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simplelife
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Group: Members Joined: 14th Feb, 2012 Topic: 9 Post: 140 Age:
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| Posted on:25th Feb 2012, 5:51am |
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 status conscious girls or their parents
now a days problem in marriages are increasing enormously .......because girls are rapidly qualifying while boys are not serious in studies.....resultant girls are competing boys drastically ........but at the end theses girls faces problems in patner matching ........
un kay standard ka banda hi nahi milta last mai ........
kia larki ya us ky parents ko qualification ,,,job ,,,,standard .....conscious hona chahya rishta karty huy?........
because her insan ki khuwahish hoti ha ky us ko acha sathi mily jo us kay sath qadam mila kay chaly to kia girls ko achy match ky lia lamba wait karna chahya ......ya jhan zara bhi munasib lagay whan shadi kar deni chahya.....
ya girls ko aik limit say agy study continue karni chahya before marriage?like graduation or masters .....OR....... Mphil or PhD,,,,,,,,,,
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mairak
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Group: Members Joined: 05th Dec, 2011 Topic: 15 Post: 1352 Age:
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| Posted on:25th Feb 2012, 1:12pm |
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Simple Life Larkiyoun ko M.Phil , PHd kerni chahye aur ek baat zehan me rakhni chahye ke her degree holder educated nahee hota. dmagh ki education ha acha thought , progressive thinking wo aap kissi degree k through nahee hasil ker saktay wo aapko sirf aur sirf mahoul , family , personal life experiences aur khud aap ki apni personality k through milti hai.
On the other hand ye b kissi hadd tak darust hai k bghair kissi acha logoun ki mehfil ma bethay aap ki grooming me flaws reh jaatay hain. Akela insan kuch b nahee ho sakta so kissi hadd tak acha background aapko help b kerta hai.
Essi girls k parents amooman itnay laperwah ho jaatay hain k wo apni aulad ki zindagi destroy ker beth'tay hain baad ma rona k siwa kuch hath nahi aata. Un ko chahye k khamkha k asooloun k peechay aulad ko khwar na karein. Jessay bari ki nahee huwi tou tmari kessay ker dain. toba toba hum kessay kahein bradri ma k larki ka office se rishta aya. ya ye k tum kya kerti phirti ho jo rishtay aanay lagay. essi stupid soch se ijtinab kerna chahye aur agar jan'nay waloun se koi rishta ki umeed ho tou uss ko zarur persue kerna chahye khusdili se.
Most of all aap ko apni prefences ka khud adrak hona chahye.Aap k liye kya important hai. Kuch khwateen intlect aur grooming per ziada dhyan deti hain, kuch degree per jo friends me boast kerna k liya dikhayee ja sakay, kuch pessay aur zarooriat-e--zindagi tak. Agar aapko lagay k banda acha kmata hou aur aap parhai kerna chahtee hou tou ker lo parhai aur baad me kissi business walay se shadi ker lo . koi zaruri nahee k ek kaghaz ka tukra kissi ko dusroun se ziada behtar bana dega.Jahan pessa hou wahan rakh rakhao ka tareeqa b aa hee jata hai. (Khuda jab husan deta hai nazakat aa hee jati hai --- ) |
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simplelife
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Group: Members Joined: 14th Feb, 2012 Topic: 9 Post: 140 Age:
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| Posted on:26th Feb 2012, 9:42am |
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maira v nice girls ko apni education complete karni chahya I agree ..............lakin girls ko b4 marriage PhD karni chahya .........bcz after PhD they are considered ....overage
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simplelife
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Group: Members Joined: 14th Feb, 2012 Topic: 9 Post: 140 Age:
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| Posted on:26th Feb 2012, 9:43am |
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PhD agr normally PhD ki jai to 27 ki age mai ho hi jati ha lakin phr bhi problem exist
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mairak
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Group: Members Joined: 05th Dec, 2011 Topic: 15 Post: 1352 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Mar 2012, 10:14am |
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Simple Life P Hd karen but rigt reasons k sath. me bohat open hun log muja kehna lagtay hain k larkoun wali baatain kerti hai but me essa he rehna pasand kerti hun. Aapka liye (I asume aap apna liye puch rahee hain) ek sisterly advice ha.
Agar tum iss umeed k sath PhD kerna chahtee ho k parhna se acha barr mil sakta hai tou uss ka chances 50-50 hota hain zruri nahee balkay ulta muamla b ho sakta ha k tum na tou parh liya but phir b rishtay yunhi fazul logoun k aaye. tab frustration zyada hogi.dukh b ziyada hoga. Ye additional challenge hoga aap ki bardasht k liye.
