Hi Everyone, can please help me with my story (i know it's loonng, but please) The person i'm talking about is also from Pakistan. I'm from karachi, and he's from kashmir.
so here's my story of how we met. but one thing to keep in mind, this is all from my point of view, i don't know what he thinks.
I
came to US in 2001 (so did he), but we met in September 2002, in 7th
grade, math class. We became friends because he joined school a lil
late, so our teacher asked the class if someone can help him with his
next class, and by luck, i had the same class as he did. so since then
we became friends, really good friends (me, him, and my bro, who's also
is in the same grade as we both are), and i started to know more about
where he's from, how many brothers n sisters, he have and etc.. time
pass on, and we would talk, play around, and became really good
friends. Then, when summer came my bro started teasing me saying that
he like u or i like him (in a joke way) so i never took it seriously..
when 8th grade start, we saw each other but never talked, even tho we
had some classes together, but we didn't talk. time pass on and i
missed not talking with him, because in 7th grade we became such good
friends, but now we don't even talk. So my brother started teasing me
even more, but i never took it personally b/c i don't want to thnk
about all this right now.. (only my bro knows about all this at this
time) In
9th grade, again we had 2 classes together, but we react like we are
strangers to each other. His school locker and mine was really near to
each other, and his friends lockers were next to my locker so he would
come around my locker and hang out with his friends (often times, it
seems like he wanted to talk to me) .. even tho we weren't talking to
each other, my bro n him were still friends.. then one day in my math
class, one of his friends told me that this boy (him) likes me, and i
was shocked and i told him, that if he likes me he would tell me...
since then we didn't talk bout this issue.. and everything that
happened to me, i would go tell my brother (and he would tease me even
more) Then
in 10th grade, one of his other friends(also friend of my bro), told me
that this boy behind u thinks "you're hot" (and he was sitting behind
me) but i totally ignored him.. and my bro was sitting next to me.. so
i told my bro did u hear that.. and he's like no.. and the whole time i
was like should i tell my bro, but then i don't know how to tell him
this.. ever since then i started ignoring both of his friends..
so
in 11th grade, thats when i first felt that there's something between
us.. even though we didn't have classes together, but we had lunch
together.. and i would notice that he would stare at me in lunch, and
when i look at him staring at me, he would look away.. (my bro was also
with us in lunch).. then one day he tried talking to me about my bro,
instead of answering him, i totally ignored him and answered my bro
(which was really rude of me, but i don't know why it happens, n why
did i do that).. since then he never talked to me :[ also in 11th
grade, i started noticing that he hangs out with girls, like put his
arm around their shoulder.. which made me mad, because being a muslim u
shouldn't do this, i dont know if he does it on purpose or what? in summer, i told my mom everything by the time we met til now.. then,
in 12th grade, i started noticing that if i'm in the library, in the
morning, he would stand outside of the library where he could see me, i
noticed that a lot, then i started to hang out with my friends, rather
than sitting in library and being stared.. nothing big happened in 12th
grade, b/c i was really busy with my studies and college applications,
we both (and my bro) applied at the same college program, and i prayed
that all 3 of us get in.. and we all 3 did, but then i applied at
another university, and i got in to that too.. so we are not going to
the same college.. my bro n him are, but i'm totally diff. college.
then in dec. 2007, it was our holiday, eid, and my family n i went to
this building to pray, we got there on the right time, but got lost so
we missed the first prayer so we had to wait for the second prayer,
while my mom, my aunt, and i were waiting for pprayer, i noticed him
entering the place, with his dad n bro.. and i was so shocked and
freaked out, and my aunt was like what happened, so my mom told my aunt
about this boy.. since that day, i started thinking about him and me
more, because you know the saying "whatever happens, happens for a
reason".. so i thought about that day a lot, because my family n i got
there on time but we got lost and i get to see him.. so i thought maybe
there's something between him n me.. also there's some part of me, who
wants to talk to him but whenever he comes in front of me, i get so
nervous and shy that i don't look at him.. starting
11th grade, i had this feeling, like whenever i listen to love/sad
songs, he would be the first person who comes in my mind.. now, this
summer i told one of my closest friends about him, she also knows him,
and after telling her about him, she thinks i like him, but i told her
saying that i don't knw.. and my friend is also going to the same
college as him.. (so the only ppl know about him n me is my bro, my
mom, and one of my friend)
ok hope u understand everything i say, lemme know if u didn't get anything.. all
the things i told is from my point of view, not his, and i don't know
his point of view.. maybe he doesn't look at all this as i do.. ok thanks.. plz reply with ur feedback thanx :)
(i'm sorry that the story is in english, I can Roman good as well, so you guys can reply in any way you guys like) Thank You!
the title is really attractive, I read your wording and also I Am feeling your feelings, I Can say it very easily, these are signs of Love, As you know The love starts from Attraction.
