pinky!

pinky agar meri koi bat apko buri lagi to uskay liye mazrat. par baat ye hai k aapki jo bi batain mainay point out ki hain unko koi bi parhay to wo aapko appreciate nai karay ga...

ameer hona koi jurm nahi hai,, ok mainay filhal ye bat khatam kar di... aik martaba neutral ho kar ye sentence parhain or khud hi sochain kia ye abusive sentence nai lagta apko "jis kisam ki story aap suna rahay ho na yah sirf cheap kisam kay loag villages main kertay hain"

agar kisi ki family mai ye tradition chal rahi hai VARI wali to ap aisay logo ko cheap (ghatia) log keh rahi hain,, is forum par mojood bohat say logo ki family kabi na kabi ye kaam kar chuki hai, ho sakta hai mere apnay kuch relatives nay VARI dikhae ho, yani beti ya baitay ki shadi par kapray dikhaey bi hon or bataey bi hon, k kitnay suit hain or kia kuch hai or aap un tamam logo ko kia keh rahi hain ?? ye apko pata hai .. suppose agar apki family nay apki shadi par aisay VARI dikhae hoti (in female section) or koi apko kehta k ye to cheap log aisay kaam kartay hain to apko kaisa feel hota ?? kia apko acha lagta k apkay ma baap ya kareebi relatives ko koi cheap keh rha hai,, ((mere khayal say aapnay ultay hath ki aik lagani thi usay))??  or kia ap tab bi aisi baat karti k ye kaam sirf cheap kisam k log karty hain ?? definitely not,, phir apnay kehna tha k kuch log kartay hain par aisa nai karna chahiye...

i am sure you are a nice & kind women but sometime you select inapropriate words... khan_80 said something very nice about words in other post that :::
"Words and hearts should be handled with care because words when spoken and hearts when broken are the hardest thing to repair."

aik or baat ap keh rahi hain k "lerki ki sari cheesain khoal khoal ker dikhatay hain" ,, aisay nahi hota,, kapray tankay hotay hain or hangers mai dalay hotay hain,, aik aik cheez khol kar nahi dikhaee jati , ap shaed samajh rahi hain k aik bar shalvar dikhaee ja rahi hai dosri bar kameez ,, aisa kuch nai hota ,, pura suit pack kia hota hai , silaee ki hoti hai , or hanger mai dala hota hai or wo bas thora dikhaya jata hai ,, kuch log nai dikhana chahty lekin unkay rishtadar force kartay hain k suit dikhao, kia kuch or kaisa banaya hai designs waghaira dekhtay hain...
agar apnay ye itna ziada parh lia hai to uskay liye thanks....

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      Words and hearts should be handled with care because words when spoken and hearts when broken are the hardest thing to repair."
      I think I already know what does it mean, however u mught need to check all of yr posts, before u give others such type of lectures on WORDS AND HEARTS.  What u write is not hidden from anyone, just go back and check yr posts on Hussain Ja's topic where he was totally hurt with yr comments on his religious isssues. 

Iss liay kahtay hain kay pahlay apnay girabaan main jhanko aur phir doosroun ko mashwera do. 

And don't try to pull my legs again. I will say what I feel is wrong, and u are no one to correct my answers.  U better not waist yr energy on other ppls post and just show yr love with pak through sticking to yr original duty i.e. to provide right info here.

Just for yr info, When I am saying that 20 to 25 years ago I saw it happening, it WAS happening in my family as well,  and only ppl do it when they have a inferiority or superiority complex which they try to satisfy with such behaviour. 

joshy

joshy ji 300 ropiya pocket money mai kia ache baat hai jo woai 300 dayiti hai 100 rs ka net ka card aye jata hai 50 rs kaye mai chocalate kha layite ho kabhi kabhi baki bacha 150 toa 150 mai koye lipstick nahi atye koye purse nahi atya purse 300 ya 500 ka aur lipstick 65 kaye atye hai

mai koye cigarette thora piti ho shadi kaye baat sub kerte hai lakin larki toa khud nahi kahte werna log kahte hai asee sharam nahi hai (mujhe toa wase sharam nahi atye sare bore bore kaam kerte ho)

noor

re: amount for marriage

Kali zuban

toa kia mai bahat amir ho jo mere baba na itna sare paiswo ka estimate lagiya hai

noor..

noor..

nikama

• woai kahti hai ka aik larki kai shadi per 15 lak lag jaye ga paisi nahi hai woai kahti hai ka woai apni flats aur shops sale keraye

noor

kuch bhee sell kernay kee zaroorat nahee hai...

Irada ho tu shahdi sadgi kay saath kee ja sakti hai aur us kay liyee koi haas amount kee zaroorat nahee hoti hai..

If some one really wants to get one's boy/daughter marry,money doest really matter..

nikama

• nikama aap na koye apni biwi sai jahiz nahi liya tha

What is your Opinion?

This is good question?I also want that boy does not take dowry from future wives?What is your opinion Miss Noor?

Thanks

goodman

JAHIZ

mera khiyal hia jahiz demand nahi kerna chiay, haan albata marzi say koi deta hai tou qabool ker lena chiaya.  actually society per bi depend kerta hai and family too. For example, mai ajud diyati ganwar hoon aur such kehnay ki himut hum mai rachi basi huwi hai. mari family mai ye asool hai (family say mirad ye nahi chand loog, approx. 400 personnel or 300 homes). koi jahiz nahi degay apni beti ko even he is rich. otherwise we will not atteend the marriage ceremony, chonkay ager 1 dega chonkay wo taqut rakhta hai tou , dosra jo nahi rakhta , wo kia karay ga iss mashray mai?. that is the reason we deceided not to give jahiz and if any one wana give to her daughter he can give but not openly.  mari shadi huwi thi jeb, maira haq mher 25 rupees tha aur kuch jahiz nahi.  Hope if one individual take step in the family will help others too.  

why we do not think and consider

Noor I hate this non sense calture what Sas will say .This is Hindu Calture.By the way where i will do marriage i will not demand about dowry.

I think why people do not consider on this thing he will also become a father of a daughter?Then what will be his condition when he will find a boy and complete the demand of dowry of this BOY and HIS PARENTS.

Waiting for the comments.

why we do not think and consider

Noor I hate this non sense calture what Sas will say .This is Hindu Calture.By the way where i will do marriage i will not demand about dowry.

I think why people do not consider on this thing he will also become a father of a daughter?Then what will be his condition when he will find a boy and complete the demand of dowry of this BOY and HIS PARENTS.

Waiting for the comments.

re: goodman

listen goodman some ppl demand for dowry and some don't but if ppl don't give jahiz then they r in uncertain situation. 

Few reasons are as: murder, saas bahwo kaee lare, tana dayina thats way parents like to give Jahiz... some by taking loan and some by selling goods.

Goodman

Islam give the status of women

Why it is uncertation situation Ms Bunty if we do not give the dowry towards sister or daughter.It is normal situtaiton.Why you say these words?It is only tragidy of our society.There is not need any dowry.

Islam give the status of women but women do need to utilize this status.And there is not any TANA if both parties agree mutually first not to talk dowry.

Waiting for your comments.

Thnaks

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