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cherry100 |
Group: Members Joined: 21st Jun, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 25 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Jul 2011, 6:38pm |
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 My Past Mistake With A Boy: Will It Ruin My Life?
Salam Everyone! My question is that I met a guy online like two year ago. I sent him my photos and my family's photos. He also sent me his photos and few of his family member's photos. I did like him a lot that time. We didn't talk about bad stuff like sex much but still few times. He wanted to do the imaginary sex on the phone but I stopped him. However, he pretended to ...edit... my breasts couple of times on the phone; and I did it because he was so insisted about it. May Allah forgive me for this! Ameen
We used to talk on the phone at night for hours. We never met in real life because we both live in different cities. I hid this all from my parents because my parents are very religious. Then I talked to my mother about him and she refused it. After that, my parents found a rishta for me really quickly and got me engaged. Now I'm about to marry someone in two months. But that guy whom I used to talk with, he keeps annoying me every now and then. He sends me long emails stating that he cant live without me. Also he doesn't stop calling me. He doesn't call me everyday, but like once a week. I'm so scared now. I don't want my future husband to know anything about this guy. I don't know if he recorded my voice or not. Also he told me that he has deleted my pictures but I don't believe him. Our break-up happened six months ago. I haven't told him about my engagement yet. May be he thinks that I still love him and I will go back to him. Should I tell him everything? Also, if I tell him, can he do anything bad with my pictures and those recorded voice chats (if he has any)? Can he humiliate me any other way? I know I was not supposed to talk to him. I always ask Allah for forgiveness. Please don't give me a lecture on this! I'm already ashamed of my sins. Please guide me the right way!
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goodman |
Group: Members Joined: 11th Oct, 2007 Topic: 58 Post: 4088 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Jul 2011, 6:43pm |
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cherry? cherry u do not need to worry because you are different cities.you ask with your parents to stop these call now. |
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cherry100 |
Group: Members Joined: 21st Jun, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 25 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Jul 2011, 6:50pm |
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thanks brother
what if he puts my pictures on internet or on youtube if has recorded my voice. What will happen then? I dont think he will do it but I'm still scared even though I have his family pictures also. Should I tell him that I'm getting married or not?
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cherry100 |
Group: Members Joined: 21st Jun, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 25 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Jul 2011, 6:51pm |
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thanks brother
what if he puts my pictures on internet or on youtube if has recorded my voice. What will happen then? I dont think he will do it but I'm still scared even though I have his family pictures also. Should I tell him that I'm getting married or not?
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sonia89 |
Group: Members Joined: 30th Mar, 2011 Topic: 6 Post: 73 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Jul 2011, 7:09pm |
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Cherry100
does he know your home address? what do u think can he put all that stuff on net? u know him so u can have idea what type of character he has?
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cherry100 |
Group: Members Joined: 21st Jun, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 25 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Jul 2011, 7:19pm |
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@sonia89 no he does not have my home address. He knows all else about me and my family. Also he doesnt seem like this type of guy. He didnt do anything bad with my pics in last 6 months but I dont know. I am not sure whether he will do it in future or not.
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Humayun S |
Group: Members Joined: 19th Jun, 2011 Topic: 10 Post: 102 Age:
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| Posted on:6th Jul 2011, 1:47am |
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cherry100 Miss Cherry100 , agr wo larka ap ki pictures or voice ko youtube pe upload kr deta hai tu ap simple Youtube team ko Report kr dein.
Apni real information k sath k us ne ap ki voice aur picture ko youtube pe upload kiya tu youtube walay us ka account forun suspend kr dein gain.
Agr wo video upload kray tu ap ne just www.gmail.com and youtube.com pe report krni hai.
Don't worry ,
Iss world mai har cheez ka solution majood hai.
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WEHSHI |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Aug, 2010 Topic: 13 Post: 1548 Age:
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| Posted on:6th Jul 2011, 2:05pm |
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cherry100 if u ddn't give him ur home adress and any way to ur home even he knw every one of ur home need not worry
pics can be use for porn stuff if he edit them on photo shop
voice also can be temperd but i dn't think he can go that farr
u shuld tell him every thing n change ur SIM n mail id
thats u can do |
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Group: Members Joined: 19th Sep, 2010 Topic: 3 Post: 499 Age:
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| Posted on:6th Jul 2011, 4:37pm |
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Nojawani ki Ghaltian
1. filhal tu aap sab kuch bhool jaaye. ainda os person se kisi bhi qisim ka rabta na karain.
