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~~HITMAN~~ |
Group: Members Joined: 09th May, 2011 Topic: 122 Post: 4287 Age:
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| Posted on:19th Jan 2008, 6:00am |
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 Self Esteem: Give Some Improving Tips for Un-Confident Person
Self Esteem ki base Chilhood say agar strong ki jaye kisi bhi bachay ki tou bara hokar su ki half difficulties easy hojati hain (like self confidence . self believeing ,self decisioning etc) aur ye kaam positive reinforcement say hoa hai jo kay parents ki taraf say kiya jata hai (means always appreciation from parents)
Likin jin bachon kay parents bachpan say unhen tankeed ka nishana banatay hain unki self esteem haemsha low rehti hai means unko apne app say mohabbat nahi ghoti aur baray hokar unko apni self esteem gain karney kay liyain double mehnat karni parti hai..............
So Knowledgeable persons are advised to give some self esteem improving tips to those people who donot setisfied with themselves and also give some nice definition about it.................
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Hangama |
Group: Members Joined: 02nd Dec, 2007 Topic: 37 Post: 1261 Age:
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| Posted on:19th Jan 2008, 9:19am |
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 Hitman
Tum bohot hi chalak ho. Kisi ka name liya baghair bohot sarai members ko nishana banaliya tumnai yah post karkaa. Yaha pa bhi bohot sai aisa members hain jinka liya m ujhai aisa lagta hai ka woh kuch ziyada hi over confident hain. Lets see members kiya comments daitain hain aur woh member bhi jinka barai main mai bat kar raha hon.. |
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wxyz |
Group: Members Joined: 13th Oct, 2007 Topic: 7 Post: 29 Age:
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| Posted on:19th Jan 2008, 9:34am |
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very good topic Very very good topic, I am one of such victim and have seen a lot of difficulties in my life......now some times I become depress also. Khair ALLAH maaf karay.....ALLAh nay bara hosala bi dia hai. Main abi yeh to nahi kahoon ga keh walaidain ko kia karna chahyieh par yeh zaroor kahoon ga keh jiss kisi ko in cheezon ki problems ho us ko kia karna chahiyeh.
self decisioning:-
I am very big victum of wrong decisions. paraysahni main koi bi decision thek nahi ho sakta. Agar app nay koi decision kar hi lia hai to us ko dekhoo agar us main survival thek nazar aata hai to thek hai warna us ko har qeemat par choor do. Aur alternative asan rasta ikhtiyar karooo. Mashwara karooo kisi aisay kay sath jo app ko time day sakay aur app ko samjhta ho. Ya jo app say piyar karta ho. Ya islamic point of view say soocho aur decision lay lo. Do kashiti kay musafar na bano.
self confidence:- Try to give confidence to your youngers and give LOVE to them.
self believeing:- Har kam ko thek tara say karnay ki koshish karoo, phir bhi kamyabi na ho to ALLAH ki marzi kho aur, aglay kam ki koshish main lag jao. Do't try to fight with fate.
hope u got sth.
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~~HITMAN~~ |
Group: Members Joined: 09th May, 2011 Topic: 122 Post: 4287 Age:
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| Posted on:19th Jan 2008, 11:47pm |
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Hungama aur xyz na hungama bhai na , aesi koi baat nahi , mere khayal main app aur xyz kay zehen main self esteem ka concept clear nahi hai , plz google main search kar k is ko samjhiyai phir apne experiences batayai
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~~HITMAN~~ |
Group: Members Joined: 09th May, 2011 Topic: 122 Post: 4287 Age:
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| Posted on:19th Jan 2008, 3:16pm |
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Re::::::::What is self esteem Ok bhayoon main khud bata deta hoon self esteem asal main apni app ki acceptance hoti hai kay app dosron say kitna zyada apnay app ko har aspect say pasand kartay ho , agar kisi bhi aspect main app apne say zyada dosron ko like karo gay tou samjho app ki self esteem low hai
self esteem ka taluk bachpan main honay wali tarbiyat aur sorrounding main jo loag hotay hain unkay behaviour say bhi hota hai (teacher , friends relatives etc) agar bachpan main bachay ki hosla afzaye na ki jaye tou teen age main pohonchnay kay baad hamesha self concious , less self confidence ,shyness aur apne app say nafrat/unsatisfy ka shikaar rehta hai , apne app ko dosron say kamtar samajhta hai
tou mera question yehi tha kay agar app sab main say koi in batoon ka shikaar hoa ho magar wo apne self esteem ko high karne main kaamyaab hogaya ho tou wo humsay share kijiyai ......... takay jo teenagers aesa nahi kar parahay hain unko madad milay ..............aur jo is baray main knowledge rakhtay hain unsay bhi share karney ki darkhuast hai.......................shukriya
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:21st Jan 2008, 4:11am |
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i think i think bachon mein self-esteem ko kum kerney ka behter tareeka ye hai...k bacha jo bi karey...
- agar wo sahi hai to ap ko usey bht encourage kerna chaiye.....
