I Am Un Married But Not Virgin: Am I Able To Marry?

hi, im 21 year old and un merrid bt im am not vergin me boht pareshan hun k mere ghar wale mere liy rista dhund rhe hain jb meri shadi ho gi to me sub kase face kru gi me 2 sal se sex kar rhi hu and me ne mustripation b boht ki ha or meri vegina loos ho gai ha now i dont know what to do

plz give me some advise what to do

I am 21 years old and un-married but I am not virgin. I am so much worried since my home members are searching some one for me. How will I face every thing when I will be married? I am doing sex since two years and I have masturbation many times. My vagina has become loose and now I don’t know what to do?

illegal sex

bibi, ab pachtaye kiya howat jab chiryaan chug gayeen khait.ye aap ko pehlay sochna chahyee tha ke aap muslim hain aur aap ke maan baap kee izzat hain.zara khud sochyee ke aap ke boyfriend kee nazar mein apke maan baap ,bhayoon aur aap ke honay waalay husband kee kiya izat ho gee.

wo unko daikh ker tanzia muskrya keray ga.AAp Allah se tauba karain,agar baat sirf masturbation tak hoti tau aur baat thi,laikin aap ne tau apni virginity bhee lose ker dee jau aik larki ka apnay husband ko shaadi ka pehla aur oos ke zindagi ka sab se qeemti tauhfa hota hai.

Allah se maafi maangain.aur shaadi kee raat ko sex se pehlay apnay husband ko sab bata dain, ye mushkal ho ga laikin ab ko face tau kerna hai,aur un se maafi maang lain.ho sakta Allah aap ke husband ke dil mein reham daal dai.

aur hum yahan kisee bhee unislamic aur illegal sex ke problem ka jawab nahin daitay.mujhe personaly aap jaisy larki se koi humdardi nahin.ab aap ko jo bhee ho face kerna ho ga.

Muhtarma

Muhtarma app ne 2 sal tak sex jise kia hai na osi se shadi karlo, aur face kaise karogi, jise sex karti thi osi kaise face kia tha tum ne, jo shreef larkia hoti hai woh apni husband ke sath be sex karti waqt tora bohut sharma jati hai.

Aur tumhare parents kaise hai, beti do sall se illegal sex karahi hai aur onko pata bhi nahin Wowwwww kia baat hai i am shocked.

Well serious point u should be punished this is the islamic law, there is no way to say that ok i will do toba and finish. Read quran and there its written, per app ne ek bar nahin do bar nahin 2 sal se sex karti aarahi omg Do SAL SE.

I am sorry if my words are hurting u but if ur a muslim there is no way for u to have illegal sex, note that Kia soch kar app ne illegal sex kia tha,

I spechless aur ab app keh rahi ho ki ghar wali shadi karna chahi hai, Jiisni app ki virginty lose kia hai osi se shadi karlo,

Ab mujhi kia pata ki app ne ek saath sex kia en do saloo mein ya per U know What i mean:-(

agreed sharmilly

mein khud aik mard hotay huay janta hoon ke larjay saisee larkiyon kitna bewakoof samjhtay hain, aur unke bhayion aur baap ko daikh ker hans rahay hotay hain.aik larki ke liye ye doob marnay ka muqaam hai ke wo apnay bhai aur baap ko logon ke saamnay sherminda kerwaye.

aur ye mat samjhyee ke larkay doosray ko ye nahin bataatay, wo oos larki ke baraay mein saari colony kiya saaray city mein baatain phela daitay hain, aur oos larki ke saamnay aisay zahir kertay hain jaisay wo oss larki ke liye maray ja rahain hain, aur baad mein baith ker oos ka mazaaq utatay hain.

sharmilly ji, bahar agar insaan sachay dil sey tauba ker lai tau Allah se muaafi mil sakti hai, laikin mera khayal mein aisy larki ke saath agar oos ka husband achha salook nahin kerta tau mujhe aisee larki se koi humdardi nahin.

agar hum her criminal aur immoral herkatain kernay waalay se humdardi rakhnay lag jayen tau saari society corrupt.