2. iss baat ka imkan bahut kam hai keh os ne aap ki voice record ki hogi. kio keh os mai os ka bhi voice hoga. aur iss baat ka mazeed imkan kam hai keh woh os recording ko kisi aur ko sunaye ga. woh iss recording ko suna ker khood bhi badnam hoga. koi bhi mard khood ko badnam kerne ki himmat nahi rakhta.
3. 99% chances yahi hai keh kuch nahi hoga, lehaza bila wajah "Aa Bail Mujhe Maar" wala kaam na karain. matlab yeh keh iss waqia ka zikir kisi se na karain aur na hi os shakhs se contact karain. os se kisi bhi qisim ki baat ya request kerne ki zaroorat nahi.
4. Allah na karay agar 1% chance yeh ho sakta hai keh woh os sound ko record ker chuka ho aur mustaqbil mai os record ko misuse karay. agar os ne aisa kia tu os waqt moqa ke lehaz se faisla kia jaaye ga keh ab kia kerna hai. abhi se os ke baaray mai soch soch ker pareshan hone ki zaroorat nahi.
5. agar khuda na khasta woh aap ki voice aap ke husband ko suna hi dey jis ka imkan bilkul bhi nahi hai tu phir aap sidq dil se ise nojawani ki ghalti tasleem ker ke apne husband se maafi maang lijiye ga. aik shareef aur broad minded husband se 100% tawaqo rakhni chahiye keh woh aap ki ghaltion ko maaf ker de ga.
6. lekin bila wajah na tu apne shohar ko iss purani kahani ki hawa lagnay dain aur na hi os shakhs se kisi bhi qisim ka rabta rakhain. apna email address, facebook id waghaira sab kuch change ker dain aur poori koshish karain ke os ki nazron se gum ho jaayen.
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SaadY |
Group: Members Joined: 07th Aug, 2008 Topic: 4 Post: 40 Age:
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| Posted on:6th Jul 2011, 6:28pm |
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 My suggestion may b you like it sister
I will suggest you to pray for him and yourself may ALLAH forgive you and your friend also..... The good thing that you are guilty that you made a sin ... ask guidance and kindness from Allah Tala for him and for yourself ....... May ALLAH forgive our sins and shortcoming AAMEEN!......
I agree with guide ..... I am not making but it is true k Insan say mohabat kernay say kahein acha ha k ager hum aik dafa apnay bananay walay say itna piyar ker k deekhein then you would feel much more difference in your life..... gunnah nahi ha insaan say piyar kerna or mohabat kerna per ager ya piyar or mohabat sahi rishtoon say kiya jayee tu.... Well dont wana give you lecture... i will INSHALLAH remember you in my pray sister...
Please pray for me and my family i just strated may family and got married..... I got married and i found much better and comfort in my soul (Even my wife is not here with me yet, she will be here soon Inshallah).
He can doo any thiking wrong INSHALLAH with you just pray for him ....
Inshallah you will feel the"good good" difference in you life too. THANK YOU AND THAT IS ALL I WANT TO SAY .... |
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cherry100 |
Group: Members Joined: 21st Jun, 2011 Topic: 4 Post: 25 Age:
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| Posted on:7th Jul 2011, 7:04pm |
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Thanks Everyone for you kind suggestions!
@ Brother Saady please put "t" after the word "can!"
He can doo any thiking wrong INSHALLAH with you just pray for him ....
I'll be grateful. Thanks for your Duas!
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SaadY |
Group: Members Joined: 07th Aug, 2008 Topic: 4 Post: 40 Age:
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| Posted on:7th Jul 2011, 8:04pm |
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Sorry my mistake My keyboard is messing up .... :) Inshallah Everything will be aight for you n your famliy....
