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2006Khan |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Nov, 2007 Topic: 7 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Dec 2007, 10:47am |
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 Love And Carreer: What Is The First Priority?
Hello frndz Let s discuss about love and future of a girl or boy who want to b a great person in hisher field. suppose a boy doing MBBS and he love a girl but at the same time he wants to b a great neurosurgn, now wat shud he do? Leave that girl whom he love for the sake of his studies? Marry her after completing MBBS & then do further studies? Leave all the things on Luck, Time, etc? Any other opinion? plz reply all members esp those who acheived their aim & objectives in their life..
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Veer |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Oct, 2011 Topic: 85 Post: 4718 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Dec 2007, 2:27pm |
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 dear khan
dear aap ko main yeh kahon ga ke aap na he love ko choore na he studies ko ager aap os se shaadi kar sakte hain to bhut acha hai aap shaadi kar ke apni studies bhi jaari rakh sakte hain
kyun ke aap ki shaadi ho gi to aap ki qismat aur lucky ho jaye gi kyun ke phir aap ki wife ki qismat use ho gi matlab ke urat ki qismat ka rizak melta hai aur mard ki qismat ki ulaad to aap shaadi kar lo aap ki studies ko koi farak nehin pare ga ager aap achi soch rakhte ho
koi bhi insaan kuch bhi ban sakta hai ager os mein woh bane ki power ho ager aap achey doctor bana chahte ho aur es baat ka janoon hai to app inshallah zaroor bano ge aap lagan se studies karo aur shaadi ke sath bhi aap esa kar sakte ho tab aap k pass do mind ho ge aak aap ka aur aak aap ki wife ka
lekin os ke liye yeh bhi zaroori hai ke aap ki wife kesi hai aap ka sath deti hai ke nehin aap behat jaante ho ge ke jis ladki se aap pyar karte hain kya woh aap ko khosh rakh sakhe gi?
ager woh aap ka har tarhan ka sath de sakti hai aur aap ke sath bhut achi hai aur baad mein bhi achi rahe gi to yeh bhut acha hai aap lucky ho ge to aap shaadi karo aur enjoy karo life ka aur achey doctor bano take care Allah hafiz |
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nikama |
Group: Members Joined: 15th Oct, 2007 Topic: 47 Post: 1808 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Dec 2007, 2:34pm |
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hmmm If you cant get marry right now then Get engaged & wait untill marraige. |
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Hangama |
Group: Members Joined: 02nd Dec, 2007 Topic: 37 Post: 1261 Age:
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| Posted on:23rd Dec 2007, 12:22am |
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Re:2006 khan sab sai pahli chez jis profession ki bat ap kar rahai hain woh aisa hai ka agar koi shaks waqai es profession sai mohobbat karta hai to uski apni koi life nahi rahti hai. Mai to kahta hon ka aisa doctors jo waqai apna profession sai bohot zada mohobbat kartai hai unko shadi nahi karni chahiya kiyu ka woh wife aur profession ka sath barabari nahi kar patai yah phir unko aisi larki ka sath shadi karni chahiya jo yah sab chezain samajhti ho.
now back to ur question.
apka sawal ka 2 jawabat hai. Mera hisab sai sab sai best yah hai ka ap pahla apni studies complete karlain MBBS khatam karain phir shadi karain laikin yah chez sab sai zada larkion ka liya valid hai uski wajha yah hai ka 4 year jab larka studies continue karta hai to larki ka etna lamba arsa ghar bethna zara mushkil hi hota hai agar ap apna erd gird daikhain to apko nazar aiga ka jahaa pa aisa masla hota hai waha bohot problems create hotin hain.
second yah ka ap agar larka hai to ap shadi karka bhi apni studies ko continue rakh saktai hain laikin yaha pa bhi larki ko hi compromise karna hoga. Ab koi yah mat kahna ka sath studies continue rakhna momkin nahi. |
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Veer |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Oct, 2011 Topic: 85 Post: 4718 Age:
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| Posted on:23rd Dec 2007, 6:29am |
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re hangama dear main es baat pe agree nehin aap ne kaha ke
aisa doctors jo waqai apna profession sai bohot zada mohobbat kartai hai unko shadi nahi karni chahiya kiyu ka woh wife aur profession ka sath barabari nahi kar patai yah phir unko aisi larki ka sath shadi karni chahiya jo yah sab chezain samajhti ho.