Re: Dom _Man

(((sharmilly ji, bahar agar insaan sachay dil sey tauba ker lai tau Allah se muaafi mil sakti hai, laikin mera khayal mein aisy larki ke saath agar oos ka husband achha salook nahin kerta tau mujhe aisee larki se koi humdardi nahin.)))

Well in this forum i have read more than hundred cases of illegal sex we can,t say more ki toba toba karo

In simple words they should be punished, ab yeh baat ek ya do admiyo ki nahin hai,  merykhayal se 2 out 20 yehi kehraha hai ki i have done illegal sex.

This is completly crossing the limit. LET THEM KNOW THAT THIS IS GUNAH

They can,t have sex with everyone possible, If they are muslim if not I am not giveing a damn about it :-(

don,t need advice

sahrmilly

Well in this forum i have read more than hundred cases of illegal sex we can,t say more ki toba toba karo

In simple words they should be punished, ab yeh baat ek ya do admiyo ki nahin hai,  merykhayal se 2 out 20 yehi kehraha hai ki i have done illegal sex.))))

exactly my point but i think u misunderstood what i was trying to say.there is a punishment in islam for illegal sex provided there are four witnesses who have seen the actual penetration with their own eyes.

and as for as the confession of the adultrous is concerned,it is not encouraged in Islam.Islam says that if a person has done something like that he/she should do tauba. I have already said that i would have no sympathy with such gal if her doesnt treat her well. She should ask forgiveness of her husband but if the husband doesnt forgive her than it is his right to give her divorce.

In this case the gal really desrves such disgrace.

Lets See how Her problem can be solved

Dear All,

Forgiveness is actually only and only awarded by Allah unless kisi ka "haq" mara jaye. Please don't forget k Wo "Zaat Pak" Jis ko chahay muaaf farma daita ha aur day ga chahay us k gunahon ka ambaar zameen se aasmaan tak hi kyun na ho, Shart ye ha k us mien "Shirk" shamil na ho, aur gunah karnay wala Sachay dil se tauba karnewala/karnawali ho aur Ainda gunah na karnay k paka sacha ehd karay. She did a sin but no one among us has the prooves, we dont know who she is and all that; there may be a list of things someone need to sue her. khair, plz leave it now.

Is case k silsalay mien mer chand guzarshat hien.

1- She has done a sin - we all have to discurrage her sin and you people did it well

2- Now that she is in trouble, as muslim we need to try to get her out of here and lets make her future life as a "Mutaqi" girl who may be sincere with her husband and other family membes.

3- One man came to Rasulullah SAW, kaha, Aye Allah k Nabi, mien ne zana kia ha, aap ne us ki  taraf se rukh pher lia, wo dubara samny aya, kaha, Mien ne zana kia ha, aap ne rukh pher lia, phir samnay aya, kaha, mien ne zana kia ha, Tab Allah k Rasul ne farmaya k is ko sangsaar kar do (Allah kami beshi muaaf farmaye).

To bhai aur behno, Is larki ki help karni chahye hamien na k apnay gusay ka izhar karen, kyun ka us ka amaal k jawab hamen nahin daina. aur agar wo Allah se sachi muaafi mang le to Allah ko kon roke sakta ha ko wo muaaf na karay. Balkay hamen Allah se darna chahye aur aisi baton se parhez karna chahye ki "is ko saza milni chahye" wagera, Allah is baat se naraaz ho saktay hien.

Uhd ki larai mien Allah k Rasul SAW zakhmi ho gay aur aap ne farmaya "wo qaum kaisay falah pa sakti ha jo Allah k rasul ko takleef pahunchaye" to Allah ne Quraan mien farmay k Ay Nabi (SAW) ham ne aap ko sirf dranay wala aur pahunchanay wala banaya ha. Yani aap ko ikhtiar nahin k Allah ka kamon ka faisal khud karen.