Agar tum Phd iss liye krna cghahtee ho k tm apni field ko apna skill ko master karna chahtee ho aur tmy umeed ha k study se tmari grooming ho gi aur ye tmari next generation k kaam aayega tab zrur karo.kiyunk aik taaleemyafta maa bohat behtar ha unparh aurat se.hmesha ye baat zehan me rakho k aap ki life k jo challanges hain wo aapki next generation ko naa houn. simple
Taleem tou hasil karna farz ha her muslman per. |
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simplelife
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Group: Members Joined: 14th Feb, 2012 Topic: 9 Post: 140 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Mar 2012, 2:27pm |
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thanks alot dear maira u are realy genious-;)mai waqai apni zaat ky lia bhi pooch rhi thi ........bcz m going to take admission in PhD ..........but fearfull .......sochti hun karon ya na karon .......bcz friends ka mashwara ha ky na karo ...........lakin apny subject ki demand dekhon to dil chahta ha kar lon .........bcz carrier ko bnany ky lia zaroori lagta ha ...........lakin sath mai before marriage yah bohat bara challenge bih lagta ha ..........parents ki traf say koi problem nahi ha .....they said dil karta ha to adm ly lo nahi to rehny do ..........m still confused
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simplelife
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Group: Members Joined: 14th Feb, 2012 Topic: 9 Post: 140 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Mar 2012, 2:30pm |
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PhD abhi just Mphil kia ha to sab itna ajeeb response show karty hen jesay mai kitni sari mature ho gai hun ........bcz Mphil umoman log 30th mai ja ky karty hen ........aur mera to after masters foran admission ho gya tha now complete ho gya ha alhamdulilah ..........but still i m fearful for PhD
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majorAli
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| Posted on:1st Mar 2012, 7:25pm |
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simplelife Dear, duniya ke loog bohot saari bataiN karenge, ham har kisi ki batoon ka batangar/dihaan nahin de sakte. Best ye hain ke jho hamain theek lage ham wo zaroor karaiN. Aap ko career aur sucess main myrizvi ne bohot behter mashwara dia hain, aur agar aap MPhil kar leti hain toh aur bhi achaa hain, as a teacher, lecturer, principle bohot behtereen job mil sakti hain aap ko. I have a PhD lekin aaj kal main soch raha hoon further study ke liye, total different study like computers or oil field. Aap socho, inshallah, jho aap ko karna hain life main, do share here for everyone to see. Allah Hafiz |
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simplelife
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Group: Members Joined: 14th Feb, 2012 Topic: 9 Post: 140 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Mar 2012, 1:40am |
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PhD thanks alot for reply problem is ...........i have recently completed my Mphil but have no job .......i want good job in colege or university and no body allow me to entre in college without exp ........i applied in schools too but meri khen bhi job nahi ho rhi dont know whats the reason ..........meri classfeloz jo grades mai concepts mai mujh say bohat low hen un ki bhi ho gai ha job but im still jobless ...........so i thought to continue my PhD ........as i dont want to make a gap in my educational carrier also dont want any gap in my CV .........agr job mil jati to mhujay PhD abhi krny ki zaroorat nahi rehti ..........but pata nahi job ky lia Allah Taala ny kia likha ha
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mairak
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Group: Members Joined: 05th Dec, 2011 Topic: 15 Post: 1352 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Mar 2012, 10:36am |
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Simple Life Job k liye 2 chizain ehan me rakhna.1-luck 2-your approach . Just degree se job kabi nahi milti. most important ye dekho jin ko mili ha unn k teachers wghera sa achay contacts honga.
During PhD just grade per focus mat kerna apna ek acha circle develop kerna. Even within a profession there are groupings (may it be piolitical or somwhat else) so try to find out immidiately after your admission ke aap k teachers (including faculty members who are not directly teaching you) ki professionally kya inclinations hain. her teacher aapko koyee na koyee different way to enter practical life btaye ga ye direct questioning answering se pata nahi chalta. Iss k liye aapko teachers se contact rakhna parega(not personally or on phone) lekin un se in touch rehna hoga .