mera aap se yeh sawal hai ke ke humhe esi ladki se shaadi karni chahein jo humhari he feld ki ho aur humhari barabri kare?to aap yeh batao aap married ho to aap ki wife aap ki barbari ki hai?
meri nazar main esi soch nehin honi chahein..ke ladki bhi ladke jitni parhi likho ho aur ager ladka doctor hai to ladki bhi doctor ho.
main ne bhut se logo ko dekha hai jis mein ladka kam aur ladki zaida parhi likhi hoti hai aur yeh bhi dekha hai ke ladka zaida aur ladki bhut he kam parhi likhi hoti hai aur kuch aak jese bhi hote hain to woh bhi khosh hai es mein zaroori to nehin ke ladka ladki aak jese ho aak he feld ke ho
qismat mein jo likha hai woh ho ke he rehna hai joriya oper banti hain to Khan aap ke liye jo Allah ne ladki banayi hai woh aap ko mele gi woh chahe dr ho ya kisi aur feld ki ya phir house wife
to mera yehi mashwara hai aap esa kabhi na sochna ke aap ki wife bhi dr honi chahein..meri nazer mein ager aak he feld ke donu ho to mukabla bazi aa jati hai matlab aap bhi dr ho aur aap ki wife bhi dr hai to mukabla ho jata hai ke main tum se zaida acha dr hon etc......
to plz aap apne dil se pocho ke aap kya karna chahte ho aap ke sath woh ladki kesi hai aur kesi rahe gi aap ka sath kesa de gi ager woh aap ki nazar mein bhut achi hai aur aap ke har dukh dard khoshi mein sath de di to aap shaadi kar ke sokoon se studies karo
lekin os ke liye yeh bhi zaroori hai ke aap studies karo ke to job nehin kar sakte jab tak aap MMBS complete nehin kar lete to tab tak aap ka aur aap ki wife ka kharcha kon uthaye ga aap ke ghar wale es baat pe agree hain?
ager rehne shene aur khane pene ki prob nehin hai to aap sakoon se shaadi kar lo lekin apne maa baap ko agree kar ke koi step uthana ..ager koi aur baat share karni hai ya koi baat aap ko tang kar rehi hai to aap hum sab member se share kar sakte hain hum aap ki help kare ge |
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Kali Zuban |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 29 Post: 1792 Age:
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| Posted on:23rd Dec 2007, 6:39am |
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love nahi engagement kare love ki koi haqeeqat aur, haqeeqat sirf aur sirf engagement ki hai. agar aap ki engagement ho gai hai tu aap bahimi mashwara se faisla kare keh kia karna hai. aur agar engagement nahi huyee hai tu pahle baqaida engagement kare aur phir mashwara kare.
engagment ke beghair neuro surgeon banne wale hero ko pardes mai koi aur larki se love ho jaata hai aur bichari purani lover ke naseeb mai sirf aahai bharna rah jaata hai. iss liye mera mashwara hai keh pahle engagement phir baqi kahani.
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Hangama |
Group: Members Joined: 02nd Dec, 2007 Topic: 37 Post: 1261 Age:
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| Posted on:23rd Dec 2007, 2:09pm |
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Veer Shayad dost ap meri bat samjhai nahi. Let me try again.