- agar us ne ghalat kia hai to usey danten nahi....usey pyar se majhayen...kabhi bi kisi bachay ko dant ker ye nahi kehna chahiye k tum ghalat ho, tum her waqt ghalat kertey ho, tumhen kuch nai ata, tum bewakoof ho, etc etc....is tarha bachay baray ho ker bi kuch sahi kerney ki bi salahiat nahi rakhtay...balkay dartay hain k ab phir kuch ghalat na ho jaye, bcoz hum se to ghalat hi hota hai...
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Jan 2008, 2:37am |
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helloo bolooo yar abki sub log kahan ho....kisi ne reply kion nai kia ab tak?????
kuch to kaho is topic k barey mein??? |
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~~HITMAN~~ |
Group: Members Joined: 09th May, 2011 Topic: 122 Post: 4287 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Jan 2008, 4:16am |
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saray topic is hi tarha khali chalay jaatay hain .............. pehle tou aesa nahi tha
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Jan 2008, 4:37am |
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sad han yar
pata nai kahan hain sub :-( |
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:23rd Jan 2008, 2:05am |
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:-( :-(
yar koi kuch to boley...
this is not fair |
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seriously |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Dec, 2007 Topic: 24 Post: 313 Age:
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| Posted on:23rd Jan 2008, 10:47am |
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Bachoon key pitai aur dant dapat. Pakistan main sub say bara masla hay waldeen key ghuda gardi. Just joking. First a joke it is old but some of you might not have heard it.
Aik bachay key report card achi nahi aye , baap ko dekhanay say pehlay poocha abbu jub aap key report achi nahi ati thee tow dada jan kia kartay thay baap nay kaha pita-e. Baitay nay poocha agar dada jaan key report achi nahi atee they to kia hota tha . baap nay kaha kah per dada unki pita-e kartay thay.
Bacha bola abbut chal-e-a hum dono mill kar is khandani ghuda gardi ka khatma kar daitay hain. Mery report achy nahi lihaza aap mery pita-e na karain.
Tow bahnow aur bhaio bachoon ko agar baat baat per danta , mara , jhirka jai tow unki self esteem aur self confidence zero hoti hay. Jin bachoon ko pee-ar say pala jai un main self esteem aur self confidence key bohtat hoti hay. Is mozoo per bohat research ho chuki hay.
Bachoon ko unki sharartoon key saza bhi day nee chah-a magar us kay non violent tareeqay bhee hain. Pita-e ya ,dant dupat say parhaiz karain aur bachoon ko peeyar mohabbat dain baray ho kar woh Dr. Qadeer, Dr. Abdul Salam , General , CEO ya aik bohat achay Pakistani shahree banay gay.
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seriously |
Group: Members Joined: 12th Dec, 2007 Topic: 24 Post: 313 Age:
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| Posted on:23rd Jan 2008, 11:52pm |
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Oh Han Self confidence and self esteem improve karnay kay ley-a aap kuch kitaboon key study karain.
I had the same issue while I entered the practical world. I would just follow the directions. I would keep quite even if I disagreed with others. Then I started studying books on self improvement and started to use the advice in them slowly and gradualy I got to a point that people would now pay me to keep me quite, just kidding.
Self improvement takes time but you have already realized that you have this problem now you can start improving your personality. The big success factor is that you are intelligent enough to know that you have this problem , it tells me that you are very intlligent that should be a good news and good esteem booster for you.
What do you say ? |
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zeb |
Group: Members Joined: 18th Aug, 2007 Topic: 114 Post: 13610 Age:
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| Posted on:25th Jan 2008, 3:34am |
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yes right u r absolutely right seriously....
let us see, what other mambers say abt this issue |
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~~HITMAN~~ |
Group: Members Joined: 09th May, 2011 Topic: 122 Post: 4287 Age:
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| Posted on:25th Jan 2008, 4:42am |
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 Seriously : thank u for your positive reply
jee bilkul app nay sahi pehchana is topic ko ................. magar sirf books parhnay say temporary app ki self-esteem normal hojati hai aur kuch din phir wohi low self esteem , yani kay app ko apni self esteem ko high rakhnay kay rozana motivational books study karne parhain gi.................kya koi aesa method nahi hai jis say forever kamyaabi hasil hojaye..............
......app nay kis tarha apne self esteem ko improve kiya plzz us ko tafseel say bataye aur kitne arsay main app main kamyabi hasil hoye.................
aur ek questiona app say yai hai kay self confidense aur self esteem ka apas main koi relation hai ya phir ye dono ek dosray say different hain...............matlab kay kya self confidense self esteem kay behtar honay say hi develop hota hai
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pinky7861 |
Group: Members Joined: 06th Oct, 2007 Topic: 44 Post: 1348 Age:
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| Posted on:25th Jan 2008, 2:25pm |
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hmmm Self esteem ka seedha saada matlab yah hay kay ham apnay baray main kitna acha feel kertay hain!!!!
