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sadafmalik |
Group: Members Joined: 22nd Feb, 2007 Topic: 5 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:10th Mar 2007, 5:04pm |
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 Extramarital Relationship: How Can I Avoid Myself?
Dear Dr. sb. & fellows, As you know that I am maarried and a mother of a child. I am 22 only. My problem arised not too old, I don't know where I should start to tell you but ok....
My husband is a smart young man & he had to many girl friends before marriage, and I come to know that he is still doing wrong with them (as my first causin told me) even he love me too. The problem that I require more time than he give me now, I hope you people understand what I mean.
Some time I desire to do some wrong with any other man. this desire is so strong but still I control myself. Plz. tell me how can I avoid myself to do that act with other man even I know my husband is doing same with her girl friends.
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Dr BaBa |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Mar, 2007 Topic: 1 Post: 5 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Mar 2007, 12:20pm |
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 Dr Baba
It's Better pehlay aap ampnay mia ko jutian lagain
phir apnay aap ko ...........
Jo App Soch Rahe Hain Us say Bahtar hay ( Do Mastubation )
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friends |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Mar, 2007 Topic: 0 Post: 3 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Mar 2007, 6:22am |
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advice sab sai acha tariqa en chezon sai bacha ka yah hai ka ap namaz pharain, aur Qurani ayat ka vird rakhain. kisi dusri larki yah larka ka sath sex karna bohot hi bara gunaah hai. hamara mashra ma agar mard kisi bhi larki ka sath sex kardai to usko maaf kardiya jata hai or ignore kardiya jata hai but agar yahi kam larki kardai to usko koi mafi nahi milti, jabka mai samajhta hon ka saza ka haqdar dono hi hain. any way yah bohot bara gunah hai ap Quran Sharef pharai aur namaz qaim karain. |
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khansaab |
Group: Members Joined: 13th Feb, 2007 Topic: 3 Post: 84 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Mar 2007, 12:35pm |
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Who is responsible for Misunderstanding? Dear Sister!
Have you confirmed that the problem you are facing is genuine or not?
Do you know that the the cousin giving you information is right or wrong?
Many people have just fond of making misunderstanding between couples and after a great misunderstanding they enjoy.
Once some person asked "A great man of history"(I don't know name) that some person is abusing you.The man replied that what type of friend you are?The man that is abusing me is at a distance from me and you are conveying all his bad words to me?
So consider this example.If u haven't any confirmed and perfect evidence of this thing that your husband is involved with other girls, you not need worry about this.Just make your mind positive and think positive.
And if you have a confirmed evidence of this thing then make Dua before Allah that may Allah show your husband the right path.And also say your prayers regularly.Instead of thinking negatively and trying to do sex with someone else (which is a great sin) you must ask Allah to give your Husband Hidayah.
As far as the matter of your sexual in setisfication,this problem has also arrised as you are thinking negatively about your husband.It's a completely psylogical problem.When you start thinking positively and have love for your husband you'll also enjoy your those moments.You can also delight yourself while having sex with your husband in order to satisfy you.
May Allah give you and your Husband his Hidayah and show both of you the right path. (Aameen)
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sadafmalik |
Group: Members Joined: 22nd Feb, 2007 Topic: 5 Post: 22 Age:
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| Posted on:12th Mar 2007, 7:02pm |
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Thanks Thanks all of you to pass your good advises to me. I am proud to have friends/brothers/sisters through this site, so we can discuss our problems each other with out any fear.
As per my most respected fellows's advice, I shall try my best to have positive thinking (yes khansaab may be right, because it is not confirmed). please pray for me that ALLAH give me strength to perform my prayers completely & perfactly.
once again thanks to all of you. |
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khan_80 |
Group: Members Joined: 09th Mar, 2007 Topic: 8 Post: 2604 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Mar 2007, 11:31pm |
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be positive salam 2 all forum members,
sadaf dear, u are really facing a geniune problem. we, the eastern wives love our husbands so much that we cannot even think of such things.if ur husband is really involved in such activities( as ur cousin told u) then its very shameful 4 him.but think over the situation again.............
1. ur cousin might want to create misunderstandings amongst u two ?????
2. the relationships which u r assuming as "extramarital affairs" may only be friendship (as u mentioned that ur husband still loves u)
3. think of ur child yaar, u r not just a "wife" ........ u r a "mother". u have to consider ur child's future also.
4. how can u make extramarital relationship??? r u muslim?? don't u know how great this sin is.......?????
5. aap ko apne husband ke extramarital relationship se dukh howa naa, agar aap apne husband se mohabbat karti hain to kiya aap yeh chahe gi ke wohi dukh unko bhi ho??? sadaf, think positive. and most important...... investigate the whole scenerio again!!! |
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imran4 |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Feb, 2007 Topic: 10 Post: 81 Age:
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| Posted on:13th Mar 2007, 12:21pm |
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follow the khansab advice i am agree with him |
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Khanzada |
Group: Members Joined: 21st Mar, 2007 Topic: 1 Post: 11 Age:
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| Posted on:22nd Mar 2007, 8:27am |
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Only ALLAH Dear Sadaf,
You know I got three times chances to have illegal sexual relationship with other girls but I couldnt. Please find below the reasons for not doing illegal sex:
1. ALLAH's fear stopped me. Dunia ki chand lamhon ki lazzat mujhey hamesha hamesha keliye jahannum ka indhan banadegi aur jannat ki daimi lazzat se mehroom kerdegi. Mujhey ALLAH ne mehfooz rakha.
2. My Parents and my blue blood.
3. I have a strong belief according to Quran ke jaisa main khud hoonga waisi mujhey biwi millaygi.
Ab listen I have extra-hot emotions but I always controlled them by Allah's help. Main ne buhat masterbate ki when ever I got hot magar kabih zina nahi kiya. aap bhi plz bachao apnay daman ko.
App apnay bachay ka socho aur hamesha ki zindagi ka socho. ALLAH aap ko dekh raha hai aur apkay sabar ka inaam bhi dega. Believe me air aurat ki izzat buhat ehmiat rakhti hai. Aaj ka maashra jahannum ki aag ki taraf jaraha hai. Aap to khudara khud ko bachao behan. meri duain aap ke sath hain.
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Kali Zuban |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 29 Post: 1792 Age:
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| Posted on:8th Oct 2008, 4:10pm |
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re: extramarital relationship shohar ka amal os ke saath aur aap ka amal aap ke saath, lehaza aap ko mashwara yahi hai keh aap koi ghalat qadam nahi uthai.
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ALI 09 |
Group: Members Joined: 28th Sep, 2009 Topic: 0 Post: 15 Age:
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| Posted on:30th Aug 2011, 3:55pm |
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Advise I totally agrre with Khan saab , he gave you a very honest and logical opinion.
First you should confirmed the authenticity fo the news, and once you are sure about that You can directly talk to your husband about this issue , you have got all right for that. Seond you can involve your husband family first, his parents his elder brother / sisters and later your own family, Once he know sthat his family support you( which all reasonable people will definitely will do for you) Then he will be under preassure and will be careful.
Regarding negative thoughts, they are generally out of your control, once you are depressed and frustrated and angry at the attitude of your husband. This is a very weak point and you have to keep a control on your self. The only thing which is going to help you is a strong relation with RELIGION, NAMAZ and QURAn, recite ayatul kursi and darood most of the time and thee QULL, they will protect you from all evil Inshallah, Take care |
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