 Wedding Night Anxiety - Wedding Night Blues
This is a true story that has been told one of my friends who is also a doctor and running his clinic in a populated area. At one day evening, a newly married young man approached to him. He was looking in misery and anxiety. He told with my doctor friend in a chilled voice that he got married one week back and since then he has been unable to have penis erection in front of his wife. He has been having extreme embarrassment that he thought to commit suicide. He further told that his wife has given him few days time during that he has to prove his manhood otherwise she would demand for divorce. He asked help from my friend with innocent eyes. My friend told him that the treatment is very difficult but if he would be lucky then three injections will be brought for him which are too costly. That patient requested my doctor friend to bring these injections and he would bear all of the expenses. By the next day, that person approached to the clinic again. My friend has charged handsome amount of money for a single injection. My friend then took a vial of water taken in to the syringe and injected to him. This simple water injection that was not a medicine in actual has been given to him for three days. After two days of the course that man arrived in the clinic and fall on the feet of my friend. He admired, glorified, and gratified him very much. On enquiry he told that by virtue of these injections he got too much power and he has done intercourse to such an extend that his wife had been begging for mercy. Since that event that person was having been normal erection power of penis and even he didn't have need of these water injections too. Wedding Night Anxiety - Wedding Night Blues: Wedding Night Nightmare Wedding night for man is just like an open-eyed nightmare that frightens him as soon as it arrives nearer. Mostly the boys would be tested for the first time for their manhood power in their life. An experience which is a fearful pleasure. They don't know what would happen with them. They have been getting anxious with the imagination of upcoming event that would be their first in their lives. In majority of the cases, people remain unsuccessful on the wedding night. This failure further adds up their stress in the mind and hence due to this fear and anxiety they learn the art of unsuccessfulness. However; in actual just like in the other fields of life if they control their nerves, emotions and build confidence then with out any doubt they would be successful in the first go. Wedding Night Anxiety And Wedding Night Blues: Psychological Aspects Of Failure This topic is basically for those men who are un-married or about to be married very soon. I would write also separately for those males who are married and experiencing impotence. In order to make this article concise it is better if we discuss key points only. There are several causes of wedding night failure. However; majority of the causes gets origin from the psychological aspects of the mind of an individual. Followings are few of the factors associated with it: Wedding Night Anxiety Blues: No Relation Of Impotence With Masturbation: In major, a big number of human populations are involved in masturbation. We would discuss the impacts of masturbation on sexual performance in other topic coming forth. Due to masturbation, majority of the people intentionally or un-intentionally goes into fear of inability to perform sexual act. Therefore; this fright eats them enough that they get severe anxiety and the sense of sexual disability. The rule of thumb is that a big number of people are involved in masturbation, isn't? Similarly a big number of human beings are spending their lives in the married status having children as well. If they would become disabled due to masturbation then majority of the people would spend their lives as widow or widower and the human population would not enhance up to that extend that it has reached now-a-days. Wedding Night Fear Anxiety Or Blues: Fornication! A Test To Decrease Anxiety And Blues? Unfortunately many of the people before marriage testify themselves via fortification that whether they are able to perform at wedding night or not. Due to this act of Adultery, they not only get involved in a deadly sin but also acquire the sense of guilt. These people neither prove their sexual power in the prostitute's house nor at their own bed with their wives. We have a lot of case of child abuse, homosexuality etc in our society that leave bad prints at the mind of an individual and hence such individuals would not get success in their real and lawful sexual life. Wedding Night Anxiety And Blues: Tackle With Avoid Confusion And Lack of Confidence: As we know that in this world if any body wants to be succeeded then he has to have full confidence that he can do certain things. In the practical life we see that those people despite they are intelligent would never get success if they remain confused and don't possess self-confidence. Wedding Night Anxiety And Blues: Avoid Depression Depression could be transient or due to certain special reason. Usually in the transient type, a man doesn't get disturbances in his sleep and appetite. He doesn't get weight loss etc. however; due to certain reasons, like grieving demise of a person in the family, a man may get long term depression. His weight decreases, he loses appetite and sleep as well. If this is the case then he must see a psychiatrist or psychologist in this regard so that he would get escape form his depression. Wedding Night : Avoid Anxiety. Blues And Nervousness Anxiety could be generated due to several reasons. Our nervousness some times makes easy tasks impossible. This is a natural phenomenon that a person might get tense and anxious some times when he uses to perform certain thing which is precious for him. Like during