 re: Is That Age Difference Matters For Marriage?
Now there are five aspects,
- Medical, 2. Social, 3. Islamic, 4. Sexual, 5. Ethical.
Medical Aspects; The only aspect that could happen is that if the girl is too old, I mean above 35 years or so, the chances of pregnancy would be declines. However, it does not mean that she would not be able to conceive. The data shows that there are a lot of women who conceived so much time after this age and the pregnancy had gone un- eventful and normal. Precautionary, we can say that the woman should younger, no matter whether she is younger or older than her husband.
Social Aspects: As a social member some times we have to follow the rules of our society in spite of our dis agreement with them. This is the dilemma of the society, however; our religion Islam does not prohibit marrying with a girl who is older than a man. Well it is also seen the females grow much faster than man after a particular age. Therefore they seem older than their ages and if they are not younger than her husbands. Then the age difference seems to be much more after some times. Again I would like to add that there are many exceptions, therefore it is not true in all cases.
Islamic Aspects: I will not talk more over here and close my words with the example of Rasool Allah, Peace Be upon Him. What he did? He married with a woman Hazrat Khateeza Tul Kubra and left a noble example of whole humanity. What was the age difference among them? And remember; almost all of His daughters are from her. One thing remember, He (P.B.U.H) did agreement as per the order of his Uncle Hazrat Abu Talib. That shows we should follow our parents in this regard. Or at least we must include their advises and likes while we are on the selection of our life partners.
Sexual Aspect: There would be no sexual problems with the age differences, either woman is older or vice versa.
Ethical Aspects: A man reported to Holy Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) that he is going to marry soon. He (P.B.U.H) asked to him, have you seen that woman? The man replied: Prophet of Allah, No!. Then Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) asked him it’s better if you see her before marriage. The inspiration is that, before marriage the boy and girl must show their willing and agreement and the marriage must not be forced upon them. It’s better to have agreement before engagement or marriage. After doing that breakage of engagement or not proceeding for Nikkah just on the ground that she is healthier than me or elder than me leaves an un-ethical impression
Conclusion:
Every man and woman is free in choosing of his or her life partner. There is no restrictions and rules for ages or health as per Islam. We should now follow the instructions of the parents and also make sure that by our any decision no body should be hurt. Before engagement better for a boy and girl to see each other and show their agreement. Masturbation should not be kept responsible for not doing marriage with some. Body weakness could be treated. An obese person may become thin. Every thing is possible. The need only is to set the minds and think always in positive direction.
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Iron man