A Philospher Jamee Yuong Said:
It impossible to Assess the Love, Because the love fails to Assess itself.
If love can't judge itself, it is very difficult for us to observe others thay are in love or not. We can only Assume or guess, So I guessed The subjected matter Revolving in the circle of love, now i want say( Yeh Hi Piyar Ha)
After reading ur whole story i came to decision that you should Wait for the right time. dont start any relation ship or friendship by urself. if he thinks the same about u as u do so believe me hes not going anywhere else.
" if u love something, set it free. If it comes back, it was, and always will be yours. If it never returns, it was never yours to begin with.
So if hes made for you so wait Allah will make him meet u himself INSHALLAH ....
I really understand your feelings and do care abt them ... tc
Thank You everyone for the replies! yes, i'm waiting for the right time, that's why i'm not saying anything about this..
even, my mom said "agar us ke dil mein kuch ho ga, to wo khud koi step le ga, ya apne parents se kuch kahe ga" and i totally believe her, but kya maloom wo dur ta ho, ya us ko lagta ho ke mein use pasand nahi karti??, kyon ke school mein jab bhi us ne mujhse baat karne ki koshish kari, meine use ignore kar diya (i know it's really rude, and i feel really bad inside :( ..
one thing, i know how i feel inside, but koi (matlab mera bhai) mujhse us ke bare mein sawal karta hai to mein ke ti hoon i don't like him, or theres nothing between us.. i don't know why i do it???
Don t take any step from your side wait for him but don t ingore him.
Apnay behaviour or actions se us ko feel karway k ap ko b us se kuch interest ha.but don t be over bilqal normal rah kr jb b wo ap ko dekhay ye milay to ap notice karay k ap us kay har action ko feel kr rahi hain.
Agar us k dil me kuch hoa to zaror ap ko aproach karay ga. But don t ignore him and don t say any one that you don t like him even there is nothing between you.
Jb ap k bahi ye koi friend us k baray me bat karay to us k baray me zaida ganany ki kokish karay but normal ho kr us ki personality or life me interest ley tha k us ko b signal mil gay ap k love k
hey girl, m Paksitani but born in united states......still i love ma country deadly..so' what i think. you should invite him in any of your family function. where you can introduce him to yar parents n others. that way' he would get it know . you love him and this is the fuckin right time to disclose his heart feelings....like see' peoples in PAKISTAN has different kind of thinkin.but here in united states.its all different......well' its yar life.so' think by your way...and what i thought is mentioned here......GOD bless you
i read all ur story, and i also agreed with the replies done by forum members....
i can understand ur feelings, as well as ur situation in which u are in now..
the question u asked.....
one thing, i know how i feel inside, but koi (matlab mera bhai) mujhse us ke bare mein sawal karta hai to mein ke ti hoon i don't like him, or theres nothing between us.. i don't know why i do it???
to es ka main yahi answer de sakta hoon k aap aisa es lie karti hai, k aap musalaman aur mashriqi larki hone k naate, aap k fitrat main ek sharam-o-haya mojood hai, bas yahi waja hai, jo aap aisa behave karti hai......
Thank You guys! jab bhi mera bhai(aur meri friend) us ke bare mein much se baat karta hai ya kabhi mazak mein cher de to mere chehre pe smile a jati hai..
also, jab middle school mein hum saath the (8th grade) to mujhe maloom chala tha ke wo smoking karta hai.. but meine use kabhi kar te we nahi dekha, but jab hum log high school mein aye to meine use dekha aur last year jab mein us ke job pe gayi thi shopping kar ne to wo baher a kar smoking kar raha tha..
so, thats another thing i don't like about him :/
mein apni next post mein eik aur din ki story bataon gi, phir bataye ga ke kia tha wo, ok?
We (my bro n I) tried to invite him to our (my bro n I) high school graduation party. My bro emailed him to come, as they still talk, if they see each other, unlike me :( but he never replied back, so i guess he probably feels bad from all the attitude i've given him at school :(
Also, he met my mom, when i told you about the eid prayer incident (from my story).
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kia ye pyaar hai? (Is this love?)
Paki Noor
its awesome!!!