Dowry (Jahez): Is It Allowed In Islam?

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What is the ruling on what many women's guardians do nowadays of making excessive demands regarding the dowry and asking the husband for more than he can afford, which makes him take on many debts in order to get married, and which may put many young men off getting married?.

Islam teaches that the dowry should be reduced and made simple, and that this is in the interests of both the husband and the wife. As the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said : "The best of marriage is that which is made easiest." Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan, classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami', 3300.

The scholars have spoken a great deal about this issue and explained the harm that results from exaggerating concerning the mahr. For example, Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem issued a lengthy
fatwa on this matter, in which he said: One of the things that people have gone too far in, until they reached the level of extravagance and excess, is the matter of exaggerating concerning the mahr, and being extravagant in clothing, wedding feasts, and so on.

Can a Father give her Daughter Dowry (Jaheez) according to his Financial Position ? Please give me the answer with respect to Islamic Rulings as well, Thanks.

The Prophet gave Abu Bakr some money and asked him to accompany Bilal and Salman, (or Ammar Ibn Yasir) to buy some household necessities for Fatima's house. The Prophet said to Abu Bakr: "Buy some appropriate household necessities for my daughter with this money." Abu Bakr said: "He gave sixty-three (63) dirhams, so we went to the market and bought the following:

01. Two mattresses made of Egyptian canvas. (One stuffed with fiber and the other with sheep wool).

02. A leather mat.

03. A pillow made of skin, filled with palm tree fiber.

04. A Khaibarion cloak.

05. An animal skin for water.

06. Some jugs and jars also for water.

07. A pitcher painted with tar.

08. A thin curtain made of wool.

09. A shirt costing seven (7) dirhams.

10. A veil costing four (4) dirhams.

11. Black plush cloak.

12. A bed embellished with ribbon.

13. Four cushions made of skin imported from Ta 'ef stuffed with a good smelling plant.

14. A mat from Hajar.

15. A hand-mill.

16. A special copper container used for dyestuff.

17. A pestle for grinding coffee.

18. A (water) skin.

When Abu Bakr and the other companions had bought the above-mentioned articles, they carried them to Um Salama's house. When the Prophet saw them, he started kissing every article and supplicated to Allah, saying: "O Allah, bless them! For they are people who the majority of their belongings are made of natural materials."

These were all the furnishings they purchased for the daughter of the best of all prophets and messengers. But indeed, marital happiness is not achieved by wealth and overspending, nor can expensive wardrobes, gems, golden ware, luxurious furniture, splendid palaces or comfortable automobiles provide a person with marital happiness, contrary to the beliefs of most people.

How many wealthy women dressed in expensive wardrobes and embellished themselves with gems and jewelry, which cover their necks, arms, and ears consider life an unbearable misery. On the contrary, how many women are there who live in shacks, who cook, bake bread, wash clothes, sweep floors, nurse their children and struggle hard in light of their simple lives, yet consider themselves happy people and their houses to be gardens of Eden.

This fact is also true for men. Yet, unfortunately, many young unmarried women hold the wrong view then marital happiness can only be found through wealth and luxuries. They consider simplicity a sign of misery and deprivation; therefore, these miserable youths remain unmarried waiting for marital happiness to knock on their doors, accompanied by wealth and luxuries!

Part of Fatima's dowry is "intercedence on the day of resurrection"

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goodman:

re: Dowry from Hindu Calture

Mr Beauty Star I want to take this reference .Now i come to my actual point that i want to explain very clearly for understanding to the whole pakistani nation.

In islam there is not any concept of dowry and i will not change my this object because it is 100% right according to islam.

Before explaination i want to explain a synoposis of this senario about Marriage Hazrat Fatima R.A.

There were some other candidates to do marriage with Hazrat Fatima.But Hazrat Ali are cousin (Chachazad) of Prophet PBUH and blood reltation.

Now Prophet PBUH is thinking about the whole situation to solve this situation and  Prophet PBUH Prayed to ALLAH.And Allah ordered to his Prophet to do marriage with HAZRAT ALI.

Now Prophet PBUH Called HAZRAT ALI For Nikah to his daughter and asked how much Haq Mehr you can offer to my daugther.He replied i do not have money to pay HAQ MEHR.Then PROPHET PBUH asked again you have another stuff.He replied i have only this ZERA.Prophet adviced him to sale this ZERA and this money will be use for Haq Mehr.

Hazrat Ali was going to sale this Zera then he met with Hazrat Usman R.A.He asked Ali where you are going .He answered i am going to sale this ZERA due to Haq Mehr Because my nikah with Hazrat Fatima.

Hazrat Usam adviced Hazrat Ali to give me this ZERA.He handover towards Hazrat Usman and Hazrat Usman give the money towards HAZRAT ALI.

Then Hazrat Ali offers this money towards Prophet PBUH.Then Prophet PBUH adviced Hazrat Ali to buy some stuffs this money for your future life.

So this synoposis show that in islam there is not any concept of dowry.Islam put all sustains and responsibilities on husband and accomplished with girl paents all these stuffs.But in our society we demand with girls house how much dowry you will provide us then we will do marriage .

But Indo Pak there is concept of dowry.Dowry is also reflection of HINDU CALTURE.

In Islam it is totally responsibilty of husband to arrange all these things and stuffs.

And in the last i will explain that HAZRAT USMAN R.A send back this ZERA also towards HAZRAT ALI as a gift.

Dear Members if you find any mistake pls advice me .It is my little struggle.

Thanks

Good man

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Seemi

Already discussed in very  detail. jahez hinduana, aor regional cultural rasam hai, aor jo bhi cheez bator rasam ke rawaj pa jaay wo bidat ban jati hai. bidat se har musalman ko bachna chahiay. jahez ke mutalbat aor qarz lay lay kar jahez banana aor ye ke jahez na dia to beti ki zindagi kharab ho jaay gi... in sab cheezon ki Islam main gunjaish nahi hai. laikin maan baap apni beti ko apni khushi ke mutabiq kuch zarurat ki cheezain dena chahain to na to us main koi harj hai na is se mana kia gya, balkeh aik achi baat hai, magar is ki numaish nahi honi chahiay.

jesay khandan walay poochnay pohnch jatay hain ke ji ap ne beti ko kia dia, bahoo kia laai hai, kia zaivar banaya kitnay joray. sab fazool batain hain, man bap ko bhi jwab dena chahiay ke jo kuch dia hai apni beti ko dia hai us ki zarurat ke liay dia hai, logon main tasheer karnay ke liay nahi.

aor maan baap jo beti ko zarurat ke mutabiq detay hain wo us ke liay bahot sahulat ka bais hota hai, kion ke wo nai nai aik ghar main jati hai, shuru shuru main usay wahan ke rehen sehen se sahi tara waqfiat bhi nahi hoti kuch cheez mangtay huay bhi usay haya mehsoos hoti hai, to bahot munasib ho jata hai ke ibtadai istemal ke kapray waghaira us ke liay tayyar kar diay jaain. ab to aisay sharif khandan bhi hain ke larka larki walon ko akhrajaat de deta hai ke apni marzi se larki apni shadi ka saman tayar kar lay. kion ke asoolan jab larki ki shadi ho jaay to us ke akhrajaat ka zimadar shohar hi hai.