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Iqra_alone |
Group: Members Joined: 02nd Jul, 2011 Topic: 15 Post: 153 Age:
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| Posted on:11th Jul 2011, 12:32pm |
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Cherry100 my dear sis aap aisa kare ke yaha to aap ne is masle ka zikar kia phir kisi jagah par na kare Q ke ho sakta hai wo bhi is site me maujud hu so pray to Allah may Allah bless you cccccccccccccccc
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Mr.Confuse |
Group: Members Joined: 31st Jan, 2011 Topic: 1 Post: 158 Age:
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| Posted on:14th Jul 2011, 4:37am |
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My Past Mistake With A Boy: Will It Ruin My Life? Cherry,
Chage the sim, mailing id etc as you are not a businessman. Ager pics uskay paas hain to koi baat nahee, lazmi nahee keh tm nay hee dee hain kissi friend kay through bhee logon tak chali jati hain.
Tension na lo or just Chage the sim, mailing id etc. Don't contact or attend his call at all |
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oldboy34 |
Group: Members Joined: 10th Sep, 2011 Topic: 0 Post: 7 Age:
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| Posted on:30th Sep 2011, 12:59am |
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dont worry sister those people r not brave, ap bayfikr rahain, wo kuch nai karay ga, in jaisay logon say bachny kay kai tariky hain, yeh buzdal log hain jo doosron kay darny sy aur choray hoty hain. dont worry sister g. thanks |
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ashmash |
Group: Members Joined: 01st Oct, 2011 Topic: 0 Post: 1 Age:
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| Posted on:1st Oct 2011, 9:25am |
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miss
why u just thinking for ur self i dont understand really .....may be he is more upset den you
but you should handle him verrry politely and i m sure he will never disturb you and your life
bec i was in same circumstances before 5 years or mai ny aisa kuch nahi kia tha
or han remember 1 thing .....jab apna sin accept kar lo tau punish ka bhi hosla rakho or face karo
you dont belive him phir kion pics dee ? us time trust or belive kisay aya or woh trust ajj kahan gyaaa ?
trust kia hai tau ab dekho and i m sure he is more trust worthy person den you bec chora tum ny hai us ko us nay nahi chora
i know its very harsh but sacch koi koi bolta hai |
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Group: Members Joined: 07th Oct, 2010 Topic: 0 Post: 2 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Oct 2011, 12:00pm |
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Aoa ap us k family k pics apny pass he rakho,,, number change karo,,, bat khatam,,, email pe usko block karo,,,, lerkay kabhi baz nahi atay jb tk unko 100% ignore na karo,,,,
us k family k pics is lye pas rakho k agar wo kuch galt karay to tum bhi kr sako,,, number lazmi change kro,,, very good usay address nahi pata,,, shukar karo kabhi mili nahi ho warna us ne wo bhi kr lena tha,,, aur yaqeen karo us ne aur bhi pansaye hongay,,, lerka jb tk wo na kr lay jan nahi chorta |
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alirajput |
Group: Members Joined: 14th Aug, 2011 Topic: 12 Post: 3035 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Oct 2011, 12:13pm |
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DISAGREED STRONGLY nazia_888: re: "warna us ne wo bhi kr lena tha,,,lerka jb tk wo na kr lay jan nahi chorta" Dear sister..sab toh aesa nahin hote hain... kuch baton se mante hain toh kuch kisi aur tareeke se, lekin zaroori nahin ke sab aese hon.
Allah Hafiz |
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WellKnOwN |
Group: Members Joined: 06th Sep, 2011 Topic: 27 Post: 1574 Age:
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| Posted on:4th Oct 2011, 12:33pm |
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nazia ''lerkay kabhi baz nahe atay jb tk unko 100% ignore na karo". Ye baat apki ghalat hai kiyo ke saray larke aesa nahe hote jaesa ap negative sochti hoo. Please aviod your negative thoughts towards boys. Because all boys are not same like each other. |
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Anooshay |
Group: Members Joined: 17th Feb, 2011 Topic: 3 Post: 8 Age:
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| Posted on:5th Oct 2011, 9:43am |
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change ur num i think you should cahnge ur num
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