Agar ap apna erd gird nazar dorain to apko nazar aiga ka doctors ki married life 60% disturb hi hoti hai. uski wajha yah hai ka woh zada time apna profession ko daitain hain kiyu ka woh unki requirement hai. Maina jo bat kahi thee woh yah thee ka apki jissai shadi ho woh apki job requirement ko samjhai. Ap agar month mai 30 days hi late ghar aingay yah nahi ain din mai aik bar bhi to apki wife bardasht karjaigi laikin agar ap 6month taq yahi routine banai rakhai to bohot tensions hotin hain. aur yahi wajha hoti hai ka wife zada frustration ka shekar hojati hai. Wife ko sirf apki job requirements ko understand karna hota hai. yahi kahna chaha tha maina. |
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BeautyStar |
Group: Members Joined: 16th May, 2007 Topic: 52 Post: 3598 Age:
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| Posted on:24th Dec 2007, 8:48am |
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 Don't know
Well , In my opinion priority should be given to Career so that make your parents proud ... But its a fact that you can not reach it by leaving your Love
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Aag |
Group: Moderators Joined: 21st Nov, 2007 Topic: 22 Post: 1130 Age:
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| Posted on:24th Dec 2007, 8:55am |
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Carrier According to me carrier is most important cause ur future life depends on it. Offcourse i agreed with beauty star but i think "Sari Mushkilat ka sath barabari karna aur sab ko nibhana aur khushgawar zindagi guzarna hi life hai aur yah aik challenge hai". |
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josh |
Group: Members Joined: 30th Jul, 2007 Topic: 47 Post: 2296 Age:
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| Posted on:25th Dec 2007, 4:20am |
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Love & Carrier! muje lagta hai aisay insan ko mbbs complete kar k shadi kar leni chahiye or agar shadi k bad further education k liye abraod jana chahta hai to sath apni bv ko bi lay kar jana chahiye lekin higher education k chakkar mai apni mohabbat ko dao par nahi lagana chahiye.
agar shadi k baad k expenses say bachna chahta hai to phir engagement best option hai or agar pak mai hi reh kar further education hasil kar sakta hai to shadi hi behtar hai... aik to zehni sakoon mil jaeyga dosra us gunah say bach jaeyga jo usay na-mehram larki say milnay ki soorat mai ho sakta hai (larki or larkay dono ko)...
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2006Khan |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Nov, 2007 Topic: 7 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Jan 2008, 3:00pm |
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 Wonderful!!!!!!
i m thankful to all of u that u give ur precious time for the discussion of my prob. i m sorry i m replying late bcz i alwaz have shortage of time so i online after a long time.
u all are v mature and after reading ur comments i have to decide that INSHALLAH i vl never leave y love alone for the sake of my career, ALLAH help me & give me courage ameen.
I was in confusion before few days bcz a person frm XXXXXX country told me that " U pakistani will never b successful bcz ur youth waste their time in LOVE" these sentences are still hammering on my mind and make me somewhat selfish but u people gave me courage.
Actually i love that gurl v much i mean Love not sex (may some member get it in negative sense and i respect that gurl VVVVVVVVVV much) and INSHALLAH i vl never leave her alone, now i m feeling proud on myself, my country Pakistan, my nation because we acheive our goals through the path of spiritual, precious and pure LoVe which is not common in others.
Thx 1ce again and My heart is trying to shout Pakistan Zindabad and Pakistani Pahindabad.
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seriously |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Dec, 2007 Topic: 24 Post: 313 Age:
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| Posted on:2nd Jan 2008, 3:19pm |
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Hold on a minute Mr. Jazbati Khan. Since you are a student of MBBS your priority should be your studies. It will take several years before you become a doctor and your career making phase is over, right ?
In those years much can change , she might loose interest in you , you might loose interest in her. Her parent might get proposal from someone who is much better than you at the time and her parents might accept that proposal. The best thing I can advise at this time is that you try to get engaged to this girl so that both of you and your families feel committed to each other and this way you and she will also have a peace of mind.
You did not mention in your post are you getting engaged or did you talk to yours and her parents about getting engaged ? |
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:3rd Jan 2008, 4:11am |
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he is right agreed to seriously
very well suggestion told by him
reply to his question plz |
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2006Khan |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Nov, 2007 Topic: 7 Post: 34 Age:
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| Posted on:16th Jan 2008, 8:26pm |
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Seriously!!! Ur answers Yet neither i m engaged nor getting engage, same situation on her side.. we both are doing our graduations, but proposels came to her.
I didnot talk'd to my parents bcz my father thought that his sons should complete their education 1st therefore i never built up courage to talk on this issue.
Hope u would be satisfied with the ans.
THX seriously!!!!! |
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Bewaqoof |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 253 Post: 4300 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Feb 2012, 4:30pm |
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love and career love hai tu sab kuch hai. love ke beghair career bekar hai.
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