Dusra try to find like minded people among classfellows and seniors and juniors also. Issi tara jan pehchan develop hoti ha tou log ek dusra ko jobs k liye recomend ker detay hain.Jin friends ko job milli ha un se b in touch raho.Job degree ko nahi personality ko milti ha.(dont misunderstand me ) personality ka matlab ye nahi kaap sleevless pehan logi ya makeup fashion karo gi to personality bann jayegi.I mean aap kay profession se related logoun me senior mosts ko dekho jessay wo behave kerta hain wo qualities apna ander peda karo.
Gogle search karo online aapki field se related bohat sari communities hongi . internationally log inn communities per contribute kerta hain. although ye free kaam hota ha BUT aap kissi b forum per apni pehchan bna lo tou CV k liye acha contribution ho jata ha.plus baaz aukat essay hee refrences develop ho jaatay hain aur ho sakta hai futue ma aapko kuch saal baad moka milly kabi kissi aur countery ma job ka chahy shadi ho b chuki ho aapki next generation k liye respectable hoga aur aapka hubby b fakhar hee karega.
Professional relations develop kerta huway always keep a reasonable distance with classfellows and male teachers . thora tactfull rehna zruri ha kiyunkay aajkal (main heran ho jati hun sunn ker) ke log university me apni students tak ko ni chorta? But iss ka matlab ye nahi k aap darr sehum ker beth jao. Jahan koi zyada frank hona ki koshish kary apni family se lightly introduction krao . bhaiyoun ki help lo. tactfully chalo. zehar se b insan mohtat reh ker fayda utha sakta hai.
Profession me jana ha tou larki bann k kaam nahee chalega. in profession you are just a professional. koi mard aurat nahee hota.
I hope apko help mili hogi meri advices se. Agar inn per amal ker k koyee job mil gayee tou meray liye just dua kerna. I am at deadlock in my life.
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simplelife
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Group: Members Joined: 14th Feb, 2012 Topic: 9 Post: 140 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Mar 2012, 11:48pm |
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maira ap ki advices achi lagin .......lakin mera problem ha mai bohat soccial nahi hun .......meri uni mai sirf teachers ky sath jan pehchan ha wo bhi is lia ky class mai prominent student thi to sab is refrence say janty hen .....lakin kabhi juniors/ seniors sy kabhi interaction nahi rha .....mujhay apni class feloz ka nam tk yaad nahi rehty thy bcz mai ny kabhi books ky ilawa kuch socha hi nahi tha uni mai ............kabhi zyada bat hi nahi ki kisi say bas teachers say diuscuss krti thi jo bhi problem ho ........ab sab job kar rhy hen aur mai bookworm hony ki waja say jobless hun ................PhD some time muhjay lagta ha PhD kr ky bhi meray ander koi change nahi aani .......
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simplelife
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Group: Members Joined: 14th Feb, 2012 Topic: 9 Post: 140 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Mar 2012, 11:48pm |
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mujhay lagta ha meri mental approach abhi tk bhi college girls jesi ha
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mairak
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Group: Members Joined: 05th Dec, 2011 Topic: 15 Post: 1352 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Mar 2012, 4:31pm |
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Hmmm okies M.Phil tak tum na ye problem diagnose nahee kiy tha. iss liye change b nahee ayee. Ab tmy apni weakness ka pata ha tou change kessay nahee aayegi?Me aapko guide kerna k liyye hazir houn aap jab chahy jo chahy discuss ker liya karo . Mujhy sakoon milega k meri mehnat bekar nahee gayee chalo kissi k kaam hee aayee.
Aap PHd ka thesis choose ker chuki ho ya nahee? project chose kerna bohat important kaam hota ha.In itself ye 1 alag research projct ha. Ussi ki base per aapko job ma help hogi.research topic wo choose kerna jiss ma latest research ho b rai ho aur usska next 5-6 years tak at the least solve hona k chances na hou ya phir multidimensional problem ho jiss may ongoing kaam ka koi commercial usage b ho.
Ya to topic pehla choose ker k uni choose karo . ya agar financil limitations ha to phir pehlauniversity choose karo, usma avaialable best option k liye jao aur ye dekho k tm se pehla kiss senior na ussi topic per tmaray research advisor k under kaam kiya tha. Bus woi tmara contact point ha other than teacher . Wo bnda tmari help kara ya nahee tm na uss ka goda nahee chorna. Sir sir sir ... buss research tmari be shak uss se behtar ho ussko kuch ni kehna yehi kehna hai k aap ki bohat tareef suni aap na ye kaam kessa kiya etc etc..
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