hota hai.
agar nikah nama per larki ka bian jhoota, wakeel aur gawah ki gawahi jhooti tu phir yeh nikah bhi jhoota hoga. yani nikah nahi hoga. aur nikah keh beghair azdawaji zindagi guzarna zina ke barabar hai.
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My Reply |
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| Posted on:9th Mar 2008, 10:04am |
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mai ruptured hymen ki mukhalfat nahi ker raha hoo yeh baat theek hai keh hymen rupture mubasrat ke ilawah doosri wajoohat se bhi ho sakta hai, lekin aisa bilkul rare cases mai hi hota hai. 90% se ziada larkio ka hymen sirf aur sirf pehli mubasrat mai rupture hota hai. isi liye agar pehli mubasrat mai bleeding nahi ho tu 90% (not 100%) chance yahi hai keh larki ne pehle hi kisi se mubasrat ker chuki hai. aur 10% chance hai keh sports ya kisi aur wajah se hymen rupture hua hai.
kisi larki ki pareshani door kerne ka yeh matlab nahi keh kisi larke ko dhoka dia jaaye. yeh dhoka hai keh aik divorced larki kunwari ban ker kisi larka ka dhoka de ker shaadi kare. shaadi ke baad agar larka ko yeh sab kuch maloom hua tu woh iss dhoka dahi ke teha wife ko na sirf divorce de sakta hai balke court se saza bhi delwa sakta hai.
mai yaha per ruptured hymen ki mukhalfat nahi ker raha hoo, balkeh mera kehna hai keh agar larki divorced hai tu woh kunwari ban ker shaadi nahi ker sakti. agar nikah form per divorce ki jagah kunwari likhe gi tu yeh jhoota statement ho ga. aur jhoota staement per nikah nahi hota.
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josh |
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| Posted on:9th Mar 2008, 10:10am |
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goodman..... goodman pehli baat to ye k aap nay jo first page par reply kia hai, mai us say agree karta hon, apki tamam batain muje bohat achi lagi thin aur end mai apka mashwara bi acha tha k larki ko chahiye k apni maa ko sab kuch bata day ta k wo tamam soorat-e-haal ko zehan mai rakh kar hi rishta karain. is tara la-ilmi mai unho nay to iski shadi kar deni hai lekin baad mai agar husband ko kisi tara pata chal gaya to larki k maa baap ki bi sakht be-izzati ho sakti hai... aur ye be possible hai k larka un logo ko dhokay baz keh kar koi sakht kadam utha lay...
agar larka ya larki shadi shuda hon to ye baat batani chahiye,, kyonkay ho sakta hai jis say shadi kar rahay hain wo aik married insan say shadi na karna chahe...
agar larki ye sab kuch bata daigi to khandaan mai us family ki reputation kharab ho jaeygi,, is larki k dosry behnai (agar hain) to unkay liye bi problems ho jaingi.... |
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josh |
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| Posted on:9th Mar 2008, 10:25am |
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my reply........ nice and well explained reply by mr. my reply...
pinky jee ab apkay reply ka intezar hai.... ghambeer samasya hai... in tamam baton ko dekhtay huey batain k aisi larki ko kia karna chahiye......
waisay apki bat parh kar aik question zehan mai aya hai, nikah namay age bi likhi jati hai, jo ziada tar log galat age likhtay hain khas tor say khavateen chhoti umar likhti hain,,, to kia is base par kisi orat ko divorce di ja sakti hai ? aur kia aisa nikah jaez hoga ?? maslan larka samajh raha hai k larki 20 sal ki hai jabkay hakeekat mai larki 30 ki ho.... (jhoot to jhoot hai chahay chhota ho ya bara aur us par witnesses k sign bi) |
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| Posted on:9th Mar 2008, 6:16pm |
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Nikah Form paragraph 5 Nikah form ke paragraph 5 mai yeh sawal poocha gia hai keh
5. aaya larki kunwari hai ya bewa ya mutlaqa? .........................................
ab aap log khood hi batai keh nikah ke waqt paragraph 5 mai kia fill kia jaye ga?
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goodman |
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| Posted on:10th Mar 2008, 12:00am |
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bahi jhoot kay kooi sarr paoo nahi hotay josh bahi app nay above post may accha reply kiya ha.bahi ma too aik batt janta hoo iss tara kay nazak kamoo may jald bazi aur jhoot nahi bolna chayay aur kyoo kay yeah all life kay mamlat ha.
aur wasay be bahi jhoot ka kooi sarrr paoo nahi hotay.
rahi batt yeah kay ap mari post koo like kertay ha yeah sab allah kee ata kerda ha wasay banda too bohat ghunay ghar ha.aur yeah uska khas karam ha kay jab batt kerta too Allah apni rehmat kerta ha muj per.
wasay ma bee app kee batoo koo passend kerta hoo lekin aik day ma nay bohat tension may ghuzara tha aur sunehri sister bee iss cheez koo janti ha.
i hope u will explain all things now.
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pinky7861 |
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| Posted on:10th Mar 2008, 12:06am |
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 I agree with josh
Mr .My reply,
If, according to yr statement Nikah is such a NAZUK thing that it is not valid if there is someting untrue about the facts, then at least half of the paki population must have been commiting ZINA, as many many ppl hide their original age at the time of nikah. Now what do u have to say here??? |
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goodman |
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| Posted on:10th Mar 2008, 12:17am |
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miss pinky what is ur opinion now? miss pinky now i would like to explain that if both parties are mutually understanding in these agendas that what we will write on documents then no problem.
for example our one relitives daugther was going to 2 nd marriage and she was divorced already but his father in law advice to girl brother and father that they will write down on Nika documents KANWARI.This is mutually understanding.
If you do blindly all things and tell a lie with other party then these relation can not build long term and long time.
what is ur opinion now? |
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