Ager ham apni skhsiayat kay baray main over-all bura mahsoos kertay hain tu iss ka matlab hay kay hmari self esteem low hay. Aur ager acha mahsoos kertay hain tu iss ka matlab hay kay self esteem high hay.
Misaal kay toar per ager aap samajtay hain kay aap ki aik quality achi hay kay aap ki writing bohat khoobsoorat hay tu iss ka matlab hay kay aap ki self esteem aap ki writing kay baray main achi hay. issi tara ager aap hood ko bohat si khoobioun ka majmooua samajtay hain tu iss ka matlab hay kay aap ki overall self esteem achi hay , yani kay sirf aik hi khoobi kay baray main achhi nahi balkay aap ko apni poori skhsiaat achi lagti hay.Yahi haal low self esteem ka hay.
Self Confidence ka taluq self-esteem say hay. Ager self esteem achi hay tu ham self confident bhi hotay hain. Yani ager aap ki self esteem apni likhai kay baray main achi hay tu aap issi baray main self confident bhi houn gay. Aur kisi kay samnay bhi apni writing dikhanay say shirminda nahi houn gay, yahan tak kay apnay school/college kay principle kay samnay bhi aap ko koi sherm mahsoosh nahi ho gi balkay bohat confidence ka sath aap apni likhai paish kerain gay, aur yahi self confidence hay.
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Group: Members Joined: 12th Dec, 2007 Topic: 24 Post: 313 Age:
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| Posted on:25th Jan 2008, 4:32pm |
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Hitman Pinky nay tum ko Self Esteem aur Self Confidence kay faraq kay baray main bohat acha samjhia hay. Baat ab tumhari samajh main aa ga-e ho gee.
You do very good discussions here on these forums. I do not know if you do the same kind of discussions with your friends oraly. If you can have these kind of discussions with strangers also then you do not have any self confidence problem.
Let us know what makes you think that you lack self esteem and self confidence. Let me tell you one thing at the outset that if some people do not agree with your point of view or say something bad to you it does not mean that the whole world hates you.
A very famous saying in English is:
You can make some of the people happy some of the time. You can never make all the people happy all the time.
It took me about 3 years to gain self confidence. It started with gaining my self esteem. When you read those books you start taking inventory of your good and bad qualities. When you find out that you have some good qualities you feel good about yourself and that is start of self esteem. Knowing your bad points make you take corrective actions and when you make progress that is an esteem booster too.
You need to read those self improvement books more than one time to start implementing them. I know it is very hard to remember everything written in a book and then follow it by going through it once. You have been preparing for exams all your life from books an you remembered answers to the exam questions. Apply the same techniques here.
I do not know what are those small papers called now a days which students used to use for cheating in the exams. In my days they were called Kartoos. So yeh aur baat hay kay tum nay kartoos istemal kar kay exams pass key-a hon. Just joking.
You read a portion of the book evaluate youself implement that part then go to the next portion of the book. |
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~~HITMAN~~ |
Group: Members Joined: 09th May, 2011 Topic: 122 Post: 4287 Age:
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| Posted on:29th Jan 2008, 4:15am |
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::::::::::::::: sorry for late reply ........................... i m agree what u say
.................. main chahta hon kay kuch aur roshni daali jaye is
topic par...............members say request hai kay plz apne comment
dijiyai
seriouasly kya app un books kay naam bata saktay hain ...................... aur ye bhi batayai kay akhir logon teen age main hi self conciousness ka shikaar hi kyun hotay hain....................
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pinky7861 |
Group: Members Joined: 06th Oct, 2007 Topic: 44 Post: 1348 Age:
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| Posted on:29th Jan 2008, 9:48am |
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Hit-Man Where have u been? Hiting someone??? Well I have posted an article on developing self esteem in kids, and I am also planning to write something on the same topis for teen agers and adults. Hopefully in less than a week inshalla. Ok , I hope in the meanwhile someone else will be posting some info here.
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~~HITMAN~~ |
Group: Members Joined: 09th May, 2011 Topic: 122 Post: 4287 Age:
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| Posted on:29th Jan 2008, 10:03am |
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shukriya pin-key haan zaroor , main app kay topic ka intezaaar karon ga ............ aur umeed karta hoon kay app jo bhi research karaingi us main is problem ko solve karne ka acha solution mojood hoga ................good luck
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~~HITMAN~~ |
Group: Members Joined: 09th May, 2011 Topic: 122 Post: 4287 Age:
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| Posted on:30th Jan 2008, 9:44am |
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pinkey : where r u tussi bhi ghayab hogaye ho , ek ata hai aur ek jata hai .................................
mujhe ek sawaal aur pochna hai wo yai kay shyness aur self conciousness OR shyness aur low self esteem main bhi koi difference hai ya yai bhi ek dosray say related hain........................for example ek admi ko agar kisi mehfil main dance karne ko kaha jaye aur wo mana kar day tou kya yai shyness hai ya low self esteem............................plz answer ......waiting and request to others can also participate.........
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