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adi12
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Group: Members Joined: 21st Apr, 2007 Topic: 1 Post: 4 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Apr 2007, 6:29am |
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 help me out
Sir I am a married man with 3 kids. nowadays my intention is much increase in other womens and i really love oral sex but my wife feels that this is gunnah and whenever i tried to ask her to do such things like sucking etc then she refused and then finally i just did intercourse. for the past few months i personally feel that she dosent attract me anymore and for the last few months we did making love just 1 or 2 times. waisay our relation is good but i think that i am cheating with her to go out and got my fantasies with other womens. so many times i told her this is not gunnah but she said she dont like oral. if u have any solution do let me know thanks |
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Kali Zuban
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Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 29 Post: 1792 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Apr 2007, 12:31pm |
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re adi12 bivi jaise jaise purani hoti hai sex attraction kam hone lagta hai lekin roohani attraction barhne lagti hai. ap ke sath bhi yahi mamla hai.
allah tala ne 4 marriage ka hukum dia hai. lekin hamara social set up aisa hai keh yaha 4 marriage se problem solve hone ki bajai aur creat hoga. ap agar sex ko sirf fantasies tak rakhte hai tu wife se koi cheating nahi hai. lekin khial rahe ke fantasies tak hi mahdood rahia ga.
bivi agar oral sex like nahi karti tu zabardasti na kare. zabardasti mai ho sakta hai keh ap kamyab ho jai lekin bivi andar se satisfy nahi hogi. bivi ko apni khahish ki khatir anxiety mai dalna gunah hai |
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saima78
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Group: Members Joined: 23rd Apr, 2007 Topic: 1 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:27th Apr 2007, 11:14pm |
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i want 2 help out u hello sir i think aap ko 2 shaade kur lynee chahiey,main kia oorat hoon myry husband mujh sy setisfide hain hur turhaa sy ,myry do buchy hain,doono byty hain,lykin woh doosry shaade kurna chahty hain ,or main khud un ky leah lurki ki talaash kur ruhii hoon,aap zaroor yeh question karain gy kun ?woh is leah ky agur woh myry sy chup ky shaade kurty to shyed mujhy boohut dukh hoota .to kun na main khuly dil sy un ki khwhish ko poora kur doon.or islam main 4 shadeeyaan ki ja suktee hain.baat insaaf ki hy aap shaadi sy pahly yeh sooch li jeah ga ky aap insaaf kur paaen gy doono wifes main .best of luck.bye |
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kools
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Group: Members Joined: 09th Apr, 2007 Topic: 3 Post: 49 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd May 2007, 6:10am |
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Re:Saima78 aapke husband kyon doosri shadi karna chahte hain ?.... aap ne bataya keh woh aap se her trah se satisfied hain,bache bhi hain ... unka koi ishq bhi nahi chal raha....to phir kia waja hai doosri shadi ki ?? |
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Kali Zuban
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Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 29 Post: 1792 Age:
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| Posted on:4th May 2007, 4:12pm |
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re: saima78 I agree with saima78. aagar shohar chup kar shadi karna chahte hai tu behtar hai ke khood hi os ke lia larki talash kar ke shadi kar di jai.
saima agar tum aik house wife ho tu working women mai rishta dhoondo. takeh kuch maashi masla bhi hal ho. aur agar tum working woman ho tu house wife lana take tum dono ke bachche ki bhi ghar par theek tarah se dekh bhal ho sake.
kisi janne wali aisi larki ka intekhab karna jis se tumhari understanding ho aur woh tumhai pahli bivi ka ehteram de sake.
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faisee
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Group: Active Members Joined: 13th Feb, 2007 Topic: 79 Post: 776 Age:
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| Posted on:4th May 2007, 6:21pm |
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Re. why second marriage if satisfied saima jee nai aur sis kali nai jo bhi likha hai , shayed woh theek ho laikin abhi tak yeh suna tha kai aurat kabhi sokan bardasht nahin kartee, aur yeh aisa hi hai jaisay jo cheez sirf apni ho us main sai doosray ko hissa dai dena aur yeh bhi ho sakta hai kai sara hissa doosra hi lai jaye. Jab shohar har tarah sai bivi sai satisfied ho tu usay doosri shadi ki zaroorat kion partee hai, kia yeh koi psychological problem hai.
Kali , please aap is baat ka reply karain kai woh kia wajah ho sktee hai jis ki wajah sai mard doosri shadi karna chahta hai jabkai woh apni begum sai har tarah satisfied hai? kia yeh koi sexual desire hai kai mard multiple aurton sai sex ka talabgar hota hai, aur woh aik begum sai bore ho jata hai, ya woh experience karna chahta hai kai mukhtalif aurtain kis tarah sex kartee hain??/ thanks |
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Kali Zuban
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Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 29 Post: 1792 Age:
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| Posted on:5th May 2007, 12:05am |
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re: faisee koi bhi aurat sokan ko bardasht nahi karti. lekin aqalmandi yahi hai keh insan realistic ho. agar shohar chup kar shadi karle aur doosri bivi ko alag rakhe tu na sirf beshumar mali masail ka samna hai balke mukhtalif qisim ke larai jhagre aur nachati ka bhi.
bachche par bhi bura asar parta hai keh aja father ghar par is lia nahi hai keh wo doosri begum ke pas gia hai.