To janab is larki ko sahih mashwara dena chahye. mera mashwara ye ha..

1- Allah se sachi Tauba kar lo

2- Kisi ko batanay ya mashwara karny ki zarurat nahin, is se tumhara image kharab ho jaye ga aur tum logon (chahy tumhara apnay hon ya gair). Dusri baat k Nabi (SAW) ne apnay gunah share karnay se mana farmay ha kyun k qiamat walay din yahi log jin se share karo gi, tumhary khilaf gawahi ban jaien gay.

3- Ghar walon ko larka dekhnay do, balky unko mashwara do k wo kahin Door tumhara rishta karen aur koi nihayat sharif ghar deikhen.

4- Shadi k baad khawand ko kuch batanay ki zarurat nahin, Allah sachi tauba karny walon ko pasand karta ha aur un ki liay raastay nikalta ha. Lehaza yahan sab se ziada zarurat tumharay Emandari se Sachi Tauba ki ha aur bas. Insanon k ikhtiar mien kuch naihn sawai is k, k wo khalis ho kar koshish karen, so wo tum bhi karo.

5- Kuch dawaien zarur hoti hien jo tumhara "khas" masla bhi hal kar sakti hien, magar wohi baat neiat khalis hona zarur ha warna kuch b kaam nahin aye ga. is ziman mien kisi Shadi shud aurat ghrelu aurat se mashwara kar lo k auratien shadi k baad ya bachay paida honay k baad khawand k liaye "khas" jaga ko kaisay dubara sambhalti hien. Us ko bhi kuch batanay ki zarurat nahin, waisay hi puch lena

6- Remember, Allah par yaqeen karo gi to kisi dawa ki zarurat bhi nahin paray gi.

meray zehan mien is waqt yahi kuch tha, achanak ye forum parah to dil chaha k kuch achi batien share kar dun.

Allah tumhari mushkilaat asaan farmaye. Bas "US" Zaat ko yad rakho, Wo" tumhen yad rakhay ga.

Ibnekhalil

Sharmily

Lets make our community more good

Brothers and Sisters,

Band to mien bhi gunahgar hun magar kia ha k hamen apni har tarha ki koshish karni chahye k aisay kam karnay walon k sath hamdardi se pesh ayen aur unko, agar wo tauba karna chahtay hien to, acha mashwar dien, un ko tanz aur tanay na dien, kyun k Allah farmata ha, Momin Tanay nahin deta. Aur Hadis ka mafhum ha k Muslim aik jism ki tarha hien, kisi aik hisay ko takleef pahunchay to sara jism bechain ho jata ha.

Lehaza aap k ird gird ya koi janny wala agar kisi aisi burai mien to mubtala ho to please lets take care of him/her and try to realize them that unhon ne jo rasta apnaya ha wo dekhnay mien khush kun ha magar haqiqat mien bohat he ghinaona ha, aur un ki help karen k wo is rastay koo chor dien.

In sari buraion ki jarh ha Din e Islam se duri. Nabi SAW ne farmaya "Aye nojawano ki jamat! jo tum mien se shadi karnay ki taqat rakhay to usay shadi karna chahye. shadi karay, wo is liaye ko shadi nigahon ko past aur sharmgahon ki hifazat karnay ka zaria ha"

so, parents ko chahye k wo bachon, khas taur par bachion ki shadi balughat ka baad jald se jald kar dien.

Banda e nacheez k paas is ziman mien mazid malomat hien Quran o  Sunnat mien hamaray liaye in cheezon kay khazanay hien, magar ham to idhar rukh bhi nahin kartay aur is liaye he aaj zillat hamar muqadar theri ha. Kisi ko mazid malumaat chahye hon to mujhay --

Allah hamara hami o nasir ho aur guhano se bachaye (aameen)

Ibnekhalil.