exam, as I have experienced a lot of anxiety during viva of my exams. However; at these times if a person would control his nerves then the conquest becomes so easy for him that he can't imagine. Wedding Night Blues And Anxiety: Shyness, Modesty and Hesitation: Although these properties are precious but not for married couple. By nature, after Nikkah, the husband and wife will no longer be strange for each other. In the bed room, all things happen spontaneously. Grooms since couple of days up till entering in the room, remain anxious and it seems that they are going to the battle field. It is advisable therefore; that they should not think more about the upcoming events. They should divert their mind and they should take proper sleep at noon of the wedding night. It is also worth full if they don't proceed for intercourse at wedding night and leave this work for the days coming after that night. Wedding Night Anxiety And Blues: Misconception About Valima This is absolutely a wrong idea that intercourse is mandatory before Valima. Wedding Night Anxiety And Blues: Failure at Sexual Performance 99% individual fail at their first intercourse and even after the proceeding intercourses, they remain unsuccessful to attain proper erection and ejaculation time. When the emotions of husband and wife start to get same frequency and harmony they start to get pleasure and required milestones. One should not be worried about the chances of failure at intercourse. Wedding Night Anxiety And Blues: What Is The Reality No body in this world can sustain intercourse with hard strokes more than 3-5 minutes. Those who sustain actually increase their time via artificial manner. You also learn that technique and then become the King of manhood power. Wedding Night Anxiety And Blues: What Is Impotence And What Is The Need Of Foreplay? If you get erection any time recently and during sleep (not necessarily always and every night) you are not impotent. If penis doesn't erect at the right time then leave intercourse for a while and take the pleasure by foreplay only. Remember, most women get orgasm by foreplay, while men by intercourse. Wedding Night Anxiety And Blues: Autonomous Improvement Of Performance When you establish the confidence that you are able to satisfy your wife then you would experience automatic improvement in your erection power and ejaculation time. Wedding Night Anxiety And Blues: Tips For Successful Intercourse - Control nerves, anxiety and hesitation as much as possible. Don't imagine the sequence of events before the real time scenario
- Take proper sleep and try to be relaxed. Remember, stress is the enemy of erection
- Use condoms during initial intercourses, since they can decrease the penis sensitivity and hence increase artificially the ejaculation time. Condoms can be used up till real confidence attains
- Prepare your mind that you wouldn't perform intercourse on the wedding night, even your wife would not like this thing
- If you wouldn't get erection then it would be mainly due to psychological causes. Don't worry if it happens and try next time. Try again and again until succeeded. During these trials keep on providing pleasure to the wife with foreplay only. She would remain satisfied
- Irrespective of the lawfulness and unlawfulness of masturbation, remember, if you have been doing that, it would not make you disabled
- At the time of wedding you must not be depressed due to any reason. If you would be then please get appropriate treatment before hand
- Learn the art to play the whole body of wife. This thing would help in foreplay extremely. God has made human body neat and the most beautiful among all creatures . A woman likes that husband who plays with his full body and doesn't concentrate on her genitals only
- Love making activity is approximately 1 hour process and it includes 30 minutes foreplay and 25 minutes after play. In between both, there is a 5 minutes station called as intercourse. Make stronger foreplay and after play the 5 minutes intercourse station would become stronger automatically
- Always perform love making activity with the consideration that it is declared by Allah's Apostle Hazrat Muhammad PBUH an Arpan (Sadaqa). When you would consider it in the Islamic way you would get Allah's help in the matter of marital life. Then you would be able to experience the real pleasure hidden in it.
- Prepare for intercourse and love making activity in such a way that you are going to a mission, which is both pleasurable and fearful. If you want to enjoy then you would enjoy a lot. If you want to be frightened then just few occasions would be enough to make you permanently impotent.
- Don't test yourself by Adultery before marriage or underestimate by early ejaculation happens while masturbation. There is a lot of difference in the mechanics of masturbation and real time intercourse. During masturbation only hand moves, while during intercourse whole body moves. There is therefore; a lot of difference in the time of ejaculation between masturbation and real time intercourses.
- Not a single individual is there in this world whose penis is inappropriately smaller for intercourse. Although the size varies but all the individuals who call them men possess adequate size of penis.
- Always consult authentic books, literature and internet websites in order to acquire knowledge, even though you are going to get knowledge of Sex Education and sexual problems etc.
- Don't compare yourself with what you see in the porn pictures and sex movies. All that have been shown in these films and pictures are mirage and there is no connection of these rubbish things with the real life. After all visualizing these things are also considered sin. Then why would any body involve himself in a deadly sin in order to know curtain un-realistic realities.
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