shohar ki doosri shadi koi burai nahi aur na hi mazhabi tor se mana hai. hamare culture mai doosri shadi ko mayoob samjha jata hai is lia lagta hai keh yeh ghalat hai. hamare yaha doosri shadi sirf bivi ke dar se nahi balkeh is lia bhi nahi kia jata keh ab shohar samajhta hai keh woh aik bivi ko bhi sanbhalne ke qabil nahi. woh pahli shadi hi mushkil se karta hai doosri ka soch bhi nahi sakta.
lekin agar hamare yaha doosri shadi ka rewaj aam ho jai tu bahus sare masail hal hosakte hai. aik taraf maashi masala tu doosri taraf samaji masla. is waqt middle class pakistani larki ka sab se bara samaji masla munasib waqt mai shadi ka na hona hai. jis ki wajah se lakhon larkia bechari shadi ke beghair boorhi ho gai.
hamare country mai larkio ki shadi kio nahi hoti is ki tafseelat ke lia alag alag post karo.
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saima78
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Group: Members Joined: 23rd Apr, 2007 Topic: 1 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:5th May 2007, 11:19pm |
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thanks 4 reply hello once again, thanks to Kali aap ny ans deya.aap ny kaha ky main aik job kurny waali ko dhoondoon.main khud job kurtee hoon (jo ky main ny apny husband ky forse kurny py ki hy)humain koi money ka prob naheen hy Alhumdulillah,myry husband ka manena yeh hy ky hur insaan ko kuch na kuch kurna chahiyeh zindage aik baar miltee hy baar baar nahen so is ko byth ky zaya nahen kurna chahiyeh main ny un ki khwahish ko poora kiya hy or woh khush bhi hain.
aik question yeh tha ky agur myry husband myry sy khush hain to why second shadi? dekhey khuch cheezain aysi hoote hain jin ki koi wajah nahen hoote,is ka bhi isee turhaa sy hai. baat kuch nahen hy bus woh aik will rukhty hain ky un ko doosre shadi kurne hy.main bilkul bhi boor women nahen hoon.husband ko pasan hy to pant shirts bhi pahunti hoon ,skirts bhi pehunti hoon,even drive bhi kurti hoon buchoon ko pick and drope bhi khud hi kurte hoon,ghur bhi chelaa ruhi hoon..... hur woh kaam jo aik husband ky leah aik oorat ko kurna hy main kurtee hoon ,or myra maan na hy ky agur aik wife apny husband ki wills ki jaaez whishes ki respect nahen kur suktee to woh kuch bhi nahen kur sukti or islam main to 4 shadeyaan bhi ki jaa suktee hain, and i know very well ky myry husband afford bhi kur sukty hain or mannege bhi kur sukty hain.....
ub musslah myry liah yeh hy ky jo yeh sunta hy ky main un ki pahli wife hoon to sub yahi sawaal kury (yaar tyra demaag to khraab naheen hoo geyaa) ugar aap main sy koi myre help kur suky i will be very thankful.thanks once again 4reply bye
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Kali Zuban
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Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 29 Post: 1792 Age:
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| Posted on:5th May 2007, 3:28pm |
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re: saima78 jis tarah aik insan dolat kamane ka bad bhi mutmain nahi hota. aik bacha aik khilona ke bad bhi doosre khilone ke lia machalta rahta hai. bilkul isi tarah aik mard bhi doorsi aurat ke lia machalta rahta hai.
agar woh aik se ziadah bivi aford aur manage kar sakta hai tu phir do ya do se ziadah shadi mai koi haraj nahi. haraj sirf culture ki soch mai hai. hamara culture hindu culture se ziadah mutasir hai jis mai sirf aur sirf aik shadi ka rewaj hai. ab halat yeh hai ke koi bhi aurat sokan ka tasawar bhi nahi kar sakti. na pahli bivi doosri ko qabool karti hai aur nahi doosri pahli ko.
aksar aisa hota hai keh. pahli saf saf kahti hai keh agar doosri shadi ki to woh khula le le legi. aur doosri ka bhi mutalba hota hai ke agar mujh se shadi karni hai tu pahli ko talaq do. yeh dono batai ghalat hai.
lekin kia kia jai is culture mai rahna hai tu kisi had tak to ise follow karna hai. is lia koshish yahi honi chahia ke mard aik hi shadi kare. lekin agar shohar ne shadi ka faisla kar lia hai tu behtar hai keh dono bivi aik doosre ke qabool kar le. qabool karne mai hi khooshi hai.
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saima78
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Group: Members Joined: 23rd Apr, 2007 Topic: 1 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:6th May 2007, 8:32am |
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Just 4 Kali Hi, i want 2 say some thing if U don't mind?..... Aap koi girl naheen hain aap ky baary main sub kali sis likhty hain but i don't think so,i know some people don't want to show their identity.aap ky lectures main ny read key hain,aap jis turhaa sy baat krty hain ........ yeh knowledge i don't think so ky kisi girl ky paas ho ga............ in our socity girls is kudur realistic naheen hain ...haan gents kaafe hain.....kun ky aap ky paas kaafe knowledge hy hur cheez ka spaciely about sex........in our socity mostly girls ko yeh he pata naheen hota hy ky shaade 1st raat us ky saath keya hoo ga....mothers is leah nahen bataate hain ky ugur lurke nay inter act kurny ki koshish ki to Dulhaa us gulut sumjhy ga...like this ...aarahi aap ki baat to aap mind mut kureey ga mujhy jo lugaa main ny keh deyaa.thanks
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