Not sure As you can already realize that there is no one single answer to these kinds of problems/mistakes. I am not going to even ask why you had sex before marriage, as I am not a judge or jury here. My concern is for the man whom you are going to marry. Is it just to marry him without informing him? Now, there can be different opinion among people. So, do what you think is just.
" Inna Allaha ya/muru bialAAadli waal-ihsani wa-eeta-i thee alqurba wayanha AAani alfahsha-i waalmunkari waalbaghyi yaAAithukum laAAallakum tathakkaroona" [Quran 16:90: ]
Allah commands justice, the doing of good, and liberality to kith and kin, and He forbids all shameful deeds, and injustice and rebellion: He instructs you, that ye may receive admonition.
Now you be the just person, and do as best you can to solve your problem. May Allah help you. |